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Very well written and good advice. I do think that if someone is continually encountering time wasters (whatever their definition of what that is as lets face it, everyone's varies) then they are probably doing something wrong. However, I do also think some people are just unlucky and seem to attract them like moths to a flame! I, like many others, have perfected (or as near to perfected as it can be) my selection process and it works very well for me. | |||
"common sense is all that's needed..." exactly... 3 words basic common sense... really not anything else needed | |||
"How to stop wasting YOUR time, you're wasting your time and not them (they're getting what they want). This guide is for people who are after genuine meets. This guide is not intended for you to use to go around accusing people of not being genuine users, you can report them to staff and let them deal with it if you feel they aren't genuine. This guide is for you to have an idea of whether or not you're being messed about online. It's written from the perspective of a female (me) as an online sex site user. I haven't had many time wasters wasting my time since i figured them out. Might be good for a guy to write one based on his perspective, even if some of it is pretty much the same advice? First things first; this site is classed a sex site by plenty of people, so remember that people do come on here for anything sexual and it might be something different to what you're looking for. Secondly; people do manipulate situations to get what they want, especially if it worked for them before. So by writing this guide it helps us get rid of them because it should mean THEY're wasting their time on here and not getting what they want any more. 1) My first advice for you is to calm down, lol might sound silly for me to say this but keep your cool ok. This way you can think clearly. So don't be desperate. Yeah that guy/girl is hot, funny and everything you'd love to fuck the shit out of but is he/she even genuine? 2) I think the main mistake people make is to tell a meet what they will get up to on the meet. Anyone explicitly looking for sex chat or cam chat will also likely try to move you to a phone app or cam app as soon as possible because they need your undivided attention so you can type back to them quickly. You can go to the app if you want to or stay on fab, whichever you decide to do here's some tips for what to do next. 2.a) You can say you like *sex/oral/have kinks etc* but don't be explicit about it otherwise you are giving them dirty chat and they're wanking on the other end of the conversation, if all they wanted was a wank then they're happy and you're left frustrated. So, if a person keeps pushing for more info on sexual details they can wank over then they are probably not looking to meet at this time. Instead of asking/talking about the meet they should be planning it. Keep all sex chat boring and all other chat interesting. You can also even avoid talking about sex if you want to, if someone asks what we're going to get up to on a meet i say i just want normal sex then if they push for more details i say i'm not into dirty chat, so they are clear that i don't want to talk about sex. 2.b) You could also put your interests into your profile so that the 'dirty chat' is on there. This might attract people who want dirty chat, but it also gives you an excuse not to talk about what you want as you can tell them to read your profile as it's all on there. 3. Trust your instincts. If you feel like someone isn't genuine then question them about it, in a polite way - no need to be rude or an arse about it. So again don't be desperate, keep your cool, and think clearly. If you feel they're messing you about either question them or block. You have no obligation to pander to anyone on here, you're here for yourself and to get what you want by meeting others who want to give you that. 4. Some people do genuinely like to take their time to meet others. They are not time wasters but, if you feel it's taking too long to arrange a meet then tell them that and say thanks for the time they've already spent on you but you're after something else. They might make excuses, you'll have to try and gauge whether you want to believe them or not and/or if it's worth investing any more time on them. 5. Be aware some people aren't good at rejecting others. They feel bad about it so although you might feel they are interested in you it is also possible they are just talking to you because they like talking or feel bad about rejecting you. It's also possible they aren't sure if they fancy you or not. You'll have to judge for yourself whether they like you or not, idk as i'm not in your conversations here. But again if you're not desperate and keeping it cool then it should be easy enough to work out. Saying that though, some people do unintentionally lead people on as well. This section is the hardest to work out but it is very unlikely they will arrange to meet you and not turn up, they will likely reject your offer to meet. 6. You can check out their pics by google image reverse search or using tinEye. It might be obvious they are fake pics, it might not though as some people do use the same pics on several sites or they might really be working in porn. Report to admin if you think they're fake and let them deal with it. 7. There are other ways of someone being a genuine profile or not but as a lot of genuine users also have profiles like this then i won't bother saying what to look out for as there's no point, but if i felt someone was messing me about and saw these pointers then i would think they're fake. 8. Only invest as much time and effort as you're willing to waste into getting a meet, that way if you don't get a meet or your meet doesn't turn up then you aren't left feeling let down or as