Hi guys so basically me and my gf we struggling with getting sex at home because of kids. Always need to be quiet and can't do it 100%, so I suggested how about we go to swing club so we can have sex there without worrying about noise. I have to add that she's never been into swinging. Locally to use is temptation in Bournemouth which when she visited the website she said that is a club for a guys because of strip dancers. Is it anything local Dorset Somerset Devon worth mentioning to her? |
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By *bi HaiveMan 3 weeks ago
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"Day Use hotels work perfectly while the kids are at school…… 
If the kids are at school they wouldn't need them "
This 💯%
Sort some free time during school hours.
Or get a sitter and book a hotel for an evening.
Or is there a hope that if you both went to a swingers club that she may change her mind about swinging, because if she has no interest in it at all then that would probably be the least positive environment to take her to. |
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"I was hoping that she may change mind, but you're right guys. We came to conclusions that it would be better off book a hotel "
We'd been swinging quite a while the first time we went to a club. If anything it put me off. 🤣. |
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"I was hoping that she may change mind, but you're right guys. We came to conclusions that it would be better off book a hotel
We'd been swinging quite a while the first time we went to a club. If anything it put me off. 🤣. "
Good to know. Well she said she don't want to go so I'll respect it. So is that mean there is no hope for threesome for me for entire life? |
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"I was hoping that she may change mind, but you're right guys. We came to conclusions that it would be better off book a hotel
We'd been swinging quite a while the first time we went to a club. If anything it put me off. 🤣.
Good to know. Well she said she don't want to go so I'll respect it. So is that mean there is no hope for threesome for me for entire life?"
if she doesn’t want to then yes. |
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"I was hoping that she may change mind, but you're right guys. We came to conclusions that it would be better off book a hotel
We'd been swinging quite a while the first time we went to a club. If anything it put me off. 🤣.
Good to know. Well she said she don't want to go so I'll respect it. So is that mean there is no hope for threesome for me for entire life? if she doesn’t want to then yes. "
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"I was hoping that she may change mind, but you're right guys. We came to conclusions that it would be better off book a hotel
We'd been swinging quite a while the first time we went to a club. If anything it put me off. 🤣.
Good to know. Well she said she don't want to go so I'll respect it. So is that mean there is no hope for threesome for me for entire life?"
How important is a threesome to you? I mean genuinely in the grand scheme of things. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 3 weeks ago
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"I was hoping that she may change mind, but you're right guys. We came to conclusions that it would be better off book a hotel
We'd been swinging quite a while the first time we went to a club. If anything it put me off. 🤣.
Good to know. Well she said she don't want to go so I'll respect it. So is that mean there is no hope for threesome for me for entire life?"
Have an open conversation with her about it, and maybe show her your profile and Fab. If you really want it then that's probably your best approach. |
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Having kids in the house is a dilemma for all sexual active parents. Have a bolt on your bedroom door and get used to being quiet. Our kids are grown up and we still have to be quiet. It doesn't sound like your wife wants to swing. If she did and you went on a club night that allows single guys, the threesome is easy to achieve. |
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"I was hoping that she may change mind, but you're right guys. We came to conclusions that it would be better off book a hotel
We'd been swinging quite a while the first time we went to a club. If anything it put me off. 🤣.
Good to know. Well she said she don't want to go so I'll respect it. So is that mean there is no hope for threesome for me for entire life? if she doesn’t want to then yes.
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Unfortunately that comes with the territory of a commited relationship. Honestly ask yourself which is better. The relationship or being able to play around? You already know the answer, but ask yourself anyway. And most importantly of all, be honest with yourself. |
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"I was hoping that she may change mind, but you're right guys. We came to conclusions that it would be better off book a hotel
We'd been swinging quite a while the first time we went to a club. If anything it put me off. 🤣.
Good to know. Well she said she don't want to go so I'll respect it. So is that mean there is no hope for threesome for me for entire life?"
Your here so you'd probably do it behind her back anyway..... |
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"I was hoping that she may change mind, but you're right guys. We came to conclusions that it would be better off book a hotel
We'd been swinging quite a while the first time we went to a club. If anything it put me off. 🤣.
Good to know. Well she said she don't want to go so I'll respect it. So is that mean there is no hope for threesome for me for entire life?
Your here so you'd probably do it behind her back anyway....."
How smart you are... Haha yes this account is without her knowledge and I'm not doing a secret of it. just to clarify I'm not really doing much anyway just browsing and perving tbh |
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Temptations in Bournemouth doesn’t have any ‘strip dancers’. I’ve been many times.
It consists of downstairs:-
A locker room to store your clothes.
A small kitchen where you can make tea/coffee, prepare food, or store your own food and drink including alcohol in the fridge.
A massage room only used for paid massages.
A lounge area with a sauna.
A steam room.
Two showers.
A jacuzzi that fits about eight people.
Upstairs:-
Toilets.
3x play rooms with lockable doors different sizes.
1x larger playroom with porn playing on a projector against the wall.
Apparently they’ve fitted a gloryhole somewhere. I haven’t been in a while so can’t tell you what that is all about.
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As parents to 7 between us we find ourselves just running off to the local club so we can have sex together. We have literally run into our local club before, said a passing hello as we've headed straight to a locakble room and fucked. So we totally get you there.
As to taking her to a club as a non swinger that's fine is she's up for going. We have met and know non-swinging couples at clubs before. Some just go for the sexually charged ambiance and maybe to watch or be watched, nothing more. Even know a naturist couple who just go for the sun deck and to have sex under the sun without hassle.
My biggest tip to you if you want things to go OK is once inside go at her speed, let her take the lead. Apply absolutely no pressure. Let her look around and take in the environment. Let her decide what spaces of the club she wants to use. Be that sit at the bar all night, go to a private room for sex with you, get in the hot tub or something more adventurous. Let her decide when or if she wants to strip down in front of people and by how much. If all you achieve is her having a little look, a drink at the bar, talking to others without even any private action and she wants to return then you've achieved something. You've planted the seed that will make her more comfortable and confident going next time be that to have sex together away from the family in a private room or something more adventurous. The key no pressure and let her take the lead in the club.
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"As parents to 7 between us we find ourselves just running off to the local club so we can have sex together. We have literally run into our local club before, said a passing hello as we've headed straight to a locakble room and fucked. So we totally get you there.
As to taking her to a club as a non swinger that's fine is she's up for going. We have met and know non-swinging couples at clubs before. Some just go for the sexually charged ambiance and maybe to watch or be watched, nothing more. Even know a naturist couple who just go for the sun deck and to have sex under the sun without hassle.
My biggest tip to you if you want things to go OK is once inside go at her speed, let her take the lead. Apply absolutely no pressure. Let her look around and take in the environment. Let her decide what spaces of the club she wants to use. Be that sit at the bar all night, go to a private room for sex with you, get in the hot tub or something more adventurous. Let her decide when or if she wants to strip down in front of people and by how much. If all you achieve is her having a little look, a drink at the bar, talking to others without even any private action and she wants to return then you've achieved something. You've planted the seed that will make her more comfortable and confident going next time be that to have sex together away from the family in a private room or something more adventurous. The key no pressure and let her take the lead in the club.
Mr"
And of course if she don't want to go again then clearly that's probably off the cards. However fair play to her for going a taking a look and you should totally respect her for that.
Going forward if you're staying monogamous then you need to find other options for sex alone with her. If you don't want to be monogamous then she is not for you unless she is happy with you to continue on the scene with permission. There are some on the scene who are in a relationship with a non swinger who have permission to swing. But obviously that's an open and frank conversation for you both to have going forward. |
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