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"Grow a pair of tits. Or just continue to try and speak to people, put effort in your profile, go to socials and clubs. There is no quick fix. " What he said ^^ Plus patience. Havent had a meet for ages but have been chatting to 2 couples for the last week. Just arranging dates to meet up for drinks. Hopefully there is an attraction and a play meet can be arranged. | |||
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"Depends on lots of things. Most blame the site or how many single guys are on fab when in reality it’s the way the use fab " This is exactly how we feel, there are some good guys on here but they are far outweighed by guys that don’t seem to understand what couples/women are looking for on here. | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed " It’s really not.... be positive and things will happen! | |||
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"If clubs work for you and time is limited I'd say stick to clubs... x as much more chance at a club and your obviously capable of chatting at clubs due to your veries" still pretty new to all this thanks for the help | |||
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"Yeah its hard for most then there is me and its mission impossible." You’ve been on here 2 weeks!! Some guys wait months for a first meet. Patience is the key, it’s not insta-shag! Also, the being married thing will put some people off! | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed " I find it just as difficult to get decent genuine men here to meet | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed I find it just as difficult to get decent genuine men here to meet " reading your profile I'm pretty sure that the men you are looking you may have make yourself in a lab haha | |||
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"I must be lucky I don't take it all too serious if I get a meet I get one if I don't I don't, too many on here let it take over there lives." | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed " Yes it is. But it is for all of us single guys. I've never resorted to asking for advice, assistance or pity (and I'm not suggesting that you are, but many do), but I've done alright, by simply being myself. I dont try to impress anyone or show off. I just want to show who I am, which people are entitled to take or leave. As a result, I've met a good number of women, on multiple occasions, many of whom have become very good friends. | |||
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"I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act. A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear." That is the single best post I’ve ever read on this forum! | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed " Three words, OP: Expectations Profile Effort Work needed on all three. | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed " .... Very difficult for single women too! | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed .... Very difficult for single women too! " wow you would not think that lol | |||
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"I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act. A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear." Now who said sarcasm can't be funny | |||
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"I think maybe people make the mistake of treating it different to the 'real world' and seem surprised when nice tits, do you fancy a fuck doesn't work." It doesn’t??!! - wow everyday’s a school day | |||
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"I think maybe people make the mistake of treating it different to the 'real world' and seem surprised when nice tits, do you fancy a fuck doesn't work." I don’t speak to people like that and I spouse it is going to be hard there a lot of single guys on here that and couples | |||
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"A lot of single guys seem to come on Fab with the expectation that they can put in minimal effort and get results. They have the (mistaken) assumption that because a woman is on here she must be gagging for it and will be prepared to just meet anyone. I don’t want to just meet anyone I look to have a chat and a giggle and see if we get on and I do put the effort in " | |||
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"It's not impossible but as has been said you have to put the effort in. I attend socials and clubs building relationships sometimes for many weeks but it does pay in the end I've found. " thank you I do like the clubs and seem to get on well with people in there | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed " We've been here almost 2 years I think...and we're still awaiting our first hookup | |||
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"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills." that’s it I am not shy and I am more confident in person not very good at the message part to be truthful | |||
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"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills." Which is why sometimes you find a 60 year old man with lots of meet verifications, and a younger guy with muscles and a 6 pack with none and majorly struggling on here. It is to do with how you project yourself and your attitude towards the site and the people on it. | |||
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"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills. Which is why sometimes you find a 60 year old man with lots of meet verifications, and a younger guy with muscles and a 6 pack with none and majorly struggling on here. It is to do with how you project yourself and your attitude towards the site and the people on it." I am always polite never just send random dick pic’s and always read there profile I think that is a must you get to know them a bit more | |||