frustrated. I take 10 mins to get ready for a meet, i've been lucky not to be let down but i hadn't wasted any time if i had been. I also tell other people i'm talking to that i've got a meet, most wish me a good time, some say they'll come over if my meet doesn't turn up - i've got back up plans. Make yourself a back up plan too, if you get yourself all done up for a meet and they don't turn up then use them, maybe head off out somewhere nice on your own to boost your confidence, you know you can be your own best company and can pamper yourself if you want to, plus by going out you're opening up your ability to meet others who might be into you. Some people even arrange their meets at a location where it won't matter if their meet turns up or not, they'll know have a good night anyway. The function of this site is to use it in a way that works for you. If it's failing for you then it will be something you're doing, hopefully this advice helps some of you. None of this advice is meant to offend. Probably i haven't got everything here, but hopefully it helps some of you. Those of you not getting replies, well i might do a guide for you too if i can be bothered lol. " | |||
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"How to stop wasting YOUR time, you're wasting your time and not them (they're getting what they want). This guide is for people who are after genuine meets. This guide is not intended for you to use to go around accusing people of not being genuine users, you can report them to staff and let them deal with it if you feel they aren't genuine. This guide is for you to have an idea of whether or not you're being messed about online. It's written from the perspective of a female (me) as an online sex site user. I haven't had many time wasters wasting my time since i figured them out. Might be good for a guy to write one based on his perspective, even if some of it is pretty much the same advice? First things first; this site is classed a sex site by plenty of people, so remember that people do come on here for anything sexual and it might be something different to what you're looking for. Secondly; people do manipulate situations to get what they want, especially if it worked for them before. So by writing this guide it helps us get rid of them because it should mean THEY're wasting their time on here and not getting what they want any more. 1) My first advice for you is to calm down, lol might sound silly for me to say this but keep your cool ok. This way you can think clearly. So don't be desperate. Yeah that guy/girl is hot, funny and everything you'd love to fuck the shit out of but is he/she even genuine? 2) I think the main mistake people make is to tell a meet what they will get up to on the meet. Anyone explicitly looking for sex chat or cam chat will also likely try to move you to a phone app or cam app as soon as possible because they need your undivided attention so you can type back to them quickly. You can go to the app if you want to or stay on fab, whichever you decide to do here's some tips for what to do next. 2.a) You can say you like *sex/oral/have kinks etc* but don't be explicit about it otherwise you are giving them dirty chat and they're wanking on the other end of the conversation, if all they wanted was a wank then they're happy and you're left frustrated. So, if a person keeps pushing for more info on sexual details they can wank over then they are probably not looking to meet at this time. Instead of asking/talking about the meet they should be planning it. Keep all sex chat boring and all other chat interesting. You can also even avoid talking about sex if you want to, if someone asks what we're going to get up to on a meet i say i just want normal sex then if they push for more details i say i'm not into dirty chat, so they are clear that i don't want to talk about sex. 2.b) You could also put your interests into your profile so that the 'dirty chat' is on there. This might attract people who want dirty chat, but it also gives you an excuse not to talk about what you want as you can tell them to read your profile as it's all on there. 3. Trust your instincts. If you feel like someone isn't genuine then question them about it, in a polite way - no need to be rude or an arse about it. So again don't be desperate, keep your cool, and think clearly. If you feel they're messing you about either question them or block. You have no obligation to pander to anyone on here, you're here for yourself and to get what you want by meeting others who want to give you that. 4. Some people do genuinely like to take their time to meet others. They are not time wasters but, if you feel it's taking too long to arrange a meet then tell them that and say thanks for the time they've already spent on you but you're after something else. They might make excuses, you'll have to try and gauge whether you want to believe them or not and/or if it's worth investing any more time on them. 5. Be aware some people aren't good at rejecting others. They feel bad about it so although you might feel they are interested in you it is also possible they are just talking to you because they like talking or feel bad about rejecting you. It's also possible they aren't sure if they fancy you or not. You'll have to judge for yourself whether they like you or not, idk as i'm not in your conversations here. But again if you're not desperate and keeping it cool then it should be easy enough to work out. Saying that though, some people do unintentionally lead people on as well. This section is the hardest to work out but it is very unlikely they will arrange to meet you and not turn up, they will likely reject your offer to meet. 6. You can check out their pics by google image reverse search or using tinEye. It might be obvious they are fake pics, it might not though as some people do use the same pics on several sites