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Why so hard for fat men to get meets
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must be to large and small cock as I never get chatted up xxx"
It might not be that at all. Have you thought about how your profile, photos, write up and messages you send might be seen by others? Also, are you being realistic with people you might be sending messages to?
There's a huge choice of guys for everyone. Some guys can get put on the side for the simplest of reasons and not always the obvious ones either. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Same reason short guys, tall guys, thin guys, muscle guys etc can't get meets. It down to what others are looking. All you can do is make your profile the best it can be, take some interesting photos and send out polite and interesting messages to those profiles that interests you and most importantly almost match what you have to offer.
Most people on Fab feel that others are having more success than them but it isn't necessarily so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must be to large and small cock as I never get chatted up xxx
It might not be that at all. Have you thought about how your profile, photos, write up and messages you send might be seen by others? Also, are you being realistic with people you might be sending messages to?
There's a huge choice of guys for everyone. Some guys can get put on the side for the simplest of reasons and not always the obvious ones either. "
Totally agree...puts me off.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably more to do with your profile that your size. As a single male profile why would you think it's a good idea to share those pictures of the woman on you public photos? Does she know you've done this? Why would you think sharing them would attract other women? It'll actually do the opposite.
Also who wants to see 57 cock pics on one profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably more to do with your profile that your size. As a single male profile why would you think it's a good idea to share those pictures of the woman on you public photos? Does she know you've done this? Why would you think sharing them would attract other women? It'll actually do the opposite.
Also who wants to see 57 cock pics on one profile? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Err because we are fat… simple. People have expectations based on what the traditional media and social media generates. "
People have attractions... based on what they're attracted to, maybe? |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
Maybe you send wonderful personalised messages to appropriate ladies looking for guys like yourself and they look at your profile and are then put off. I can't give you profile advise as you haven't asked, but it might be worth doing a forum search for the 100s of posts about the topic. Also wanking photos and wanking videos might not appeal to many ladies? Just my thoughts.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I look at a profile, male or female, and see pictures of them with others I’ll never message or reply.
It would frighten the life out of me that any photos of me would end up on here or elsewhere. Have they given you permission to use them and even if you say they have I’m sorry I wouldn’t believe you
I used to be in kik chat rooms for kink and BDSM and one of the rules was “no pictures showing others unless you’re a couple and they are on here”, I think that’s a great rule |
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"Probably more to do with your profile that your size. As a single male profile why would you think it's a good idea to share those pictures of the woman on you public photos? Does she know you've done this? Why would you think sharing them would attract other women? It'll actually do the opposite.
Also who wants to see 57 cock pics on one profile? "
Completely this! I love fat blokes, they're who I tend to go for, I love looking at them while we're banging away and seeing someone so big and feeling small and being squashed when we're cuddling. But your pictures completely put me off. You can't even tell you're fat on them so I don't know how you can blame it on that? |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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Your photos are really off putting. And it has nothing to do with you being fat.
The expectation that you have of being chatted up is quite unrealistic in my opinion. I think very, very few men on this site get chatted up. |
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"If you want to meet someone for sex this isn’t the place.
You've only been here 4 weeks. And had a meet in that time."
It was only a social, but a status saying how unfriendly fab women are is going to make it unlikely he'll get anything else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you want to meet someone for sex this isn’t the place.
You've only been here 4 weeks. And had a meet in that time."
The point being made was to lower expectations, I’ve found this is a lifestyle thing rather than a hook up sure. Just my opinion but thanks for checking up on me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you want to meet someone for sex this isn’t the place.
You've only been here 4 weeks. And had a meet in that time.
It was only a social, but a status saying how unfriendly fab women are is going to make it unlikely he'll get anything else. "
I’ve been abused too many times just for trying to make contact. Just my experience |
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"If you want to meet someone for sex this isn’t the place.
You've only been here 4 weeks. And had a meet in that time.
It was only a social, but a status saying how unfriendly fab women are is going to make it unlikely he'll get anything else.
I’ve been abused too many times just for trying to make contact. Just my experience "
I'm sorry to hear that, but you must have just been unlucky or doing something wrong.
I've been here for nearly 2 years and found the people on fab to be some of the nicest I've met. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you want to meet someone for sex this isn’t the place.
You've only been here 4 weeks. And had a meet in that time.
It was only a social, but a status saying how unfriendly fab women are is going to make it unlikely he'll get anything else.
