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"She's marrying a guy that appears to be lacking in the trust department already " You must be able to read in between the lines very well. Very harsh statement to make just from reading the initial post. Could it be that somebody needs to research the facts before presenting them to their partner. Some people on here seem to have special powers that mean they are so much cleverer than everybody else. It could be that unlike you, the OP was not born knowing everything, and wants to learn more. | |||
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"This has nothing to do with trust." But the clever people said it did, and they know everything. I am confused now! 
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"This has nothing to do with trust. But the clever people said it did, and they know everything. I am confused now!
"It was meant to say nothing to do with a trust issue - just a personal opinion like those of the clever people | |||
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"_iew.,you should b a therapist! lol.x" cheers
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"Ok so I take it by your post that she knows nothing about swinging or the fact you are on here? Communication and trust are the two key elements to any swinging relationship You want her to start swinging? Then good luck with that cause I think she deserves fun also She's marrying a guy that appears to be lacking in the trust department already I hope it does work out for you and you do introduce her too it But remember the truth always outs and I hope you keep your balls Good luck with it and if you knew your partner inside out you would know how to ask her" have to agree with this quote and agreeing with a guy i do rarely i think if u tell her now the lack of trust will be a big thing to go into swinging with as i believe only an option but to swing u need loads of trust | |||
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"She's marrying a guy that appears to be lacking in the trust department already You must be able to read in between the lines very well. Very harsh statement to make just from reading the initial post. Could it be that somebody needs to research the facts before presenting them to their partner. Some people on here seem to have special powers that mean they are so much cleverer than everybody else. It could be that unlike you, the OP was not born knowing everything, and wants to learn more." Exactly why i said APPEARS | |||
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"This has nothing to do with trust. But the clever people said it did, and they know everything. I am confused now!
"Oh very funny if you have read other posts of mine on similar threads you would know that im actually sympathetic to peoples situations and often see their point of _iew it was actually meant to be a constructive post warning the OP that the consequences may backfire if you or anyone else found it offensive i unreservedly appologise However unlike you i will not be sarcastic in doing so ok | |||
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"You dont need to apologise to us for any comments you make. Its an open forum as I understand it? Just the comments that are made by the regular people who seem to trawl these forums are nearly always full of self importance, arrogance or make assumptions about people who are new to things. Either that or the look for a tiny loop hole in somebodies post and make a "funny" comment about it. Its not good. You were here before us, and will still be here when we are gone, so carry on as you see fit." If you read any of my posts regularly you will see that 99% of the time im actually a fence sitter The reason for this is my personal life and my long swinging life has taught me that everything is NOT cut and dried and i cannot and will not judge anyone unless ive walked in their shoes I was merely pointing out that in my humble opinion swinging is about trust and communication No i dont know the OPS situation but the fact that its a single males profile and that he is having to ask for advise on how to approach her i would say she didn't know And i was actually saying to him be careful that you dont loose your relationship as too me personally relationships are worth more than and swinging situation I do not see myself as a "clever" person as you put it just someone who tries to give a constructive answer without judging that would make the OP think is my relationship worth risking and should i have gone about it another way As i said if i have it wrong i appologise to the OP | |||
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"I need some advise on how to tell my fiancée that I would love to watch her have sex with another guy, my problem is I don't know how to approach her about it, any advise would be greatly appreciated "Tell her you have a profile as a single man on here and that you are verified. You'll soon find her looking for sex with another guy!  | |||
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"She's marrying a guy that appears to be lacking in the trust department already You must be able to read in between the lines very well. Very harsh statement to make just from reading the initial post. Could it be that somebody needs to research the facts before presenting them to their partner. Some people on here seem to have special powers that mean they are so much cleverer than everybody else. It could be that unlike you, the OP was not born knowing everything, and wants to learn more." Doyou actually have any advice for the op, or just want to have a go at someone who has been swinging most of his life?  | |||
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"How do you know she doesn't have her own profile on here or other sites? " the OP may have mentioned that in his opening line as I would think if she was a swinger already... it may be easier conversation | |||
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"She's marrying a guy that appears to be lacking in the trust department already You must be able to read in between the lines very well. Very harsh statement to make just from reading the initial post. Could it be that somebody needs to research the facts before presenting them to their partner. Some people on here seem to have special powers that mean they are so much cleverer than everybody else. It could be that unlike you, the OP was not born knowing everything, and wants to learn more. Doyou actually have any advice for the op, or just want to have a go at someone who has been swinging most of his life? "Another regular joins and the show goes on. I dont have any specific advice for the OP. I more wanted to rail against the replies people tend to post to each new post from new people. No doubt you will now how some words of wisdom to add too, as thats how history seems to go
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"I need some advise on how to tell my fiancée that I would love to watch her have sex with another guy, my problem is I don't know how to approach her about it, any advise would be greatly appreciated "You say what you would like, no mention of her, which is no surprise from someone on here as a single man with a fiancee. Someone is being decieved, for your fun, either her or the people you meet. Swinging as a couple is about mutual pleasure, to reach a point of openess about sexual desires 99% of couples will tell you there has to be trust, honesty and communication. My advice, which i know you wont take... close your account, you are about to marry somone, commit to spending the rest of your life with them...if sex with them isnt doing it for you, then you have some big questions to answer. If sex with them is good, devote yourself to exploring her fantasisies, as you already know what yours are. Great sex involves stimulation of the mind as well the body, share, talk explore, whilst fucking suggest things you waant, if you have spent time on her sexuality you will be able to work her fantasies in too...then when you are open and honest about what you both want, suggest you join a swinging site or go to a club. But treat it as a journey you are both on, at the moment you seem to think it is all about you. | |||
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"She's marrying a guy that appears to be lacking in the trust department already You must be able to read in between the lines very well. Very harsh statement to make just from reading the initial post. Could it be that somebody needs to research the facts before presenting them to their partner. Some people on here seem to have special powers that mean they are so much cleverer than everybody else. It could be that unlike you, the OP was not born knowing everything, and wants to learn more. Doyou actually have any advice for the op, or just want to have a go at someone who has been swinging most of his life?