or they might really be working in porn. Report to admin if you think they're fake and let them deal with it. 7. There are other ways of someone being a genuine profile or not but as a lot of genuine users also have profiles like this then i won't bother saying what to look out for as there's no point, but if i felt someone was messing me about and saw these pointers then i would think they're fake. 8. Only invest as much time and effort as you're willing to waste into getting a meet, that way if you don't get a meet or your meet doesn't turn up then you aren't left feeling let down or as frustrated. I take 10 mins to get ready for a meet, i've been lucky not to be let down but i hadn't wasted any time if i had been. I also tell other people i'm talking to that i've got a meet, most wish me a good time, some say they'll come over if my meet doesn't turn up - i've got back up plans. Make yourself a back up plan too, if you get yourself all done up for a meet and they don't turn up then use them, maybe head off out somewhere nice on your own to boost your confidence, you know you can be your own best company and can pamper yourself if you want to, plus by going out you're opening up your ability to meet others who might be into you. Some people even arrange their meets at a location where it won't matter if their meet turns up or not, they'll know have a good night anyway. The function of this site is to use it in a way that works for you. If it's failing for you then it will be something you're doing, hopefully this advice helps some of you. None of this advice is meant to offend. Probably i haven't got everything here, but hopefully it helps some of you. Those of you not getting replies, well i might do a guide for you too if i can be bothered lol. Thank you for posting this. Most of these checks I have in place! Great advice, thank you again " | |||
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"It doesn't always work. we had been talking to a lady for several weeks. She wasn't an new profile, we knew some of her veries,Spoken on thephone, daily communication and contact on whats ap. Sorted a meet out. And at 5pm on the day( we were meeting at 8pm) she blocked us and has hidden her profile without a word. So sometimes no matter what, people will waste your time " If you ever work out why then maybe pass on that advice? But yeah i know it's not 100% foolproof, just noticed a lot of time wasting topics recently and figured it might help some of those people, plus i miss being HQ in forums so practicing. | |||
"common sense is all that's needed..." Exactly,all these people giving their so called wisdom to other adults. Or do some folk not have the ability to think for themselves any more. | |||
"How to stop wasting YOUR time, you're wasting your time and not them (they're getting what they want). This guide is for people who are after genuine meets. This guide is not intended for you to use to go around accusing people of not being genuine users, you can report them to staff and let them deal with it if you feel they aren't genuine. This guide is for you to have an idea of whether or not you're being messed about online. It's written from the perspective of a female (me) as an online sex site user. I haven't had many time wasters wasting my time since i figured them out. Might be good for a guy to write one based on his perspective, even if some of it is pretty much the same advice? First things first; this site is classed a sex site by plenty of people, so remember that people do come on here for anything sexual and it might be something different to what you're looking for. Secondly; people do manipulate situations to get what they want, especially if it worked for them before. So by writing this guide it helps us get rid of them because it should mean THEY're wasting their time on here and not getting what they want any more. 1) My first advice for you is to calm down, lol might sound silly for me to say this but keep your cool ok. This way you can think clearly. So don't be desperate. Yeah that guy/girl is hot, funny and everything you'd love to fuck the shit out of but is he/she even genuine? 2) I think the main mistake people make is to tell a meet what they will get up to on the meet. Anyone explicitly looking for sex chat or cam chat will also likely try to move you to a phone app or cam app as soon as possible because they need your undivided attention so you can type back to them quickly. You can go to the app if you want to or stay on fab, whichever you decide to do here's some tips for what to do next. 2.a) You can say you like *sex/oral/have kinks etc* but don't be explicit about it otherwise you are giving them dirty chat and they're wanking on the other end of the conversation, if all they wanted was a wank then they're happy and you're left frustrated. So, if a person keeps pushing for more info on sexual details they can wank over then they are probably not looking to meet at this time. Instead of asking/talking about the meet they should be planning it. Keep all sex chat boring and all other chat interesting. You can also even avoid talking about sex if you want to, if someone asks what we're going to get up to on a meet i say i just want normal sex then if they push for more details i say i'm not into dirty chat, so they are clear that i don't want to talk about sex. 2.b) You could also put your interests into your profile so that the 'dirty chat' is on there. This might attract people who want dirty chat, but it also gives you an excuse not to talk about what you want as you can tell them to read your profile as it's all on there. 