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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello,
I'm used to making most girls cum, but my new missus is extremely hard to make cum.
Anyone got any tips that's will make it more pleasurable for her? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ask her what to do
I have asked it's hard work getting anything out of her. She expects me to just know it's super frustrating!"
Well just maybe she would like you to explore her body sensually and work it out for yourself. Far more fun in that
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have tried teasing her, and spent loads of time doing everything to her.
However she complains my cocks too big, she doesn't do any other positions other than missionary or being on top either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Plenty of foreplay . Sex when she wants it, not you. Take your time . Make her feel nice . Gentle with her clit . Try giving her a clitoral orgasm 1st without penetration. Communication is key . |
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"I have tried teasing her, and spent loads of time doing everything to her.
However she complains my cocks too big, she doesn't do any other positions other than missionary or being on top either. "
Communicate. Listen to her. Body language too.
If she doesn't like the way you penetrate her, alter it. |
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"I have tried teasing her, and spent loads of time doing everything to her.
However she complains my cocks too big, she doesn't do any other positions other than missionary or being on top either.
Communicate. Listen to her. Body language too.
If she doesn't like the way you penetrate her, alter it."
Are you advocating a move to the poop shoot? I’m usually all for it, but I’d argue this may not resolve the problem in this case.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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She's not sexually adventurous I would say, I think she is hiding a bad experience around sex from somewhere. It's hard as I'm very open and she is very closed at times. |
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"I have tried teasing her, and spent loads of time doing everything to her.
However she complains my cocks too big, she doesn't do any other positions other than missionary or being on top either.
Communicate. Listen to her. Body language too.
If she doesn't like the way you penetrate her, alter it.
Are you advocating a move to the poop shoot? I’m usually all for it, but I’d argue this may not resolve the problem in this case. "
 no |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have thought that, but I think she doesn't actually know herself. "
I know how you feel. About 10 years ago I had a wonderful looking sexy girlfriend. She confessed to only ever having 1 orgasm . We licked sucked and f#cked. every position known . It wasn’t painful for her it felt nice but Sadly she couldn’t do it . I am sure there was some mental block or something . She had a sex drive but just couldn’t orgasm ... I tried every way she even had other partners same result no orgasm. . If she could of had at least one orgasm we could build from there. Get her say what got her there and so forth . No luck ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ask her if she would like to join you on a meet from here, she might find that exciting 
I think she'd cut my cocks off! "
Is this the problem, you have more than one??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Umm ask... its ot that hard to do... "what do you want me to do to make you cum".
To be honest it's all in her head not yours, I find it takes weeks for guys to make me cum when I'm actually looking to have a relationship, it's more a mental thing than a physical thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ask her if she would like to join you on a meet from here, she might find that exciting
I think she'd cut my cocks off!
Is this the problem, you have more than one??? "
Probably, really wish I didn't wank with a cheese grater...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mrs here. OP, have you made her cum yet? I'm asking because once you make a girl cum once, it generally relaxes her body and it'll respond to you more easily, making the orgasms come more easily. If she feels under pressure to cum, she might have a mental block. Maybe take orgasms out of the equation for the moment and just concentrate on the actual experience; this can help her body to relax and cum without the expectation and pressure. Hope that helps. S x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's really hard mentally because I want to please her but it's not going to plan. Maybe it is a mental block "
Depends. If she can reach orgasm when she's masturbating alone, nobody else around then yeah, it's most likely a mental block.
Or sometimes it's really bloody enjoyable but not enough.
Have you used toys together?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Umm ask... its ot that hard to do... "what do you want me to do to make you cum".
To be honest it's all in her head not yours, I find it takes weeks for guys to make me cum when I'm actually looking to have a relationship, it's more a mental thing than a physical thing. "
I have asked her, she says she feels loved and it's rare guys make her cum. But she says she wanks and is able to cum. It's hard as she doesn't tell me what she does to make her cum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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See my post below. There's so much pleasure without orgasms, they're just the cherry on top. Don't think you're not pleasing her if she doesn't orgasm, honestly. S x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She's not sexually adventurous I would say, I think she is hiding a bad experience around sex from somewhere. It's hard as I'm very open and she is very closed at times."
