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Young couple here with no luck

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We are a young couple who are reasonably attractive, we were wondering why we are getting no interest? Were looking for single fems to join us, but are having no luck!

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By *adchickCouple over a year ago

Cyprus

You are both very young

You've only been here 5 weeks

You are looking for a single female only

Your profile needs an awful lot of work as this is your doorway into the swinging world and it gives nothing about who/what you are and what you are looking for and what you can give in return.

You need patience and lots of it.

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By *un_JuiceCouple over a year ago

Nr Chester

Hows sunny Bristol ?

You'll find a huge amount of members looking for the same, good luck !

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"We are a young couple who are reasonably attractive, we were wondering why we are getting no interest? Were looking for single fems to join us, but are having no luck!"

okay.... reality time...

if you say more about yourself in this post than you do actually say about yourself on your proifle (think of shop window)... that kinda says alot

so know there may be hundreds of people looking for the same thing as you.... how do you stand out?

so, hand of heart, would you answer your own profile???? ..... really!!!!

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

welcome and good luck.

sell yourself more, regarding are all 3 going to have sex or is it 121 fem fun with the male watching...

what is in it for the single female to join you both, what is your USP

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By *lutandhubbyCouple over a year ago

west midlands

weve been looking for a single woman for years, good luck with your search

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile has nothing on it to tempt anyone; nothing about what you are like, what type of single woman, what you like/dislike, whether you would be interested in going to socials or clubs. Also if you cannot accommodate, are you willing to pay for a hotel? Your profile is your shop window, at the moment its bare

Incidentally I am a single female, just not interested in your age group, so remember to read profiles when you send messages, make sure you really do fit what they are looking for

And good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your profile has nothing on it to tempt anyone; nothing about what you are like, what type of single woman, what you like/dislike, whether you would be interested in going to socials or clubs. Also if you cannot accommodate, are you willing to pay for a hotel? Your profile is your shop window, at the moment its bare

Incidentally I am a single female, just not interested in your age group, so remember to read profiles when you send messages, make sure you really do fit what they are looking for

And good luck

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you need 2 change ur profile 2 couples

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

All of the above...if u were a single woman would u want to meet you?

5 weeks is nothing, swinging is about great sex not a quick shag...you might need to think about what u expected from women on the site.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Welcome to Fab. I'd probably reiterate what the others have said, and encourage you to expand your profile somewhat, and ensure that you say what you mean, as well as say what you want, such that others will understand this, in the way that you intend to. For example 'We both are into pretty much anything (within reason) Girl on girl, swapping, watching ect!x' is said, and yet it's likely that compared to most couples, you won't be into pretty much anything, as you seem to have more limits than most of us atm.

Patience is a virtue on Fab, sometimes things thrust along really quickly, other times things are slower. Some members only meet others who've been verified in person, or aren't too new: so being around for longer can pay off.

I'd emphasise your experience, as well as reflect on whether you'd meet couples, even if not all of you have sex together - this may expand the volume of people who could be matched with you. Many of us on here are friendly, and not everything has to be about sex, and clubs can be very friendly welcoming places - there's no pressure to have sex either.

Last tip is to re_iew a few profiles and see what's good/not and help this guide how you develop your profile - generally it's good to revisit what you've got, and amend, to keep it current and relevant.

Hope this helps. Good luck!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Finding single women online is the hardest thing to do.. no matter what your age,,,

Why? because there are so many people looking for them.. it takes "hard" work,, and patience.. when we started we were only looking for single fems, we met one within a few weeks of looking, but after that we decided to look for couples as 1 it was easier and 2 it help more potential for fun. and we have never looked back.

single fems are great when they come along but for us we like the flexibility of fun with couples..

why not look for soft swap couples for girl/girl fun you might have more luck meeting people.. and the more people you meet, the more you network, the more meets you get (or at least thats what we have found)

Being young will also not help but i (fem) am young and we get plenty of meets so don't be put off by that. Good luck and feel free to mail us if you ever want a friendly chat

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By *adja_lazloCouple over a year ago

Solihull

finding bi fems, we beensearching for years and have only met two, plus agree with what the posters have said, maybe expand to soft fun with a cpl?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah the elusive single bi fem. they are out there, but very few and far between.

Most of the genuine bi females here are part of couples and get a lot of unwanted attention from couples only being interested in the female. Same things applies to a lot of single men wanting to play with just the female of a couple.

You are both new here, but both good looking people. Just put a little more work in the profile and spend some time in the chat rooms, so single females can see what's on offer too.

Try not to rush things and you will soon make a connection.