3. Trust your instincts. If you feel like someone isn't genuine then question them about it, in a polite way - no need to be rude or an arse about it. So again don't be desperate, keep your cool, and think clearly. If you feel they're messing you about either question them or block. You have no obligation to pander to anyone on here, you're here for yourself and to get what you want by meeting others who want to give you that. 4. Some people do genuinely like to take their time to meet others. They are not time wasters but, if you feel it's taking too long to arrange a meet then tell them that and say thanks for the time they've already spent on you but you're after something else. They might make excuses, you'll have to try and gauge whether you want to believe them or not and/or if it's worth investing any more time on them. 5. Be aware some people aren't good at rejecting others. They feel bad about it so although you might feel they are interested in you it is also possible they are just talking to you because they like talking or feel bad about rejecting you. It's also possible they aren't sure if they fancy you or not. You'll have to judge for yourself whether they like you or not, idk as i'm not in your conversations here. But again if you're not desperate and keeping it cool then it should be easy enough to work out. Saying that though, some people do unintentionally lead people on as well. This section is the hardest to work out but it is very unlikely they will arrange to meet you and not turn up, they will likely reject your offer to meet. 6. You can check out their pics by google image reverse search or using tinEye. It might be obvious they are fake pics, it might not though as some people do use the same pics on several sites or they might really be working in porn. Report to admin if you think they're fake and let them deal with it. 7. There are other ways of someone being a genuine profile or not but as a lot of genuine users also have profiles like this then i won't bother saying what to look out for as there's no point, but if i felt someone was messing me about and saw these pointers then i would think they're fake. 8. Only invest as much time and effort as you're willing to waste into getting a meet, that way if you don't get a meet or your meet doesn't turn up then you aren't left feeling let down or as frustrated. I take 10 mins to get ready for a meet, i've been lucky not to be let down but i hadn't wasted any time if i had been. I also tell other people i'm talking to that i've got a meet, most wish me a good time, some say they'll come over if my meet doesn't turn up - i've got back up plans. Make yourself a back up plan too, if you get yourself all done up for a meet and they don't turn up then use them, maybe head off out somewhere nice on your own to boost your confidence, you know you can be your own best company and can pamper yourself if you want to, plus by going out you're opening up your ability to meet others who might be into you. Some people even arrange their meets at a location where it won't matter if their meet turns up or not, they'll know have a good night anyway. The function of this site is to use it in a way that works for you. If it's failing for you then it will be something you're doing, hopefully this advice helps some of you. None of this advice is meant to offend. Probably i haven't got everything here, but hopefully it helps some of you. Those of you not getting replies, well i might do a guide for you too if i can be bothered lol. " You are so if on with this This is how I approach fab messages I'm not saying it is fool proof because the odd timewasters still slips through But as someone said common sense plays a big factor to | |||
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"common sense is all that's needed... Exactly,all these people giving their so called wisdom to other adults. Or do some folk not have the ability to think for themselves any more." i think people use the tools as a crutch to lean on instead of using basic common sense....or use them as an excuse | |||
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hours of my life disappear in the forums lol | |||
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"This is a swinging site. When as it become a sex site" So what you mean there is no sex involved, instead a social at nandos with a coffe?. | |||
"This is a swinging site. When as it become a sex siteSo what you mean there is no sex involved, instead a social at nandos with a coffe?." Swinging is more than just sex | |||
"This is a swinging site. When as it become a sex siteSo what you mean there is no sex involved, instead a social at nandos with a coffe?. Swinging is more than just sex" This is my opinion too, good times in and out of sex | |||
"This is a swinging site. When as it become a sex siteSo what you mean there is no sex involved, instead a social at nandos with a coffe?. Swinging is more than just sex" Yes a mixture of things | |||
"This is a swinging site. When as it become a sex siteSo what you mean there is no sex involved, instead a social at nandos with a coffe?. Swinging is more than just sex" Some people use it just to hook up for sex and never meet again. | |||
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"It doesn't always work. we had been talking to a lady for several weeks. She wasn't an new profile, we knew some of her veries,Spoken on thephone, daily communication and contact on whats ap. Sorted a meet out. And at 5pm on the day( we were meeting at 8pm) she blocked us and has hidden her profile without a word. So sometimes no matter what, people will waste your time If you ever work out why then maybe pass on that advice? But yeah i know it's not 100% foolproof, just noticed a lot of time wasting topics recently and figured it might help some of those people, plus i miss being HQ in forums so practicing." It is good advice but sadly some will alwaya slip through | |||
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"It is good advice. The problem with "common sense" that people keep talking about is, unfortunately it's not that common."
