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By *attooed-lovers OP Couple over a year ago

Online

Can anyone answer this..

So, we have winks off people, or winks back if we winked first.

But then when we message them, we dont get a reply..

We are always polite and write properly (minus the clumsy typing thumbs) and read the bio first.

Is it something we are doing wrong?

We are new to all this so any advice welcome!

Thanks in advance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Chickens

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By *ubyRonCouple over a year ago

Lancashire

You've got a hot profile so not sure why, we try our best to reply where we can but if we wink first it's usually that were unsure we're what you're after

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately, its fairly commonplace.

I don't want to sound negative but the amount of people on here that return messages are few.

This can be due to the fact their inboxes nat be crammed. Try to ensure that you send your message when they are online

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its fickle old fab for you. Hence why we dont bother with winks any more. Someone winks, wink back, nowt. Like you're suddenly expected to instigate conversation. Or it's a fake profile, or people simply get bored. So many reasons. Not worth worrying about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t even check my winks just don’t find them useful at all

I mean if they can’t pluck up the nerve to message me it’s showing me they couldn’t pluck up the nerve to meet

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By *moothshaftMan over a year ago

Coventry

With the rare winks I do get, I'll always say thanks, I do get replys sometimes.

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

We only wink back if people wink us, and thats typically to see if they will then send a message.

I’d rather send a message than a wink if we were going to signal our interest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I rarely get a wink

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By *ecky and justCouple over a year ago

Godalming

We always check winks and will wink or message back if the people are who were interested in or looking for.

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By *ilkChocManMan over a year ago

Sanderstead

Same...

Get a wink - read their profile and reply, and nothing back.

Ah well... Just the way it goes!

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By *otrockWoman over a year ago

Essex

"I don’t even check my winks just don’t find them useful at all

I mean if they can’t pluck up the nerve to message me it’s showing me they couldn’t pluck up the nerve to meet

Im the same, I just bulk delete them from time to time.. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Winks are important for single guys, it's a waste of time sending out loads of thoughtful well composed messages as you'd be on here 24/7 and that would be a depressing use of time. If I receive a wink, then I write a nice message. Leo x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I get a wink and they look interesting, I'll wink back. Very rarely will they reply with a message.

But if I reply to their wink with a message, half the time they'll reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always use winks to see if the other person is interested. Get a wink back game on if not a polite way of saying no thanks

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By *awk90Man over a year ago

Amsterdam

"I always use winks to see if the other person is interested. Get a wink back game on if not a polite way of saying no thanks "

I do this too

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By *ockosaurusMan over a year ago

Warwick

I like winking and recieving winks and will always reply to them.

Also, I'd have thought more women would have liked them tbh.

I've often read about how many messages they get, and one of the first things they do is check the profile, so surely a wink showing interest 'should' streamline things for them.

If there is a mutual interest, then the messaging can start.

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman over a year ago

lancashire

I also like to wink and fab at a nice pic even if they are too far away to meet up..good to show some appreciation on a nice pic...I also like to receive them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've found a first message to single ladies that gets a positive response 80% of the time. I'll be damned if I'm sharing it though x leo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I also like to wink and fab at a nice pic even if they are too far away to meet up..good to show some appreciation on a nice pic...I also like to receive them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can anyone answer this..

So, we have winks off people, or winks back if we winked first.

But then when we message them, we dont get a reply..

We are always polite and write properly (minus the clumsy typing thumbs) and read the bio first.

Is it something we are doing wrong?

We are new to all this so any advice welcome!

Thanks in advance.

I legit think I've had one wink

hahah, I don't think many people give much thought to winks...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I also like to wink and fab at a nice pic even if they are too far away to meet up..good to show some appreciation on a nice pic...I also like to receive them.

Youre a rare gem hahah

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

"I've found a first message to single ladies that gets a positive response 80% of the time. I'll be damned if I'm sharing it though x leo "

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Go on i will not tell anyone honest.

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

When I now wink I send a polite message straight after it.

O.P or anyone else if you wanna know what I put in my message.

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Private message as since I started this it works miles better & I get lots more replies.

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By *l4yerMan over a year ago

Wakefield

"I also like to wink and fab at a nice pic even if they are too far away to meet up..good to show some appreciation on a nice pic...I also like to receive them.

...difficult with a hidden profile

I had a run in with a couple over winks. They sent me a wink, so I sent a nice introductory message to them. And...waited. Nothing.

Then 6 weeks later I get another wink. So, I message and tell them I wrote to them previously after their first wink and got no reply so not playing games.

Then she says, oh sorry that must have been my husband. He probably thought you were what we were looking for.

I just explained there’s no second chances on here and she should know that. I told her I could have been there eating her fat arse if they had bothered to talk to each other.

