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Introducing girlfriend to male anal fun
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hi.
i'm wanting to introduce my girlfriend to having anal fun with me, i.e. her playing with my ass.
i've suggested it to her once when d*unk but she laughed and called me gay.
does anyone have any advice on the matter? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"out of interest are you straight or bi?cant tell because your profile is hidden"
Just because a man want anal play with his girlfriend doesn't make him bi |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i'm not so much bi just like the feeling of anal.
the night that i told her about it she was wasted but was up for it at the time.
in the morning she was more negative about it, i.e. with the gay comments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I broached the me being bi topic with my ex, he was too worried about me turning gay to invite another girl into bed with us. I'd say if she's an attitude like that it's unlikely to change.. |
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By *BW38jWoman
over a year ago
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"i'm not so much bi just like the feeling of anal.
the night that i told her about it she was wasted but was up for it at the time.
in the morning she was more negative about it, i.e. with the gay comments."
i suspect the feeling in a man is very sensual as it probably connects with the prostate area which some men find erotic. gay has nothing to do with it its an intimate hing you want your gf to consider. but dont push her if she isnt in to it then thats just how it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All my playmates are straight but enjoy anal play. They'd be surprised someone thought them gay just because they were comfortable with me enjoying every inch of their bodies! Especially their bums...hmmm!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Off course your not male g spot is up the bum gives a more intense orgasm. With oral pleasure its not just about the dick you have to work the balls too and behind them too. Suggest light rimming and take it from there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the best thing you can do is have a sober chat about it and explain how you feel.
if it's not for her then so be it.
as long as she know's it's something you want to try then maybe in time she might mellow to the idea but i personally wouldnt expect her to do anything she wasn't happy with.
people can change given time and space.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know how long she has been your girlfriend, how strong the relationship is or how long you see it carrying on into the future.
There is no quick fix.
Things grow over time and there are more people loved and encouraged into positive behaviour than are ever beaten out of it.
Don't take the gay comments to heart they could just be a reflection of where she is in her sexual learning or even personal development at the moment.
What would work if you have the time is simple education.
NO! Don't sit down and show her a book and don't rush.
Ask her for advice about reaching the female g spot so you can increase her pleasure. After a really good time ( possible post sex pillow talk ) explain to her where the male g spot is and how much pleasure it gives to some males. Don't even bother to ask for it. In fact - cuddle silently or sleep.
I don't have time to explain each step that you might take.... but you get the picture of pathways.
The only thing im sure of is if someone who has not accepted an idea yet is pressurised ( that includes even hearing it constantly ) they will react negatively. The only thing they have to save their head from banging is NO.
Take it easy and never when a woman is wasted .... that's vile and will only lead to shame and embarrasment when she sobers up as she didn't accept the idea when she was fully in control.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know how long she has been your girlfriend, how strong the relationship is or how long you see it carrying on into the future.
There is no quick fix.
Things grow over time and there are more people loved and encouraged into positive behaviour than are ever beaten out of it.
Don't take the gay comments to heart they could just be a reflection of where she is in her sexual learning or even personal development at the moment.
What would work if you have the time is simple education.
NO! Don't sit down and show her a book and don't rush.
Ask her for advice about reaching the female g spot so you can increase her pleasure. After a really good time ( possible post sex pillow talk ) explain to her where the male g spot is and how much pleasure it gives to some males. Don't even bother to ask for it. In fact - cuddle silently or sleep.
I don't have time to explain each step that you might take.... but you get the picture of pathways.
The only thing im sure of is if someone who has not accepted an idea yet is pressurised ( that includes even hearing it constantly ) they will react negatively. The only thing they have to save their head from banging is NO.
Take it easy and never when a woman is wasted .... that's vile and will only lead to shame and embarrasment when she sobers up as she didn't accept the idea when she was fully in control.
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Well nothing more can be said on that subject.
Fantastic advice!
Hope the OP takes it! |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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"hi.
i'm wanting to introduce my girlfriend to having anal fun with me, i.e. her playing with my ass.
i've suggested it to her once when d*unk but she laughed and called me gay.
does anyone have any advice on the matter?"
As a 19 year old with a single male profile..... I think you have more issues than just anal to sort out with your girlfriend.
As for the anal, don't push it, she may never be ready but thats her choice and something you may have to live with.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After reading your profile and Reading again it's says your seeking tv/ts and bi buddhism are you confused? Does your girlfriend know you swing!
It's all very well this being your fantasy but it probably isn't hers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"After reading your profile and Reading again it's says your seeking tv/ts and bi buddhism are you confused? Does your girlfriend know you swing!
It's all very well this being your fantasy but it probably isn't hers."
the profile was created before we started going out.
i'm neither bi or straight at this moment. just 19 
the profile has been hidden for the past cpl of months. considering that i'm asking for people's advice i thought that it would be fair to show my profile.
i havent looked at it since i was last on here properly. will be updating it very soon.
concerning all the advice that has been given so far; thankyou. It is appreciated i will keep people posted on how things go and i'm still keen to see everyones opinions on this matter.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It the profile was created before you was going out why you still on here? Not having a go just if your trying to make a go of this being on here won't help x |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
Cyprus |
"i havent been on here for quite a while.
this isnt really a topic that i can ask my friends about. this seemed like the best place to come to."
Well done for an honest answer about the topic.
I would go with what Granny put. But do be prepared for rejection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"out of interest are you straight or bi?cant tell because your profile is hidden
Just because a man want anal play with his girlfriend doesn't make him bi"
never said it did,his profile was hidden yesterday so wanted to know the facts before ggiving any advice,it does say in profile ts/tv so maybe a little curiosity there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After reading your profile and Reading again it's says your seeking tv/ts and bi buddhism are you confused? Does your girlfriend know you swing!