I’ve been abused too many times just for trying to make contact. Just my experience
I'm sorry to hear that, but you must have just been unlucky or doing something wrong.
I've been here for nearly 2 years and found the people on fab to be some of the nicest I've met. "
I’m well aware it’s not everyone, it must be me: oh well life goes on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey buddy, I'm not exactly skinny and I don't have a massive cock but I get plenty of action with other guys - put yourself out there, update your profile and tell 'em what you want ! If you want cock - brilliant and if you want pussy - brilliant. You're the boss - grab life by the balls and go for what you fancy.
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"I must be to large and small cock as I never get chatted up xxx"
Might have something to do with the almost absent profile text and photos that are 99% cock shots…
Single guys are in abundance here and it’s a buyers market. You’ve got to really stand out for anyone to be interested. Your body and penis size has nothing to do with it. There’s a type for everyone |
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"If you want to meet someone for sex this isn’t the place.
You've only been here 4 weeks. And had a meet in that time.
It was only a social, but a status saying how unfriendly fab women are is going to make it unlikely he'll get anything else.
I’ve been abused too many times just for trying to make contact. Just my experience "
Then don't make contact.
Be here for the forums.
All the meets I've had have been when the lady contacted me first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you want to meet someone for sex this isn’t the place.
You've only been here 4 weeks. And had a meet in that time.
It was only a social, but a status saying how unfriendly fab women are is going to make it unlikely he'll get anything else.
I’ve been abused too many times just for trying to make contact. Just my experience
Then don't make contact.
Be here for the forums.
All the meets I've had have been when the lady contacted me first."
Well done you. I’ll shut up and cross my fingers in the meantime. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In all honestly, I'm only little and I don't want to feel squashed by a larger guy, if they're fat or even a body builder type. I don't like someone's weight on top of me.
Don’t you ride?"
What kind of a question is that  |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
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"I must be to large and small cock as I never get chatted up xxx"
Personally, I think it's more to do with your profile, to be honest. All your pics are just of your cock. Most couples and women will tell you that only cock pics are generally off-putting. Try adding more of your frame/body, and add some which are more teasing and subtle.
You might want to add a bit more to your bio as well. Tells people what you like and what you're looking for so that the right people can find you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Err because we are fat… simple. People have expectations based on what the traditional media and social media generates. "
Possible but I would say it's more to do with not matching up what someone's fantasy look maybe and because you don't meet that fantasy look ypur just going to gave to work harder for meets , it is what it is nothing more nothing less . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Err because we are fat… simple. People have expectations based on what the traditional media and social media generates. "
Don't blame others or social media and the images of males with rippling muscles being the standard for your lack of meets.
Always quick to blame elsewhere when the real reason is much closer to home, I.e. your profile.
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"In all honestly, I'm only little and I don't want to feel squashed by a larger guy, if they're fat or even a body builder type. I don't like someone's weight on top of me.
Don’t you ride?"
Not every single woman likes to go on top! Or can! |
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"Probably more to do with your profile that your size. As a single male profile why would you think it's a good idea to share those pictures of the woman on you public photos? Does she know you've done this? Why would you think sharing them would attract other women? It'll actually do the opposite.
Also who wants to see 57 cock pics on one profile?
Completely this! I love fat blokes, they're who I tend to go for, I love looking at them while we're banging away and seeing someone so big and feeling small and being squashed when we're cuddling. But your pictures completely put me off. You can't even tell you're fat on them so I don't know how you can blame it on that?"
Shame I'm out of your age range  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I look at a profile, male or female, and see pictures of them with others I’ll never message or reply.
It would frighten the life out of me that any photos of me would end up on here or elsewhere. Have they given you permission to use them and even if you say they have I’m sorry I wouldn’t believe you
I used to be in kik chat rooms for kink and BDSM and one of the rules was “no pictures showing others unless you’re a couple and they are on here”, I think that’s a great rule "
Totally agree with this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a fat lad with an average to small penis size, I like to think my unpopularity is down to be generally being a sarcastic twat as opposed to my physical traits  |
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"Don’t you ride?
What kind of a question is that
Creepy I'd say 
Standard response when all a guy is thinking about is his pleasure."
Definitely. I call it lazy bastard sex, when they just want you to go on top and do all the work for most of the time. It's actually one of my favourite positions but puts me straight off them when it's like this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t you ride?
What kind of a question is that
Creepy I'd say
Standard response when all a guy is thinking about is his pleasure.
