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dont seem to be any females interested in older men in the South West
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"There are loads of advice threads in the forums for single guys and newbies to the site to improve thier chances but patience is a virtue, it can take up to a year to get your first meet as a single guy" Oh yes, patience is a virtue!  | |||
"change your profile mate , if you think women are just going to give out their mobile numbers so you can text them your very much mistaken , you will be waiting a very long time. remember you are a stranger so why would any woman give out personal details without knowing something about you first, safety for everyone lad there are hundreds on here , so you would need to say something in your profile/ messages that stand out from the rest good luck" Agree smacks of desperation asking for mobile numbers - no sane woman is going to do that and I think you assume the women on this site are desperately seeking. As others have said patience: it really is the key - good luck. | |||
"i heard alot about this site.......but seem to have a problem getting any females to meet me....{an older man 55 }. i can accomadate or travel.....and am free whenever the moment pleases.....anyone got any idea`s of what i`m doing wrong....just drop me a line and let me know......." 1 whole week... wow.... 
1 whole week.... have to now ask what where you expecting....
just because it is a swinging site, it doesn't mean people will swing with just anyone! doesn't mean people will drop there knickers at a drop of a hat...
people always find a reason for not having success... like others have said one week shows a distinct lack of patience for a start.. but lets glide over that and chose the reason you think it is.... age....
said this before but i'll say it again...
not everyone fancies playing with people old enough to be there mum or dad...
not everyone fancies playing with people young enough to be there son or daughter...
you're 55 and have an age range of 30 to 70 on your profile... so isn't it kinda rich for you to have a preference but for others not to......
you get out what you put in... took me 6-7 months to get my first meet, but that was me getting myself known, getting to know people, chatting in the forums, going in the chatrooms, going to socials....
I am really not sure of what advice to give you other than it normally takes time.... if you want something quicker may I suggest going to a club or looking in your local paper in the adverts....
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" think some of the original reactions to the OP were way over the top and unnecessary! There are a lot of people who come on this site, browse around the profiles, read the verifications and could be forgiven for thinking meets were easy to get. I fell into this trap and posted the same sort of thing as the OP on here after about three weeks, got a lot of crap from existing members as well, left and didn't come back for a year, thinking that was the mentality of the site as a whole!! All the regulars on here seems to forget that there is a high through-flow of new members who don't know the ropes and the etiquette and if the existing members are tired of reading these threads, there is a simple answer DON'T READ THEM!! You can see the title of the thread so why come on just to berate the OP! Basically telling the OP to get a life, stop whinging and that he has crap photography (especially coming from a woman who doesn't have a face pic on her page and close up of her pussy!) is a totally counter productive and down-right fucking nasty!! A lot of people already think this site is full of close knit groups who get off on being bitchy about others (don't know where they get that idea!) and might other-wise put people off who, after getting to know the ropes, would turn out to be great members. Jeez, no wonder single guys are put off!!" Have to agree poster has a point. | |||
"i thought my post was constructive ,,,,,, "t was totally constructive and very worthwhile. I maybe came over a little bit strong with what I said but it annoys me that nearly 2 years ago I was taken aback by the grief I got for asking why I wasn't getting any meets after three weeks, not really having grasped how the site and swinging worked properly and it annoyed me that 2 years on, the same crap is being dished out! By different people, admittedly, but think they have a right to harrass and condem others for asking a question! | |||
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"i thought my post was constructive ,,,,,,
t was totally constructive and very worthwhile.
I maybe came over a little bit strong with what I said but it annoys me that nearly 2 years ago I was taken aback by the grief I got for asking why I wasn't getting any meets after three weeks, not really having grasped how the site and swinging worked properly and it annoyed me that 2 years on, the same crap is being dished out! By different people, admittedly, but think they have a right to harrass and condem others for asking a question!"Ok then..... You tell us, as a single male, what it is that you EXPECT to have happened after 1 week on a swinging site? And we will listen........ | |||
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"i thought my post was constructive ,,,,,,
t was totally constructive and very worthwhile.
I maybe came over a little bit strong with what I said but it annoys me that nearly 2 years ago I was taken aback by the grief I got for asking why I wasn't getting any meets after three weeks, not really having grasped how the site and swinging worked properly and it annoyed me that 2 years on, the same crap is being dished out! By different people, admittedly, but think they have a right to harrass and condem others for asking a question!
Ok then.....
You tell us, as a single male, what it is that you EXPECT to have happened after 1 week on a swinging site?