I quite agree. | |||
"It is good advice. The problem with "common sense" that people keep talking about is, unfortunately it's not that common." Yeah thanks. Plus i still get people messing me about (kind of), i've been talking long term to several guys who go on about meeting but nothing comes of it, i just like talking to them anyway and take it as we won't actually meet so don't focus on that part of the conversation when it comes up and it doesn't bother me, i take it as we just chat. | |||
You can also add about pic collectors too: after asking for a face pic, then they want a naked pic. That's where it stops for me. | |||
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"Bump. fuck the police. "I arrest you madam, anything you say may be used in evidence | |||
"This is a great guide but unfortunately it will eventually disappear in the black hole of the forum. What would be helpful is to have a facility of "sticky" posts on here that would be permanently available." | |||
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"How to stop wasting YOUR time, you're wasting your time and not them (they're getting what they want). This guide is for people who are after genuine meets. This guide is not intended for you to use to go around accusing people of not being genuine users, you can report them to staff and let them deal with it if you feel they aren't genuine. This guide is for you to have an idea of whether or not you're being messed about online. It's written from the perspective of a female (me) as an online sex site user. I haven't had many time wasters wasting my time since i figured them out. Might be good for a guy to write one based on his perspective, even if some of it is pretty much the same advice? First things first; this site is classed a sex site by plenty of people, so remember that people do come on here for anything sexual and it might be something different to what you're looking for. Secondly; people do manipulate situations to get what they want, especially if it worked for them before. So by writing this guide it helps us get rid of them because it should mean THEY're wasting their time on here and not getting what they want any more. 1) My first advice for you is to calm down, lol might sound silly for me to say this but keep your cool ok. This way you can think clearly. So don't be desperate. Yeah that guy/girl is hot, funny and everything you'd love to fuck the shit out of but is he/she even genuine? 2) I think the main mistake people make is to tell a meet what they will get up to on the meet. Anyone explicitly looking for sex chat or cam chat will also likely try to move you to a phone app or cam app as soon as possible because they need your undivided attention so you can type back to them quickly. You can go to the app if you want to or stay on fab, whichever you decide to do here's some tips for what to do next. 2.a) You can say you like *sex/oral/have kinks etc* but don't be explicit about it otherwise you are giving them dirty chat and they're wanking on the other end of the conversation, if all they wanted was a wank then they're happy and you're left frustrated. So, if a person keeps pushing for more info on sexual details they can wank over then they are probably not looking to meet at this time. Instead of asking/talking about the meet they should be planning it. Keep all sex chat boring and all other chat interesting. You can also even avoid talking about sex if you want to, if someone asks what we're going to get up to on a meet i say i just want normal sex then if they push for more details i say i'm not into dirty chat, so they are clear that i don't want to talk about sex. 2.b) You could also put your interests into your profile so that the 'dirty chat' is on there. This might attract people who want dirty chat, but it also gives you an excuse not to talk about what you want as you can tell them to read your profile as it's all on there. 3. Trust your instincts. If you feel like someone isn't genuine then question them about it, in a polite way - no need to be rude or an arse about it. So again don't be desperate, keep your cool, and think clearly. If you feel they're messing you about either question them or block. You have no obligation to pander to anyone on here, you're here for yourself and to get what you want by meeting others who want to give you that. 4. Some people do genuinely like to take their time to meet others. They are not time wasters but, if you feel it's taking too long to arrange a meet then tell them that and say thanks for the time they've already spent on you but you're after something else. They might make excuses, you'll have to try and gauge whether you want to believe them or not and/or if it's worth investing any more time on them. 5. Be aware some people aren't good at rejecting others. They feel bad about it so although you might feel they are interested in you it is also possible they are just talking to you because they like talking or feel bad about rejecting you. It's also possible they aren't sure if they fancy you or not. You'll have to judge for yourself whether they like you or not, idk as i'm not in your conversations here. But again if you're not desperate and keeping it cool then it should be easy