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Are we way off the mark?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So recently we have decided that our swinging journey should be more aimed towards couples as we have played with single men and had our fair share.
We have both discussed our limits with couples and it’s something we are both happy to explore further.
However we have chatted and said we would love to meet a couple we could actually make friends with.
Go out for meals drinks socially maybe some fun afterwards etc and just generally become friends with added benefits.
In no way are we short of friends or a busy social life but just wondering do any other couples feel
Like this or are we way off the mark?  |
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"So recently we have decided that our swinging journey should be more aimed towards couples as we have played with single men and had our fair share.
We have both discussed our limits with couples and it’s something we are both happy to explore further.
However we have chatted and said we would love to meet a couple we could actually make friends with.
Go out for meals drinks socially maybe some fun afterwards etc and just generally become friends with added benefits.
In no way are we short of friends or a busy social life but just wondering do any other couples feel
Like this or are we way off the mark? "
I am sure as the first reply says there are other couples looking for the same. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So recently we have decided that our swinging journey should be more aimed towards couples as we have played with single men and had our fair share.
We have both discussed our limits with couples and it’s something we are both happy to explore further.
However we have chatted and said we would love to meet a couple we could actually make friends with.
Go out for meals drinks socially maybe some fun afterwards etc and just generally become friends with added benefits.
In no way are we short of friends or a busy social life but just wondering do any other couples feel
Like this or are we way off the mark?
I am sure as the first reply says there are other couples looking for the same. "
Well if you happen to find them please send our way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We often comment how difficult it must be for couples to find each other.
How often does one get taken for the team?
Most couples profiles on here only have pictures of her as a starting point and how often is the big reveal a disappointment?
All this before you’ve even started to chat.
Good luck though. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you thought it was just us but we are struggling at the moment 
I am wondering why you prefer to arrange your meets offline ?"
We just find it easier than logging into fab as we can get hundreds of messages a day and sometimes we miss messages etc  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’re starting to wonder if it’s even worth it anymore.
Finding a couple to build a friendship with that comes with naughty benefits is just so difficult. Especially with our time restraints.
We would love to meet more single ladies BUT wouldn’t we all!
We were here for 4 years or so, took a step back as it wasn’t bringing much to the table but after 8 months we were kissing it so un hid our profile and paid our subs but tbh it just seems to be a waste of time!
We’d much appreciated some feedback on our profile if anyone wants to take a look and offer some feedback. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It is great you get hundreds of messages a day. Even when I post a meet I only get about 15 messages a day. "
Not when they are all people who haven’t read what we are looking for.
It tends to be the usal dick pics, the meet now, the you ok, the long mmmmmmmmms you know all the standard messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’re starting to wonder if it’s even worth it anymore.
Finding a couple to build a friendship with that comes with naughty benefits is just so difficult. Especially with our time restraints.
We would love to meet more single ladies BUT wouldn’t we all!
We were here for 4 years or so, took a step back as it wasn’t bringing much to the table but after 8 months we were kissing it so un hid our profile and paid our subs but tbh it just seems to be a waste of time!
We’d much appreciated some feedback on our profile if anyone wants to take a look and offer some feedback. "
Fantastic profile from an older gents opinion
The problem lies with others not yourselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’re starting to wonder if it’s even worth it anymore.
Finding a couple to build a friendship with that comes with naughty benefits is just so difficult. Especially with our time restraints.
We would love to meet more single ladies BUT wouldn’t we all!
We were here for 4 years or so, took a step back as it wasn’t bringing much to the table but after 8 months we were kissing it so un hid our profile and paid our subs but tbh it just seems to be a waste of time!
We’d much appreciated some feedback on our profile if anyone wants to take a look and offer some feedback.
Fantastic profile from an older gents opinion
The problem lies with others not yourselves "
Thank you! |
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We have exactly this arrangement with several couples.
We socialise and party together and they are good friends that have crossed over from swinging into real life.
It’s just that we get to fuck them still..
When you’re lucky enough to find them, hang on to them and be flexible with arrangements. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have exactly this arrangement with several couples.
We socialise and party together and they are good friends that have crossed over from swinging into real life.
