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over a year ago
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Just to clarify, the point of this post is to air out something that angors me.
My partner and I are new to the scene and don't pose to be experts in anyway.
Yesterday, I was faced with a dark reality from a member who told me how their confidence had been shattered because someone they met, from here, started to use their name, profile and phone number on other sites - for what reason I'm not qualified to answer. We're starting to realise how many scumbags are you using this site and has got us thinking, is it at all worth it?
The short time we've been here, we've experienced a few people that have had the similar problems and even blackmail. It's pretty sickening, what can be done about this? Maybe naming and shaming with a picture of their face would be a good start, who knows. |
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"Just to clarify, the point of this post is to air out something that angors me.
My partner and I are new to the scene and don't pose to be experts in anyway.
Yesterday, I was faced with a dark reality from a member who told me how their confidence had been shattered because someone they met, from here, started to use their name, profile and phone number on other sites - for what reason I'm not qualified to answer. We're starting to realise how many scumbags are you using this site and has got us thinking, is it at all worth it?
The short time we've been here, we've experienced a few people that have had the similar problems and even blackmail. It's pretty sickening, what can be done about this? Maybe naming and shaming with a picture of their face would be a good start, who knows."
Well for starters id never give my number out til i had spoken to them a good few times, nor would i give my name, and also i dont give out a face pic til im sure that i may meet them. In all walks of life there are scumbags, just have to be very selective in what info you give to people i guess x |
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Just shows you got to be careful what you tell people. I did have one person I met from another site tell my partner to look at my profile and give her the profile name and the site name. I think that was a very nasty thing to do - we had stopped seeing each other because she didn't want to, then she threw her toys out of the pram when she found out I was fucking another FB. Whatever she thought of me, it would have been my children who suffered.  |
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"Just shows you got to be careful what you tell people. I did have one person I met from another site tell my partner to look at my profile and give her the profile name and the site name. I think that was a very nasty thing to do - we had stopped seeing each other because she didn't want to, then she threw her toys out of the pram when she found out I was fucking another FB. Whatever she thought of me, it would have been my children who suffered. "
theres a lesson in there somewhere  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to clarify, the point of this post is to air out something that angors me.
My partner and I are new to the scene and don't pose to be experts in anyway.
Yesterday, I was faced with a dark reality from a member who told me how their confidence had been shattered because someone they met, from here, started to use their name, profile and phone number on other sites - for what reason I'm not qualified to answer. We're starting to realise how many scumbags are you using this site and has got us thinking, is it at all worth it?
The short time we've been here, we've experienced a few people that have had the similar problems and even blackmail. It's pretty sickening, what can be done about this? Maybe naming and shaming with a picture of their face would be a good start, who knows."
If you are worried about your mobile details being given out, buy a cheap shitty phone and a throw away sim card.
If you are worried about details of your messenger services being given out, have a seperate account for play fun / verifications only.
If you are worried about your address details being provided, meet away from home and if people ask, tell them nothing.
If you are worried about being named, use names other than your own.
All easily done, cheap and effective in keeping those with ill intentions at bay.
There will always be people who abuse this site (and others like it) and the people who have profiles here.
Who knows what makes them tick ?
Look after Number 1 both in terms of confidentiality and sexual health and let everyone else fall in place behind you.
If someone doesn't accept your criteria or you theirs, you have every right to walk away.
Further, the block facility and the report facility are here for a reason.
Use them. Effectively.
Naming and shaming serves little purpose other than stirring up a hornets nest and potentially a stingong response to match.
And to answer your last question, yes, if done properly, it is well worth the effort  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to clarify, the point of this post is to air out something that angors me.
My partner and I are new to the scene and don't pose to be experts in anyway.
Yesterday, I was faced with a dark reality from a member who told me how their confidence had been shattered because someone they met, from here, started to use their name, profile and phone number on other sites - for what reason I'm not qualified to answer. We're starting to realise how many scumbags are you using this site and has got us thinking, is it at all worth it?
The short time we've been here, we've experienced a few people that have had the similar problems and even blackmail. It's pretty sickening, what can be done about this? Maybe naming and shaming with a picture of their face would be a good start, who knows.
If you are worried about your mobile details being given out, buy a cheap shitty phone and a throw away sim card.
If you are worried about details of your messenger services being given out, have a seperate account for play fun / verifications only.
If you are worried about your address details being provided, meet away from home and if people ask, tell them nothing.
If you are worried about being named, use names other than your own.
All easily done, cheap and effective in keeping those with ill intentions at bay.
There will always be people who abuse this site (and others like it) and the people who have profiles here.
Who knows what makes them tick ?
Look after Number 1 both in terms of confidentiality and sexual health and let everyone else fall in place behind you.
If someone doesn't accept your criteria or you theirs, you have every right to walk away.
Further, the block facility and the report facility are here for a reason.
Use them. Effectively.
Naming and shaming serves little purpose other than stirring up a hornets nest and potentially a stingong response to match.
And to answer your last question, yes, if done properly, it is well worth the effort "
Good answer 
I have a throwaway phone, don't use my real name, never meet at home and we've never had any problems with confidentiality xx |
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Bussy's covered most of what I would say about the 'mechanics' of being on a site like this and maintaining your personal security.
All I will add, and it follows on from what NaughtyNips also commented, is that it amazes me how trusting people are of others who they have never met other than through a faceless portal like Fabs. All 'contact' sites, including Facebook and 'Twatter' are the same - Fabs is by no means on it's own in that. I helped moderate a history based forum years ago and the same happened there!! Bloody archaeologists!!
But for some reason which even has psychologists puzzled, users are prepared to open themselves up within moments to a completely unseen stranger via a broadband cable in a way they would never do with in person in a pub or party etc.
You just need to apply some basic common sense to everything on here and always question your next move and, more importantly, theirs...
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