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Crossdresser of TV... could someone explain the difference to me
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok so I understand the obvious difference betweeen a Transgender person and a TV but what is the difference between a TV and a Crossdresser?
Is a TV someone that lives their entire life as female and a Crossdresser someone that does it only for sexual/fetish reasons?
If so then I have set up my profile wrong so genuinely would like some insight?
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I would say a cross dresser is more someone that just wears the odd bits of clothing like underwear or dress and that's it like a hairy panty wear type person. A tv would be the person that takes it to the next level that gets smooth n does make up and try's to look as passable as the other sex as possible but doesn't live their life as the opposite sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I would say a cross dresser is more someone that just wears the odd bits of clothing like underwear or dress and that's it like a hairy panty wear type person. A tv would be the person that takes it to the next level that gets smooth n does make up and try's to look as passable as the other sex as possible but doesn't live their life as the opposite sex."
Yes since being on this site that has become my understanding. So the interest of honesty and transparency while maintaining the mutual discretion that I assume the majority of people on here practice. Should a bisexual guy that wouldn’t fall into the hairy pantie wearer category however has a diverse, ever-evolving range of interests of which he would be meeting as himself, a male, maintain two profiles? Should they be linked together?
I have only just now, this year, started getting to grips with being Bi-sexual, and that’s not due to any issue with acceptance, I am fine with it although also don’t feel the need to shout it from the rooftops.... my parents know, a few close friends and now all you fabbers.
My only issue really (which is why is has taken so long to get to grips with it) is am (and I honestly don’t mean to offend anyone and apologise if I have, but it’s the only term I can think of) very much ‘traditionally straight’ as in I have and have never had any desire or interest to have a relationship with a male and am purely attracted to certain males sexually... but I guess if I had used my brain a bit more I should have realised that 6 of the 8 words in bi-sexual are ‘sexual’ lol, it’s kind of self explanatory.
Anyway i’m rambling a bit but the reason I asked about having separate profiles but linking them together is I understand the only way to maintain a loving hetro relationship while being able to not spend the rest of my life suppressing part of my sexuality is to find someone like minded and the only way to do that is gonna be complete honesty from day 1 |
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Transvestism is the practice of dressing and acting, in a style or manner traditionally associated with the opposite sex.
Cross-dressing is the act of wearing items of clothing and other accoutrements commonly associated with the opposite sex within a particular society.
Both of these comes from, Wikipedia. Transvestism, from the description is not just dressing but 'acting' in a style or manner, so not just wearing clothes but taking on a female or male persona.
Crossdressing however is just wearing of the clothing, a woman wearing a traditional man's suit or a guy wearing a skirt is crossdressing,if he / she isn't acting the part of the opposite sex.
For me this is the difference  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I thought one was a sexual thing and the other was not. Never could remember (or care for that matter) which was which. You can call me anything you like, I guarantee I've been called worse. |
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"Apologies for the grammatical errors and missing words, it is getting late though "
I would agree with this, thanks Steph xxx
I would consider myself TV. I go to great lengths to try to be as feminine as as I can. I dress, act and behave like a woman. I go out shopping dressed ‘en femme’ and enjoy being treated and addressed as the lady I aspire to be.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I go to great lengths to try to be as feminine as as I can. I dress, act and behave like a woman. I go out shopping dressed ‘en femme’ and enjoy being treated and addressed as the lady I aspire to be."
Ditto.
Call me whatever you want I really dont care....
I do what do because I want to and because I wish to be the best woman I can be.
Labels are over rated. Everybody needs a pigeon hole.
Well screw that!
Be you.
Fuck what everybody else thinks.
Mistress Amelia x  |
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"Apologies for the grammatical errors and missing words, it is getting late though
I would agree with this, thanks Steph xxx
I would consider myself TV. I go to great lengths to try to be as feminine as as I can. I dress, act and behave like a woman. I go out shopping dressed ‘en femme’ and enjoy being treated and addressed as the lady I aspire to be.
R xx"
Yes. Steph is bang on with this.
I consider myself a crossdresser because I don't behave or act like a woman.
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"Transvestism is the practice of dressing and acting, in a style or manner traditionally associated with the opposite sex.
Cross-dressing is the act of wearing items of clothing and other accoutrements commonly associated with the opposite sex within a particular society.
Both of these comes from, Wikipedia. Transvestism, from the description is not just dressing but 'acting' in a style or manner, so not just wearing clothes but taking on a female or male persona.
Crossdressing however is just wearing of the clothing, a woman wearing a traditional man's suit or a guy wearing a skirt is crossdressing,if he / she isn't acting the part of the opposite sex.
For me this is the difference "
this sums it up perfectly. I'm much much more than a CD. I go out everywhere as, female both day and night. I look, walk, talk and act the part. I have many very feminine mannerisms. Your basic CD just wants to wear underwear, clothing, stockings and heels because they like the feel of these items. Being a TV means a lot more than that. For me the two are poles apart and much more of a difference than say a TV or TS. It's not rocket science. |
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The labels are quite complicated as the Trans population are very diverse.
It depends on whether the person dresses exclusively for sexual gratification, for attention, amateur dramatics, as an art form or as a coping mechanism for gender dysphoria or a mix of the above. People select labels depending on their reasons for doing it and critically as their meanings change over time.
Many now don't like the Transvestite label because of its widespread use in porn and prefer Crossdresser.
Artists or actors prefer Drag Queen or Drag Kings.
Generally those with gender dysphoria, like me, prefer Transgender regardless of whether we are full or part time. Also Gender fluid and non-binary are becoming more popular with younger part timers with GD.
Transsexual is exclusively for those preparing for gender reassignment surgery. Those who have had surgery just want to be known by their new gender.