enough to work out. Saying that though, some people do unintentionally lead people on as well. This section is the hardest to work out but it is very unlikely they will arrange to meet you and not turn up, they will likely reject your offer to meet. 6. You can check out their pics by google image reverse search or using tinEye. It might be obvious they are fake pics, it might not though as some people do use the same pics on several sites or they might really be working in porn. Report to admin if you think they're fake and let them deal with it. 7. There are other ways of someone being a genuine profile or not but as a lot of genuine users also have profiles like this then i won't bother saying what to look out for as there's no point, but if i felt someone was messing me about and saw these pointers then i would think they're fake. 8. Only invest as much time and effort as you're willing to waste into getting a meet, that way if you don't get a meet or your meet doesn't turn up then you aren't left feeling let down or as frustrated. I take 10 mins to get ready for a meet, i've been lucky not to be let down but i hadn't wasted any time if i had been. I also tell other people i'm talking to that i've got a meet, most wish me a good time, some say they'll come over if my meet doesn't turn up - i've got back up plans. Make yourself a back up plan too, if you get yourself all done up for a meet and they don't turn up then use them, maybe head off out somewhere nice on your own to boost your confidence, you know you can be your own best company and can pamper yourself if you want to, plus by going out you're opening up your ability to meet others who might be into you. Some people even arrange their meets at a location where it won't matter if their meet turns up or not, they'll know have a good night anyway. The function of this site is to use it in a way that works for you. If it's failing for you then it will be something you're doing, hopefully this advice helps some of you. None of this advice is meant to offend. Probably i haven't got everything here, but hopefully it helps some of you. Those of you not getting replies, well i might do a guide for you too if i can be bothered lol. " You had me at "How" | |||
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"How to stop wasting YOUR time, you're wasting your time and not them (they're getting what they want). This guide is for people who are after genuine meets. This guide is not intended for you to use to go around accusing people of not being genuine users, you can report them to staff and let them deal with it if you feel they aren't genuine. This guide is for you to have an idea of whether or not you're being messed about online. It's written from the perspective of a female (me) as an online sex site user. I haven't had many time wasters wasting my time since i figured them out. Might be good for a guy to write one based on his perspective, even if some of it is pretty much the same advice? First things first; this site is classed a sex site by plenty of people, so remember that people do come on here for anything sexual and it might be something different to what you're looking for. Secondly; people do manipulate situations to get what they want, especially if it worked for them before. So by writing this guide it helps us get rid of them because it should mean THEY're wasting their time on here and not getting what they want any more. 1) My first advice for you is to calm down, lol might sound silly for me to say this but keep your cool ok. This way you can think clearly. So don't be desperate. Yeah that guy/girl is hot, funny and everything you'd love to fuck the shit out of but is he/she even genuine? 2) I think the main mistake people make is to tell a meet what they will get up to on the meet. Anyone explicitly looking for sex chat or cam chat will also likely try to move you to a phone app or cam app as soon as possible because they need your undivided attention so you can type back to them quickly. You can go to the app if you want to or stay on fab, whichever you decide to do here's some tips for what to do next. 2.a) You can say you like *sex/oral/have kinks etc* but don't be explicit about it otherwise you are giving them dirty chat and they're wanking on the other end of the conversation, if all they wanted was a wank then they're happy and you're left frustrated. So, if a person keeps pushing for more info on sexual details they can wank over then they are probably not looking to meet at this time. Instead of asking/talking about the meet they should be planning it. Keep all sex chat boring and all other chat interesting. You can also even avoid talking about sex if you want to, if someone asks what we're going to get up to on a meet i say i just want normal sex then if they push for more details i say i'm not into dirty chat, so they are clear that i don't want to talk about sex. 2.b) You could also put your interests into your profile so that the 'dirty chat' is on there. This might attract people who want dirty chat, but it also gives you an excuse not to talk about what you want as you can tell them to read your profile as it's all on there. 