Definitely. I call it lazy bastard sex, when they just want you to go on top and do all the work for most of the time. It's actually one of my favourite positions but puts me straight off them when it's like this."
A fannywank |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Firstly I answered privately so I’ve put my glasses on my apologies. What I said was that I’m quite slim averagely endowed and always polite Yet I get no meets and it’s probs how people perceive my profile and I’m a little boring. I don’t think it’s down to you as you say being fat. People are attractive of all sizes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably more to do with your profile that your size. As a single male profile why would you think it's a good idea to share those pictures of the woman on you public photos? Does she know you've done this? Why would you think sharing them would attract other women? It'll actually do the opposite.
Also who wants to see 57 cock pics on one profile?
Totally agree "
This ..... |
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"If I look at a profile, male or female, and see pictures of them with others I’ll never message or reply.
It would frighten the life out of me that any photos of me would end up on here or elsewhere. Have they given you permission to use them and even if you say they have I’m sorry I wouldn’t believe you
I used to be in kik chat rooms for kink and BDSM and one of the rules was “no pictures showing others unless you’re a couple and they are on here”, I think that’s a great rule "
100% agree.
That's a great rule.
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I agree too. There are no actual body pics, and many women are put off by dick pics as a first sight of someone, especially when that’s all that’s showing. It may help if you have a browse at some other guys profiles just to see what other pics you can post and still protect your identity. Body shape and size are only an issue if you make them an issue we all have wobbly bits. |
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I used to be in that forum too. It’s a good rule though I don’t have a major problem with it as long as you have consent from the person concerned. Ido think you should have to both verify you consent though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must be to large and small cock as I never get chatted up xxx"
I've found it difficult to get my average sized cock into an arsehole when the guy / or gal, has a big bum. Even with them pulling their arse cheeks as wide as possible my cock wouldn't reach. So I now actively look for slim partners.
Also only yesterday I tried to suck a larger guys cock at a porno cinema but his beer belly got in the way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Err because we are fat… simple. People have expectations based on what the traditional media and social media generates. "
The media actually makes it more socially acceptable to be larger these days. There is far more positive coverage of being larger than being skinny. The population in general is getting bigger every year.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must be to large and small cock as I never get chatted up xxx
I've found it difficult to get my average sized cock into an arsehole when the guy / or gal, has a big bum. Even with them pulling their arse cheeks as wide as possible my cock wouldn't reach. So I now actively look for slim partners.
Also only yesterday I tried to suck a larger guys cock at a porno cinema but his beer belly got in the way. "
Some positions can be difficult. Not much fun being bent double just so he can get the tip of his cock somewhere near my hole.  |
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"I must be to large and small cock as I never get chatted up xxx"
Some ladies will appreciate you some won’t ….
If you think your body shape is stopping you then my advice would be change it… I’m not saying you need a 6 pack and look like an athlete but drop a little body fat take a little pride in how you look
Some ladies will be attracted to that too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must be to large and small cock as I never get chatted up xxx"
See I'm a big bloke to. I'd say I'm quite confident.
I chat to alot of people on and off line. Yes, I'm not everyone's cup of tea, however, I don't want to be that.
Be appreciated for who you are and don't just want acception.
Just be you, your gonna get knock backs, but just move on. The only time to retaliate is when, like myself, you get that nasty hate messages back. Then again anyone can be a keyboard warrior.
A good friend said to me once, her motto is, if your not feeding or fucking me, my weight isn't your problem. I totally agree and use the motto now. |
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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago
Longridge |
"hi im so horny
He so horny.^^^"
I'm horny all night long
You got me horny in the morning
And you know uh oh
I tried to call you
But I can't find the telephone
I sent a message through the internet
But it rejected
I wrote a letter and I sent it
But uh oh oh
The postage takes so long
So I got to sing this song
To let you know how I feel
What's the deal baby
I can't wait for you
And the things you make me do
My heart is ringing so I'm singing
This song for you
I'm horny, horny, horny, horny
So horny
I'm horny, horny, horny
I search from time to time
But I can't find my bedroom
Now I got so desperate that
I sent a rocket to the moon
In New York City, someone said
They saw you singing the blues
But it was a man from nowhere land
That looked like you
Now we'll keep searching' on
This feeling's much too strong
My heart is ringing and I'm
Singing this song for you
I'm horny, horny, horny, horny
So horny
I'm horny, horny, horny
The postage takes so long
So I got to sing this song
To let you know how I feel
What's the deal baby
I can't wait for you
And the things you make me do
My heart is ringing so I'm singing
This song for you
I'm horny, horny, horny, horny
So horny
I'm horny, horny, horny |
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Sex is geometry. Two skinny people make for more ways to make this geometry work. But of the two skinnitudes, in some sexual positions, it's the man's that's key. "The facts, ma'am, just the facts." |
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I’d say there are a number of factors at play. As a lot of others have said are you representing yourself as best as you can. Also the way that the site is the statistics don’t fall in your favour. Add into that the plato distribution of chances of getting someone to meet you. Some factors you can change others you can’t maximise what you can |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In all honestly, I'm only little and I don't want to feel squashed by a larger guy, if they're fat or even a body builder type. I don't like someone's weight on top of me."