It's all very well this being your fantasy but it probably isn't hers.
the profile was created before we started going out.
i'm neither bi or straight at this moment. just 19
the profile has been hidden for the past cpl of months. considering that i'm asking for people's advice i thought that it would be fair to show my profile.
i havent looked at it since i was last on here properly. will be updating it very soon.
concerning all the advice that has been given so far; thankyou. It is appreciated i will keep people posted on how things go and i'm still keen to see everyones opinions on this matter.
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Uhmmmmm I hope all goes well but for some reason I really don't want keeping up to date whether you got anal or not .... x Ta x |
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"i havent been on here for quite a while.
this isnt really a topic that i can ask my friends about. this seemed like the best place to come to."
Yeah, that makes sense, depending on your friends.
I think the way that I'd approach it would be to plan lots of time talking about sex, so that you create the right culture for topics such as this to be covered. Good communication is needed really for relationships to work well anyway, so ensuring that sex is covered: and this can be away from the bedroom, at times where there wouldn't be any perceived pressure to have sex.
What you could also do is encourage more touching, including massage, so that your bodies do some of the talking. If you both explore each others bodies, this could include her touching your ass, potentially using fingers to penetrate. If you give her feedback on how it feels, then this will encourage her to do more. Ultimately you could lead this to the use of toys on each other.
Some people have an attitude issue, thinking anything to do with the ass is 'dirty', whilst some do have the antiquated belief that it can only be gay or bi guys who have anal parts that can receive sexual pleasure. Of course, all guy's bodies are primarily the same, even if every person is unique, in what they find sensuous and erotic. If your girlfriend is someone who has such belief systems, then it may be like banging your head against a brick wall. That said, she may be open minded, and it was a first, almost autopilot retort.
Talk, encourage more physical touching, including rimming potentially too. You may have to settle for masturbation using a dildo, if you want to continue to get intense sexual pleasure this way, although having another penetrate you offers you a whole other level of pleasure. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If the girlfriend wants it's up to her to say OP some gals just don't like it and she could be that person "
well he has now had some good advice on how to approach this with his girlfriend
so i wish the OP well  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"If the girlfriend wants it's up to her to say OP some gals just don't like it and she could be that person
well he has now had some good advice on how to approach this with his girlfriend
so i wish the OP well "
Totally agree and good on him for asking.
Enjoy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ask her for advice about reaching the female g spot so you can increase her pleasure. After a really good time ( possible post sex pillow talk ) explain to her where the male g spot is and how much pleasure it gives to some males. Don't even bother to ask for it.
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...and say, "Oh yes, fancy trying this on?" as you pull out the largest strap on known to man!
*not wishing to take anything away from the quoted post, as teh other posters have said, it's all sound stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I`ve found gentle play during 69 usually gets a response if done with care and feeling.
Some women have copied what`s being done to them then it`s up to the pair of you have far you take it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone.
i had my girlfriend stay over on saturday night (have only just been able to get online hence the late response).
i used all of your advice (excluding the huge strap-on ) we had some fun, then after when we were both relaxing with each other we started talking about fantasies. i brought my fantasy of anal up again and her response was to ask me if i was gay; after convincing her that i'm not, she told me how she is simply not comfortable with such types of fun.
later on i tried rimming her to help her understand how it can be pleasurable but after i had done it she asked me to brush my teeth . . . not quite how i had planned it to go :P
i'm not going to pressure her into doing something that she's not comfortable with.
such a shame though as i would have loved to have been able to include anal in the fun that i have.
thanks for all the advice that has been given by you all. i strongly appreciate it. |
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Sorry to hear it never worked out, you got a lot of advice and it seems your gf just associates ass play with dirt and kink ( which it can be ) don't give up though, keep talking to her, some things take years or just great timing |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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i'm not going to pressure her into doing something that she's not comfortable with.
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I think you are right not to pressure her, she obviously doesn't want ass play and no matter how much cajoling, if it doesn't turn her on, it doesn't turn her on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were speaking to someone last week who uses a strap on with her man and she said she finds it very empowering - so that's another angle you could try. |
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If she is only 19, then very likely the GF has fairly vanilla ideas, and they will develop and change over time.
With some people anal is still a taboo area, with others it is just part of normal play.
Take your time, enjoy the time you have together, and don't force the issue as it may drive a wedge between you. You have mentioned it, and let her drive the pace now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well when my hubby tried anal play with me i freaked out. he wanted me to play with a vibrator in his bum.I was in my 20s then. I am sorry to tell you it took 30 odd years for me to come round to anal play but now we enjoy it a lot. never say never but its something she may not enjoy. give it time and you never know what may happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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all about pushing envelopes ... in my case I love it and have had the pleasure on a couple of occasions - I guess it being so so special makes it even better not regular |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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lol when my hubby asked me to have anal sex with him i said sure babe when i can stick a strap on on and fuck you up your arse too :P
he hasnt asked since haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol when my hubby asked me to have anal sex with him i said sure babe when i can stick a strap on on and fuck you up your arse too :P
he hasnt asked since haha "
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By *AM2214Man
over a year ago
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"If the girlfriend wants it's up to her to say OP some gals just don't like it and she could be that person
well he has now had some good advice on how to approach this with his girlfriend
so i wish the OP well "
does that mean there is a gorgeous milf in the NW who likes to play with male bums |
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By *AM2214Man
over a year ago
Manchester Area |
"lol when my hubby asked me to have anal sex with him i said sure babe when i can stick a strap on on and fuck you up your arse too :P
he hasnt asked since haha "
whilst most of us responding would have our arses up in the air at the mere mention  |
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