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Self imposed blocking to meets!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok
I can't believe I'm going to do this, and I hope I don't get too much negativity.
Erm because of a medical problem I have to now wear a wig. Please note it's not down to cancer x
However, I used to play before and have had some amazing sexy meets.
I still want to meet guys who like a busty mature older woman. However, when I get a message from someone who could be a meet I back off!
The reason being I just don't know how to approach telling them! 
Obviously if I'm lucky enough to get invited to enjoy sex in a bed then it has to come off!
Suprise! Not a real blonde and very fine hair.
Do I give up? Is the scene still the place I should be? I don't want to conn anyone thinking I'm someone I'm not and I just don't know what to do. I have had meets but they are with people I have played with in the past.
Help? Any advice, opinions, would this put you off meeting me or any woman who wears a wig?
Xxx |
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By *wosWoman
over a year ago
east london |
Why not just put what you just put on your profile. ..mind they never read it but that's their problem. .not yours....
From the point of view of someone whose hair isn't their friend. ..has grown back curly n I really don't like it. .n chucking wig over it has crossed my mind more than once! |
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"Ok
I can't believe I'm going to do this, and I hope I don't get too much negativity.
Erm because of a medical problem I have to now wear a wig. Please note it's not down to cancer x
However, I used to play before and have had some amazing sexy meets.
I still want to meet guys who like a busty mature older woman. However, when I get a message from someone who could be a meet I back off!
The reason being I just don't know how to approach telling them!
Obviously if I'm lucky enough to get invited to enjoy sex in a bed then it has to come off!
Suprise! Not a real blonde and very fine hair.
Do I give up? Is the scene still the place I should be? I don't want to conn anyone thinking I'm someone I'm not and I just don't know what to do. I have had meets but they are with people I have played with in the past.
Help? Any advice, opinions, would this put you off meeting me or any woman who wears a wig?
Xxx "
I've seen many similar posts from people with mastectomy scars etc if it bothers some potential meets then they are not worth bothering with! maybe mention it in your profile so if it does bother some then they won't contact you x good luck x |
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Hi,
Don't know about others but I'd go with putting some of what you have written here onto your profile.
Be up front and then let the people you meet decide for themselves.
Put a search in Google for sexy bald women. Women can be sexy and bald.
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By *Q_GentMan
over a year ago
Manchester, City Centre |
If youre ok to post the details on the forum...then go that next step and post it on your profile too
The ice is broken and it's out in the open before you begin to start arranging to meet up
Go for it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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why not make this part of your meets..you could try different wigs for different moods...I fiery redhead or a naughty blonde..just put the fact you wear a wig on your profile then it's up to each individual how they proceed with you ..wear your wig with pride. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can empathize with you, I have the same problem with hair loss for 2 reasons but not cancer, but it's permanent. I now wear a hat of some sort nearly all the time. It's never been an issue for meets, I've even left my hat on for playing.. There's a song in there somewhere! 
Anyone who has a problem with your situation isn't worth meeting honey. Best wishes. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you for all the posts and pm's xx
Have added a line to my profile, just hope guys read it x
Let's see if it puts people off x  "
If it was me I'd also mention it in mail before I arranged a meet. It might put some people off so better they know before you meet.
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May we suggest you just add to your profile as posts in the forum over time won't stay near the top and people may not be able to find the thread
Good luck as we all have scars to burden and you sound a lovely caring person
Xx |
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Do whatever you feel comfortable with.
I understand what you're saying completely, if you make it clear in your profile you then veto those whom have issues.
Be confident in yourself, that's all that matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok
I can't believe I'm going to do this, and I hope I don't get too much negativity.
Erm because of a medical problem I have to now wear a wig. Please note it's not down to cancer x
However, I used to play before and have had some amazing sexy meets.
I still want to meet guys who like a busty mature older woman. However, when I get a message from someone who could be a meet I back off!
The reason being I just don't know how to approach telling them!
Obviously if I'm lucky enough to get invited to enjoy sex in a bed then it has to come off!
Suprise! Not a real blonde and very fine hair.
Do I give up? Is the scene still the place I should be? I don't want to conn anyone thinking I'm someone I'm not and I just don't know what to do. I have had meets but they are with people I have played with in the past.
Help? Any advice, opinions, would this put you off meeting me or any woman who wears a wig?
