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By * and BCouple 8 weeks ago
Durham |
It says on our profile text we don't check winks, or as the police man from Allo Allo says 'wonks' but still the numbers on our winks rise. Sometimes we do check who couldn't be arsed to read our profile  |
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I like a wink
For me it shows an interest in someone. If they wink back then I’ll message
If you were out in a club or bar you’d most probably look across at someone and smile first and see if it was reciprocated before you went across and went in to introductions or a chat
I see winks the same way |
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By * and BCouple 8 weeks ago
Durham |
"I like a wink
For me it shows an interest in someone. If they wink back then I’ll message
If you were out in a club or bar you’d most probably look across at someone and smile first and see if it was reciprocated before you went across and went in to introductions or a chat
I see winks the same way "
In a club we'd much prefer folk to come and chat, that's what we do. We don't spend all night smiling at people for them not to notice us. Always good to chat and interact   |
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"I like a wink
For me it shows an interest in someone. If they wink back then I’ll message
If you were out in a club or bar you’d most probably look across at someone and smile first and see if it was reciprocated before you went across and went in to introductions or a chat
I see winks the same way
In a club we'd much prefer folk to come and chat, that's what we do. We don't spend all night smiling at people for them not to notice us. Always good to chat and interact "
It's right.
The amount of times people message us after an event and say "we wanted to come talk to you"..
Missed opportunities! |
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"I like a wink
For me it shows an interest in someone. If they wink back then I’ll message
If you were out in a club or bar you’d most probably look across at someone and smile first and see if it was reciprocated before you went across and went in to introductions or a chat
I see winks the same way
In a club we'd much prefer folk to come and chat, that's what we do. We don't spend all night smiling at people for them not to notice us. Always good to chat and interact "
And this is the catch 22 for single blokes.
You see loads of people complaining on here that single men are seen to be bugging them in clubs so most of some will hang back and wait |
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By * and BCouple 8 weeks ago
Durham |
"I like a wink
For me it shows an interest in someone. If they wink back then I’ll message
If you were out in a club or bar you’d most probably look across at someone and smile first and see if it was reciprocated before you went across and went in to introductions or a chat
I see winks the same way
In a club we'd much prefer folk to come and chat, that's what we do. We don't spend all night smiling at people for them not to notice us. Always good to chat and interact
And this is the catch 22 for single blokes.
You see loads of people complaining on here that single men are seen to be bugging them in clubs so most of some will hang back and wait "
We see single men walking up and down at clubs and most couples we speak to wonder why oh why don't they just stop and chat. So our experience is the opposite, couples want people to say hello and chat. Just like winks get most people no where, not speaking has the same outcome. Maybe it's just us, we are the same in any social setting, we like interacting with people. |
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"I like a wink
For me it shows an interest in someone. If they wink back then I’ll message
If you were out in a club or bar you’d most probably look across at someone and smile first and see if it was reciprocated before you went across and went in to introductions or a chat
I see winks the same way
In a club we'd much prefer folk to come and chat, that's what we do. We don't spend all night smiling at people for them not to notice us. Always good to chat and interact
And this is the catch 22 for single blokes.
You see loads of people complaining on here that single men are seen to be bugging them in clubs so most of some will hang back and wait "
If we didn't want guys around us we would attend a couples/fems night.
What does creep us out is the guys who follow you around without chatting to you.
Confidence guys! |
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I don't look at winks or I requested friend requests. I respond to messages that appear to have read my profile and appear from the visible snippets of the message to be compatible with what I'm looking for.
The rest plays out as it will.. |
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We like a wink or a polite message. If we’re interested we will respond. We usually do send a polite reply to polite messages if you’re not what we’re looking for. Rude or agent messages will be ignored though  |
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"I like a wink
For me it shows an interest in someone. If they wink back then I’ll message
If you were out in a club or bar you’d most probably look across at someone and smile first and see if it was reciprocated before you went across and went in to introductions or a chat
I see winks the same way
In a club we'd much prefer folk to come and chat, that's what we do. We don't spend all night smiling at people for them not to notice us. Always good to chat and interact
And this is the catch 22 for single blokes.
You see loads of people complaining on here that single men are seen to be bugging them in clubs so most of some will hang back and wait
If we didn't want guys around us we would attend a couples/fems night.
What does creep us out is the guys who follow you around without chatting to you.
Confidence guys! "
This right here!! I have, and do approach couples in clubs all the time myself… some are very warm & open which is great, sometimes that leads to more sometimes it doesn’t. Others will be cold and standoffish… when the latter occurs I just politely thank them for the time, wish them well and go about my evening enjoying myself.
Meanwhile online it’s totally different. Messaging will have me feeling like I’m one of many tadpoles in a gigantic ocean a lot of the time.
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We ignore winks completely. All you can do when you receive a wink is go and look at the profile it came from. Unfortunately, 95% of the profiles on Fab don't tell us what we need to know in order to be interested in fucking them. So that gets us nowhere. We don't even look at our winks anymore. |
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This is definitely a interesting subject all this time I've been assuming a wink was a indication but from the responses I see I've been doing it wrong and I will definitely change the way I reach out on here. |
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