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"Been going to the clubs and also work a lot so don’t get much time on here " Clubs aren't the be-all-and-end-all many in the forums would have you believe, certainly not for a single guy anyway. With the greatest respect OP, have a look at your profile text, then compare to what other single guys have on their profiles. Sell yourself a bit more, and use punctuation and correct spelling. Good luck | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed " what sort of help you need shall i given you one of mine lol | |||
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"Been going to the clubs and also work a lot so don’t get much time on here Clubs aren't the be-all-and-end-all many in the forums would have you believe, certainly not for a single guy anyway. With the greatest respect OP, have a look at your profile text, then compare to what other single guys have on their profiles. Sell yourself a bit more, and use punctuation and correct spelling. Good luck " thanks you I will now | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed " This site is no more than Facebook for swingers, just go to socials, clubs and keep eye on profiles that are looking for single guys and start there, socialize and connect with actual human beings instead of just using it like a ordering site. Behind every profile there is a human unless fake, in which case there a twat. | |||
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"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills." this | |||
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"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills. Which is why sometimes you find a 60 year old man with lots of meet verifications, and a younger guy with muscles and a 6 pack with none and majorly struggling on here. It is to do with how you project yourself and your attitude towards the site and the people on it." Oh soo true from a 63 old | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed I find it just as difficult to get decent genuine men here to meet " Actually can visualise the amount of sleazy messages you would get. But I'm sure you still manage to find the good ones when it matters | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed .... Very difficult for single women too! " Must be very hard deleting those messages en masse | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed It’s really not.... be positive and things will happen! " I agree... | |||
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"Have a look at the bottom of my profile. There's some great advice for single guys on here . 200 plus veris in under 2 years..It works for me Just keep going to the club's and you'll be fine..You'll probably see me at your local club. Come say hi I'll introduce you to some of my fab friends " thanks I have just had a read yours is good and I will do thanks again | |||
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"Be a swinger, not a single guy looking for a shag. " I am trying to be a swinger | |||
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"Be a swinger, not a single guy looking for a shag. I am trying to be a swinger " What he said !! | |||
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"You'll notice that the same guys seem to have loads of verifications and meets and loads of others have none. Have a look at their profiles and see how they compare to your own. Spell check your profile and add punctuation where its needed. Set up a kik account and have the name linked in your status so people can easily message. Alluring pictures that tease thank you for your help Theres a handful of suggestions " | |||
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"You'll notice that the same guys seem to have loads of verifications and meets and loads of others have none. Have a look at their profiles and see how they compare to your own. Spell check your profile and add punctuation where its needed. Set up a kik account and have the name linked in your status so people can easily message. Alluring pictures that tease thank you for your help Theres a handful of suggestions " Be careful about putting your kik name public. Share it with potential meets and friends..If they are interested you'll get a message on fab. I've heard some right horror stories. | |||
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"You'll notice that the same guys seem to have loads of verifications and meets and loads of others have none. Have a look at their profiles and see how they compare to your own. Spell check your profile and add punctuation where its needed. Set up a kik account and have the name linked in your status so people can easily message. Alluring pictures that tease thank you for your help Theres a handful of suggestions Be careful about putting your kik name public. Share it with potential meets and friends..If they are interested you'll get a message on fab. I've heard some right horror stories. " We've got a kik especially for Fab so know immediately where they are from. Just block push notifications and have a look when you feel like, like candy in a sweet shop! | |||
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"You'll notice that the same guys seem to have loads of verifications and meets and loads of others have none. Have a look at their profiles and see how they compare to your own. Spell check your profile and add punctuation where its needed. Set up a kik account and have the name linked in your status so people can easily message. Alluring pictures that tease Theres a handful of suggestions Be careful about putting your kik name public. Share it with potential meets and friends..If they are interested you'll get a message on fab. I've heard some right horror stories. " thank you for your help | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed what sort of help you need shall i given you one of mine lol " Crikey I read that as, shall I give you one | |||
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"You'll notice that the same guys seem to have loads of verifications and meets and loads of others have none. Have a look at their profiles and see how they compare to your own. Spell check your profile and add punctuation where its needed. Set up a kik account and have the name linked in your status so people can easily message. Alluring pictures that tease Theres a handful of suggestions Be careful about putting your kik name public. Share it with potential meets and friends..If they are interested you'll get a message on fab. I've heard some right horror stories. thank you for your help " No worries matey | |||