3. Trust your instincts. If you feel like someone isn't genuine then question them about it, in a polite way - no need to be rude or an arse about it. So again don't be desperate, keep your cool, and think clearly. If you feel they're messing you about either question them or block. You have no obligation to pander to anyone on here, you're here for yourself and to get what you want by meeting others who want to give you that. 4. Some people do genuinely like to take their time to meet others. They are not time wasters but, if you feel it's taking too long to arrange a meet then tell them that and say thanks for the time they've already spent on you but you're after something else. They might make excuses, you'll have to try and gauge whether you want to believe them or not and/or if it's worth investing any more time on them. 5. Be aware some people aren't good at rejecting others. They feel bad about it so although you might feel they are interested in you it is also possible they are just talking to you because they like talking or feel bad about rejecting you. It's also possible they aren't sure if they fancy you or not. You'll have to judge for yourself whether they like you or not, idk as i'm not in your conversations here. But again if you're not desperate and keeping it cool then it should be easy enough to work out. Saying that though, some people do unintentionally lead people on as well. This section is the hardest to work out but it is very unlikely they will arrange to meet you and not turn up, they will likely reject your offer to meet. 6. You can check out their pics by google image reverse search or using tinEye. It might be obvious they are fake pics, it might not though as some people do use the same pics on several sites or they might really be working in porn. Report to admin if you think they're fake and let them deal with it. 7. There are other ways of someone being a genuine profile or not but as a lot of genuine users also have profiles like this then i won't bother saying what to look out for as there's no point, but if i felt someone was messing me about and saw these pointers then i would think they're fake. 8. Only invest as much time and effort as you're willing to waste into getting a meet, that way if you don't get a meet or your meet doesn't turn up then you aren't left feeling let down or as frustrated. I take 10 mins to get ready for a meet, i've been lucky not to be let down but i hadn't wasted any time if i had been. I also tell other people i'm talking to that i've got a meet, most wish me a good time, some say they'll come over if my meet doesn't turn up - i've got back up plans. Make yourself a back up plan too, if you get yourself all done up for a meet and they don't turn up then use them, maybe head off out somewhere nice on your own to boost your confidence, you know you can be your own best company and can pamper yourself if you want to, plus by going out you're opening up your ability to meet others who might be into you. Some people even arrange their meets at a location where it won't matter if their meet turns up or not, they'll know have a good night anyway. i The function of this site is to use it in a way that works for you. If it's failing for you then it will be something you're doing, hopefully this advice helps some of you. None of this advice is meant to offend. Probably i haven't got everything here, but hopefully it helps some of you. Those of you not getting replies, well i might do a guide for you too if i can be bothered lol. " hehe hey sorry you're a woman so you really don't understand what timewasting is all about if someone let's you down you can easily replace him ,when we spend ages in most cases getting to know a woman and she let's us down it takes ages to go through the whole process again xxx  | |||
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"Loverly post Hun, very well informed and it'll teach a lot of others on here to have a better experience. After all every little helps "Thanks. Yeah there was a lot of time wasting topics about when i wrote this, seems to be a few more recently too. "hehe hey sorry you're a woman so you really don't understand what timewasting is all about if someone let's you down you can easily replace him ,when we spend ages in most cases getting to know a woman and she let's us down it takes ages to go through the whole process again xxx "Men can always have a back up plan too, not sure what though. That's why i said maybe a guy could do a guide from a males perspective. | |||
"hehe hey sorry you're a woman so you really don't understand what timewasting is all about if someone let's you down you can easily replace him ,when we spend ages in most cases getting to know a woman and she let's us down it takes ages to go through the whole process again xxx "Yeah, I've NEVER been sat in a pub twiddling my thumbs waiting for a guy who thinks its funny to not turn up.  | |||