It’s just that we get to fuck them still..
When you’re lucky enough to find them, hang on to them and be flexible with arrangements. "
Totally agree with this.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’re starting to wonder if it’s even worth it anymore.
Finding a couple to build a friendship with that comes with naughty benefits is just so difficult. Especially with our time restraints.
We would love to meet more single ladies BUT wouldn’t we all!
We were here for 4 years or so, took a step back as it wasn’t bringing much to the table but after 8 months we were kissing it so un hid our profile and paid our subs but tbh it just seems to be a waste of time!
We’d much appreciated some feedback on our profile if anyone wants to take a look and offer some feedback. "
Hey
We get that too. Time is tough particularly if you have little ones like we do x
We’ve been on and off a few times.
We’ve decided now to go with it and see what happens. No pressure and if it happens great. There are plenty of singles looking to play when we need it haha x
Have fun x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It sounds like you haven't got message filtering turned on. It stops you getting messages from single guys, people who don't have photos etc."
Forgot about this feature now turned on |
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
We also have a couple we have met a few times and consider as friends who we play with. It’s great.
However these types of arrangements are needle in haystack scenarios. If you have some standards that you are looking for in a couple then it’s very difficult to meet people.
Like the OP said you do wonder if it is worth it. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
We've found that hooking up with couples has been all but impossible on Fab. Either they're fake, or they simply can't hold a conversation and just message single words. They're worse than guys at reading profiles, too.
However we have two different couples that we class as friends and do social things as well as play with. One we met at Swingathon last year and they just happened to live local to us. The other we met at our local social.
Have a look for socials in your area and try and become a regular.
(Bry) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We've found that hooking up with couples has been all but impossible on Fab. Either they're fake, or they simply can't hold a conversation and just message single words. They're worse than guys at reading profiles, too.
However we have two different couples that we class as friends and do social things as well as play with. One we met at Swingathon last year and they just happened to live local to us. The other we met at our local social.
Have a look for socials in your area and try and become a regular.
(Bry)"
That’s great advice thank you |
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By *bostCouple
over a year ago
glasgow |
We’re kind of similar. We want to meet people we can get on with, socially, before the bedroom gymnastics. Not sure if we’d say that we had to be friends, although that has been a by product of meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We’re kind of similar. We want to meet people we can get on with, socially, before the bedroom gymnastics. Not sure if we’d say that we had to be friends, although that has been a by product of meeting. "
Let’s have a night out In Glasgow then  |
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By *bostCouple
over a year ago
glasgow |
"We’re kind of similar. We want to meet people we can get on with, socially, before the bedroom gymnastics. Not sure if we’d say that we had to be friends, although that has been a by product of meeting.
Let’s have a night out In Glasgow then "
Let’s do it |
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"So recently we have decided that our swinging journey should be more aimed towards couples as we have played with single men and had our fair share.
We have both discussed our limits with couples and it’s something we are both happy to explore further.
However we have chatted and said we would love to meet a couple we could actually make friends with.
Go out for meals drinks socially maybe some fun afterwards etc and just generally become friends with added benefits.
In no way are we short of friends or a busy social life but just wondering do any other couples feel
Like this or are we way off the mark? "
we were just talking about this the other day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would love this too, our fab life is very much private and kept secret but would be great to have friends where anything can be discussed, plus the added bonus that you can have a play if you fancy it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’re starting to wonder if it’s even worth it anymore.
Finding a couple to build a friendship with that comes with naughty benefits is just so difficult. Especially with our time restraints.
We would love to meet more single ladies BUT wouldn’t we all!
We were here for 4 years or so, took a step back as it wasn’t bringing much to the table but after 8 months we were kissing it so un hid our profile and paid our subs but tbh it just seems to be a waste of time!
We’d much appreciated some feedback on our profile if anyone wants to take a look and offer some feedback. "
If that's how you're feeling as a couple, imagine how it must feel for single men on here hahaha |
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"So recently we have decided that our swinging journey should be more aimed towards couples as we have played with single men and had our fair share.
We have both discussed our limits with couples and it’s something we are both happy to explore further.