Another regular joins and the show goes on. I dont have any specific advice for the OP. I more wanted to rail against the replies people tend to post to each new post from new people. No doubt you will now how some words of wisdom to add too, as thats how history seems to go
"The guy asks for advice, ppl who have years of swinging experience give it and you have a problem with that...seriously you have such a chip on your shoulder i am not sure where to start. Who should be allowed to post on here...you, who openly says they have nothing helpful to say to the op or soapy and i who between us have been swinging nearly 50 years
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"How do you know she doesn't have her own profile on here or other sites? " i think that would have been mentioned, and it still doesn't change the fact he says single on his profile...many here including me play seperate to our partners, we mention it though. i respect those who choose not to play with me because i am married... | |||
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"How do you know she doesn't have her own profile on here or other sites? the OP may have mentioned that in his opening line as I would think if she was a swinger already... it may be easier conversation" She don't know that he has one, so why would she not have one without telling him??????????? Goose = Gander thing | |||
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"I need some advise on how to tell my fiancée that I would love to watch her have sex with another guy, my problem is I don't know how to approach her about it, any advise would be greatly appreciated
You say what you would like, no mention of her, which is no surprise from someone on here as a single man with a fiancee.
Someone is being decieved, for your fun, either her or the people you meet.
Swinging as a couple is about mutual pleasure, to reach a point of openess about sexual desires 99% of couples will tell you there has to be trust, honesty and communication.
My advice, which i know you wont take...
close your account, you are about to marry somone, commit to spending the rest of your life with them...if sex with them isnt doing it for you, then you have some big questions to answer.
If sex with them is good, devote yourself to exploring her fantasisies, as you already know what yours are. Great sex involves stimulation of the mind as well the body, share, talk explore, whilst fucking suggest things you waant, if you have spent time on her sexuality you will be able to work her fantasies in too...then when you are open and honest about what you both want, suggest you join a swinging site or go to a club.
But treat it as a journey you are both on, at the moment you seem to think it is all about you.
"thats actually very erodite and i would suggest sound advice. so +1 here | |||
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"You dont need to start anywhere - why does everything need an answer from the same sources all the time? The OP asked for advice on how to open up the possibility of swiniging with his partner. A couple of posts on here have made a few wild assumptions and then one disected his mind and gave him advice about what he should do down to closing his account! Also, I am not alone in my _iews judging by the amount of PM`s I have had agreeing about people on here. I guess they are too scared to break cover due to the clique." you see now you have posted in my opinion the classic line 'the pm's I have received about the public clique from the in the shadows clique'... as for being too scared... that is pathetic for grown adults on a adult swinging site who aren't prepared to say it in public but will bitch like lily livered bleaters in private, it says more about them than it does about the open people. I think we regulars go too far sometimes, have always said it.. I did earlier on a thread but I have the spine and humility to stand up and apologise. I actually agree with some of your comments. | |||
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"You dont need to start anywhere - why does everything need an answer from the same sources all the time? The OP asked for advice on how to open up the possibility of swiniging with his partner. A couple of posts on here have made a few wild assumptions and then one disected his mind and gave him advice about what he should do down to closing his account! Also, I am not alone in my _iews judging by the amount of PM`s I have had agreeing about people on here. I guess they are too scared to break cover due to the clique." Ok well lets just put it this way then from now on i will keep my mouth shut and just piss about as i normally do as obviously according to you some find what the regular posters say offensive Good grief ya try ta help join in and participate in the forums and the only thing some folk can do is criticise when people do Instead of actually just posting and joining in themselves Shame some people take great delight in stirring things but thats the diversity of life and opinion i suppose | |||
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"How do you know she doesn't have her own profile on here or other sites? the OP may have mentioned that in his opening line as I would think if she was a swinger already... it may be easier conversation She don't know that he has one, so why would she not have one without telling him??????????? Goose = Gander thing" doesn't bode well for a great relationship if they are both not being honest.... but it is their life. | |||
