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Making an effort with your profile
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We’ve come across quite a lot of people who complain they aren’t having any luck on Fab, either connecting with people online or meeting up. When you look at their profiles they have only one line bio’s, no public pics, no verifications, no profile pic etc…we feel you absolutely need to make an effort if you’re serious about getting involved with other people. What’s everyone else’s experience? |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"We’ve come across quite a lot of people who complain they aren’t having any luck on Fab, either connecting with people online or meeting up. When you look at their profiles they have only one line bio’s, no public pics, no verifications, no profile pic etc…we feel you absolutely need to make an effort if you’re serious about getting involved with other people. What’s everyone else’s experience? "
Over the years ive found the majority are dreamers and disappear quickly  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We’ve come across quite a lot of people who complain they aren’t having any luck on Fab, either connecting with people online or meeting up. When you look at their profiles they have only one line bio’s, no public pics, no verifications, no profile pic etc…we feel you absolutely need to make an effort if you’re serious about getting involved with other people. What’s everyone else’s experience?
Over the years ive found the majority are dreamers and disappear quickly "
That’s a good point lol. Makes it more challenging to actually meet people on the same wavelength since you need to out these kinds of profiles lol. We make good use of the filters on the website now  |
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By *.LBCouple
over a year ago
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Esp when you read their bio and it says fill in later, and they've been members for months,
Anyone that's looked at us with no info or pics/veri's and been on the site for ages gets blocked |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Esp when you read their bio and it says fill in later, and they've been members for months,
Anyone that's looked at us with no info or pics/veri's and been on the site for ages gets blocked "
Didn’t think of making use of the block feature - thanks for the tip
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Socials are best. Most people want someone verified. So you find a social and make friends. That's my two cents."
This is also great advice - we have only 1 verification at the moment, being a new couples profile. And it’s something we’ve discussed doing something about - but being where we are in the country means socials and club scene are pretty non-existent. But since it’s something people look for then we need to make an effot with that ourselves
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We have plenty of public pics and our bio is straight to point, we display our verifications so hopefully people read them and and see the kind of people we like to to interact with."
Just had a look at your profile, it’s great - and exactly the sort of thing I guess we would expect to see from people who are genuine, and also serious about the scene. Sent a wink too 
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"No pics to public only hidden and no bio to speak of and they send a message saying 'hey'
UM like what's that telling me, you're giving me nothing to engage with  "
Exactly this, it can be so exasperating at times. |
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I have made no effort with my profile at all this time around as i'm only here to chat on the forums for now. If/When i decide to get back to meeting again i'll reinvent my profile with pics and proper bio just like my old profile had.
I suspect there are a goof few people like myself with bland profiles that are only looking to chat too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Socials are best. Most people want someone verified. So you find a social and make friends. That's my two cents.
This is also great advice - we have only 1 verification at the moment, being a new couples profile. And it’s something we’ve discussed doing something about - but being where we are in the country means socials and club scene are pretty non-existent. But since it’s something people look for then we need to make an effot with that ourselves
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Find one not to far book a hotel and go to one. Treat it as a wee night away for yous both. That way yous get a night away and yous will meet people socially and get verifications. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No pics to public only hidden and no bio to speak of and they send a message saying 'hey'
UM like what's that telling me, you're giving me nothing to engage with "
But then they can’t understand why you don’t immediately want to fuck them…that’s what I can’t get my head around lol. It’s almost like a sense of entitlement - “I have a profile therefore I will get what I want regardless” hahaha
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have made no effort with my profile at all this time around as i'm only here to chat on the forums for now. If/When i decide to get back to meeting again i'll reinvent my profile with pics and proper bio just like my old profile had.
I suspect there are a goof few people like myself with bland profiles that are only looking to chat too"
You make a really good point. But I guess your expectations are very different compared to the people complaining about not connecting with others, because they basically won’t put the effort in. As long as it’s working for you, that’s the main thing
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Socials are best. Most people want someone verified. So you find a social and make friends. That's my two cents.
This is also great advice - we have only 1 verification at the moment, being a new couples profile. And it’s something we’ve discussed doing something about - but being where we are in the country means socials and club scene are pretty non-existent. But since it’s something people look for then we need to make an effot with that ourselves
F (Mrs)
Find one not to far book a hotel and go to one. Treat it as a wee night away for yous both. That way yous get a night away and yous will meet people socially and get verifications."
