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Wat do i do now ffs?!!
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"Have you tried going out and meeting people?? "Another annoying, smart arsed comment covered up by the use of a smiley. Half of the fun and excitement of swinging is that you don't 'go out and meet'. That's the whole point of the site. Get clued in. And as for the actual problem posted in the thread, maybe you need to re-evaluate the content of your profile. There's never anything wrong with a revamp now and then. | |||
"[Removed by poster at 14/09/11 21:23:05]" Our profile is "re-vamped" regularly with new photos added nearly every week. It wasn't a smart arsed comment, the smiley was there so it wasn't took the wrong way. | |||
"Ive messaged litterally everyone in my area that i would be interested in over the last few months" So, try another area. "Im not "punching above my weight" and im not desperate so wont just meet anyone." That's a good strategy. So, relax. "It shouldnt be this hard." Says who? If you sent 20 letters to 20 strangers, how many replies would you expect? Try harder, or stop. Up to you. Just like anything else in life. | |||
"[Removed by poster at 14/09/11 21:23:05] Our profile is "re-vamped" regularly with new photos added nearly every week. It wasn't a smart arsed comment, the smiley was there so it wasn't took the wrong way." I wasn't talking about re vamping your profile. I was talking about his. | |||
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"Just want to clarify that the message with the smiley was not intended to be sarcastic in any way, to anyone, it was a genuine question. " I didnt take it funny dnt worry its a valid point, i wanna go out nd meet people but im skint, just recently lost my job | |||
"Hang in there and go for what you are after. Eventually you will get answers. Join in chat and the forums more to get yourself noticed until you can get to socials if thats your thing." Really, the socials are your best bet. Get noticed, and as you can accommodate you should get lucky. | |||
"Just want to clarify that the message with the smiley was not intended to be sarcastic in any way, to anyone, it was a genuine question. I didnt take it funny dnt worry its a valid point, i wanna go out nd meet people but im skint, just recently lost my job "TBH though , you are more likely to meet swingers on this site than down the pub, you are not likely to go ask someone do they want a threesome as easy as on here 
Although after doing just that with the singer on Saturday I am going to contradict myself  | |||
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"I'll deffo do more to get myself out and about but i gotta be honest im startin to feel like im wastin my time on fab, just viewed the guys in my area and theyre all sooooo much fitter than me all got 6 packs nd massive cocks. . . . Boo me lol" Not everyone is after 6 packs and massive cocks hun. | |||
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"I'll deffo do more to get myself out and about but i gotta be honest im startin to feel like im wastin my time on fab, just viewed the guys in my area and theyre all sooooo much fitter than me all got 6 packs nd massive cocks. . . . Boo me lol" Rubbish, your body looks fine to me and to be honest, being old and not that slim any more, I don't want fit, and a personality is so much more important too. Having a massive cock isn't the be and end all of sex but if you think that, you are not yet mature are you? | |||
"Hmmm suppose ur right just feels a bit intimidating seein "the competition" all lookin like chiseled statues when i look like a lump of playdough lmao "Chiselled statues would intimidate the hell out of me. Why would they want to meet lumpy old me? Nah, stick with playdough. Can play with it much more.  | |||
"Hmmm suppose ur right just feels a bit intimidating seein "the competition" all lookin like chiseled statues when i look like a lump of playdough lmao
Chiselled statues would intimidate the hell out of me. Why would they want to meet lumpy old me? Nah, stick with playdough. Can play with it much more. " x | |||
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"Hmmm suppose ur right just feels a bit intimidating seein "the competition" all lookin like chiseled statues when i look like a lump of playdough lmao "My friend, I am far from chiseled, personality lasts longer than viagra! Remember that, as for cock size, we average guys should stick together (not literally, that would be wrong, well for me, wrong (avoids the bi-guys stares!) | |||
"Hmmm suppose ur right just feels a bit intimidating seein "the competition" all lookin like chiseled statues when i look like a lump of playdough lmao
My friend, I am far from chiseled, personality lasts longer than viagra! Remember that, as for cock size, we average guys should stick together (not literally, that would be wrong, well for me, wrong (avoids the bi-guys stares!)