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"Not at all. Carry on how you see fit. We are nothing here. Mere nobodies who have come and gone. If you want to make public posts sometimes people will disagree. On the other note of course people are scared to move against a clique. Going back to junior school days through to the world of work it is human nature. Especially on a swinging site popularity is very important. To openly go against the unofficial "leaders" of the place will not increase popularity. I dont suggest you set yourselves up as the leaders, but due to your strong opinions and experience it will always come over that way. Maybe you dont realise the power you hold. The site obviously means a lot to you, and you have opinions on the posts made, so thats always going to come across. It is wrong to say people are weak because they wont openly disagree with you. Everybody is different, thats what the world is about. Tolerance and understanding dont drive steamrollers." a very good post indeed. thank you. | |||
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" I dont suggest you set yourselves up as the leaders, but due to your strong opinions and experience it will always come over that way. Maybe you dont realise the power you hold. " Regular posters hold power?? Well i fa one is just me and always have been If others see me or any of the other regulars like that then im sorry but that makes me for one very sad Im pretty sick of the word clique I really feel that some think all the regulars pm eachother constantly and have the pack mentality When i real life we actually seldom talk and a lot of us actually disagree strongly with eachother The perception some people have on here never ceases to amaze me | |||
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"_iew.,you should b a therapist! lol.x" Is Mr. View posting sensible, intelligent & informed comments again? We've already had to have a word with him about this. He's been warned at least once.... | |||
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Why are so many obsessed with a none existent 'clique'?
It's really sad that regular posters are getting shot down in flames so often, whilst it's being done under the guise of 'don't shoot us newbies down in flames cus we're scared'
Sorry OP... I'm going off the subject (I'll get back to you with my advice after this post).
Newbies/lurkers/whoever.... you are all free to partake in discussion in the forums, just like the regulars. You have no need to feel fear to post unless you are going to abuse or name and shame.
Many a time have a few of us started a thread (including myself) asking for lurkers and newbies to join in.... one of our mods invite lurkers to join in on a regular basis... us regulars actually like this fact
I/we were new just over a year ago. We failed to see a 'clique' ...we just saw a group of regulars sharing/not sharing a point of _iew on various subjects.
I've challenged regulars on their point of _iew when I've felt the need to, just like I would with a newbie... why should I treat anyone differently? ....if they are making a statement I find emotive I will respond in the same way that I would whether I've met them or not.
A lurker/very rare poster said goodbye to us last week. Most of us didn't know her from Adam (who's Adam???!)
I cried reading reading her brief heartfelt story and the responses .....the regulars and a few newbies showed true and honest compassion
I'm fed up of seeing the word 'clique'... it's a perceived entity.... as Polo said on another thread yesterday... a few of us regulars have each other on our block lists, it's a fact, what does that tell you? | |||
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"_iew.,you should b a therapist! lol.x Is Mr. View posting sensible, intelligent & informed comments again? We've already had to have a word with him about this. He's been warned at least once.... " Yes, being a regular he should slavishly toe the 'clique' line and never dare to disagree with us. I'll be getting out my spanking pants later! Seriously, the passive aggressive remarks from certain posters on here has made this entertaining reading. Obviously if we agree with the other posters, we are part of the clique, but if we disagree, we are just shadowy people, needing a champion to lead us. Catch 22. Oh well, whatever makes them happy I guess. They're right about one thing - they'll soon be gone. They seem the type. | |||
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"I need some advise on how to tell my fiancée that I would love to watch her have sex with another guy, my problem is I don't know how to approach her about it, any advise would be greatly appreciated "We don't know your fiancée so giving advice can be a bit tricky.... everyone is different and so will react differently. All I can say is that me and my hubby spoke to each other for years and years about bringing other people into our sex life. We joined AFF 4 years ago but got spooked out and did nothing lol. We joined fab when we felt 100% sure and have discussed everything with each other all along... So my advice is simply... talk to her! | |||
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"Jeez
Why are so many obsessed with a none existent 'clique'?
It's really sad that regular posters are getting shot down in flames so often, whilst it's being done under the guise of 'don't shoot us newbies down in flames cus we're scared'
Sorry OP... I'm going off the subject (I'll get back to you with my advice after this post).
