Only been here a few weeks, it seems there a lot of fake profiles which then has a knock on effect on those of us who are legit. I got photo-verified pretty quickly as I assumed that would prove I am legit but it doesn't seem to mean anything, people only seem to be interested in being verified via a meet. Any tips on how to get verified or how to improve my profile to prove I'm not a timewaster? |
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How to get "in person" verification? The easiest (but carrying the least "power" on here) is cam verification. You go to the cams room on here, chat, show your face (I believe) and ask someone to verify you.
Option 2: meet someone through here
Option 3: go to an organised social, speak to people, ask them to verify you
Option 4, that takes the most guts, is to go to a swingers club, actually talk to people there rather than just stare or follow around like a sheep, and then ask the people you talked to to verify you. Staff might be happy to verify, too.
In person verification means you can now verify other people, and you are a bit more likely to get more responses to messages as people would see you're real. The responses still depend on a lot of factors, mainly being the quality of message and fitting what the other person/people are looking for. |
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And I am sorry, but you seem to show double standards on your profile. You are, I'm assuming, on here behind your wife's/partner's back (cannot accommodate/needs to be discreet/only looking for daytime meets) yet you're not looking to meet anyone who's cheating as you don't want the drama.  |
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"It's just the arrangement I have with my wife. I can do as I please aslong as it doesn't interfere with family life or time with her. Do you think it's worth going into that detail on my profile?"
You could. But not sure it will help tbh |
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That's my thinking on not going into detail on my profile. Anyone who assumes I'm cheating won't believe me anyway. Happy to explain in detail to anyone who doesn't automatically assume in cheating but this thread has basically confirmed that 99% will assume that!  |
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Hi op, ideally I'd want to speak to someone's partner to confirm they do In fact have permission.
I'm not saying you don't BTW, but I can see why some ladies would avoid profiles where they can't verify it.
I'm half a couple and we have our joint profile and a single one each, where we cross reference the others.
That way I can speak to anyone who is interested in meeting Jack my partner, so they know it's legit.
There are men here who claim their partner knows, but it's clear they don't, so people do get suspicious.
Also as someone mentioned daytime availability only will reduce your meets, as many women and couples either work office hours or have kids at home.
Could you maybe try a club? I don't know what's in your area. |
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By *oxy jWoman 1 week ago
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op dont for one moment think veri's will make it any easier for you because until someone is attracted to you youll get nowhere ..attraction/compatibility is key for meeting women and couples all a meets veri does is make you ''real'' it dies not give you a magic pass ..for most of the couples and women its swinging to most men its just sex .. |
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I think your profile’s fine - it gives all the info necessary, and if someone wants to think you’re cheating, that’s on them. In ENM I like to think that everyone involved has full autonomy - I never ask to speak to someone’s other half (you can always tell if someone’s bullshitting) but if the opportunity is offered, that’s always nice.
In terms of veris - and I know it’s easy for someone who’s got some to say - but it’s not a magic key. I’d go for a quick coffee with someone unverified if the chat etc was going the right way. But - people with busy inboxes do use it as a filter to make things easier for themselves. So, a club or an organised group social thing is your best bet. After Dark’s probably your nearest? |
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"Only been here a few weeks, it seems there a lot of fake profiles which then has a knock on effect on those of us who are legit. I got photo-verified pretty quickly as I assumed that would prove I am legit but it doesn't seem to mean anything, people only seem to be interested in being verified via a meet. Any tips on how to get verified or how to improve my profile to prove I'm not a timewaster? "
For me I'm gutted on your location.
I have a load of odd jobs that need doing  |
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"I think your profile’s fine - it gives all the info necessary, and if someone wants to think you’re cheating, that’s on them. In ENM I like to think that everyone involved has full autonomy - I never ask to speak to someone’s other half (you can always tell if someone’s bullshitting) but if the opportunity is offered, that’s always nice.
In terms of veris - and I know it’s easy for someone who’s got some to say - but it’s not a magic key. I’d go for a quick coffee with someone unverified if the chat etc was going the right way. But - people with busy inboxes do use it as a filter to make things easier for themselves. So, a club or an organised group social thing is your best bet. After Dark’s probably your nearest?"
Thank you, that's reassuring and I appreciate the advice |
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By *harAndBryCouple 1 week ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Only been here a few weeks, it seems there a lot of fake profiles which then has a knock on effect on those of us who are legit. I got photo-verified pretty quickly as I assumed that would prove I am legit but it doesn't seem to mean anything, people only seem to be interested in being verified via a meet. Any tips on how to get verified or how to improve my profile to prove I'm not a timewaster? "
Our view on verifications....photo verified is a minimum that anyone should have just to show that as far as Fab is concerned, you are who you've said you are (male, female, couple).
Cam verifications....pointless to us. It confirms a photo verification, but doesn't prove someone will actually leave the house and turn up for a meet.
We no longer meet anyone without a meet verification in the past twelve months, simply to get our 60% no-show rate down!
Clubs and local (non-play) socials are one way of getting those first few meet verifications.
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We no longer meet anyone without a meet verification in the past twelve months, simply to get our 60% no-show rate down!
Clubs and local (non-play) socials are one way of getting those first few meet verifications.
(Bry)"
60% no show?! Jeez. I didn't realise it was that bad. No wonder folk are edgy. Appreciate the insight. I'll remain patient and post a few coffee socials. Thanks! |
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"Only been here a few weeks, it seems there a lot of fake profiles which then has a knock on effect on those of us who are legit. I got photo-verified pretty quickly as I assumed that would prove I am legit but it doesn't seem to mean anything, people only seem to be interested in being verified via a meet. Any tips on how to get verified or how to improve my profile to prove I'm not a timewaster? "
Even verified there are time wasters.. be real and honest in what you are after..
if you want a meet to fuck them specify that..if you deem a meet as a physical introduction after chatting then say that..I actually hate the term meets because on here it usually is just a bed notch posher way of saying speed the chatting here's me so now let's fuck.. regardless of a connection |
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"Only been here a few weeks, it seems there a lot of fake profiles which then has a knock on effect on those of us who are legit...."
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What fake profiles??
The actions of others, honourable or nefarious, have never had any "knock on effect" for me. I carve my own path on here and you should too. |
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