And we will listen........"Lol! I can just see you standing with you hands on your hips saying that.... Too answer your question, who the hell knows!! As I said in my first post, someone who is reading profiles for the first time, seeing verifications and what people have written about others can be forgiven for thinking getting meets is easy. If you read my post again through the red mist which has clearly come down, you'll see that I don't disagree with anyone that guys expect too much, too quickly. I fell into the trap of expecting too much when I joined the first time and that guys do come on here with expectations of getting laid straight away. The basis of my initial post was that I objected to, as you'll read, the treatment the original OP got from certain members of this site.....There was some perfectly good, constructive points and help which is what new people, men, women, couples or whoever needs...and there was some down-right nasty patronising nonsense as well! I know plenty of single women on this site and they have all said that with about three words on their profile when they joined and no picture, were inundated with messages so its not a position that I imagine most women have found themselves in. By that I mean getting responses from the kind of people they joined the site to meet. I am of course, speaking in general terms. Guys on the other hand, come into FAB with the same high expectations of having fun that women do and get disappointed, often with a lack of response from their well written messages and they don't know why. They haven't got it yet that women, generally, get a tons of messages more than most guys. The OP was hasn't given it time and learned the ropes and how the 'game' works as he should and I agree that he didn't really come across very well but to say 'The whinging, the crap profile and the chronic photographs' are the reason, is not exactly constructive to say the least!! Thats what I was objecting to!! | |||
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" As I said in my first post, someone who is reading profiles for the first time, seeing verifications and what people have written about others can be forgiven for thinking getting meets is easy. " And those of us that get shirty with the constant whinging whineing from single men are sick of just that..... single males thinking its easy getting meets. We are swingers, we are NOT tarts, whores, slappers or sluts. The amount of blokes that wander through swinging sites thinking that they only have to say hello and we will drop our knickers from them gets ridiculous. So..... forgive us if we get shirty, stroppy or down right rude sometimes... but there are those of us that are sick to the back teeth of blokes thinking that just because we are swingers, we will shag anything and anyone and they can't understand why they aren't good enough for us 'easy birds' You can come down from your high horse and try and see it from our point of view....... because I'm dam sure most single blokes don't give a flying fuck if we get arsey about being seen as an 'easy lay' | |||
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Good luck to the OP. Keep reading profiles and sending messages, as I doubt if you would be flooded with messages from ladies with their mobile numbers!  | |||
"I got a meet within one week of joining, bearing in mind I had no pic or verifications, it was through a wink followed by 1 message and over the phone to ask for the postcode. it just shows that there is no pattern or time interval within which to meet. Have fun, enjoy the company of like-minded people,if a meet happens, it happens, if it does not, it is not the end of the world. "To get a meet with no pic and verfication tells alot about the person mailing you to be honest. If they are going to meet someone with no pic, verfication and go on just what they have written on their profile is very dangerous. Yes I know you may be a lovely guy. But most ladies and couples alike dont meet a single man until they have seen a face pic and chatted on the phone and possibly seen them on cam too. If you had a meet with none of that then well done you but as an experienced single fem I never meet without lots of checking and chatting before agreeing to a meet. Well done you tho is your case was different but I prefer to stay safe x | |||
"I got a meet within one week of joining, bearing in mind I had no pic or verifications, it was through a wink followed by 1 message and over the phone to ask for the postcode. it just shows that there is no pattern or time interval within which to meet. Have fun, enjoy the company of like-minded people,if a meet happens, it happens, if it does not, it is not the end of the world.
To get a meet with no pic and verfication tells alot about the person mailing you to be honest. If they are going to meet someone with no pic, verfication and go on just what they have written on their profile is very dangerous. Yes I know you may be a lovely guy. But most ladies and couples alike dont meet a single man until they have seen a face pic and chatted on the phone and possibly seen them on cam too. If you had a meet with none of that then well done you but as an experienced single fem I never meet without lots of checking and chatting before agreeing to a meet. Well done you tho is your case was different but I prefer to stay safe x"I have to say I agree with you there - hard to believe in this day and age a single female would meet someome under those circumstances. That said, this is the only site I've been on with verifications and to be honest they don't really mean that much to me - I add them because I know the users of this site likes them. I meet people of other sites that don't have verification, but we talk on the phone, we exchange photos and the first meet is always in a public place for a drink/coffee/dinner depending on the time of day. | |||
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"I got a meet within one week of joining, bearing in mind I had no pic or verifications, it was through a wink followed by 1 message and over the phone to ask for the postcode. it just shows that there is no pattern or time interval within which to meet. Have fun, enjoy the company of like-minded people,if a meet happens, it happens, if it does not, it is not the end of the world. "Been sitting here racking my brains as to why you got a meet so quickly...and the O.P is still struggling to get one....swinging is a funny old game..lmao.. | |||
"I got a meet within one week of joining, bearing in mind I had no pic or verifications, it was through a wink followed by 1 message and over the phone to ask for the postcode. it just shows that there is no pattern or time interval within which to meet. Have fun, enjoy the company of like-minded people,if a meet happens, it happens, if it does not, it is not the end of the world.