Newbies/lurkers/whoever.... you are all free to partake in discussion in the forums, just like the regulars. You have no need to feel fear to post unless you are going to abuse or name and shame.
Many a time have a few of us started a thread (including myself) asking for lurkers and newbies to join in.... one of our mods invite lurkers to join in on a regular basis... us regulars actually like this fact
I/we were new just over a year ago. We failed to see a 'clique' ...we just saw a group of regulars sharing/not sharing a point of _iew on various subjects.
I've challenged regulars on their point of _iew when I've felt the need to, just like I would with a newbie... why should I treat anyone differently? ....if they are making a statement I find emotive I will respond in the same way that I would whether I've met them or not.
A lurker/very rare poster said goodbye to us last week. Most of us didn't know her from Adam (who's Adam???!)
I cried reading reading her brief heartfelt story and the responses .....the regulars and a few newbies showed true and honest compassion
I'm fed up of seeing the word 'clique'... it's a perceived entity.... as Polo said on another thread yesterday... a few of us regulars have each other on our block lists, it's a fact, what does that tell you?"Just a thought the fact that you said "so many" tell you something about way these forums seem to operate - they could be wrong or you could be wrong - but just dismissing doesn't help | |||
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"I wonder if anyone's realised that, if there's a clique on here, there must also be a non-clique. An anti-clique if you will, which is basically just another clique!
Cliques everywhere!!!! "Clique erty clique 66 Bingo xx | |||
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firstly to the OP (i will be using CAPS on important word to help the trolls read the post correctly!)
i ASSUME from your profile and the fact that you want to INTRODUCE the idea of swinging to your partner that she does not know you are on here?
Due to the fact it is hidden i ASSUME that your veri is from a meet - did your partner know about that?
as has been said before communication is the main thing, talk to her, find out what her fantasies are - she might surprise you and tell you she wants to be tied up and fucked sensless for 18 hours straight by all comers, larger the better..(off for a bit of a daydream....)
ok back now
for some on these forums the fact that you APPEAR to cover up your relationship, especially as you put you are a genuine single on your profile, will leve a nasty taste in their mouths and a nasty post on this and probably any other thread you start. That is your decision and you have to deal wth the flack you get from it
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"I wonder if anyone's realised that, if there's a clique on here, there must also be a non-clique. An anti-clique if you will, which is basically just another clique!
Cliques everywhere!!!!
Clique erty clique 66 Bingo xx "I win! | |||
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"Just a thought the fact that you said "so many" tell you something about way these forums seem to operate - they could be wrong or you could be wrong - but just dismissing doesn't help" I'm not being 'dismissive'. You do have a point by picking up what I said.... "so many". .....I just wish the "so many" that see a 'clique' would see that they aren't doing themselves any favours by wading in and attacking regular posters. Some (not all) of the regular posters are utter gems in my eyes. Some (not all) of the regular posters are complete numpties in my eyes. Some (not all) of the regular posters will agree with a _iew of mine most of the time. Some (not all) of the regular posters will disagree with a _iew of mind most of the time. Some (not all) of the regular posters will laugh at what I write when I'm using my sense of humour most of the time. Some (not all) of the regular posters will when I'm using my sense of humour most of the time.
Some (not all) of the regular posters attack/show displeasure in mine and others usage of "would you fuck the one above?" threads.
Some (not all) of the regular posters encourage and start "would you fuck the one above?" threads.
Some (not all) of the regular posters effectively 'troll' threads, desperately wanting to use the
smiley.
Some (not all) of the regular posters are seeking the 'love in' threads for a laugh (I'm not innocent of this trait lol).
I've now got a little bit of RSI going on so I'm going to quit making my point with one last line:
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"I wonder if anyone's realised that, if there's a clique on here, there must also be a non-clique. An anti-clique if you will, which is basically just another clique!
Cliques everywhere!!!!
Clique erty clique 66 Bingo xx
I win! "Woo-hoo ....do I get a full house for being part of Funky's winking Clique?  | |||
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"I wonder if anyone's realised that, if there's a clique on here, there must also be a non-clique. An anti-clique if you will, which is basically just another clique!
Cliques everywhere!!!!
Clique erty clique 66 Bingo xx
I win!
Woo-hoo ....do I get a full house for being part of Funky's winking Clique? "I think Funky would say anyone in his winking clique is a winner already. Trebles all round! | |||
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"Just a thought the fact that you said "so many" tell you something about way these forums seem to operate - they could be wrong or you could be wrong - but just dismissing doesn't help I'm not being 'dismissive'. You do have a point by picking up what I said.... "so many". .....I just wish the "so many" that see a 'clique' would see that they aren't doing themselves any favours by wading in and attacking regular posters. Some (not all) of the regular posters are utter gems in my eyes. Some (not all) of the regular posters are complete numpties in my eyes. Some (not all) of the regular posters will agree with a _iew of mine most of the time. Some (not all) of the regular posters will disagree with a _iew of mind most of the time. Some (not all) of the regular posters will laugh at what I write when I'm using my sense of humour most of the time. Some (not all) of the regular posters will when I'm using my sense of humour most of the time.