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"Be a swinger, not a single guy looking for a shag. " I say let him be whatever he wants to be | |||
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"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. " That's not true. | |||
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"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. That's not true." I agree it’s not true it’s about how much effort you put in and being a bit patient. Try looking at other single male profiles and see how they make it work. | |||
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"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. " How wholly negative can you be? Especially to the OP, who's received some positive leads on how to succeed. Yes, it does take a lot of effort to succeed on here. If you put in the graft; work on improving your profile; fully read those profiles which match your expectations and you respond to them in a like minded way; be prepared for rejection with skin the thickness of a Rhino; plus take notice of the advice of those around you on here AND act on it all, then you can succeed. Time, Perseverance and Patience are critical but key elements on here. | |||
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"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. " This guy lives in Inverness. There really aren’t that many people on Fab in this part of the country. His experience of Fab is going to differ greatly from single guys in large cities/the south of England. | |||
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"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. This guy lives in Inverness. There really aren’t that many people on Fab in this part of the country. His experience of Fab is going to differ greatly from single guys in large cities/the south of England. " I daresay that could be true, but then again, I worked in Aviemore, 30 miles south of Inverness, some 4 years ago. There, everyone seemed to know everyone else, out in the middle of nowhere. But I found meets, albeit only a few, in Inverness, Nairn, and down to Perth. Yes, I had to travel, but with the right effort, it was possible. | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed I find it just as difficult to get decent genuine men here to meet " You must be kidding. You are gorgeous... Ive struggled to get any kind of conversation off the ground yet I appear to tick all the boxes laid out in a lot of women's profiles. Im not pushy or expectant just normal cheeky funny chat. Stange place.. OP you've just got to stick it out and continue to be yourself. I have however found the odd outrageous comment gets you a response at least.. And if you follow up with something interesting sometimes the foot gets in the door.. You are better off on pof though it has to be said... | |||
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"I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act. A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear." Eh?? | |||
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"I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act. A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear. Eh?? " Have you not detected the sarcasm? | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed what sort of help you need shall i given you one of mine lol Crikey I read that as, shall I give you one " me lol | |||
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"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. How wholly negative can you be? Especially to the OP, who's received some positive leads on how to succeed. Yes, it does take a lot of effort to succeed on here. If you put in the graft; work on improving your profile; fully read those profiles which match your expectations and you respond to them in a like minded way; be prepared for rejection with skin the thickness of a Rhino; plus take notice of the advice of those around you on here AND act on it all, then you can succeed. Time, Perseverance and Patience are critical but key elements on here." thank you and I have think skin so I should be fine | |||
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"I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act. A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear. Eh?? Have you not detected the sarcasm?" yes lol | |||
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"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. That's not true. I agree it’s not true it’s about how much effort you put in and being a bit patient. Try looking at other single male profiles and see how they make it work. " its true for me. I do put a lot of effort into messages, and having been on here for about 10 years, i think i have been patient. | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed " It's not that easy for women either | |||
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"Depends on lots of things. Most blame the site or how many single guys are on fab when in reality it’s the way the use fab This is exactly how we feel, there are some good guys on here but they are far outweighed by guys that don’t seem to understand what couples/women are looking for on here. " The perfect answer. | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed I find it just as difficult to get decent genuine men here to meet You must be kidding. You are gorgeous... You do realise location,colour,height,hair/eye colour and if you piss out champagne or not determines if a guy on fab is decent or genuine Ive struggled to get any kind of conversation off the ground yet I appear to tick all the boxes laid out in a lot of women's profiles. Im not pushy or expectant just normal cheeky funny chat. Stange place.. OP you've just got to stick it out and continue to be yourself. I have however found the odd outrageous comment gets you a response at least.. And if you follow up with something interesting sometimes the foot gets in the door.. You are better off on pof though it has to be said... " | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed It's not that easy for women either " You need a word with your master then | |||