ride a cock then
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"In all honestly, I'm only little and I don't want to feel squashed by a larger guy, if they're fat or even a body builder type. I don't like someone's weight on top of me."
See this is where you go on top hun |
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"I must be to large and small cock as I never get chatted up xxx"
The simple fact is; the men in Fab outnumber the ladies by a huge margin, so the ladies really can pick and choose. All you can do, is make your profile sell YOU as good as YOU can be, and hope you tick someone’s boxes
Your profile text could do with an overhaul; “ask for my kik” followed by “add me on kik…….” doesn’t tell anyone much about you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In all honestly, I'm only little and I don't want to feel squashed by a larger guy, if they're fat or even a body builder type. I don't like someone's weight on top of me.
See this is where you go on top hun"
Have you ever thought maybe she doesn’t want to go on top?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In all honestly, I'm only little and I don't want to feel squashed by a larger guy, if they're fat or even a body builder type. I don't like someone's weight on top of me.
See this is where you go on top hun
Have you ever thought maybe she doesn’t want to go on top? "
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It really doesn't matter what the woman wants as long as he gets his shag.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP your photos need to be overhauled.
I don’t know if your target audience is straight females but if it is, I’d lose the lady tit action. There’s more of her visible in some photos than you. We know you’ve touched a tit before. |
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"In all honestly, I'm only little and I don't want to feel squashed by a larger guy, if they're fat or even a body builder type. I don't like someone's weight on top of me.
See this is where you go on top hun"
No it’s not. I don’t particularly like going on top or get squished |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it has nothing to do with being large small short or tall nothing to do with age ..but it has everything to do with there are 1000s like you compared to women or couples ..sadly that means alot of men will simply get no where on this sit or this scene...
we know plenty of larger men who do very well on the club and social scene |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you want to meet someone for sex this isn’t the place.
You've only been here 4 weeks. And had a meet in that time.
It was only a social, but a status saying how unfriendly fab women are is going to make it unlikely he'll get anything else.
I’ve been abused too many times just for trying to make contact. Just my experience "
Maybe the messages youre sending? I only get snappy when people are gross |
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By *ihmMan
over a year ago
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"I must be to large and small cock as I never get chatted up xxx"
Unrealistic expectations are your first issue I would suspect.
The prevailing opinion seems to be that your profile is the main issue, that may or may not be true, I haven't looked.
Going through messages on our couples profile though, we get a fair few, the vast majority are mind bogglingly lazy. Not just from single chaps either, it seems fab has become a numbers game, bang out as many messages to as many people as you can and hope something sticks. When frustration inevitably sets in after writing "hi" or "fancy some fun" 200+ times, it seems like a good idea to start a thread on the forums questioning why nobody likes you. It's been done a thousand times before. Not saying the op is guilty of the lazy scatter gun approach to communication, I wouldn't know, more of a general rant/observation
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"Same reason short guys, tall guys, thin guys, muscle guys etc can't get meets. It down to what others are looking. All you can do is make your profile the best it can be, take some interesting photos and send out polite and interesting messages to those profiles that interests you and most importantly almost match what you have to offer.
Most people on Fab feel that others are having more success than them but it isn't necessarily so."
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"We look for fat guys. Especially bi ones.
So yeah, there are people out there seeking them."
. I wish I lived closer to you two I'm a large guy and I'm bi and I've just been looking at your pictures and you both look fantastic and really sexy xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 38 weeks ago
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"We look for fat guys. Especially bi ones.
So yeah, there are people out there seeking them.. I wish I lived closer to you two I'm a large guy and I'm bi and I've just been looking at your pictures and you both look fantastic and really sexy xx"
Thanks brother.
Keep up the grind, you'll get lucky soon enough  |
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