From some of your other posts on this threat sounds like you may not be sexually comparable just yet. That takes time, if your cock is too big for her use lube and dont use your whole length. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's really hard mentally because I want to please her but it's not going to plan. Maybe it is a mental block "
Maybe you don’t need to focus on the orgasm being the ultimate thing. Try massage techniques, or read up on the tantric sex experience? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Umm ask... its ot that hard to do... "what do you want me to do to make you cum".
To be honest it's all in her head not yours, I find it takes weeks for guys to make me cum when I'm actually looking to have a relationship, it's more a mental thing than a physical thing.
I have asked her, she says she feels loved and it's rare guys make her cum. But she says she wanks and is able to cum. It's hard as she doesn't tell me what she does to make her cum"
Then stop trying! She can tell you're trying and that alone is enough to put her off and a wall of prayer it will actually happen in her head. She doesn't want you to be disappointed or take it personally but the more you make a fuss about it the bigger a problem it will be.
Just enjoy each others bodies and relax
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By *olgateMan
over a year ago
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"Hello,
I'm used to making most girls cum, but my new missus is extremely hard to make cum.
Anyone got any tips that's will make it more pleasurable for her?"
I’ve never had that problem with her, maybe she relaxes more with me |
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"Umm ask... its ot that hard to do... "what do you want me to do to make you cum".
To be honest it's all in her head not yours, I find it takes weeks for guys to make me cum when I'm actually looking to have a relationship, it's more a mental thing than a physical thing.
I have asked her, she says she feels loved and it's rare guys make her cum. But she says she wanks and is able to cum. It's hard as she doesn't tell me what she does to make her cum
Then stop trying! She can tell you're trying and that alone is enough to put her off and a wall of prayer it will actually happen in her head. She doesn't want you to be disappointed or take it personally but the more you make a fuss about it the bigger a problem it will be.
Just enjoy each others bodies and relax
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello,
I'm used to making most girls cum, but my new missus is extremely hard to make cum.
Anyone got any tips that's will make it more pleasurable for her?
I’ve never had that problem with her, maybe she relaxes more with me "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello,
I'm used to making most girls cum, but my new missus is extremely hard to make cum.
Anyone got any tips that's will make it more pleasurable for her?
I’ve never had that problem with her, maybe she relaxes more with me "
I think that's the thing she isn't switching off, like she's on edge. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And also every woman’s different. For mine it takes a long time but is big when it happens, but she can make herself come in minutes though! She describes it as going mentally deep inside herself on her own.
However, we were playing with another woman at the weekend, and between us we made her come very quickly! There’s no formula! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does she know you are on here?
No, I'm only on here because I'm getting sexually frustrated by not making her cum. The account is old."
Jesus wept.
So it's all about YOU after all.
*shakes head*
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"Does she know you are on here?
No, I'm only on here because I'm getting sexually frustrated by not making her cum. The account is old."
Isn't that the problem though, you're up tight about it which she will probably sense ... making her up tight... so she won't cum. Which will make you up tight... which...
You see where this is going? |
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Have you tried watching her get herself there? Then gradually over time add in kissing her breasts whilst she plays. Build up from there until you are both playing with her together. If she can come then it might break the mental block |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Umm ask... its ot that hard to do... "what do you want me to do to make you cum".
To be honest it's all in her head not yours, I find it takes weeks for guys to make me cum when I'm actually looking to have a relationship, it's more a mental thing than a physical thing.
I have asked her, she says she feels loved and it's rare guys make her cum. But she says she wanks and is able to cum. It's hard as she doesn't tell me what she does to make her cum"
Maybe suggest to be next to her while she makes herself cum so you can see what she does and how she does it, if it's with a toy then suggest to use the toy during your time together, if she is shy turn the lights off, I have learnt to be so much more open sexually with my boyfriend when the lights are off and gradually I can now do everything in front of him with confidence x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does she know you are on here?
No, I'm only on here because I'm getting sexually frustrated by not making her cum. The account is old.
Isn't that the problem though, you're up tight about it which she will probably sense ... making her up tight... so she won't cum. Which will make you up tight... which...
You see where this is going?"
She doesn't know I'm frustrated by it, I've not given any indication that is annoying me. I try to make her feel comfortable and relaxed. I get the nature nurture of negative energy creating more though |
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"Hello,
I'm used to making most girls cum, but my new missus is extremely hard to make cum.
