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I know its hard for guys to get messages read and replied to. My question is what kind of good messages do women and couples receive? And what type (give examples guys) do you send that get a rare reply?  |
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"I know its hard for guys to get messages read and replied to. My question is what kind of good messages do women and couples receive? And what type (give examples guys) do you send that get a rare reply? "
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By *bi HaiveMan 9 weeks ago
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"Good messages *for us* are friendly and chatty without being crude.
Do you really want examples from other men? Just be yourself, everyone else is taken "
This! 
On the couples account, if we get a dull 'hi' or 'nice pics' we'll not read it and just hit delete.
That said, we look at the profile before opening a message and if there's little to go on, or it's a dickfest we'll not bother reading those either.
Doesn't have to be war and peace, just interesting and showing they've actually read the profile.
There's no one size fits all so don't look for one.
And never, ever, copy and paste. We got one yesterday, replied and eventually cut the chat as it went OTT rapidly. 5 mins later she got the exact same opening message on her single profile. 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️ |
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Definitely none of the "I'm gonna do this and that to you" wank chat stuff ⛔️
Or the "I'm a dom" 50 shades-esque chaps.
If its clear the writer has actually read my straightforward profile before sending a message I'll usually reply.
That said, the most common reply I send to men is: "Your copy and paste message is receiving my standard copy and paste response". They of course all swear blind that they would never copy and paste a message 🤣
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"I know its hard for guys to get messages read and replied to. My question is what kind of good messages do women and couples receive? And what type (give examples guys) do you send that get a rare reply? "
I can give you loads that haven’t worked lol |
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By *oxy jWoman 9 weeks ago
somerset |
i dont mean this in a horrible way but if you cant write a simple message to someone then your not going to get anywhere on this scene as a guy its going to be hard enogh fgor you just being a guy and the fact that there are zillions of you ...
theres no one way all women are different and what they are looking for is you to be you and what you are looking for..
its like profile advice = more boring samey get nowhere profiles ...be you not someone else.... |
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No one can give you or tell you a first message.
It’s about resonating to something in a profile or something in the forums.
Remaining respectful
And then you’re not guaranteed a reply. However, for me, message those that only genuinely maybe of interest to you rather than messaging all
Keep it simple and unique |
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All depends on what you're looking for .... for us....
What doesn't work...
Free tonight?
I'm in your area
I'd like to get to know you and see if we connect
Hi
Your Mrs has got a juicy body that I wanna ..... XYZ
What works.....
Hey, saw that you're at -insert club name- on... -day-wondered if you fancied grabbing a drink and maybe more?
K
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By *xixWoman 9 weeks ago
Coventry |
"All depends on what you're looking for .... for us....
What doesn't work...
Free tonight?
I'm in your area
I'd like to get to know you and see if we connect
Hi
Your Mrs has got a juicy body that I wanna ..... XYZ
What works.....
Hey, saw that you're at -insert club name- on... -day-wondered if you fancied grabbing a drink and maybe more?
K
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I'm single, though very similar feelings to the above.
I delete messages that just say "hi", or "I love your xyz" (so what?). But those that have clearly thought about the content of my profile and are aroused by it, well they'll aroused me |
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By *xixWoman 9 weeks ago
Coventry |
"All depends on what you're looking for .... for us....
What doesn't work...
Free tonight?
I'm in your area
I'd like to get to know you and see if we connect
Hi
Your Mrs has got a juicy body that I wanna ..... XYZ
What works.....
Hey, saw that you're at -insert club name- on... -day-wondered if you fancied grabbing a drink and maybe more?
K
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I'm single, though very similar feelings to the above.
I delete messages that just say "hi", or "I love your xyz" (so what?). But those that have clearly thought about the content of my profile and are aroused by it, well they'll arouse me |
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We want to know about you and why you think we would be a good match, why you like us, what makes you a good choice, why you are safe, reliable, nice, respectful etc
Most messages from me we get are a single line then like just now a guy wishing to meet us after three short messages on one day.
Everyone who had ever met us has been one who made a real effort in his messaging over several weeks
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Uh.
Something relevant to something I've said or shown, beyond the general Ur hot from photos.
Something that actually invites a response and conversation to flow from it. Rather than just saying they want a conversation and expecting me to do the legwork.
Positive or interesting, as opposed to negative amd disparaging, either of themselves or others.
From a profile with enough profile text and images to give me an idea of physical attraction and general compatibility.
Otherwise the only likely response is No thanks 💜 |
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"Uh.
Something relevant to something I've said or shown, beyond the general Ur hot from photos.
Something that actually invites a response and conversation to flow from it. Rather than just saying they want a conversation and expecting me to do the legwork.
Positive or interesting, as opposed to negative amd disparaging, either of themselves or others.
From a profile with enough profile text and images to give me an idea of physical attraction and general compatibility.
Otherwise the only likely response is No thanks 💜"
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Be polite, be direct, be yourself.
If something on our profile interests you then mention it.
But if you want something we don't do, don't pretend you want something else just to get talking - we ain't changing our mind.
We'd rather chat to 1-2 people we have the chance to progress with that 100-200 fantasists, people who want to force their kink on us or have no intention of meeting/playing on our terms. |
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