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"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. That's not true. I agree it’s not true it’s about how much effort you put in and being a bit patient. Try looking at other single male profiles and see how they make it work. its true for me. I do put a lot of effort into messages, and having been on here for about 10 years, i think i have been patient. " Well for you possibly it’s your profile as you don’t have a profile picture or any public pictures which will shoot you in the foot. | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed " It can be difficult both ways as many women frequently state. I've never found it difficult to be honest. | |||
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"Anyone complaining about it being hard to meet obviously isnt putting in maximum effort. Probably joined this site thinking it was dial a clunge too. Effort in = results out. If your profile looks like a blank shop window, whi the fuck will enter thay shop..... no one. Put some effort in, actually create a profile, oh and stop complaining because that wont attract any women. Failing that just be fab straight and fuck men in secret. " Bahahahaha!! The last line! Savage! | |||
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"Anyone complaining about it being hard to meet obviously isnt putting in maximum effort. Probably joined this site thinking it was dial a clunge too. Effort in = results out. If your profile looks like a blank shop window, whi the fuck will enter thay shop..... no one. Put some effort in, actually create a profile, oh and stop complaining because that wont attract any women. Failing that just be fab straight and fuck men in secret. Bahahahaha!! The last line! Savage!" Savage but so fucking true "Oh you're straight but your veri says you took it yo the arse last night, so arent you bi?" "Nah definitely straight love" | |||
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"Problem for single guys is that there are roughly ten of them for each female or couple who want to meet single guys. It follows that even if every single guy created fantastic profiles the vast majority of them would still be disappointed. " Way more than that. Its roughly 500 to 1 woman | |||
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"Problem for single guys is that there are roughly ten of them for each female or couple who want to meet single guys. It follows that even if every single guy created fantastic profiles the vast majority of them would still be disappointed. Way more than that. Its roughly 500 to 1 woman " I've done surveys. Roughly 75% men, 20% couples 5% females which is 3 to 1 men to couples /women . Obviously though some of the couples don't want to meet men and some couples /women will be fake so I estimate there's roughly ten men to each woman or couple who wants to meet them. | |||
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"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. That's not true. I agree it’s not true it’s about how much effort you put in and being a bit patient. Try looking at other single male profiles and see how they make it work. its true for me. I do put a lot of effort into messages, and having been on here for about 10 years, i think i have been patient. Well for you possibly it’s your profile as you don’t have a profile picture or any public pictures which will shoot you in the foot. " i always send a photo with messages | |||
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"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. That's not true. I agree it’s not true it’s about how much effort you put in and being a bit patient. Try looking at other single male profiles and see how they make it work. its true for me. I do put a lot of effort into messages, and having been on here for about 10 years, i think i have been patient. Well for you possibly it’s your profile as you don’t have a profile picture or any public pictures which will shoot you in the foot. i always send a photo with messages" Most look at profiles first before messages | |||
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"Let's all be honest it is very hard. There have been some bloody funny comments. But let's get real, it is hard. So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem. I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful. I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda " What's a good club for a shy newbie in the South England? I'm too nervous about meeting people on here tbh | |||
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"Let's all be honest it is very hard. There have been some bloody funny comments. But let's get real, it is hard. So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem. I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful. I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda What's a good club for a shy newbie in the South England? I'm too nervous about meeting people on here tbh" Looking at your profile, throw a dart at a list of clubs on the wall, you'll have no problem | |||
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"Let's all be honest it is very hard. There have been some bloody funny comments. But let's get real, it is hard. So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem. I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful. I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda What's a good club for a shy newbie in the South England? I'm too nervous about meeting people on here tbh Looking at your profile, throw a dart at a list of clubs on the wall, you'll have no problem " Be good to mention names to help me Google | |||