Some (not all) of the regular posters attack/show displeasure in mine and others usage of "would you fuck the one above?" threads.
Some (not all) of the regular posters encourage and start "would you fuck the one above?" threads.
Some (not all) of the regular posters effectively 'troll' threads, desperately wanting to use the
smiley.
Some (not all) of the regular posters are seeking the 'love in' threads for a laugh (I'm not innocent of this trait lol).
I've now got a little bit of RSI going on so I'm going to quit making my point with one last line:
Don't attack a community you want to feel that you are part of"See saying things like "arn't doing themselves any favours" sounds very threatening. When someone post on here and feels they are being attacked by a group of members they will undoubtedly fight back | |||
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"See saying things like "arn't doing themselves any favours" sounds very threatening. When someone post on here and feels they are being attacked by a group of members they will undoubtedly fight back " Far from threatening... I don't threaten anyone, I'm not that sort of person, far far from it 
It's a fact that some people don't do themselves any favours. They feel 'left out' so go on the attack.... effectively isolating themselves because a lot of the regulars don't like being attacked.
It took months before anyone started responding to or re-quoting our posts on the forums... we didn't get fed up and start posting enflaming lines to piss the regulars off. We understood that people need time to get to know you.
I know how far I can push it with Soapy with the piss taking....
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"So can anyone please tell me, was it meant to be :- "patient" " parent" or "partner" ? "All of them I think  | |||
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"Oh dear - the OP's request for advice has got completely lost amongst the 'clique bashing'. We are relative newbies to fab as a couple and like reading the forums. Sometimes I see something and think 'ouch', sometimes I will even (daring I know) put a comment - yes - even if it goes against a regular poster! What will happen to me? Will I be cast off, told never to return? No - I am a grown up - long out of primary school. For what it's worth - there are obviously long standing ( no pun intended) members of fab who will enjoy banter & winding each other up - way we look at it is to join in the fun, not whine and complain.. Janet x" Well said that lady | |||
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"Oh dear - the OP's request for advice has got completely lost amongst the 'clique bashing'. We are relative newbies to fab as a couple and like reading the forums. Sometimes I see something and think 'ouch', sometimes I will even (daring I know) put a comment - yes - even if it goes against a regular poster! What will happen to me? Will I be cast off, told never to return? No - I am a grown up - long out of primary school. For what it's worth - there are obviously long standing ( no pun intended) members of fab who will enjoy banter & winding each other up - way we look at it is to join in the fun, not whine and complain.. Janet x" Yea there is a god xx | |||
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"Thanks Soapy - so glad I haven't upset you!! X" Takes a lot lol most things go over me head (literally lol) xx | |||
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"So can anyone please tell me, was it meant to be :- "patient" " parent" or "partner" ? "I applied all three to the title before I opened the thread, and was still puzzled then... patient is unethical patent is just wrong parent is just a wee bit kinky partner's just right ...
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"I need some advise on how to tell my fiancée that I would love to watch her have sex with another guy, my problem is I don't know how to approach her about it, any advise would be greatly appreciated
Tell her you have a profile as a single man on here and that you are verified.