She thought I was rude and I agreed. Being rude is the point on a swingers site. Both blocked each other

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By *s2walesCouple over a year ago

Gwent...

We wink to show we have seen a profile and there is an appreciation/ interest, also fab pics we like.

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By *arkhelgaCouple over a year ago

leeds

We love a good wink and message and love the thought of anyone checking our pics out,we ALWAYS reply and we ALWAYS wink back,its the thrill XxxM&HXxx

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By *att71Man over a year ago

Bristol

I like a wink to break the ice but they possibly seem to be the most unused part of this site, So many profile now stating they do not reply to them, wonders why?

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By *moothdickMan over a year ago

stoke

Winks and messages are about as good and useful as magnifying sun glasses

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By *arc and KamaCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

Wink for us is often a starting point. So if we wink, means we can potentially move forward, so expecting either wink back and then we can start exchanging messages, or after us winking we are happy for you to message us first.

I think, winks are a kind of “shy” version of direct messaging.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think, winks are a kind of “shy” version of direct messaging.

Agreed

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By *osweet69Couple over a year ago

portsmouth

"Can anyone answer this..

So, we have winks off people, or winks back if we winked first.

But then when we message them, we dont get a reply..

We are always polite and write properly (minus the clumsy typing thumbs) and read the bio first.

Is it something we are doing wrong?

We are new to all this so any advice welcome!

Thanks in advance.

"
Sometimes a sent wink is just a case of fat fingers.

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By *eventysixCouple over a year ago

glossop

We get winked then a message. We reply they read and dont reply go figure

seems normal in here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always wink before i message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont pay any attention to them and once a day I hit the 'delete all winks' button x

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By *randMrsJones500Couple over a year ago

london

"Its fickle old fab for you. Hence why we dont bother with winks any more. Someone winks, wink back, nowt. Like you're suddenly expected to instigate conversation. Or it's a fake profile, or people simply get bored. So many reasons. Not worth worrying about.

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agreed. It's a weird time too. Given that no one can meet at the moment people don't want to start conversations that they can't finish so to speak

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By *laric-DomMan over a year ago

Chapelhall

"Can anyone answer this..

So, we have winks off people, or winks back if we winked first.

But then when we message them, we dont get a reply..

We are always polite and write properly (minus the clumsy typing thumbs) and read the bio first.

Is it something we are doing wrong?

We are new to all this so any advice welcome!

Thanks in advance.

If get a wink or a message I always reply.. tho it's easy for me as I don't get many lol ... I get that it's harder for single females and couples who are inundated

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By *ockosaurusMan over a year ago

Warwick

"I like a wink to break the ice but they possibly seem to be the most unused part of this site, So many profile now stating they do not reply to them, wonders why?

I'm guessing they have been misused too, with people just winking any and everybody to try getting a response, in the same way that some use copy and paste messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can anyone answer this..

So, we have winks off people, or winks back if we winked first.

But then when we message them, we dont get a reply..

We are always polite and write properly (minus the clumsy typing thumbs) and read the bio first.

Is it something we are doing wrong?

We are new to all this so any advice welcome!

Thanks in advance.

Tried winking but couldn’t lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Winks are for idle people

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By *ubynaughtyCouple over a year ago

sheffield

We tend to wink people that we like but aren't sure if we are what they are looking for.

We always reply to winks with a wink back or message unless it is from someone we really don't think is compatible.

I do tend to find most people don't acknowledge winks though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If we’ve been winked and like what we see we generally wink back and then see if anyone reply’s with a message.

Doesn’t happen often which can be frustrating but we persevere regardless

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like being winked but it is odd when I message and they don't even have the decency to say thanks but no thanks, after all they made contact first

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By *reddy96Man over a year ago

scunthorpe

feel your pain on mgs and winks. My msgs i send get ignored or deleted then blocked. Just hav to be thick skinned about it

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By *attooed-lovers OP Couple over a year ago

Online

Thanks everyone for your replies! We have decided to not think too much in to it.

If we dont get replies, so be it!

Thanks again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get this too. It baffles me.

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By *efthandMan over a year ago

Halton, Cheshire

For me personally as a single man.

I don't see the point in me sending a wink.

If a profile intrigues and engages me enough? then I'd rather send a message to them. **With the appreciation and understanding that these might get deleted.

But I'd rather make an 'effort' to the profile in question, than a (in my mind) lazy wink out. ** Given that a lot of times they are ignored completely.

Yes for couples or single ladies, a wink is a quick little nod to a profile that they are 'interested' in you from what they can see in your profile.

As it's an understandable 'double standard' driven from the amount of time available and messages received for couples and single ladies.

If I can't be arsed sending a message to them? Then obviously the profile doesn't do enough for me (if I fall in requirements).

So why then waste my time and theirs with a wink.

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