Anyone got any tips that's will make it more pleasurable for her?"
Weed, edible or inhaled can greatly increase the libido. Canna butter cookies or cake before fun might help lower inhibitors and increase libido.
Alcohol, as above except jack n not cake, and as with above in moderation and with consideration.
More importantly, talk.
Ask her fantasies, try some.
Ask for guidance, what feels good what's a bit meh fine tune it all.
Have fun.
Relax. |
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"Does she know you are on here?
No, I'm only on here because I'm getting sexually frustrated by not making her cum. The account is old.
Isn't that the problem though, you're up tight about it which she will probably sense ... making her up tight... so she won't cum. Which will make you up tight... which...
You see where this is going?
She doesn't know I'm frustrated by it, I've not given any indication that is annoying me. I try to make her feel comfortable and relaxed. I get the nature nurture of negative energy creating more though "
You don't need to give an outward appearance of it .. it'll come across ... they're canny creatures the female of the species ... perceptive
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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I have this issue and I'd be completely put off if the guy just kept going on about it. I enjoy sex, I just don't orgasm, I know it's a mental block on my part that I doubt will change anytime soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have this issue and I'd be completely put off if the guy just kept going on about it. I enjoy sex, I just don't orgasm, I know it's a mental block on my part that I doubt will change anytime soon. "
And be made even worse when you could sense it was on their mind.
Like fingerblasting the brain.
Just fuck off and go wank if orgasm is all you REALLY care about.
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"I have this issue and I'd be completely put off if the guy just kept going on about it. I enjoy sex, I just don't orgasm, I know it's a mental block on my part that I doubt will change anytime soon.
And be made even worse when you could sense it was on their mind.
Like fingerblasting the brain.
Just fuck off and go wank if orgasm is all you REALLY care about.
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Exactly |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I have this issue and I'd be completely put off if the guy just kept going on about it. I enjoy sex, I just don't orgasm, I know it's a mental block on my part that I doubt will change anytime soon.
And be made even worse when you could sense it was on their mind.
Like fingerblasting the brain.
Just fuck off and go wank if orgasm is all you REALLY care about.
P"
Yep, it adds extra pressure that takes away the enjoyment I do get from sex. |
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"I have this issue and I'd be completely put off if the guy just kept going on about it. I enjoy sex, I just don't orgasm, I know it's a mental block on my part that I doubt will change anytime soon.
And be made even worse when you could sense it was on their mind.
Like fingerblasting the brain.
Just fuck off and go wank if orgasm is all you REALLY care about.
P"
It's like my orgasms are about them. No, they're about me. Except when it's made weird and then they fuck off. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have this issue and I'd be completely put off if the guy just kept going on about it. I enjoy sex, I just don't orgasm, I know it's a mental block on my part that I doubt will change anytime soon. "
I haven't brought it up to her besides asking what makes her cum or how does she cum. Outside of that I've just had this forum, I don't want to make her feel like she has to cum but I feel I could be doing something more that will.
Tbh it's made me feel unwanted or undesired by her but it sounds like it's more of a case of some people just don't cum. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Few drinks then give her that present you bought her.
A Satisfyer2
L like to take her time building up an orgasm, this slippery little sucker doesn’t mess, can be anything from 30 seconds to 3 minutes.
Good if football/rugby is on the television. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Penis looks a decent shape and size. With one of them lumps I’d like missionary when the guy kind of throbs it, I reach down to rub my bean, does she rub her bean as you’re fucking? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Few drinks then give her that present you bought her.
A Satisfyer2
L like to take her time building up an orgasm, this slippery little sucker doesn’t mess, can be anything from 30 seconds to 3 minutes.
Good if football/rugby is on the television."
Link for satisfyer? |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I have this issue and I'd be completely put off if the guy just kept going on about it. I enjoy sex, I just don't orgasm, I know it's a mental block on my part that I doubt will change anytime soon.
I haven't brought it up to her besides asking what makes her cum or how does she cum. Outside of that I've just had this forum, I don't want to make her feel like she has to cum but I feel I could be doing something more that will.
Tbh it's made me feel unwanted or undesired by her but it sounds like it's more of a case of some people just don't cum. "
It isn't about you. That's where you're going wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have this issue and I'd be completely put off if the guy just kept going on about it. I enjoy sex, I just don't orgasm, I know it's a mental block on my part that I doubt will change anytime soon.