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"I need some advise on how to tell my fiancée that I would love to watch her have sex with another guy, my problem is I don't know how to approach her about it, any advise would be greatly appreciated "Well I can only answer from how I would feel in her position. The first thing is that I would be horrified that my fiance felt he had to ask strangers for advice on how to speak to me and also to find out that my fiance was already on a site as a single male. I would prob assume that he had decided already that what we had wasn't enough and would most probably think long and hard about whether I was doing the right thing by marrying. This is not meant as a judgement on you...we feel as we feel. It is more a heads up to her possible reaction if you tell her. A new relationship is usually pretty intense just by virtue of the honeymoon period so emotions often run high. Only you know your fiance. I would advise you to work on your communication and be sensitive. At sexy times explore both of your fantasies. Make her feel loved and secure. Talking is always the answer to these questions. When we decided to dip our toe into the swinging world my agreeing to attend a party and just have a look was enough. If my partner had suggested he watch me shag another guy I would have been completely put off. I wish you good luck and happiness in whatever YOU decide. | |||
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"What makes me laugh is how so many of you use the word 'we'......... YOU lot in MY clique........ as if !" When I use the word 'we', I mean my OH and me.... no fukka is allowed in that clique I tell you  | |||
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"As for the rest of it on here.what pish. Lol Nobody has the right to tell anyone not to post and if they do they deserve to be laughed at.its an open forum and people ask for the opinion of others which will by their very nature differ. That is the whole point surely! "  | |||
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"You dont need to start anywhere - why does everything need an answer from the same sources all the time? The OP asked for advice on how to open up the possibility of swiniging with his partner. A couple of posts on here have made a few wild assumptions and then one disected his mind and gave him advice about what he should do down to closing his account! Also, I am not alone in my _iews judging by the amount of PM`s I have had agreeing about people on here. I guess they are too scared to break cover due to the clique." 2 questions. Who do you believe is in this clique? And secondly what contribution to the OP's question do you think that your posts on this thread have had? maybe as you have such strong _iews you should have started a new thread on this, it would have been far more courteous surely? | |||
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"You dont need to start anywhere - why does everything need an answer from the same sources all the time? The OP asked for advice on how to open up the possibility of swiniging with his partner. A couple of posts on here have made a few wild assumptions and then one disected his mind and gave him advice about what he should do down to closing his account! Also, I am not alone in my _iews judging by the amount of PM`s I have had agreeing about people on here. I guess they are too scared to break cover due to the clique. 2 questions. Who do you believe is in this clique? And secondly what contribution to the OP's question do you think that your posts on this thread have had? maybe as you have such strong _iews you should have started a new thread on this, it would have been far more courteous surely?" i agree, the troll has probably ensured the OP reads none of the advice ppl took the trouble to right.  | |||
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"You dont need to start anywhere - why does everything need an answer from the same sources all the time? The OP asked for advice on how to open up the possibility of swiniging with his partner. A couple of posts on here have made a few wild assumptions and then one disected his mind and gave him advice about what he should do down to closing his account! Also, I am not alone in my _iews judging by the amount of PM`s I have had agreeing about people on here. I guess they are too scared to break cover due to the clique. 2 questions. Who do you believe is in this clique? And secondly what contribution to the OP's question do you think that your posts on this thread have had? maybe as you have such strong _iews you should have started a new thread on this, it would have been far more courteous surely?" May thanks for adding your calm wisdom to the thread. Just what it needed (!) I`m sorry I dont have a handy list of people who seem to comment on everything either with an air of arrogance or make glib comments to make others smirk. We all know who they are though. Yes - I wish I had started a seperate thread as it is a bit unfair on the OP. I tried to defend him a bit an then the high horses came out. | |||
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"You dont need to start anywhere - why does everything need an answer from the same sources all the time? The OP asked for advice on how to open up the possibility of swiniging with his partner. A couple of posts on here have made a few wild assumptions and then one disected his mind and gave him advice about what he should do down to closing his account! Also, I am not alone in my _iews judging by the amount of PM`s I have had agreeing about people on here. I guess they are too scared to break cover due to the clique. 2 questions. Who do you believe is in this clique? And secondly what contribution to the OP's question do you think that your posts on this thread have had? maybe as you have such strong _iews you should have started a new thread on this, it would have been far more courteous surely? May thanks for adding your calm wisdom to the thread. Just what it needed (!) I`m sorry I dont have a handy list of people who seem to comment on everything either with an air of arrogance or make glib comments to make others smirk. We all know who they are though. Yes - I wish I had started a seperate thread as it is a bit unfair on the OP. I tried to defend him a bit an then the high horses came out." 1.where did u defend him? 2, why did he need u to defend him, its his thread, are you his pa?
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"You dont need to start anywhere - why does everything need an answer from the same sources all the time? The OP asked for advice on how to open up the possibility of swiniging with his partner. A couple of posts on here have made a few wild assumptions and then one disected his mind and gave him advice about what he should do down to closing his account! Also, I am not alone in my _iews judging by the amount of PM`s I have had agreeing about people on here. I guess they are too scared to break cover due to the clique. 2 questions. Who do you believe is in this clique? And secondly what contribution to the OP's question do you think that your posts on this thread have had? maybe as you have such strong _iews you should have started a new thread on this, it would have been far more courteous surely? i agree, the troll has probably ensured the OP reads none of the advice ppl took the trouble to right. "By that you mean the sound of your own virtual voice. Whats the point in spouting off if nobody reads it and get to bask in your wisdom and experience eh? | |||
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"You dont need to start anywhere - why does everything need an answer from the same sources all the time? The OP asked for advice on how to open up the possibility of swiniging with his partner. A couple of posts on here have made a few wild assumptions and then one disected his mind and gave him advice about what he should do down to closing his account! Also, I am not alone in my _iews judging by the amount of PM`s I have had agreeing about people on here. I guess they are too scared to break cover due to the clique. 2 questions. Who do you believe is in this clique? And secondly what contribution to the OP's question do you think that your posts on this thread have had? maybe as you have such strong _iews you should have started a new thread on this, it would have been far more courteous surely? May thanks for adding your calm wisdom to the thread. Just what it needed (!) I`m sorry I dont have a handy list of people who seem to comment on everything either with an air of arrogance or make glib comments to make others smirk. We all know who they are though. Yes - I wish I had started a seperate thread as it is a bit unfair on the OP. I tried to defend him a bit an then the high horses came out. 1.where did u defend him? 2, why did he need u to defend him, its his thread, are you his pa?
