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Seemingly unspoken new law on swinging and dogging,who's?etiquett
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We are numerous years experienced swingers cum doggers"Old skool"weve seen so many people cum&go on the scene&many changes,not allways for the better,things were so much simpler before the law of ettiquette was introduced by&this is the Question who?&who empowered them selves to decide how one should go about things when having sexy fun,whats right for one may not be right for others,for us their is one moralistic code of conduct,No means No,spoken of course&the rest of ones preferences or non
Preferences talked about before&during fun,for us the art of comunication part of erotic fun&fantasy,call it good aural if you like&were it is couple&single,it makes things more relaxed if lady,makes her likes and dislikes know before&during play,always allowing for things could change&tactfully put of course,e.g after an intense orgasam my wifes pussy is to sensitive to be touched again for a while to which she has no qualms about letting who ever know,yet some think they are an exception,which brings us back to No means No! Do others find new cumers to the scene are confused by conflicting opinions "ettiquete"we say fuck the ettiquete and any one else that talks with us in the right manner,may get what they want?any conflicting opinions wede be interested to hear,its nice to share~go with the flow and have good vibes together
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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I don't think it's etiquette that has diminished over the past few years.
I've noticed a distinct lack of respect from the newer, younger swingers.
For instance. When I was a single women, if I saw a man I liked, I would talk to the woman. If a couple saw me and they liked me, the woman would talk to me.
As a couple, single men talked to and gained the permission of the man to approach me.......etc.
Now it seems to be a free for all.
We were in a club the other day and hubby went off and played with a couple. No problem with that, except the woman completely blanked me afterwards and refused to look at me. Embarrassing for her hubby as he came and said thank you for me lending my hubby to them.
Other couples has sent the woman in to speak to Jason with no thought for me and the single blokes think it's ok to just paw you without even saying hi. We've even had single women pounce on him in the jacuzzi without so much as an 'hello' to me.
Swinging seems to revolve every few years between good and bad, respectful and disrespectful, odd couples and decent couples.
I'm just hoping the lack of respect stage will be over soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple we show respect in who we speak to and we r young so not all young swingers are disrespectfull though there r many who r and spoils it for all other young respectfull people on ere  |
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"We are numerous years experienced swingers cum doggers"Old skool"weve seen so many people cum&go on the scene&many changes,not allways for the better,things were so much simpler before the law of ettiquette was introduced by&this is the Question who?&who empowered them selves to decide how one should go about things when having sexy fun,whats right for one may not be right for others,for us their is one moralistic code of conduct,No means No,spoken of course&the rest of ones preferences or non
Preferences talked about before&during fun,for us the art of comunication part of erotic fun&fantasy,call it good aural if you like&were it is couple&single,it makes things more relaxed if lady,makes her likes and dislikes know before&during play,always allowing for things could change&tactfully put of course,e.g after an intense orgasam my wifes pussy is to sensitive to be touched again for a while to which she has no qualms about letting who ever know,yet some think they are an exception,which brings us back to No means No! Do others find new cumers to the scene are confused by conflicting opinions "ettiquete"we say fuck the ettiquete and any one else that talks with us in the right manner,may get what they want?any conflicting opinions wede be interested to hear,its nice to share~go with the flow and have good vibes together
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"I don't think it's etiquette that has diminished over the past few years.
I've noticed a distinct lack of respect from the newer, younger swingers.
For instance. When I was a single women, if I saw a man I liked, I would talk to the woman. If a couple saw me and they liked me, the woman would talk to me.
As a couple, single men talked to and gained the permission of the man to approach me.......etc.
Now it seems to be a free for all.
We were in a club the other day and hubby went off and played with a couple. No problem with that, except the woman completely blanked me afterwards and refused to look at me. Embarrassing for her hubby as he came and said thank you for me lending my hubby to them.
Other couples has sent the woman in to speak to Jason with no thought for me and the single blokes think it's ok to just paw you without even saying hi. We've even had single women pounce on him in the jacuzzi without so much as an 'hello' to me.
Swinging seems to revolve every few years between good and bad, respectful and disrespectful, odd couples and decent couples.
I'm just hoping the lack of respect stage will be over soon."
I do wonder if we are just lucky that the paid parties we go to are nothing like this. Everyone is polite and very sociable. Couples chat to couples. As we dont play separately or even swap neither of us would take kindly to being lept on in a spa or anywhere else and they would certainly be put in their place if they tried! |
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As a woman on this site that uses it for my personal pleasure I find it so frustrating that some men can't string a sentence together and the only sentence is fancy a shag.. Yes I do fancy a shag but with a worthwhile person and not one that can't simulate me brain before me fanny... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only really had 2 blokes misbehave in a club; the one tried to get me into a room when I had only just arrived, seemed to think massaging (poorly) my shoulders on the way down the stairs was the best chat up line ever and on another occasion, i was playing in the cinema when a guy asked if he could fuck me, had a condom already, i said no as my pussy was getting a good seeing to
As to dogging, its not something I do so cant comment |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I read the OP before I went to bed.. and thought, I bet they are gone by the morning.