Best of luck

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By *exki11enWoman over a year ago

Bristol

1) You are looking for what everyone else here is looking for.

2) I know for a fact you are not taking notice of peoples preferences before you mail them. If someone has an age limit on their profile, and you are under that age limit ad mail them anyway - chances are you aint gonna get a response

Put a bit more info about you both on your profile, give a damn about what the woman is looking for and have some patience. That should about cover it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Going to a social is always a good way of meeting people. There is a south west one on 21st April - check the UK forums. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont think its you whos having no luck finding single bi female, anyone on here who only want to meet single women will find it hard, the amount of men and couples on here looking for single woman out weight the women by probably 500 to 1 lol

see the problem?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I actually don't think you even need to be on this site to find what you're looking for.

Just get all dressed up and hit the town for a few drinks followed by a visit to a night club but make sure it's one of the more alternative, female orientated ones. I'm sure you'll find plenty of hot, open-minded females there who would be totally up for some 3some fun with a nice, attractive couple!

I know thats how my ex-girlfriend and I had our first FFM threesome and I've got to tell you it was one hell of a night!

Good luck!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"I actually don't think you even need to be on this site to find what you're looking for.

I know thats how my ex-girlfriend and I had our first FFM threesome and I've got to tell you it was one hell of a night!

Good luck!"

i tend to agree...we use the net cos kids mean we have to plan our fun, when we were younger we just got out there and had fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are a young couple who are reasonably attractive, we were wondering why we are getting no interest? Were looking for single fems to join us, but are having no luck!"
We have had quite a few 3somes wiv single woman at clubs not of this site,u will be lucky on here lol but why u only looking for only fem and not a couple i take it thats the mans idea lol , its hard enough get a couple thats on your wavelenght and what you attracted to lol .But enjoy keep searching x

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By *ovedupstillCouple over a year ago

mullinwire

we have had a few single fems contact us, but we are very suspicious of them, unfortunately, due to all the bad press single fem profiles get.

have to agree with the majority. you dont sell yourselves particularly well and there are plenty of others that do, better, and have been around longer and have met/verifications, so you are pissing into the wind somewhat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone one here talks absolute rubbish about Bi-single-fems. YES YOU DO!

They are everywhere, I know, I find them. Not always on-line, sometimes in clubs listed on here, sometimes out and about on a Friday and Saturday night. Through friends, social groups, and even at work.

in the last 18 months I have met and played with 7 bi single fems, 1:1, at parties, in small groups and at clubs, on my own and as a couple. Also I have met more and not played with them because I didn't fancy them !

You live in Bristol, check out your club listings, find out about the gay/bi scene, and get involved. With a willingness to try new things, go to new places and an ability to talk to people you'll be surprised how easy it to meet people.

Having said that, I don't say it on my profile, I don't go out desperately trying to find them, It is not top of my wish list, and maybe the girls I do meet don't feel hunted and that I am not simply in it for me !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You say you are interested in swapping , but a single girl hasn't got anything to swap has she ?

Not too many women are interested in being the extra for a couple , unlike single guys who seem to love being the third party and perhaps this is why you don't seem to be having much luck ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You'd be better off wanting to meet couples, that way you'd get your extra fem plus more fun besides.

Most single women only want to meet single guys.

Many single women, also some couples, won't meet anyone "young enough to be our kids".

As others have said, you need to sell yourselves more on your profile, also try a few more pics.

Good luck.

XXXX

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By *habsMan over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I'm also on the look out for single females.. and couples most welcome.

.. hang on, what was the question again?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're a bit young for us, but what's yer Mom and Dad like?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If i was local and you liked the look of me i would meet for ffm you look lovely x xxx and i like younger people too and bi fun and meet alone now and again x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for all your comments, we will take these on board

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are a young couple who are reasonably attractive, we were wondering why we are getting no interest? Were looking for single fems to join us, but are having no luck!"

hi guys we had the same problem as you when we first started on here just over three years ago. we couldnt find anyone that would take us seriously and some that did thought they could make up the rules for us. people even said we shouldnt be on here as we were too youngand had no clue (they were so wrong) but we carried on despite the people who thought they invented swinging trying to push us away. just stick in there guys. it was well worth the wait for our first meet. and dont let the odd few people who try to tell you your too young to swing put you off, they are only jelous

Good luck to you guys and you will get plenty of intetest as you are a yummy looking couple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

just change your profile to 'looking for single males ONLY' and watch your luck change almost momentarily