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"Although after doing just that with the singer on Saturday I am going to contradict myself "i hope he turned the mike off fust like | |||
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"Although after doing just that with the singer on Saturday I am going to contradict myself i hope he turned the mike off fust like "Yeah he left his mic there as we were not taking him home to play karaoke | |||
"I'll deffo do more to get myself out and about but i gotta be honest im startin to feel like im wastin my time on fab, just viewed the guys in my area and theyre all sooooo much fitter than me all got 6 packs nd massive cocks. . . . Boo me lol" * walks off to plan trip * | |||
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"Have you tried going out and meeting people??
Another annoying, smart arsed comment covered up by the use of a smiley.
Half of the fun and excitement of swinging is that you don't 'go out and meet'. That's the whole point of the site. Get clued in.
And as for the actual problem posted in the thread, maybe you need to re-evaluate the content of your profile. There's never anything wrong with a revamp now and then."
So the thousands who go to socials every year are wasting their time...i didnt get that memo | |||
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"Just want to clarify that the message with the smiley was not intended to be sarcastic in any way, to anyone, it was a genuine question. " Why do you need to explain, anyone with a gram of intellingence (or ounce for those not on metric) would know it was a question by the use of the ? 
And hey, even if it was not meant to be sarcastic it made me chuckle as i was thinking along similar lines, and also about moving to another area! | |||
"Ive messaged litterally everyone in my area that i would be interested in over the last few months and not a single person has replied, in many cases the messages are either deleted unread or remain unread, and now i dont know what to do! Im not "punching above my weight" and im not desperate so wont just meet anyone but its getting really frustrating. I understand theres ALOT of guys on here to choose from but i thought at least one person would like me. It shouldnt be this hard "I'd meet you if I wasn't too old and you were nearer However I will say the only thing that would put me off a little on your profile is you haven't ticked any of the interests boxes so I don't have a clue really what it is your in to | |||
"Have you tried going out and meeting people??
Another annoying, smart arsed comment covered up by the use of a smiley.
Half of the fun and excitement of swinging is that you don't 'go out and meet'. That's the whole point of the site. Get clued in.
"see.. that for me is as condescending as you claim the post you were offended by was... your view isn't the only view.. an example of this would be the Social which has been set up in YOUR town.. so to be fair, for a fair amount of people "going out and meeting" is a part of the site... it may not be the way that you do it... but it is the way that others do.. and I think you have been unfair!!! | |||
I tip my hat to you sir! | |||
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"To be honest ive heard a few times on the forum that regularly changing profiles piss people off a bit cos after the advice ur sayin wat people wanna hear not wat u origonally thought was a good representation of urself. As for socials, although i do like the privacy of my home for meets i would like to meet new people but like i said money is a problem at the moment and im annoyed that 3 of my verifications have gone cos those people arent playing here anymore. Also its been mentioned i shud look outside my age range, thats not gonna happen, others wouldnt change their preferences just to get laid i dnt c why i shud either. Not being rude or ageist its just my preference. " Its not necessarily about changing your preference, age should be a guideline but not a deal breaker! We have met people on here who are 50+ but in better shape than some 20 year olds! I myself am 45 but am in better shape than I was 15 years ago, I would also say that have a much younger attitude to life than some 35 year olds I know! Keep trying, but like everyone else is saying you need to 'get out there' in other ways, forums, chat rooms, socials, generally become part of the scene! | |||
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"I've had the same problem mate,just got to be patient it's really hard for us guys on here and easy for women!" yes its hard just one thing i dont do on as forum is moan about it | |||
"I've had the same problem mate,just got to be patient it's really hard for us guys on here and easy for women!yes its hard just one thing i dont do on as forum is moan about it" Not a very clever comment to make I agree, and considering 2 meets in 4 months, I would think most blokes would consider that quite good! | |||
"I've had the same problem mate,just got to be patient it's really hard for us guys on here and easy for women!yes its hard just one thing i dont do on as forum is moan about it Not a very clever comment to make I agree, and considering 2 meets in 4 months, I would think most blokes would consider that quite good!" you would be correct | |||