Love this suggestion, great excuse for a night away
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not having any luck to be honest x"
Being perfectly objective about your profile, you are a straight single guy looking for a woman…which is literally like looking for a unicorn on here. I guess as well that single guys are ten a penny on here, so you really need to make an extra bit of effort to stand out.
Personally your current status update makes me click straight back off your profile, but that’s just me, however there are probably women out there who would happily help you out - try sending winks and properly chatting with any women you like the look of. Good luck!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find these posts interesting and constructive comments welcome.
Have been on a bit now and no Veri’s or meets, but I am trying to be patient and not pushy with people
Going to go the Manchester social in august, you think that will help? |
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I think you need to use your profile to express who you are and what you want from the site. I don’t think it takes that long to write a half way decent but if blurb and get some shots you are happy with. If you can’t be bothered to make an effort then I think it is reasonable that others won’t bother to make an effort with you. |
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I decided a long time ago to make an effort with my profile but I've never let anyone dictate what that effort should be and I've never amended the profile to suit anyone elses suggestions.
Some people seem to like the effort I've made while others don't but that's fine as far as I'm concerned. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"I find these posts interesting and constructive comments welcome.
Have been on a bit now and no Veri’s or meets, but I am trying to be patient and not pushy with people
Going to go the Manchester social in august, you think that will help? "
Yes absolutely |
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By *andC89Couple
over a year ago
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We have only been on a few months and whilst there are a few highlights it can be very frustrating. Being on the mature end of the spectrum we have shared pictures and videos and tweaked the profile as we learn from our experiences. Many just don’t seem to bother to read it but at least we are upfront about who we are and what we want. Had a few who are really keen and when we become ‘friends’ they ghost us and make no effort to meet. Learning every day, we just want to have fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only have one pic due to discretion issues. I do feel I have made an effort with my profile tho yet still no meets and only photo verified.
Any comments on this would be appreciated |
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"I only have one pic due to discretion issues. I do feel I have made an effort with my profile tho yet still no meets and only photo verified.
Any comments on this would be appreciated "
You’ve answered the two issues yourself in the first sentence… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only have one pic due to discretion issues. I do feel I have made an effort with my profile tho yet still no meets and only photo verified.
Any comments on this would be appreciated
You’ve answered the two issues yourself in the first sentence…"
I don't understand this. Sorry. |
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"We’ve come across quite a lot of people who complain they aren’t having any luck on Fab, either connecting with people online or meeting up. When you look at their profiles they have only one line bio’s, no public pics, no verifications, no profile pic etc…we feel you absolutely need to make an effort if you’re serious about getting involved with other people. What’s everyone else’s experience? "
Most guys don't read yet alone read profiles. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We just do FAB our way and set up our profile as we have as we like to think that we’ll attract likeminded people.
We want to give ourselves the best opportunity to find the connections we want.
K"
This is exactly our thinking as well, we’ve tried to give ourselves the best chance of connecting with like minded people. People with profiles similar to ours are ones we are instantly drawn to - because it’s an initially indication of being in the same wavelength for a start
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We’ve come across quite a lot of people who complain they aren’t having any luck on Fab, either connecting with people online or meeting up. When you look at their profiles they have only one line bio’s, no public pics, no verifications, no profile pic etc…we feel you absolutely need to make an effort if you’re serious about getting involved with other people. What’s everyone else’s experience?
Most guys don't read yet alone read profiles."
Hahahaha, well you make a very valid point lol
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I only have one pic due to discretion issues. I do feel I have made an effort with my profile tho yet still no meets and only photo verified.
Any comments on this would be appreciated "
In the first sentence of you bio you say you’re married, there is your problem. We won’t meet with anyone mucking about being their partner’s back. It’s a non-negotiable. Either talk to your partner about joining in or talk to them about sorting out your issues. If you can’t do that why are you even in a relationship…..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I only have one pic due to discretion issues. I do feel I have made an effort with my profile tho yet still no meets and only photo verified.
Any comments on this would be appreciated
You’ve answered the two issues yourself in the first sentence…
I don't understand this. Sorry. "
They are referring to the first sentence in your bio….
