Can anyone explain, if a man has anal sex it's seen as a "gay" act? If 2 men have anal sex I would accept that they are probably gay but if a woman takes a man with a strap on I do not see that as a "gay" act. Just to be clear this is an observation of the attitude in the outside world and not on Fab. |
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Maybe it’s because the attraction to gender doesn’t have to include their bits and pieces?
2 men having sex is different to a man and a woman regardless of how your doing it. |
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Lots of straight men like anal play, including pegging. It feels good for anatomical reasons that are the same for all men as well as being an interesting power dynamic for some people.
It has nothing to do with sexual orientation 
I dont know about anyone else, but the phrase "gay act" makes me a tad unconfortable. It sounds like a line you cross or a crime you commit. Like: if you comit this act then you stop being straight and become gay. That doesnt feel acurate at all! Lots of people experiment before figuring out what they enjoy sexually and how they want to describe their orientation.
It also ignores all the people who are neither straight nor gay, but instead bi, or bi-curious, bi-playful or hete exible (or indeed pansexual, fluid, asexual, biromantic....)  |
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Personally I've never really got that either. Thats like saying oral for a girl is gay even if a guy does it? Just cos girls do it too.
I think its mostly from other men though OP. They see it as less manly somehow and therefore 'gay. I wholeheartedly disagree |
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"Can anyone explain, if a man has anal sex it's seen as a "gay" act? If 2 men have anal sex I would accept that they are probably gay but if a woman takes a man with a strap on I do not see that as a "gay" act. Just to be clear this is an observation of the attitude in the outside world and not on Fab."
A man being pegged by a woman is not a "gay act"
If it were, two lesbians using a strap-on would become a straight couple. |
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"Lots of straight men like anal play, including pegging. It feels good for anatomical reasons that are the same for all men as well as being an interesting power dynamic for some people.
It has nothing to do with sexual orientation
I dont know about anyone else, but the phrase "gay act" makes me a tad unconfortable. It sounds like a line you cross or a crime you commit. Like: if you comit this act then you stop being straight and become gay. That doesnt feel acurate at all! Lots of people experiment before figuring out what they enjoy sexually and how they want to describe their orientation.
It also ignores all the people who are neither straight nor gay, but instead bi, or bi-curious, bi-playful or heteexible (or indeed pansexual, fluid, asexual, biromantic....) "
Thank you.
Brilliantly put.
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"It also ignores all the people who are neither straight nor gay, but instead bi, or bi-curious, bi-playful or heteexible (or indeed pansexual, fluid, asexual, biromantic....) "
Biromantic - on first reading I thought that was something to do with a pen! Biro mantic.  |
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"Lots of straight men like anal play, including pegging. It feels good for anatomical reasons that are the same for all men as well as being an interesting power dynamic for some people.
It has nothing to do with sexual orientation
I dont know about anyone else, but the phrase "gay act" makes me a tad unconfortable. It sounds like a line you cross or a crime you commit. Like: if you comit this act then you stop being straight and become gay. That doesnt feel acurate at all! Lots of people experiment before figuring out what they enjoy sexually and how they want to describe their orientation.
It also ignores all the people who are neither straight nor gay, but instead bi, or bi-curious, bi-playful or heteexible (or indeed pansexual, fluid, asexual, biromantic....) "
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"It also ignores all the people who are neither straight nor gay, but instead bi, or bi-curious, bi-playful or heteexible (or indeed pansexual, fluid, asexual, biromantic....)
Biromantic - on first reading I thought that was something to do with a pen! Biro mantic. "
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