I haven't brought it up to her besides asking what makes her cum or how does she cum. Outside of that I've just had this forum, I don't want to make her feel like she has to cum but I feel I could be doing something more that will.
Tbh it's made me feel unwanted or undesired by her but it sounds like it's more of a case of some people just don't cum.
It isn't about you. That's where you're going wrong. "
Until now I didn't know that. |
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"See my post below. There's so much pleasure without orgasms, they're just the cherry on top. Don't think you're not pleasing her if she doesn't orgasm, honestly. S x "
This! as long as shes enjoying herself dont put the pressure on for her to orgasm,like that's the finishing line. The whole thing can be fun and enjoyable. Orgasms are an added extra. You could finish with mutual masturbation if she can orgasm that way and wants to. |
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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago
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"See my post below. There's so much pleasure without orgasms, they're just the cherry on top. Don't think you're not pleasing her if she doesn't orgasm, honestly. S x
This! as long as shes enjoying herself dont put the pressure on for her to orgasm,like that's the finishing line. The whole thing can be fun and enjoyable. Orgasms are an added extra. You could finish with mutual masturbation if she can orgasm that way and wants to. "
That’s my thought, if she can orgasm by masturbating can’t you incorporate that into the sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right, the answer is simple.
Buy her a doxy magic wand, have her use it on her clit in whichever position works for you both and fuck. I literally guarantee she WILL have an explosive orgasm, the combination is very powerful and you can both concentrate on having fun rather than get hung on what's wrong |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Right, the answer is simple.
Buy her a doxy magic wand, have her use it on her clit in whichever position works for you both and fuck. I literally guarantee she WILL have an explosive orgasm, the combination is very powerful and you can both concentrate on having fun rather than get hung on what's wrong "
Wrong wrong wrong. I have tried this and it is not a guarantee, your mind is far more powerful than a doxy and if your mind is blocking you, the doxy won't help. |
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By *elly72Woman
over a year ago
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No offence but it sounds like it’s all about you and she’s making you frustrated maybe that’s the problem try actually making it about her and if she says she’s happy leave the woman be don’t use it as an excuse to come on here behind her back |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Ok so my advice does not work for you, but it would work for many "
It might work for many but it isn't guaranteed. All women are different and I wish men would stop acting as if they are masters of womanly issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's really hard mentally because I want to please her but it's not going to plan. Maybe it is a mental block "
Do u know I’d she can make herself cum? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No offence but it sounds like it’s all about you and she’s making you frustrated maybe that’s the problem try actually making it about her and if she says she’s happy leave the woman be don’t use it as an excuse to come on here behind her back "
I am using this as a form of experience, I am aware I am trying to please here and I am aware it's me who wants to do it. However I don't really have anyone who I could talk about this to, so where do you recommend I learn it's about my behavior without expressing my thoughts? I'm only on here to understand what I'm doing wrong, I'm not doing anything behind her back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello,
I'm used to making most girls cum, but my new missus is extremely hard to make cum.
Anyone got any tips that's will make it more pleasurable for her?"
Mate just get her to show you how she makes herself cum and then spend time and be patient to learn how to do it. May take a while but whme she is relaxed enough to keep talking you through it will happen.
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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm not doing anything behind her back.
So she knows you have a profile on here that says you are recently single ?"
That’s one of my questions I’d like to put to the OP; the other being, is this just a ‘look at my knob’ post? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello,
I'm used to making most girls cum, but my new missus is extremely hard to make cum.
Anyone got any tips that's will make it more pleasurable for her?"
Everyone else manages to make her cum. Maybe she’s too worn out when you get your turn. |
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"Ask her what to do
I have asked it's hard work getting anything out of her. She expects me to just know it's super frustrating!"
I'd suggest a better partner if that's her perspective. What a shitty thing to say to you. If she did... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello,
I'm used to making most girls cum, but my new missus is extremely hard to make cum.
Anyone got any tips that's will make it more pleasurable for her?"
I don't cum. Don't make it an issue. She'll feel as though she's letting you down. Enjoy everything else. If she enjoys been touched down there then do but don't push it.She'll start to relax and trust you. |
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"Hello,
I'm used to making most girls cum, but my new missus is extremely hard to make cum.