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To be honest i have tried my best with my profile i got 1 verification chatting to a lovely couple on cam I'm always nice and
Respectful i always read profiles but i seem to be getting nowhere i understand there are more men than women and you must get bombarded with messages xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We have only been on a few months and whilst there are a few highlights it can be very frustrating. Being on the mature end of the spectrum we have shared pictures and videos and tweaked the profile as we learn from our experiences. Many just don’t seem to bother to read it but at least we are upfront about who we are and what we want. Had a few who are really keen and when we become ‘friends’ they ghost us and make no effort to meet. Learning every day, we just want to have fun "
People not reading the profiles tends to be so common! We’ve not been here long but have already started tweaking the profile and learning quickly to suss out the time wasters. It is definitely a learning curve!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We’ve come across quite a lot of people who complain they aren’t having any luck on Fab, either connecting with people online or meeting up. When you look at their profiles they have only one line bio’s, no public pics, no verifications, no profile pic etc…we feel you absolutely need to make an effort if you’re serious about getting involved with other people. What’s everyone else’s experience? "
So true. Well said |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be honest i have tried my best with my profile i got 1 verification chatting to a lovely couple on cam I'm always nice and
Respectful i always read profiles but i seem to be getting nowhere i understand there are more men than women and you must get bombarded with messages xx "
We’ve discovered you absolutely do need to make the effort with sending winks, sending messages etc…if you are interested in getting to know someone, message them and tell them. If they don’t reply, in the words of Ariana Grande - thank you, next lol
Good luck
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I decided a long time ago to make an effort with my profile but I've never let anyone dictate what that effort should be and I've never amended the profile to suit anyone elses suggestions.
Some people seem to like the effort I've made while others don't but that's fine as far as I'm concerned. "
That’s exactly the right attitude - you’re putting the amount of effort in that suits you, and you’re getting what you want out of Fab. You aren’t sitting moaning about people not wanting to connect with you and so on. Happy Fabbing 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think you need to use your profile to express who you are and what you want from the site. I don’t think it takes that long to write a half way decent but if blurb and get some shots you are happy with. If you can’t be bothered to make an effort then I think it is reasonable that others won’t bother to make an effort with you."
That’s how we look at it as well - we’ve put quite a lot of effort into our blurb and have tweaked it a bit occasionally as well, because we want to be clear about what we want out of Fab, and also makes it easy enough for other people to quickly decide whether or not they want to connect
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find these posts interesting and constructive comments welcome.
Have been on a bit now and no Veri’s or meets, but I am trying to be patient and not pushy with people
Going to go the Manchester social in august, you think that will help? "
We have been advised that socials are a great way to connect with people and get verifications. So based on that I’d say yes, going to the Manchester social would help. Hope you have fun
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I try to keep my profile short (nobody wants to read an essay) but inclusive of "me". A bit of my personality and humour. At the end of the day, that's who I am. And as great as the sex part of this site is, it's just as important to share a bit of what makes you, you.
Just my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No need for effort being more chilled out and not giving a toss seems to appeal to most im starting to see"
No offence but that’s not what we are looking for. If it works for you then that’s great - it’s all about having fun at the end of the day
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I immediately think they apply the zero effort but expectations approach to everything in life. "
Yup, I find it very self entitled sometimes
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No need for effort being more chilled out and not giving a toss seems to appeal to most im starting to see
No offence but that’s not what we are looking for. If it works for you then that’s great - it’s all about having fun at the end of the day
F (Mrs)"
i never tale offence i prefer to take the gate |
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"We’ve come across quite a lot of people who complain they aren’t having any luck on Fab, either connecting with people online or meeting up. When you look at their profiles they have only one line bio’s, no public pics, no verifications, no profile pic etc…we feel you absolutely need to make an effort if you’re serious about getting involved with other people. What’s everyone else’s experience? "
I quickly get bored of those posts, you advise they do nothing and post again in a months time the exact same thing.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We’ve come across quite a lot of people who complain they aren’t having any luck on Fab, either connecting with people online or meeting up. When you look at their profiles they have only one line bio’s, no public pics, no verifications, no profile pic etc…we feel you absolutely need to make an effort if you’re serious about getting involved with other people. What’s everyone else’s experience?
I quickly get bored of those posts, you advise they do nothing and post again in a months time the exact same thing.
Mrs "
Yup, if people aren’t prepared to take on advice that they asked for, then that’s on them
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No need for effort being more chilled out and not giving a toss seems to appeal to most im starting to see
No offence but that’s not what we are looking for. If it works for you then that’s great - it’s all about having fun at the end of the day
F (Mrs)i never tale offence i prefer to take the gate "
Haha less chance of an injury that way lol
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not just Fab, people wanting reward for little or no effort.
When I see months old profiles with "Fill in later" I think that these are the ones who complain the most about Fab being shite."
You are so right - they are almost always the ones who moan in our experience
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