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"Let's all be honest it is very hard. There have been some bloody funny comments. But let's get real, it is hard. So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem. I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful. I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda What's a good club for a shy newbie in the South England? I'm too nervous about meeting people on here tbh Looking at your profile, throw a dart at a list of clubs on the wall, you'll have no problem Be good to mention names to help me Google " on fab there's a tab for club reviews. You can see where they are and how popular they are and current reviews | |||
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"Let's all be honest it is very hard. There have been some bloody funny comments. But let's get real, it is hard. So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem. I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful. I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda What's a good club for a shy newbie in the South England? I'm too nervous about meeting people on here tbh Looking at your profile, throw a dart at a list of clubs on the wall, you'll have no problem Be good to mention names to help me Google " Pandora’s Leeds lol | |||
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"Let's all be honest it is very hard. There have been some bloody funny comments. But let's get real, it is hard. So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem. I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful. I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda What's a good club for a shy newbie in the South England? I'm too nervous about meeting people on here tbh" I have no idea I am only in down south a few days | |||
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"Grow a pair of tits. Or just continue to try and speak to people, put effort in your profile, go to socials and clubs. There is no quick fix. " | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed " . Yes it’s hard for us single guys as we outnumber single ladies and couples by 20 to 1 if not more.I changed my profile around about a year ago it now looks a bit like a CV of what I am looking for , what I like , what I can offer , clubs I am a member off , interests.Like you I then asked for profile advice and was advised it was a good profile.You are quite welcome to have a look at it and see if you want to adapt yours to something similar.Best of luck with Fabs | |||
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"I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act. A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tea. Haha r." | |||
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"I think the general problem with an awful lot of people(note I didn’t just say single guys) is that they look at this site like every one is a prostitute offering freebies. Rather than it’s real people who have lives, likes, dislikes, desires and differing needs. As someone as already said - if you walked up to someone just because you liked the look of them(aka their pics on here) and said hello can I fuck you, and at that moment in time you had not brushed you teeth, brushed you hair or washed your cock - and failed to see they might actually also have an opinion on what they wanted or liked, how surprised would you be they didn’t just tell you to fuck off? We get endless emails of single guys saying be great to get to know you more, love a regular fuck buddy...do you like big cock...now you might say what’s up with that, well we are a couple! But they clearly just think the female is on here to fuck men, and not that we are a couple. So the attitude to have is actually it’s really easy to meet people on here and at clubs - actually far easier than it is in normal life, but just like normal life - just cus you want to shag the idea of their pics(and let’s face it some people’s pics are quite clever in that they don’t show who the real person even looks like, let alone the type of person they may be) doesn’t mean they want to shag you or even converse. Our profile says don’t add us as a friend unless we know you, guess what we get endless friend requests still from random men, our profile says respect that we a couple and not a cuck couple , but the emails come in obviously completely ingnoring that fact and totally targeting the female, which is not only disrespectful to the male but equally to the female. We get sent messages that are text speak, pictures from Single guys that show more of some other woman, random so you want to meet now, and their profile contains not a single pic or any info about them. And the list goes on of messages that clearly not read a single thing on our profile. So my advice is to not post stuff that makes you sound like you offended that all these women/couples haven’t just said yeah god we owe you a fuck...if that’s what you think, then open your wallet and pay for it! As a couple there plenty of single guys, women and couples we equally would love to play with on here, equally the same when we go to clubs - but at no point do we think just because they in a swingers club we have the right or that they will instantly want to fuck or play with us. Remember people on here are real, and they have all sorts of wants - respect them just like you would in real life and then maybe you’ll have some success. " | |||
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"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. That's not true. I agree it’s not true it’s about how much effort you put in and being a bit patient. Try looking at other single male profiles and see how they make it work. its true for me. I do put a lot of effort into messages, and having been on here for about 10 years, i think i have been patient. Well for you possibly it’s your profile as you don’t have a profile picture or any public pictures which will shoot you in the foot. i always send a photo with messages Most look at profiles first before messages" why? Surely its just easier to click on the message? | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed . Yes it’s hard for us single guys as we outnumber single ladies and couples by 20 to 1 if not more.I changed my profile around about a year ago it now looks a bit like a CV of what I am looking for , what I like , what I can offer , clubs I am a member off , interests.Like you I then asked for profile advice and was advised it was a good profile.You are quite welcome to have a look at it and see if you want to adapt yours to something similar.Best of luck with Fabs " Do you get more success after taking the advice? | |||