However we have chatted and said we would love to meet a couple we could actually make friends with.
Go out for meals drinks socially maybe some fun afterwards etc and just generally become friends with added benefits.
In no way are we short of friends or a busy social life but just wondering do any other couples feel
Like this or are we way off the mark? "
We feel the same way. Sex gets even better the more you get to know someone, and the more you do it with a particular person. So imagine you can have a great day/night out with your friends, and then go home and blow each other’s minds too.
What’s not to love? x |
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"We’re starting to wonder if it’s even worth it anymore.
Finding a couple to build a friendship with that comes with naughty benefits is just so difficult. Especially with our time restraints.
We would love to meet more single ladies BUT wouldn’t we all!
We were here for 4 years or so, took a step back as it wasn’t bringing much to the table but after 8 months we were kissing it so un hid our profile and paid our subs but tbh it just seems to be a waste of time!
We’d much appreciated some feedback on our profile if anyone wants to take a look and offer some feedback. "
It looks OK to me. You provide a lot of info which to us - is good. Some might not tho.
130 pics and 89 FO pics - way to much for me.
Maybe bareback puts people off - not sure about that. Contra by reg testing but... its a hot potato I guess.
Your profile leans more to solo fem not long term friends who swap... maybe make your direction clearer.
ATB
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By *ihmMan
over a year ago
West Wales |
"So recently we have decided that our swinging journey should be more aimed towards couples as we have played with single men and had our fair share.
We have both discussed our limits with couples and it’s something we are both happy to explore further.
However we have chatted and said we would love to meet a couple we could actually make friends with.
Go out for meals drinks socially maybe some fun afterwards etc and just generally become friends with added benefits.
In no way are we short of friends or a busy social life but just wondering do any other couples feel
Like this or are we way off the mark? "
We have a number of friendships like this, it is great and something very different to what we signed up to fab for, which is a more casual and varied encounter. But we find ourselves not really wanting to sleep with the people we wouldn't want to be friends with and adding to our group of naughty friends the people who tick both boxes. |
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"So recently we have decided that our swinging journey should be more aimed towards couples as we have played with single men and had our fair share.
We have both discussed our limits with couples and it’s something we are both happy to explore further.
However we have chatted and said we would love to meet a couple we could actually make friends with.
Go out for meals drinks socially maybe some fun afterwards etc and just generally become friends with added benefits.
In no way are we short of friends or a busy social life but just wondering do any other couples feel
Like this or are we way off the mark? "
Oh my lord, you have no idea how much we want this! Very difficult to find though.
We think it would be amazing to have friends like we have any, go out and friend stuff with, and then sometimes go back and have but-naked sex with each other. It sounds amazing. |
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We have been very lucky over time , we have met some lovely couples who are now great friends socially and playfully .
It's a swinging site and people tend to look for that first, if things go well from those meets and a connection is made then great.
As you get older it becomes more difficult on here due to age limits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would love to meet like minded couples with no actual focus on intent to play. It’s not something our circle of friends know about or would necessarily understand. Seems difficult to find on here though x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We would love to meet like minded couples with no actual focus on intent to play. It’s not something our circle of friends know about or would necessarily understand. Seems difficult to find on here though x"
Well we hope you find it |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"We often comment how difficult it must be for couples to find each other.
How often does one get taken for the team?
Most couples profiles on here only have pictures of her as a starting point and how often is the big reveal a disappointment?
All this before you’ve even started to chat.
Good luck though. X"
This is spot on
I'm half a couple & straight so it's even harder as most couples want a bi fem .
This is why my partner & I have single profiles each. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
The reality and commitment from people is so different to what they say they want. We have made some good friends but it is very limited. Some seem to talk the talk but find it difficult communicating so to bond friendships is very difficult, however not impossible. A great Friendship is like a fine wine, they come along when you least expect it   |
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By *ihmMan
over a year ago
West Wales |
"We would love to meet like minded couples with no actual focus on intent to play. It’s not something our circle of friends know about or would necessarily understand. Seems difficult to find on here though x"
We are very open about what we get up to broadly, we don't push it on people, but equally we don't really hide it. Consequently friends feel able to talk to us on the subject. It is surprising how many of the most outwardly prudish people can, underneath the veneer, be randy swingers/kinksters trying to get out! Like us, you may well have more luck finding it in the real world. |
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"We have exactly this arrangement with several couples.