I knew when the I saw the way it had been written, people would comment.
Great reply Madchick.
to the OP... I think there are some tat think it is a free for all when out dogging in a club.. probably more in a club as some forget they paid for 'entry' into a club but 'entry' into another human beings body. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"..things were so much simpler before the law of ettiquette was introduced by&this is the Question who?&who empowered them selves to decide how one should go about things when having sexy fun....
....Do others find new cumers to the scene are confused by conflicting opinions "ettiquete"we say fuck the ettiquete ....
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I'm confused! The OP seems to be suggesting that there is now MORE etiquette... but then he goes on to describe the usual courteous approach (preferences respected, open communication, no means no, etc).
If he really means that there is now a REDUCED standard of etiquette, I can only say that I haven't experienced it, either at the club I use or in home meets.
But then again, I pick my playmates carefully  |
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The same as everything in life, those that have manners and respect and those that dont. We do not find it the younger generation to be honest, there are some really disrespectfull older med and couples, but as I said no different to the normal world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think it's etiquette that has diminished over the past few years.
I've noticed a distinct lack of respect from the newer, younger swingers.
For instance. When I was a single women, if I saw a man I liked, I would talk to the woman. If a couple saw me and they liked me, the woman would talk to me.
As a couple, single men talked to and gained the permission of the man to approach me.......etc.
Now it seems to be a free for all.
We were in a club the other day and hubby went off and played with a couple. No problem with that, except the woman completely blanked me afterwards and refused to look at me. Embarrassing for her hubby as he came and said thank you for me lending my hubby to them.
Other couples has sent the woman in to speak to Jason with no thought for me and the single blokes think it's ok to just paw you without even saying hi. We've even had single women pounce on him in the jacuzzi without so much as an 'hello' to me.
Swinging seems to revolve every few years between good and bad, respectful and disrespectful, odd couples and decent couples.
I'm just hoping the lack of respect stage will be over soon."
I have to actually agree with what Maddy says. When I swung as part of a couple I did not like it if my other half was passed over or ignored by a male who wanted my attention. And vice versa it used to piss me off if females did the same. I used to find on MSN that talking to a female they would be fine until they knew it was me talking to them and not my other half. I used to say to my OH, well you fuck them as I am not interested, if they cannot hold a conversation with me how the hell do they expect me to fuck them. Its about having respect for a couple as a couple.
If there is a guy or woman that I would play with, I like to make sure that I speak to their other half first. Just common decency. |
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There is a lot of sense spoken in this topic.I agree that everyones boundaries are different. Whatis offensive to one may be pleasurable to another. Personally I don't touch unless invited. Yes I do lose out to the more pushy chaps, but hope the ones I do get to play with rememebr me for the right reasons. |
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"Seems they didnt want to know after all.....
...one less for the moans and rants department to process.  "
Bloody layabouts in that department never do any work anyway.i complained 3 weeks ago about the failure of the site to send a bi woman round and i haven't heard anything back! |
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"Seems they didnt want to know after all.....
...one less for the moans and rants department to process.
Bloody layabouts in that department never do any work anyway.i complained 3 weeks ago about the failure of the site to send a bi woman round and i haven't heard anything back!"
Well if I can't have two bi-women you're not bloody having one that's for sure!!! |
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"Seems they didnt want to know after all.....
...one less for the moans and rants department to process.
Bloody layabouts in that department never do any work anyway.i complained 3 weeks ago about the failure of the site to send a bi woman round and i haven't heard anything back!
Well if I can't have two bi-women you're not bloody having one that's for sure!!! "
Typical, its all me me me! |
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"Seems they didnt want to know after all.....
...one less for the moans and rants department to process.
Bloody layabouts in that department never do any work anyway.i complained 3 weeks ago about the failure of the site to send a bi woman round and i haven't heard anything back!
Well if I can't have two bi-women you're not bloody having one that's for sure!!!
Typical, its all me me me! "
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
Cyprus |
With respect (given and received) comes the acceptance of each other's own personal swinging etiquette.
If all single men and women who were looking for couples actually spoke to both parties sensibly, they would gain all the approval they needed, along with knowing exactly was expected and required.
The same goes for singles looking for singles, couples looking for couples and couples looking for singles.
Surely, if everyone treated other swingers, be it on here, at clubs, parties or home meets with respect from the beginning and only took it away if it was not deserved, then the whole swinging community would perhaps get back to where it was a few years ago....... a happy and peaceful little place to play.
A please, a thank you and the wait for approval before diving in would go along way to showing the other person(s) that you were serious and happy to respect all boundaries. |
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I don't even touch my FB in a club unless I get the green light. I think I might be a bit too much of a gentleman sometimes! 