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"Biggest tip is to lower your expectations" I couldn’t disagree more. Raise your expectations. Don’t just scattergun your messages over every women living in a 30 mile radius. Seek out the ones who genuinely speak to you. Be respectful yet confident, and don’t ever send a unsolicited cock pic. | |||
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"Biggest tip is to lower your expectations I couldn’t disagree more. Raise your expectations. Don’t just scattergun your messages over every women living in a 30 mile radius. Seek out the ones who genuinely speak to you. Be respectful yet confident, and don’t ever send a unsolicited cock pic. " Yep, agree. Stop just being a nuisance and a statistic. | |||
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"Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ?? " I’ve had similar before mate; “It’s £50, or £40 each if you bring a mate?” Block, report, move on | |||
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"Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ?? I’ve had similar before mate; “It’s £50, or £40 each if you bring a mate?” Block, report, move on " Seriously, because I’m really interested, what kind of conversation did you have before your ‘meet’, and where you going straight for a play meet before a social? | |||
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"Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ?? I’ve had similar before mate; “It’s £50, or £40 each if you bring a mate?” Block, report, move on " Is this common!? | |||
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"Yeap , it hard , very hard . You have more of A chance by going out and meeting people . I've been on here on and off since 2009 and not had a meet per year . The male to female radios is heavily weighted in the favour of the female . " I keep reading the same excuses about the numbers and ratio, as if all men are equal and women are just picking guys at random as if it’s a lottery. It’s not. | |||
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"I think the general problem with an awful lot of people(note I didn’t just say single guys) is that they look at this site like every one is a prostitute offering freebies. Rather than it’s real people who have lives, likes, dislikes, desires and differing needs. As someone as already said - if you walked up to someone just because you liked the look of them(aka their pics on here) and said hello can I fuck you, and at that moment in time you had not brushed you teeth, brushed you hair or washed your cock - and failed to see they might actually also have an opinion on what they wanted or liked, how surprised would you be they didn’t just tell you to fuck off? We get endless emails of single guys saying be great to get to know you more, love a regular fuck buddy...do you like big cock...now you might say what’s up with that, well we are a couple! But they clearly just think the female is on here to fuck men, and not that we are a couple. So the attitude to have is actually it’s really easy to meet people on here and at clubs - actually far easier than it is in normal life, but just like normal life - just cus you want to shag the idea of their pics(and let’s face it some people’s pics are quite clever in that they don’t show who the real person even looks like, let alone the type of person they may be) doesn’t mean they want to shag you or even converse. Our profile says don’t add us as a friend unless we know you, guess what we get endless friend requests still from random men, our profile says respect that we a couple and not a cuck couple , but the emails come in obviously completely ingnoring that fact and totally targeting the female, which is not only disrespectful to the male but equally to the female. We get sent messages that are text speak, pictures from Single guys that show more of some other woman, random so you want to meet now, and their profile contains not a single pic or any info about them. And the list goes on of messages that clearly not read a single thing on our profile. So my advice is to not post stuff that makes you sound like you offended that all these women/couples haven’t just said yeah god we owe you a fuck...if that’s what you think, then open your wallet and pay for it! As a couple there plenty of single guys, women and couples we equally would love to play with on here, equally the same when we go to clubs - but at no point do we think just because they in a swingers club we have the right or that they will instantly want to fuck or play with us. Remember people on here are real, and they have all sorts of wants - respect them just like you would in real life and then maybe you’ll have some success. " If only there was an emoji for a round of applause.... | |||
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"I think the general problem with an awful lot of people(note I didn’t just say single guys) is that they look at this site like every one is a prostitute offering freebies. Rather than it’s real people who have lives, likes, dislikes, desires and differing needs. As someone as already said - if you walked up to someone just because you liked the look of them(aka their pics on here) and said hello can I fuck you, and at that moment in time you had not brushed you teeth, brushed you hair or washed your cock - and failed to see they might actually also have an opinion on what they wanted or liked, how surprised would you be they didn’t just tell you to fuck off? We get endless emails of single guys saying be great to get to know you more, love a regular fuck buddy...do you like big cock...now you might say what’s up with that, well we are a couple! But they clearly just think the female is on here to fuck men, and not that we are a couple. So the attitude to have is