We socialise and party together and they are good friends that have crossed over from swinging into real life.
It’s just that we get to fuck them still..
When you’re lucky enough to find them, hang on to them and be flexible with arrangements. "
That sounds actually perfect! Exactly the type of thing we are looking for. |
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This is exactly what were most happiest about finding. We tend not to actively look for it, but when people you click with come along you grab that opportunity!
We're really lucky that we've found a great group of friends in swinging, and hope to make more too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is exactly what were most happiest about finding. We tend not to actively look for it, but when people you click with come along you grab that opportunity!
We're really lucky that we've found a great group of friends in swinging, and hope to make more too."
Sounds perfect  |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"So recently we have decided that our swinging journey should be more aimed towards couples as we have played with single men and had our fair share.
We have both discussed our limits with couples and it’s something we are both happy to explore further.
However we have chatted and said we would love to meet a couple we could actually make friends with.
Go out for meals drinks socially maybe some fun afterwards etc and just generally become friends with added benefits.
In no way are we short of friends or a busy social life but just wondering do any other couples feel
Like this or are we way off the mark? "
Fab is as much about the social element as it is the sexual - I'm sure you will find this soon |
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As much as it sounds like a nice arrangement we personally couldn't have friends with benefits. We think there would be too many risks like becoming too emotionally involved and could potentially cause petty or major fall outs and possibly ruining each couples relationship
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lovely thought OP - but be aware of the dangers involved with emotional attachment
My first wife and I went down similar route and it was a a bit of a nightmare with other couples we'd met demanding more "us time"
J xx |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"As much as it sounds like a nice arrangement we personally couldn't have friends with benefits. We think there would be too many risks like becoming too emotionally involved and could potentially cause petty or major fall outs and possibly ruining each couples relationship
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That would never happen with us as we have a strong relationship and ultimately we are soul mates. If we had any of those issues possibly rearing there ugly heads we wouldn't be swinging. People need to communicate and be sure this lifestyle is 100% what they want. Never jump into it willy nilly or yes this could be the case. To sum up we love having FWB and it is working really well for us, amazing fun times when all become comfortable with each other and know boundaries |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As much as it sounds like a nice arrangement we personally couldn't have friends with benefits. We think there would be too many risks like becoming too emotionally involved and could potentially cause petty or major fall outs and possibly ruining each couples relationship
That would never happen with us as we have a strong relationship and ultimately we are soul mates. If we had any of those issues possibly rearing there ugly heads we wouldn't be swinging. People need to communicate and be sure this lifestyle is 100% what they want. Never jump into it willy nilly or yes this could be the case. To sum up we love having FWB and it is working really well for us, amazing fun times when all become comfortable with each other and know boundaries "
Wholeheartedly agree with the above |
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"So recently we have decided that our swinging journey should be more aimed towards couples as we have played with single men and had our fair share.
We have both discussed our limits with couples and it’s something we are both happy to explore further.
However we have chatted and said we would love to meet a couple we could actually make friends with.
Go out for meals drinks socially maybe some fun afterwards etc and just generally become friends with added benefits.
In no way are we short of friends or a busy social life but just wondering do any other couples feel
Like this or are we way off the mark? "
Not way off the mark at all. We met one couple on here, became very good friends and we do exactly that. Sometimes it's a evening out or a coffee, sometimes it's a club visit or a naughty night home. We have shared history, interests and ran in the same circles for most of our lives but didnt really properly connect till we met through fab and went, "oh I know you don't I" so there's a lot to connect over. Been having a great time together for some time now.
We've seen similar things with other couples at clubs and specifically social events as well. You tend to see the same people hanging out together in hotels having meals or at bars if you go to enough socials (where you stay out for the evening that is) and club regulars are club regulars.
I'd certainly recommend anyone looking for that sort of connection frequents social events though. You might get it through Fab but I'm more inclined to say people who attend swinger social events get just as much enjoyment out of the social side as well.
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