3.Who attacked him that he needed defending?"Now starts the part where every word gets analyzed so you can score points. I said that Soap should not assume about the level of trust in his relationship. Why do you feel the need to get involved? Are you his PA? As posted above people made a few arrogant assumptions. Since then it has been agreed a seperate thread would have been better, so you have already answered your own question. | |||
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" I`m sorry I dont have a handy list of people who seem to comment on everything either with an air of arrogance or make glib comments to make others smirk. We all know who they are though. Yes - I wish I had started a seperate thread as it is a bit unfair on the OP. I tried to defend him a bit an then the high horses came out. Now starts the part where every word gets analyzed so you can score points. I said that Soap should not assume about the level of trust in his relationship. Why do you feel the need to get involved? Are you his PA? As posted above people made a few arrogant assumptions. Since then it has been agreed a seperate thread would have been better, so you have already answered your own question." OK for my 2pence worth (and yes my own opinion only) Are you yourself not making assumptions 1. About people who post on the forums 2. You state people that are PMing you are scared to post 3. You say there is a clique 4. you assume people make remarks to make others smirk 5. You assume some post with an air of arrogance. This is a few things I have picked up from reading this thread. We all make assumptions at times, espically when we dont know the other person/people. Again this is only my opinion | |||
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" I`m sorry I dont have a handy list of people who seem to comment on everything either with an air of arrogance or make glib comments to make others smirk. We all know who they are though. Yes - I wish I had started a seperate thread as it is a bit unfair on the OP. I tried to defend him a bit an then the high horses came out. Now starts the part where every word gets analyzed so you can score points. I said that Soap should not assume about the level of trust in his relationship. Why do you feel the need to get involved? Are you his PA? As posted above people made a few arrogant assumptions. Since then it has been agreed a seperate thread would have been better, so you have already answered your own question. OK for my 2pence worth (and yes my own opinion only) Are you yourself not making assumptions 1. About people who post on the forums 2. You state people that are PMing you are scared to post 3. You say there is a clique 4. you assume people make remarks to make others smirk 5. You assume some post with an air of arrogance. This is a few things I have picked up from reading this thread. We all make assumptions at times, espically when we dont know the other person/people. Again this is only my opinion " Well done. Was it worth the effort though? | |||
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" I`m sorry I dont have a handy list of people who seem to comment on everything either with an air of arrogance or make glib comments to make others smirk. We all know who they are though. Yes - I wish I had started a seperate thread as it is a bit unfair on the OP. I tried to defend him a bit an then the high horses came out. Now starts the part where every word gets analyzed so you can score points. I said that Soap should not assume about the level of trust in his relationship. Why do you feel the need to get involved? Are you his PA? As posted above people made a few arrogant assumptions. Since then it has been agreed a seperate thread would have been better, so you have already answered your own question. OK for my 2pence worth (and yes my own opinion only) Are you yourself not making assumptions 1. About people who post on the forums 2. You state people that are PMing you are scared to post 3. You say there is a clique 4. you assume people make remarks to make others smirk 5. You assume some post with an air of arrogance. This is a few things I have picked up from reading this thread. We all make assumptions at times, espically when we dont know the other person/people. Again this is only my opinion Well done. Was it worth the effort though?" If I knew what you where on about I could answer properly, however going on the aassumption you mean "was it worth the effort" posting on this thread, then yes to me it was | |||
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"As it has meant you feel cleverer than me it must have been well worth it. " With a sentence like that you really aren;t doing yourself any favours when you complain about people picking your posts apart...
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"The effort to find a number of issues in what was said and itemise them with numbers next to them! As it has meant you feel cleverer than me it must have been well worth it. Well done" No I dont think i'm clever than anyone else here, we all have different things in which we are more knowledgable in, again you make assumptions. As I stated this was things that I picked up on and I itemised them to make easier reading. | |||
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"I see there is a thread in the Lounge all about spare handbags. I can think of a use for them from reading through this thread - will see you all at dawn! "who said they were spare??? they were just forgotten
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"I see there is a thread in the Lounge all about spare handbags. I can think of a use for them from reading through this thread - will see you all at dawn!
who said they were spare??? they were just forgotten
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"I see there is a thread in the Lounge all about spare handbags. I can think of a use for them from reading through this thread - will see you all at dawn!
who said they were spare??? they were just forgotten
Would you be willing to loan them out for a good cause though? "maybe but if they get broken i want replacements....Prada replacements!!! | |||
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"As it has meant you feel cleverer than me it must have been well worth it. With a sentence like that you really aren;t doing yourself any favours when you complain about people picking your posts apart...