"I've had the same problem mate,just got to be patient it's really hard for us guys on here and easy for women!yes its hard just one thing i dont do on as forum is moan about it Not a very clever comment to make I agree, and considering 2 meets in 4 months, I would think most blokes would consider that quite good!you would be correct" I'm a woman, I usually am! | |||
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"Keep trying, but like everyone else is saying you need to 'get out there' in other ways, forums, chat rooms, socials, generally become part of the scene!" Completely agree with this. Getting out there makes this real. It can get scary, but anyone can find their own way with a little perseverance. | |||
"Keep trying, but like everyone else is saying you need to 'get out there' in other ways, forums, chat rooms, socials, generally become part of the scene! Completely agree with this. Getting out there makes this real. It can get scary, but anyone can find their own way with a little perseverance." Lots of really great advice guys thanks and _abio again you are the yoda of fab thanks for the advice just wanna say though im not really moaning at the end of the day this section of the forum is for help and advice thats what im after i swear! | |||
"I've had the same problem mate,just got to be patient it's really hard for us guys on here and easy for women!" It's not hard for men here at all. That's just a rumour that unsuccessful people try and spread to make each other feel better. | |||
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"Its not necessarily about changing your preference, age should be a guideline but not a deal breaker! We have met people on here who are 50+ but in better shape than some 20 year olds! I myself am 45 but am in better shape than I was 15 years ago, I would also say that have a much younger attitude to life than some 35 year olds I know! Keep trying, but like everyone else is saying you need to 'get out there' in other ways, forums, chat rooms, socials, generally become part of the scene!" Have to agree, and its going to clubs that has made me see this... On the self condition, since starting to get into this site and swinging take much better care of myself. | |||
"Ive messaged litterally everyone in my area that i would be interested in over the last few months and not a single person has replied, in many cases the messages are either deleted unread or remain unread, and now i dont know what to do!" A couple of comments, and feel free to ignore, and no disrepect is meant, even if my choice of words is wrong. Photo wise, the 1st one, you look 26, though the chest hair might be putting some off. Men like women clean shaven, and ladies correct me if wrong, but get impression less hair is better on men, i.e. trimmed at least. The two office looking pictures do little, and if its those pictures sent out it might not help on quick judgements. Before the sun vanishes totally, go out for a walk and get a good shot or two clothed, a self timer on camera helps, if no helping third hand around. Maybe an odd cheeky shot of your buns or guns if worthy of a picture. I won't dissect the profile text, as hardly a saint in that area myself. Like many I can forum post, chat in real life, but given a describe yourself area then I go all tongue tied. | |||
"Ive messaged litterally everyone in my area that i would be interested in over the last few months and not a single person has replied, in many cases the messages are either deleted unread or remain unread, and now i dont know what to do! Im not "punching above my weight" and im not desperate so wont just meet anyone but its getting really frustrating. I understand theres ALOT of guys on here to choose from but i thought at least one person would like me. It shouldnt be this hard "i have just looked at the profile and have no problems with the photos or the profile if u was close to my area i would message you 100% x | |||
"Ive messaged litterally everyone in my area that i would be interested in over the last few months and not a single person has replied, in many cases the messages are either deleted unread or remain unread, and now i dont know what to do! A couple of comments, and feel free to ignore, and no disrepect is meant, even if my choice of words is wrong. Photo wise, the 1st one, you look 26, though the chest hair might be putting some off. Men like women clean shaven, and ladies correct me if wrong, but get impression less hair is better on men, i.e. trimmed at least. The two office looking pictures do little, and if its those pictures sent out it might not help on quick judgements. Before the sun vanishes totally, go out for a walk and get a good shot or two clothed, a self timer on camera helps, if no helping third hand around. Maybe an odd cheeky shot of your buns or guns if worthy of a picture. I won't dissect the profile text, as hardly a saint in that area myself. Like many I can forum post, chat in real life, but given a describe yourself area then I go all tongue tied. " being honest here i prefer the ops photos and profile to yours | |||
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"being honest here i prefer the ops photos and profile to yours" No offence taken, actually a thank you for the honesty. Goes over to camera and gives it a stern talking to... | |||
"Nothing wrong with chest hair... the pectoral fur maketh a man
Wolf
"Pectoral fur lmao classic | |||
"Nothing wrong with chest hair... the pectoral fur maketh a man
Wolf
"Mr is in complete agreement with that being the owner of a fine set of pectoral fur himself | |||