Anyone got any tips that's will make it more pleasurable for her?"
I'd this a look at me thread, your bio says recently single |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Is she British ? Does everything look ok ?
Other than extreme amounts of patience and intimacy don't know what to suggest. For some women it does take more than physical stimulation to orgasm, maybe that kind of chemistry just isn’t there |
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By *ait88Man
over a year ago
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I have a video that may help. It demonstrates how to stimulate a woman’s clitoris and “G spot” (if she has one) at the same time. It’s hard and fast work!
The video is quite old and I don’t remember the source, but I will send you a copy if you let me know your email address.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello,
I'm used to making most girls cum, but my new missus is extremely hard to make cum.
Anyone got any tips that's will make it more pleasurable for her?
I'd this a look at me thread, your bio says recently single "
I have stopped using this as we started dating that info isn't upto date |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not doing anything behind her back.
So she knows you have a profile on here that says you are recently single ?
That’s one of my questions I’d like to put to the OP; the other being, is this just a ‘look at my knob’ post? "
It's old info I'll update |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello,
I'm used to making most girls cum, but my new missus is extremely hard to make cum.
Anyone got any tips that's will make it more pleasurable for her?"
give up move on to somebody here...... you know you want to   |
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"I have thought that, but I think she doesn't actually know herself.
I know how you feel. About 10 years ago I had a wonderful looking sexy girlfriend. She confessed to only ever having 1 orgasm . We licked sucked and f#cked. every position known . It wasn’t painful for her it felt nice but Sadly she couldn’t do it . I am sure there was some mental block or something . She had a sex drive but just couldn’t orgasm ... I tried every way she even had other partners same result no orgasm. . If she could of had at least one orgasm we could build from there. Get her say what got her there and so forth . No luck ... "
Why is this so important. If a woman enjoys it surely that's ok. We are different, her orgasm is her business. It's pressure and in the end boring. No wonder some fake it. |
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"Ask her what to do
I have asked it's hard work getting anything out of her. She expects me to just know it's super frustrating!"
If she cant communicate with you and thus you with her it wont last.
No matter how many offer advice here its upto you 2 to figure it out via communication.
If you remain frustrated as I'm sure she will too then call it quits cos youre clearly not suited.
Communication is the bedrock of all interaction whether friendship Fwb or dating.
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"Hello,
I'm used to making most girls cum, but my new missus is extremely hard to make cum.
Anyone got any tips that's will make it more pleasurable for her?"
Ask her?
Ask her how she likes oral sex, ask her how she likes to be fingered, ask her how she likes to be fucked, aske her what turns her on sexually, etc.
Listen to her moans and mmmmms when you tongue her, finer her, fuck, her etc.
Spend more time on foreplay.
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"I have tried teasing her, and spent loads of time doing everything to her.
However she complains my cocks too big, she doesn't do any other positions other than missionary or being on top either. "
What a strange look at ne thread. |
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"I have tried teasing her, and spent loads of time doing everything to her.
However she complains my cocks too big, she doesn't do any other positions other than missionary or being on top either. "
A lot of big cock guys think that is all they need and have terrible sexual technique. Is that you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right, the answer is simple.
Buy her a doxy magic wand, have her use it on her clit in whichever position works for you both and fuck. I literally guarantee she WILL have an explosive orgasm, the combination is very powerful and you can both concentrate on having fun rather than get hung on what's wrong
Wrong wrong wrong. I have tried this and it is not a guarantee, your mind is far more powerful than a doxy and if your mind is blocking you, the doxy won't help. "
I agree. If a woman has a mental/psychological blockage stopping her cumming she is not going to cum. |
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"I'm not doing anything behind her back.
So she knows you have a profile on here that says you are recently single ?
That’s one of my questions I’d like to put to the OP; the other being, is this just a ‘look at my knob’ post?