Xxx "
There are some really fantastic wigs out there now. Even if you have done hair, I know a hair specialist who fits them. The hair is real and seriously no one can tell the difference. She even does them for men.
In any case, I'm sure you look beautiful with or without hair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t imagine what that was like to lose your hair. But when life gives you lemons.
I would put it on your profile. Pointless as men can’t read here. But if they do they could pick any colour hair straight, curly, long short. An some men actually love the bald look. They do great wigs now. An not to expensive. With silicone rims an glue to hold in place. They make lovely topaes for men too.
Look on the bright side you can be ready in half the time
You can try any hairstyle an colour you’ve ever wanted. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"why not make this part of your meets..you could try different wigs for different moods...I fiery redhead or a naughty blonde..just put the fact you wear a wig on your profile then it's up to each individual how they proceed with you ..wear your wig with pride."
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
Over the roundabout and then turn right. |
"Ok
I can't believe I'm going to do this, and I hope I don't get too much negativity.
Erm because of a medical problem I have to now wear a wig. Please note it's not down to cancer x
However, I used to play before and have had some amazing sexy meets.
I still want to meet guys who like a busty mature older woman. However, when I get a message from someone who could be a meet I back off!
The reason being I just don't know how to approach telling them!
Obviously if I'm lucky enough to get invited to enjoy sex in a bed then it has to come off!
Suprise! Not a real blonde and very fine hair.
Do I give up? Is the scene still the place I should be? I don't want to conn anyone thinking I'm someone I'm not and I just don't know what to do. I have had meets but they are with people I have played with in the past.
Help? Any advice, opinions, would this put you off meeting me or any woman who wears a wig?
Xxx "
The fact you have opened up about this reveals the kind of honest person you really are. We prefer meeting people like you as the trust is already there. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi put your photos up if you want to, if you prefer to wear a wig fine, just tell them it should not bother anyone and if it does they do not deserve to meet you x |
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Others have already covered it, but I just want to say, best wishes to you, OP. Dealing with the intersection of medical problems and Fab is hard.
(I fell and broke a bone in February, so I know about it. Although I must say, although it does cause me some extra agro, it's also an excellent arsehole filter. I'm slow, vulnerable, and thus slow to meet at the moment. People who don't respect that probably aren't people I want to trust intimately anyway?) |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
"A little note on your profile is all you need,
I personally find honesty attractive and would be drawn to you, rather than put off."
Well said. I (he) too find this trait attractive and wouldn't be put off one iota, quite the opposite. |
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Hope you didn't get any negativity for asking, didn't see any in here at least.
Doesn't seem a problem, though certainly better to find out before pulling hair off by accident.
Can't see any reason why you should give up, don't see why it should make a difference to you being on the scene, doesn't seem a con for that matter, just a health problem, everyone that lives long enough gets some. Doesn't make you someone you aren't any more than padded bras, make up, corsets change the people behind them.
Maybe some would be put off but there's plenty on here, and definitely wouldn't put me off, hope you carry on and have a great deal of fun here. Think you come across as rather sweet. |
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By *onic2Man
over a year ago
Bromley |
Coming from a man that has been with three girls who have worn wigs ( two of them for totally medical reasons and one because she wanted to shave it)
I'm definitely happy to speak a former position of experience if even if I can't say authority.
We are going to be looking at you through adoring eyes not critical ones.
On the most basic level you could look at it like this.. He wants to grab your tits and fuck your pussy.... equally you could look at it that he wants to please you impress you and make you feel mazing and that will definitely include making you feel wanted when you feel your most vulnerable
( FYI if he isn't going to reassure you when he finds out he's not going to be the giving kind of person who provides good sex)
I a lot of people have to add it to your profile I don't even know that it's a salient point....
I'll do one of those for example things you know that people love.... let's say you entered one of those ridiculous prize draws but then actually someone calls you up and tells you that you've won a prize of a Ferrari
BUT
then tells you it's the convertible and not a fixed roof version.....
would you really be upset....
Exactly!!!
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This is the first night I have found the FAB forums.. and I've spent all night reading it.
To everybody who has beautiful double standards and the best intentions riding high on there on the White horses of PC justice. Thank you for your input without you this forum would be nothing.
and this is the first of many contributions I hope to make.
This one is actually going to be honest and sincere I'm going to step up the sarcasm value later  |
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