Unless the person uses the term themselves never ever use the term "Tranny" - it's frequently used as a term of hate by the media and comedians. Save it as slang for transistor radios and Ford Vans please!
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I'm more confused now I as per my profile name use Crossdresser but equally I dress to look and act as femme as I can. I dislike the transvestite/Tranny word as it has such a negative connotation here in Ireland perhaps it doesn't have the same negativity in the UK. |
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By *arolbowTV/TS
over a year ago
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Traditionally, transvestism is the term doctors and other medical professionals use for a person who wears gender specific clothing of the opposite sex - either male or female.
‘Crossdresser’ is a term coined in the 1950’s by Virginia Price, a well known American crossdresser and advocate.
Nowadays, both terms seem to be used interchangeably. I guess we each have our own understanding of who and what we are |
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"I would say a cross dresser is more someone that just wears the odd bits of clothing like underwear or dress and that's it like a hairy panty wear type person. A tv would be the person that takes it to the next level that gets smooth n does make up and try's to look as passable as the other sex as possible but doesn't live their life as the opposite sex.
Yes since being on this site that has become my understanding. So the interest of honesty and transparency while maintaining the mutual discretion that I assume the majority of people on here practice. Should a bisexual guy that wouldn’t fall into the hairy pantie wearer category however has a diverse, ever-evolving range of interests of which he would be meeting as himself, a male, maintain two profiles? Should they be linked together?
I have only just now, this year, started getting to grips with being Bi-sexual, and that’s not due to any issue with acceptance, I am fine with it although also don’t feel the need to shout it from the rooftops.... my parents know, a few close friends and now all you fabbers.
My only issue really (which is why is has taken so long to get to grips with it) is am (and I honestly don’t mean to offend anyone and apologise if I have, but it’s the only term I can think of) very much ‘traditionally straight’ as in I have and have never had any desire or interest to have a relationship with a male and am purely attracted to certain males sexually... but I guess if I had used my brain a bit more I should have realised that 6 of the 8 words in bi-sexual are ‘sexual’ lol, it’s kind of self explanatory.
Anyway i’m rambling a bit but the reason I asked about having separate profiles but linking them together is I understand the only way to maintain a loving hetro relationship while being able to not spend the rest of my life suppressing part of my sexuality is to find someone like minded and the only way to do that is gonna be complete honesty from day 1"
From what you've explained here OP, you seem to be asking if you should have both a straight and bi profile to find either kind of meet. The thing to remember though, that while we all chant the 'my profile, my choice' mantra, is that our profiles not only have to reflect our own desires, but also appeal to those whom we desire. An honest profile that simply states you are bi-curious should suffice. If you wish to, you can choose to explain in your profile text the dynamic of your relationships with either sex, but... As we know... Not everyone will read profiles anyway 
However, many people choose not to meet bi males, and if you decide that the way forward is meeting other bi males on one profile while declaring yourself straight on another, how will that sit with you? Are you comfortable with meeting people through deception? Are you comfortable meeting people who would never meet you if they really knew you? Or would you prefer to have one honest profile and meet people who want you for exactly who you are? |
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"I'm more confused now I as per my profile name use Crossdresser but equally I dress to look and act as femme as I can. I dislike the transvestite/Tranny word as it has such a negative connotation here in Ireland perhaps it doesn't have the same negativity in the UK."
The right wing Newspapers in the UK are big fans of using the Tranny term to deride us, so it is now viewed as hurtful. Most of us hate the word. |
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"I'm more confused now I as per my profile name use Crossdresser but equally I dress to look and act as femme as I can. I dislike the transvestite/Tranny word as it has such a negative connotation here in Ireland perhaps it doesn't have the same negativity in the UK."
Does it have such a negative connotation or is that a rural mindset though? While parts of Ireland may remain cloistered, many areas embrace diversity in all shapes, sizes, and sexes. I think more people are now aware that even within sexuality there is massive diversity, and it tends to be older people who don't understand (but then many of them don't understand how this online interweb thingy or their dvd player works either lol). Fear is often in your own mind. |
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From the roots of the terms, they are the same. Trans, meaning to cross and vestite meaning clothing. Obviously languages evolve, even Latin morphed into other languages. It's probably better to think that as the human species is so diverse, that they can either mean the same thing, or that each individual will potentially experiment and not be static, so you can discover their tastes and interests, to explore how you all can enjoy mutual interests. There are some high profile people who - as far as is publicly known - purely use their dressing to more fully express their identities. It frequently has nothing to do with sexual pleasure, though within fab it's likely to be skewed somehow differently to out there |
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"I'm more confused now I as per my profile name use Crossdresser but equally I dress to look and act as femme as I can. I dislike the transvestite/Tranny word as it has such a negative connotation here in Ireland perhaps it doesn't have the same negativity in the UK.
Does it have such a negative connotation or is that a rural mindset though? While parts of Ireland may remain cloistered, many areas embrace diversity in all shapes, sizes, and sexes. I think more people are now aware that even within sexuality there is massive diversity, and it tends to be older people who don't understand (but then many of them don't understand how this online interweb thingy or their dvd player works either lol). Fear is often in your own mind. "
We see alot of Irish girls at Leeds First Friday and other trans community social events (non swinger) in the UK, conveniently these take place in cities with large Irish populations (Manchester/Leeds etc) so cheap direct flights are available.
I am told There are lots of girls in Eire using social media but very few organised gatherings currently. |
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My name too has cd in it tho I would consider myself a transvestie. The reason I say cd is cause I can't always be the way I want to be, ie fully smooth or full make up. But when I am I want to be passable and fade in with with all the normal females out there in every day life. |
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