It's old info I'll update"
OP- i would suggest goin straight in with anal fisting, lol
JK, you need to help her completely relax, some drinks and lots of foreplay, maybe even snow if you’re into that.. don’t think about making her cum. Just enjoy pleasuring her and see what works. Listen to what she likes, She will guide you if you’re not in the right direction she will let you know. All ladies are different.x
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"maybe her problem is psychological not physical.she might be feel pressure by you being on here. just a thought"
maybe he met her on his break from here |
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"maybe her problem is psychological not physical.she might be feel pressure by you being on here. just a thoughtmaybe he met her on his break from here "
fab can be intimidating. i struggled with the concept when i first joined .trust is a big part of being able to cum too |
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By *ndy64hMan
over a year ago
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Is she complaining that your cock is too long or to wide.
Whichever, the chances are she is tense when you enter, and this is taking away the pleasure. Maybe more foreplay, use of lubes, not fully penetrating, as time goes on she should relax more, and hopefully enjoy more. Talk to her while you're having sex, to see if she is enjoying. |
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"maybe her problem is psychological not physical.she might be feel pressure by you being on here. just a thoughtmaybe he met her on his break from here
fab can be intimidating. i struggled with the concept when i first joined .trust is a big part of being able to cum too"
everything is about the moment, we can't all be good at it and being comfortable and turned on count for a lot |
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Growing up, i learnt to orgasm, not by being with a man, as most didn't and still don't know how to pleasure me effectively. Is learnt how to pleasure myself. Now i can do it in seconds and multiple times with very little effort. So maybe if she learns how to pleasure herself skillfully it might make it easier for her to feel that pleasure with someone else by guiding you to touch her the way that feels best. I taught my ex how to as at first he just couldn't do it. By the end of our relationship, he could make me cum 24 times in one session. Good luck |
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"maybe her problem is psychological not physical.she might be feel pressure by you being on here. just a thoughtmaybe he met her on his break from here
fab can be intimidating. i struggled with the concept when i first joined .trust is a big part of being able to cum tooeverything is about the moment, we can't all be good at it and being comfortable and turned on count for a lot "
exactly. take time. talk. if shes import to you do what it takes |
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"maybe her problem is psychological not physical.she might be feel pressure by you being on here. just a thoughtmaybe he met her on his break from here
fab can be intimidating. i struggled with the concept when i first joined .trust is a big part of being able to cum tooeverything is about the moment, we can't all be good at it and being comfortable and turned on count for a lot
exactly. take time. talk. if shes import to you do what it takes"
yes and foreplay is sex |
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By *rank33Man
over a year ago
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"I have tried teasing her, and spent loads of time doing everything to her.
However she complains my cocks too big, she doesn't do any other positions other than missionary or being on top either. "
I thought I was the only one with this issue ..... |
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perhaps you should just give up on her concentrate on all the women you're seeing here and let her find someone who will give her the attention she needs |
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"I have thought that, but I think she doesn't actually know herself.
I know how you feel. About 10 years ago I had a wonderful looking sexy girlfriend. She confessed to only ever having 1 orgasm . We licked sucked and f#cked. every position known . It wasn’t painful for her it felt nice but Sadly she couldn’t do it . I am sure there was some mental block or something . She had a sex drive but just couldn’t orgasm ... I tried every way she even had other partners same result no orgasm. . If she could of had at least one orgasm we could build from there. Get her say what got her there and so forth . No luck ...
Why is this so important. If a woman enjoys it surely that's ok. We are different, her orgasm is her business. It's pressure and in the end boring. No wonder some fake it."
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"Growing up, i learnt to orgasm, not by being with a man, as most didn't and still don't know how to pleasure me effectively. Is learnt how to pleasure myself. Now i can do it in seconds and multiple times with very little effort. So maybe if she learns how to pleasure herself skillfully it might make it easier for her to feel that pleasure with someone else by guiding you to touch her the way that feels best. I taught my ex how to as at first he just couldn't do it. By the end of our relationship, he could make me cum 24 times in one session. Good luck "
24 times I'd be dead |
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"Growing up, i learnt to orgasm, not by being with a man, as most didn't and still don't know how to pleasure me effectively. Is learnt how to pleasure myself. Now i can do it in seconds and multiple times with very little effort. So maybe if she learns how to pleasure herself skillfully it might make it easier for her to feel that pleasure with someone else by guiding you to touch her the way that feels best. I taught my ex how to as at first he just couldn't do it. By the end of our relationship, he could make me cum 24 times in one session. Good luck "
24 times???
You must feel like a wet rag after a session  |
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You sound like me from 20 years ago. Best if ye broke up. I had almost no sex for 15 years, the odd blow job too.