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"I see there is a thread in the Lounge all about spare handbags. I can think of a use for them from reading through this thread - will see you all at dawn!
who said they were spare??? they were just forgotten
Would you be willing to loan them out for a good cause though?
maybe but if they get broken i want replacements....Prada replacements!!!"I will add that condition to the "Rules of Engagement" along with no handbag is allowed to contain anything larger than a lipstick! | |||
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"As it has meant you feel cleverer than me it must have been well worth it. With a sentence like that you really aren;t doing yourself any favours when you complain about people picking your posts apart...
and its "are not" I am not sure why you would think otherwise when trying to rubbish others grammar"For the love of god - give it a rest - you seem to be one of those special people who could have an argument whilst alone in a phone box with no money! Z | |||
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"As it has meant you feel cleverer than me it must have been well worth it. With a sentence like that you really aren;t doing yourself any favours when you complain about people picking your posts apart...
and its "are not" I am not sure why you would think otherwise when trying to rubbish others grammar"To be honest mate I'm dyslexic and have fat fingers, picking my posts apart is like shooting fish in a barrel. I'm pretty sure I've never pulled anyone up for grammer on the forums but this thread has brought the worst out of me. | |||
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" I said that Soap should not assume about the level of trust in his relationship. " Ok so the two lines i can see in my post that riled you read.... . Ok so I take it by your post that she knows nothing about swinging or the fact you are on here? . (Did you fail to see the question mark?) . She's marrying a guy that appears to be lacking in the trust department already . (Did you fail to see the word appears???) . Cause yes im assuming you did Read the post again i was neither attacking/defending the OPS post In fact if you read it i wished him luck (as my personal _iew is i hope it DOES work out for them both) I was trying to give a balanced _iew on it and for you i obviously failed miserably This is my last word on the subject that has obviously become a farce now and i once again apologise to the OP for posting a _iew that lead to the total destruction of his thread | |||
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"As it has meant you feel cleverer than me it must have been well worth it. With a sentence like that you really aren;t doing yourself any favours when you complain about people picking your posts apart...
and its "are not" I am not sure why you would think otherwise when trying to rubbish others grammar
For the love of god - give it a rest - you seem to be one of those special people who could have an argument whilst alone in a phone box with no money! Z"Shhh, you can't disagree with them otherwise you're a member of the Fab Illuminati, secretly plotting to rule the forums and exile all non-Illuminati members. Its a conspiracy, I tells ya! | |||
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"That's ever so funny and clever. Oh how we wish we could be like you." Try being nicer to people and you can! | |||
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"I need some advise on how to tell my fiancée that I would love to watch her have sex with another guy, my problem is I don't know how to approach her about it, any advise would be greatly appreciated "been thinking about this as the female half of a couple new to swinging - and I guess it was me who brought us down this path over the last year, and it has been a gradual process moving away from - rubbish porn, then dodgy bardelona sex shows (OMG pay per _iew), sex outside, then swinging clubs - if himself had been trying to bring the subject up straight out I would have been horrified - I'm not dom (more strong willed) but I like to feel I am in charge of our swinging life and I 100% trust himself and we talk alot - Even now if I found he had a verfied single swinging profile - I'd be furious TRUST is a huge part of not just swinging (what ever that means to each of us) but your whole relationship. I'd rather have good relationship than trustless swinging one - Just my thoughts p.s. thought it said patient - | |||
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"That's ever so funny and clever. Oh how we wish we could be like you. Try being nicer to people and you can!" but then he couldnt troll
Question to the trolly one, u give a very bad impression of yourself, derail a guys thread who was looking for advice,and cause endless amusement as ppl laugh at you...honestly why do you do it?
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"The effort to find a number of issues in what was said and itemise them with numbers next to them! As it has meant you feel cleverer than me it must have been well worth it. Well done" Cleverer than you...wouldnt be hard now would it | |||
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This really is getting tedious.
Ok , honesty from the mod with has no qualms about telling the truth or banning regulars and newbies alike.
To all the people complaining "some" regulars shoot others down when asking questions on a thread....yes, there are some who do it. It is a bannable offence and bans do happen.
To the people complaining of a " clique" I suppose there is a whole load of people who banter every day in the forums, so if that is a clique then yes there is one. There isn't anything wrong with that....the key is to join in with the banter.
Complaining none stop about it on every thread just causes distruption and if it carries on then you are just as bad as the people you are complaining about, ie, shooting people down everytime someone posts...which brings us full circle.
So bottom line is......respect other posters, if they piss you off, ignore their posts, if you think they have broken rules, REPORT them.
Stop this constant sniping or you might find you can't post at all.
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