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"It's interesting to note some of the attitudes of the men who have made negative comments on this thread. Looking at the username and status says it all. When we get "Do you want to fuck" "I've got half an hour at lunch time I need a blow job" I ask them if they want our rates but that we are very expensive and you may be better off with a pros. These guys, I am the guy half, clearly have no idea what it is like on here for couples seeking some exciting adventures. Being a guy at one time I thought I would fuck anything but not any more. For most couples there is a lot more to this than just sex. We love all sorts of fun and total strangers is part of that but how much fun that is also comes down to the guys personality. We recently advertised just a flashing and groping meet. We had about 150 to 200 replies in a day from guys and we arranged with four guys who said they would come. Nobody turned up. That deprived 4 genuine guys from the meet. It took Laura less than 5 minutes to pick a very nice guy up so we still had our fun. When we organise a multi guy hotel meet with confirmed attendees we still always allow for a 25% no show rate and only allow for a half hour wait for late people. Our worst meet was 50% no show although all guys had confirmed they were coming just a couple of hours before the meet. As I learn from experience we change the profile They must be photo verified. We do not meet guys under 30 however big they say their equipment is. We only meet guys who have at least 3 meet veris visible. We priorities guys who provide a phone number and a face pic in first message. We priorities guys who actually read our profile. It is always obvious when they haven't even when they are stupid enough to say they have. We do not meet any guy who is on here as part of a couple. We get large numbers of these. Partner on holiday, working, on a course, pregnant, in hospital, broken a bone, or has left them. We say get a single profile and not try and attract our attention as a couple. If a couple why are the pictures of the lady selfies? Doesn't make any sense to me. Unless very well verified always talk on the phone lady to lady at early stage. Asking too many questions always is always a bad sign especially if explicit. Some are a bit more clever than that and talk generally for some time, guys we cut short but couples can go on a bit longer and finally the explicit stuff starts. No pictures on site, very strange if serious for a meet in the day of mobile phone cameras. We like to give newbies a chance, aren't we nice, but there are so many fakes on here that they ruin it for the genuine guys. We have met some very nice people over the years and we know some very nice guys from here who are both good to talk to and in bed, with Laura that is of course. Obviously all have different experiences and different wants but the fact remains that there are very many time wasters, fakes and no shows on here just look at most couples profiles and many say the same. If you are not having any trouble then good for you but it doesn't mean that others don't have trouble. The same with saying it is just common sense doesn't help in any way at all why bother making the comment. If people are having trouble give them help not make comments to the effect that they are stupid. It's the same on all forums people just feel the need to make a comment even though it doesn't actually add anything to the thread. Thank you the OP I am sure many people value your effort and find it useful " You're welcome. You managed to shove a load of good advice in it yourself, thanks. | |||
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"Bear in mind that life can also get in the way of playtime. We have arranged a meet before now and then discovered that other parts of our lives need our attention more, so we always explain why we have to cancel and do it as soon as we know. Likewise arranging a meet can be tricky, sometimes it can take weeks before we actually have the time to go out and play. At the end of the day, manners cost nothing, and although it is a virtual world, the same common decency rules apply for us as happen in the real world." Absolutely we say, and in fact need to add to profile, family ALWAYS comes first. We used to run a business 7 days a week that together with family can make things very difficult and can result in last minute cancellations. We have actually broken down on the way to a meet with several guys in a hotel. Because we had their mobile numbers we were able to text them. Everybody is in a different position and men tend to think with their pricks and some single guys clearly have absolutely no concept of the juggling act many couples have to perform to get any fun at all. This, of course, makes clubs and dogging popular with couples as there is no prior commitment. Of course there are many guys on here who are very considerate and understanding we have met several from here. They are, in general the more mature man. Now there's a surprise! We always try to make good on any cancellations. We used to say that if you are a boy racer, think its cool to wear hats indoors, wear a baseball hat backwards without any reason, are young and smoke, think it is OK to drop litter you no the sort of thing then you are probably not for us because of your personality. We have had "Want to fuck" we say "Please read our profile" to which they have replied "Cannot be bothered" "What for they are all the same" "Have you seen how long it is" Makes it easy and short though, binned. | |||
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