actually it’s really easy to meet people on here and at clubs - actually far easier than it is in normal life, but just like normal life - just cus you want to shag the idea of their pics(and let’s face it some people’s pics are quite clever in that they don’t show who the real person even looks like, let alone the type of person they may be) doesn’t mean they want to shag you or even converse. Our profile says don’t add us as a friend unless we know you, guess what we get endless friend requests still from random men, our profile says respect that we a couple and not a cuck couple , but the emails come in obviously completely ingnoring that fact and totally targeting the female, which is not only disrespectful to the male but equally to the female. We get sent messages that are text speak, pictures from Single guys that show more of some other woman, random so you want to meet now, and their profile contains not a single pic or any info about them. And the list goes on of messages that clearly not read a single thing on our profile. So my advice is to not post stuff that makes you sound like you offended that all these women/couples haven’t just said yeah god we owe you a fuck...if that’s what you think, then open your wallet and pay for it! As a couple there plenty of single guys, women and couples we equally would love to play with on here, equally the same when we go to clubs - but at no point do we think just because they in a swingers club we have the right or that they will instantly want to fuck or play with us. Remember people on here are real, and they have all sorts of wants - respect them just like you would in real life and then maybe you’ll have some success. " This!!!! So well written | |||
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"I think the general problem with an awful lot of people(note I didn’t just say single guys) is that they look at this site like every one is a prostitute offering freebies. Rather than it’s real people who have lives, likes, dislikes, desires and differing needs. As someone as already said - if you walked up to someone just because you liked the look of them(aka their pics on here) and said hello can I fuck you, and at that moment in time you had not brushed you teeth, brushed you hair or washed your cock - and failed to see they might actually also have an opinion on what they wanted or liked, how surprised would you be they didn’t just tell you to fuck off? We get endless emails of single guys saying be great to get to know you more, love a regular fuck buddy...do you like big cock...now you might say what’s up with that, well we are a couple! But they clearly just think the female is on here to fuck men, and not that we are a couple. So the attitude to have is actually it’s really easy to meet people on here and at clubs - actually far easier than it is in normal life, but just like normal life - just cus you want to shag the idea of their pics(and let’s face it some people’s pics are quite clever in that they don’t show who the real person even looks like, let alone the type of person they may be) doesn’t mean they want to shag you or even converse. Our profile says don’t add us as a friend unless we know you, guess what we get endless friend requests still from random men, our profile says respect that we a couple and not a cuck couple , but the emails come in obviously completely ingnoring that fact and totally targeting the female, which is not only disrespectful to the male but equally to the female. We get sent messages that are text speak, pictures from Single guys that show more of some other woman, random so you want to meet now, and their profile contains not a single pic or any info about them. And the list goes on of messages that clearly not read a single thing on our profile. So my advice is to not post stuff that makes you sound like you offended that all these women/couples haven’t just said yeah god we owe you a fuck...if that’s what you think, then open your wallet and pay for it! As a couple there plenty of single guys, women and couples we equally would love to play with on here, equally the same when we go to clubs - but at no point do we think just because they in a swingers club we have the right or that they will instantly want to fuck or play with us. Remember people on here are real, and they have all sorts of wants - respect them just like you would in real life and then maybe you’ll have some success. This!!!! So well written" This should be mandatory reading for anybody ticking they are interested in couples when they sign up!! Our pet hate is singles guys who message us totally targeting the female and as if the male half of the couple doesn't exist. Either they have cut copied and pasted a message they previously sent to single women or they are quite simply a disrespectful twat with zero understanding of swinging. KJ x | |||
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"Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ?? I’ve had similar before mate; “It’s £50, or £40 each if you bring a mate?” Block, report, move on Seriously, because I’m really interested, what kind of conversation did you have before your ‘meet’, and where you going straight for a play meet before a social?" Yes it was a straight for play meet but at no time was money or time limits mentioned. Thought we was going in for a good night together, but guess I was mistaken. I did report didn’t need to block she done that within seconds. | |||
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"Seriously, because I’m really interested, what kind of conversation did you have before your ‘meet’, and where you going straight for a play meet before a social? Yes it was a straight for play meet but at no time was money or time limits mentioned. Thought we was going in for a good night together, but guess I was mistaken. I did report didn’t need to block she done that within seconds. " Do you get many ‘straight to play ’meets? The tiny amount that I’ve had have always been after weeks of contact, and a few phone calls. I’d be very suspicious of any one who wanted to play without meeting before hand without that level of prior contact. Sorry you got stung fella, but women who charge are generally relying on guys not wanting to have a wasted night. | |||
