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Couple of minor things with your profile, 1 is easy to change but the other may not be.
Your pics are all very similar, and some aren't the greatest quality. Try adding some different style pics, that aren't just if your torso and cock.
The other one is that you're a single guy who is unable to accommodate. It may not be the case with you, and there's no judgement on it, but this usually means it's a married/attached guy looking to play away. It's off-putting for some, who won't want to take the risk of a scorned partner finding out |
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By *harAndBryCouple 2 days ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Need some help with my profile, not sure if I'm doing it wrong or I'm simply not attractive, it's been a while!
Any feedback welcome!"
The first pic is a dick pic, never a good sign. Then all the other pics are the same. Uninspiring and nothing to make you stand out among the 30/40 messages we might get on an average day, sorry.
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Hi fella, same here, I wasn’t appealing, with far too many dick pics, even ones taken in the bathroom when I started, a big no no.
But the best way for a guy to do this, at least a really good way that gets you friends to chat with and play, is to find a club.
It’s much better to show your personality in person, and not through dick pics and cheesey chat up lines.
I’ve had more meets and chats from being approachable in a club than any from the flooded space of fab. If there’s a club nearby, get yourself down there. |
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Your photos aren't great, I'd recommend normal ones where you're dressed nicely and not in a public bathroom. The men that do best here are the ones that treat their profile like you would a public dating one - with maybe a couple of ones showing off your body. Obviously depends who you're looking for.
The other thing is you're a single guy so you need to be prepared that for every 1000 very well crafted messages you send to people who are looking for someone exactly like you, you will get 1 response.
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"Need some help with my profile, not sure if I'm doing it wrong or I'm simply not attractive, it's been a while!
Any feedback welcome!"
Relaxed until I'm in the mood!?! Wtf does that mean. What do you turn into!
Photos definitely need a few more good quality ones on public view.
Blurb... It's just...
You can improve it
But definitely get to some social events (check the forums) |
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I think it is really hard to sell yourself. Try to find a bit of honesty in each line. The profile is cold and no personal warmth. The fact that you asked for feedback suggests this is not a very good depiction of you. |
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I can't see how attractive you are OP.
But we'll only be attractive to an almost infinitesimally tiny fraction of people, when they are able to see and assess you for attraction. Plus you have to be mutually compatible, with interests, preferences, etc.
If you are potentially attractive, you will not be the only one who is. They may prefer the others.
Take the onus as it being your responsibility to do something about it, as much as you potentially can. Use the guidance available to let us know and assess how attractive you are. Meet and engage with us ,- get to clubs and socials.
And make sure your expectations are realistic. |
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We get so many guys message us and we ignore so many because they simply don't stand out.
First of all make your profile picture really stand out, face pics always help on that but if you are trying to be discreet, then have something that makes you look alluring, approachable, mysterious and above all respectable and clean. (A nice suit can help with this). Dick pics as a profile pic is an instant ignore for us so don't be tempted to do that.
Have plenty of photos too, from different angles.
Next I would re-write that profile, it can be help judge the type of character you are, at the moment it's riddled with grammatical mistakes and kinda doesn't say much about you. For example you say you're up for either nsa or regular...well that covers everything so pointless putting it in.
Be creative, write about yourself, what your boundaries are. The sort of people you're looking for. And also don't say face pics available. That should be included in messages early on to avoid wasting time. |
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Your profile is a walking red flag of... typical lies to get sex...
You aren't consistent in a single aspect of what you're seeking, not seeking and are just chunking words about hoping they stick to something.. |
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For Me the opening conversation Is really important , if the opening line catches my eye , I then check the pics and bio , be interesting ...I only had two real conversations on here yesterday ,one from an older gent and one with an older couple ...neither would have caught my eye in the slightest by their pics , but both were really witty and charming ....and I started to think " I wonder " somewhere into the chat ... everyone different though xx |
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"Time to hit the socials, 4 months and no verifications, one wonders if you are real.
Lina."
So to confirm. Anyone who has no verifications or decides not to share them could be a fake?
Interesting as that will most could be
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Look to othe successful male profiles. What are they doing that you are not.
You get what you put in and you have to work at networking.
Local socials events clubs. Attend regular. Get seen for the right reasons.
Online, forums, chat rooms. Get seen for the right reasons.
Once you get known and get you first few verifications.
You'll become a trusted individual. |
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By *harAndBryCouple 22 hours ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"So to confirm. Anyone who has no verifications or decides not to share them could be a fake?
Interesting as that will most could be
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No, but in five years of doing this, the two most common denominators among our no-shows have been distance and lack of meets verifications.
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