Been sitting here racking my brains as to why you got a meet so quickly...and the O.P is still struggling to get one....swinging is a funny old game..lmao.. "That was the moral of my post, there is no written law on when one can get their 1st meet. It could be within one day, it could never happen. And I stick with what I wrote, I am not into endless emails and chat...it helps being frank. | |||
"I got a meet within one week of joining, bearing in mind I had no pic or verifications, it was through a wink followed by 1 message and over the phone to ask for the postcode. it just shows that there is no pattern or time interval within which to meet. Have fun, enjoy the company of like-minded people,if a meet happens, it happens, if it does not, it is not the end of the world.
Been sitting here racking my brains as to why you got a meet so quickly...and the O.P is still struggling to get one....swinging is a funny old game..lmao..
That was the moral of my post, there is no written law on when one can get their 1st meet. It could be within one day, it could never happen.
And I stick with what I wrote, I am not into endless emails and chat...it helps being frank. "Hehe...guess it kinda helped being ..tall..gorgeous..nice age..and being called _entadread..
...just a wild stab in the dark.. | |||
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"I got a meet within one week of joining, bearing in mind I had no pic or verifications, it was through a wink followed by 1 message and over the phone to ask for the postcode. it just shows that there is no pattern or time interval within which to meet. Have fun, enjoy the company of like-minded people,if a meet happens, it happens, if it does not, it is not the end of the world.
Been sitting here racking my brains as to why you got a meet so quickly...and the O.P is still struggling to get one....swinging is a funny old game..lmao..
That was the moral of my post, there is no written law on when one can get their 1st meet. It could be within one day, it could never happen.
And I stick with what I wrote, I am not into endless emails and chat...it helps being frank.
Hehe...guess it kinda helped being ..tall..gorgeous..nice age..and being called _entadread..
...just a wild stab in the dark.. "LOL - yep was thinking the same thing  | |||
"I got a meet within one week of joining, bearing in mind I had no pic or verifications, it was through a wink followed by 1 message and over the phone to ask for the postcode. it just shows that there is no pattern or time interval within which to meet. Have fun, enjoy the company of like-minded people,if a meet happens, it happens, if it does not, it is not the end of the world.
Been sitting here racking my brains as to why you got a meet so quickly...and the O.P is still struggling to get one....swinging is a funny old game..lmao..
That was the moral of my post, there is no written law on when one can get their 1st meet. It could be within one day, it could never happen.
And I stick with what I wrote, I am not into endless emails and chat...it helps being frank.
Hehe...guess it kinda helped being ..tall..gorgeous..nice age..and being called _entadread..
...just a wild stab in the dark..
LOL - yep was thinking the same thing "It is down to having a relaxed attitude to life, if a meet happens it happens, if it does not, there are other places you can try other than this site. As for being tall, and gorgeous,people can have different tastes...but thanks, you two are sweet. | |||
"I got a meet within one week of joining, bearing in mind I had no pic or verifications, it was through a wink followed by 1 message and over the phone to ask for the postcode. it just shows that there is no pattern or time interval within which to meet. Have fun, enjoy the company of like-minded people,if a meet happens, it happens, if it does not, it is not the end of the world.
Been sitting here racking my brains as to why you got a meet so quickly...and the O.P is still struggling to get one....swinging is a funny old game..lmao..
That was the moral of my post, there is no written law on when one can get their 1st meet. It could be within one day, it could never happen.
And I stick with what I wrote, I am not into endless emails and chat...it helps being frank.
Hehe...guess it kinda helped being ..tall..gorgeous..nice age..and being called _entadread..
...just a wild stab in the dark..
LOL - yep was thinking the same thing
It is down to having a relaxed attitude to life, if a meet happens it happens, if it does not, there are other places you can try other than this site.
As for being tall, and gorgeous,people can have different tastes...but thanks, you two are sweet.
"Mwah..your welcome..xxx | |||