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"Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ?? I’ve had similar before mate; “It’s £50, or £40 each if you bring a mate?” Block, report, move on " . I received a wink from a couple after checking out their profile turns out they are having a meet at a Travelodge in my area.Looking for 3-4 guys £50 contribution I turn up and for the first 30 minutes it’s me and another guy playing with the lady then more and more guys arrived.Thats when I realised that I had been mislead 12 guys x £50 = £600 cost of a room in a Travelodge in North or East London £100 at most £500 profit for the couple.If you receive a wink from a couple and they have a hotel meet that very same day think twice. | |||
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"Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ?? I’ve had similar before mate; “It’s £50, or £40 each if you bring a mate?” Block, report, move on . I received a wink from a couple after checking out their profile turns out they are having a meet at a Travelodge in my area.Looking for 3-4 guys £50 contribution I turn up and for the first 30 minutes it’s me and another guy playing with the lady then more and more guys arrived.Thats when I realised that I had been mislead 12 guys x £50 = £600 cost of a room in a Travelodge in North or East London £100 at most £500 profit for the couple.If you receive a wink from a couple and they have a hotel meet that very same day think twice." omg dispicable you only got half an hour for £50 you get all day at disney for a £100 | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed it’s not. " Not for you obviously, for some reason. For me, and most other guys, its almost impossible. | |||
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" Most look at profiles first before messageswhy? Surely its just easier to click on the message? " Because at least 90% of messages are from people who don't actually read profiles and just message at random or in response to pics. Looking at their profile I can see that we are not looking for remotely the same thing, in which case there is no point in entering into a conversation. | |||
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"Like the OP I struggle to arrange meets. Had a few but considering how many messages I send the percentage is tiny. Alway sent an individual message after reading the profile but many don't get read or those that read don't reply. Any advice would be good." Send better messages, make a better profile. | |||
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"Just chatting with a guy who’s been on for 2 weeks, within a week he had a cam veri then a couple of days later had two veris from meeting one of fabs most desired lady’s so think he will do very well on here, I think going to a club certainly helps when your new to the site as people see the real you and not just reading words x " what about going to a club if youve been here a while? | |||
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"Just chatting with a guy who’s been on for 2 weeks, within a week he had a cam veri then a couple of days later had two veris from meeting one of fabs most desired lady’s so think he will do very well on here, I think going to a club certainly helps when your new to the site as people see the real you and not just reading words x what about going to a club if youve been here a while? " Ok clever clogs, yes for sure if you haven’t been lucky enough to meet with anyone I’d say go for it, what’s the worst that can happen? oh and don’t stop going once you get lucky, well that’s if you liked it (covering all bases now) | |||
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"Just chatting with a guy who’s been on for 2 weeks, within a week he had a cam veri then a couple of days later had two veris from meeting one of fabs most desired lady’s so think he will do very well on here, I think going to a club certainly helps when your new to the site as people see the real you and not just reading words x what about going to a club if youve been here a while? Ok clever clogs, yes for sure if you haven’t been lucky enough to meet with anyone I’d say go for it, what’s the worst that can happen? oh and don’t stop going once you get lucky, well that’s if you liked it (covering all bases now) " lol hey can you fail in a club if youve got a personality | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed it’s not. Not for you obviously, for some reason. For me, and most other guys, its almost impossible. " I have an avatar profile photo | |||
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"Just chatting with a guy who’s been on for 2 weeks, within a week he had a cam veri then a couple of days later had two veris from meeting one of fabs most desired lady’s so think he will do very well on here, I think going to a club certainly helps when your new to the site as people see the real you and not just reading words x what about going to a club if youve been here a while? Ok clever clogs, yes for sure if you haven’t been lucky enough to meet with anyone I’d say go for it, what’s the worst that can happen? oh and don’t stop going once you get lucky, well that’s if you liked it (covering all bases now) lol hey can you fail in a club if youve got a personality " Everyone’s got a personality just different types, I would say it certainly helps if you have a good one as they would fail with me if they had a crappy one | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed it’s not. Not for you obviously, for some reason. For me, and most other guys, its almost impossible. I have an avatar profile photo " The secret is to have a cock photo | |||
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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed it’s not. Not for you obviously, for some reason. For me, and most other guys, its almost impossible. I have an avatar profile photo The secret is to have a cock photo " No it isn’t | |||
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