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

6 weeks u been on here lol u expecting miracle lol I'm sure your mrs would like another big cock aswel as girl girl but could u handle another bloke with ya mrs pmsl my advise look for cples any sinhgle lasses that come along is bonus lol and put some thinking and more pics in ya profile might bring you more joy xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone one here talks absolute rubbish about Bi-single-fems. YES YOU DO!

its different, your a single guy, looking for women, thats why you find them if they are bi or not.

its alot harder as a couple to attract single bi fems, as not as many want to play with couples and the ones who do have far more choice. this is why people get frustrated as to why they cant atract them like they want.

as a single guy i know its quite easy to find them if your good at getting meets with women. but as a couple its alot harder if you dont have that profile that screams out to them yess please! and alot of couples profiles just dont really show what the single bi fem wants to see. usually its just pictures of the lass, when they want to see the guy, plus lots of couples have big lists of negative comments about people on the site, thats off putting too

some have bad expierences with couples for multiple reasons and makes them weary about who they go with too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"6 weeks u been on here lol u expecting miracle lol I'm sure your mrs would like another big cock aswel as girl girl but could u handle another bloke with ya mrs pmsl my advise look for cples any sinhgle lasses that come along is bonus lol and put some thinking and more pics in ya profile might bring you more joy xx

yeah thats it, if you can handle her being with another guy too then couple on couple is the way forward, that way you will have fun while waiting for a single girl to come along.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

not being to accomodate also can hold you back as not too many single bi-fems do accomodate, espiecally your age as many still live at home

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone one here talks absolute rubbish about Bi-single-fems. YES YOU DO!

+1 Just to add just get involved chatrooms and forums this is a social site too and we are all a friendly bunch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get some real veris from people at clubs.get a few more pics and you might get some interest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are a young couple who are reasonably attractive, we were wondering why we are getting no interest? Were looking for single fems to join us, but are having no luck!"

Be patient my friend you'll find what you're looking for. Your Mrs is beautiful; many will want a share of that beauty, no doubt.

Maybe try some parties. Romeos is perhaps a good place to start in Bristol.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for all the guidance guys!, if anyone knows of a single fem interested in a younger couple push them our way! haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for all the guidance guys!, if anyone knows of a single fem interested in a younger couple push them our way! haha"

have my sloppy seconds lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

give it time and they will come.... u must look and get on chat and get urself known....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah they are def out there, my last 2 partners infact, I think its more that alot dont need join upto a site like this as they norm get alot of attention

Your a handsom lad, and she is a stunning girl so im sure after some looking around on here and talking you will have alot of luck

All the best guys

SHOCK K K K

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're a bit young for us, but what's yer Mom and Dad like?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

think you need a bit of mmf to show you the ropes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can see from our verifications it is possible to meet single fems but you have to make the effort, try chat rooms and messages that appeal to peoples minds - they are the biggest sex organ after all - all the advice above is great too - probably the best way to attract genuine single fems is positive meets so even if it is just a social get out there xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are a young couple who are reasonably attractive, we were wondering why we are getting no interest? Were looking for single fems to join us, but are having no luck!"
Wow, you two look about 15, sorry guys!. Have you done a thorough search on the site and tried sending winks to fems that a) catch your eye and b) are you in their age range?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're a bit young for us, but what's yer Mom and Dad like?

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Hahahaha.....love this comment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I hope this helps – and I hope you’ve made a simple error.

Last night a young lady on this site ‘S’ with whom you had ‘friend’ level contact wrote to you privately. Although you have not yet met she does meet your criteria 100% and had hoped to meet you one day. She has just sent me a copy of what she wrote. The message was kind and thoughtful exactly as I would expect from ‘S’ and intended to be helpful to you. For her trouble you have deleted her as a friend and blocked her. That’s not only impolite; it’s quite bizarre in the light of your plea in this forum. Of course you may have deleted in error – I do hope so. Remember being “attractive” goes beyond mere physical attributes and you might care to consider honing your personalities to an acceptable standard, commensurate with the consideration others show to you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I hope this helps – and I hope you’ve made a simple error.

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OOOOOOOO.....that's a naughty thing to do especially given the keeness of this young couple to meet said Fems!!!...A polite, thanks but no thanks wouldn't of harmed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are well we managed to get young single fem at the weekend and we had great 3 some so they out there .

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By *om andJerryCouple over a year ago

North West

Get yourselves on chat and cam and expand ur profile. Add more pics and make them so any site member can _iew them. Good luck! x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i know a bi fem nah nah nah nah nah lol

she is the unicorn everyone wants

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I hope this helps – and I hope you’ve made a simple error.

What an awful way to behave, proves the incredibly immaturity of this age group along with shallow and will go a long way to putting people who might have been interested off them

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