I loved her and tried everything to please her sexually but she said I was too big and it hurt her when we tried.
When we broke up both of us felt we wasted the best part of our lives and missed out on so much pleasure
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By *rank33Man
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"You sound like me from 20 years ago. Best if ye broke up. I had almost no sex for 15 years, the odd blow job too.
I loved her and tried everything to please her sexually but she said I was too big and it hurt her when we tried.
When we broke up both of us felt we wasted the best part of our lives and missed out on so much pleasure
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This is logical advice..... But I have a dilemma based in this advice....
If you loved her... Would it not have made you accept that you weren't going to have great sex and carried on with your relationship because every thing else in your relationship was good?
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I offered for us to go to a sex therapist/ counsellor. She wasn't I interested. I got the snip because she said she didn't like the feel of condoms.
She did turn around to me and said "why don't you go and meet other women." I asked her " what about your needs?". She said" I'm just not interested. It's too much work"
Two days later she told me that she had a high sex drive. Couldn't win!
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By *ass30Man
over a year ago
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try to be patient put her neeeds first ,does she like her tits sucked ? tell her how sexy she is and if she is up for it try licking her pussy and teasing her if she starts moaning your on te right track .clit x |
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Maybe you are just not a very good lover and have a poor technique. Having a big cock (your words as there is no proof) is not enough if you don't know how to use it and are clueless about foreplay. |
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Hi op.
Having read many of the answers, have you considered that she may have a medical condition that even she is not aware of?
One of my friends girlfriends confessed to me such a condition but didn't know how to tell her boyfriend. But she had no sensitivity down there.
But I would use Google and explore some of these conditions and encourage her to see her gp.
Trouble is when a guy here's a woman say I've never had an orgasm they see it more as a challenge than a statement of fact.
You have to be more columbo than Spartan to be successful with this ie. Why?
Good luck. And don't forget she maybe feeling just as bad, frustrated and puzzled as you.  |
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It's not all about cumming that's not the be all and end all. Does she say she is unfulfilled or is it your ego that needs fulfilling. The sexual journey of lovemaking is more important to most people. |
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She may also have body confidence issues, and she may also be shy sexually. If she was raised in a family that taught about sex as being for her wedding night, and she was not sexually experienced when you met her, she may take sometime before she is OK with having wanting to try different things with you. |
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This sounds a little ripey now, but if it's a mental thing. Get her d*unk (share a drink). Don't make a big deal out of it by making a big gesture of setting moods and scenes, just have a chilled night on sofa with a good drink.
Will just help relax things a little. |
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"I have tried teasing her, and spent loads of time doing everything to her.
However she complains my cocks too big, she doesn't do any other positions other than missionary or being on top either. "
It's a mental thing for most women. I didnt have an orgasm until my 30s!!
Sometimes sex with a big cock hurts and I have personally found that the best position is missionary or on top as it is less deep so hurts less, doggy is the most painful position as it hits the cervix
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By *um24Man
over a year ago
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I’ve a Spanish missus that I love to pay attention too. I always focus on her rather than what I want and sometimes make her cum by forplay, lots of hands and tong. Also only when she wants I make her cum by penetration. She loves both, rhythm is key, even when the tempo changes and you can see her getting excited it’s important to keep to the same rhythm. But it’s also good to make her wait, get her to her limit then ease off and get her back to the same over time, this equals a great orgasm... many a had! ?? |
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Yes a clitorial orgasm is the only way I can cum mmmmm forget about getting her to squirt or gush talk dirty whilst you're doing it that might help keep on wetting your fingers too hope this helps xx |
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"I have this issue and I'd be completely put off if the guy just kept going on about it. I enjoy sex, I just don't orgasm, I know it's a mental block on my part that I doubt will change anytime soon.
I haven't brought it up to her besides asking what makes her cum or how does she cum. Outside of that I've just had this forum, I don't want to make her feel like she has to cum but I feel I could be doing something more that will.
Tbh it's made me feel unwanted or undesired by her but it sounds like it's more of a case of some people just don't cum. "
. You're not alone, have the same with my partner and tried asking questions, following her lead, everything that could be done to no success. Extremely hard when it's gone on so long. I know she had a bad experience years ago, but it's starting to drive a wedge between us |
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