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"A good 80% haven't read ours. Our block list is forever expanding per day. Hope there isn't a cap on block lists 🤣🤣🤣" Likewise | |||
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 ps so juat in case we are mostly fine with outbreaks of sanity and we have zero plans if it's a week day xx | |||
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 , so it's nice to see one or two in here confirming it does
As for the couples messages in the early hours, we assumed the brains of the outfit was snugly tucked away in bed getting her beauty sleep  | |||
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"A good 80% haven't read ours. Our block list is forever expanding per day. Hope there isn't a cap on block lists 🤣🤣🤣" Think mine is too. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ | |||
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"A good 80% haven't read ours. Our block list is forever expanding per day. Hope there isn't a cap on block lists 🤣🤣🤣 Think mine is too. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️" Totally agree, could even be higher than that. | |||
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"We read profiles to get a feel for what they're looking for. Its not the be all and end all but it does help give a little indication on what they're looking for." Totally that is my point. As an example if they were in hard BDSM I would not message as that's not my thing. You get a feel for the person and there personal preference and likes | |||
"Latest one that's irritating me is couples messaging our account. Asking if the male can meet my wife. Ready the fucking profile.....it quite clearly states what were looking for. " 💯 behind you on that one. I am not wasting my time if you can not be bothered. They will just get blocked. | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I do but it doesn’t really change outcomes | |||
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"I have what I would like to think is an "unusual" profile pic. So at the end of my profile I ask a question about it. Probably 80% of the replies I get do not reference this, and I therefore I presume that they did not actually read to the end of the profile. It is a useful filter though!" I would guess 3 people in your profile picture | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " Yes, I always read the profile, for all the reasons you outline and in case there is a like or request I don't cover (eg bbc = not me). I find profiles far more acurate than pictures for gauging someone I'll like and get on with. Does it reduce the number of rejections - no, not that I'm aware of, but it does reduce the number of people I put time into writing to. | |||
"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I always read the profile but it is so disheartening when you then craft a message specifically showing where your interests align and then send it, to see the person has gone off-line and it remains yellow and unread until it disappears with time. So nowadays I often do a couple of sentences to show I’ve read the profile and add a more generic ‘cut and paste’ about me - then also watch as it stays yellow and unread… | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I do, thoroughly so. I even messaged people without meeting one minor "requirement", but I clearly stated I was aware of it and made my case for having gotten in touch anyway. I got "forgiven" on most occasions (and politely turned down on the others). From all the complaints I read on the forum, I do believe many single guys really underestimate the power of a decent (as in, civilised, nothing you wouldn't tell your new neighbour... almost 😈), well-composed first message. Not that mine are perfect, mind you, but for being a newbie and a single male, I'd say I've gotten a pretty satisfying rate of people engaging in conversation. | |||
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"I have what I would like to think is an "unusual" profile pic. So at the end of my profile I ask a question about it. Probably 80% of the replies I get do not reference this, and I therefore I presume that they did not actually read to the end of the profile. It is a useful filter though!"
If we were to write you I would start the message saying I have no F-ing clue how many, the photo is certainly unusual. I'd guess two, but it could be one, just you... Hard to say... | |||
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I'm picky, there's to much time wasting on here and I really can't be chewed anymore trying to work.out if a random Internet stranger is being polite to me, just enjoying attention or is genuinly intrested in meeting.
Anyway it's.more.fun if women chase me, not the other way around.
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"Based on message we get I’d say 95% don’t read it at all (so we get random friend requests, smokers, meet right now etc- all things we specifically ask not for) and then our pet hate- “what you looking for” READ Love your reply THE BLOODY PROFILE " | |||
"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " Not just men, women and couples are also very guilty of not reading profiles | |||
"I have stopped replying I just delete or block. " Exactly this! | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I will admit that when I first came to this site, I was not always good at the profile reading. Since then, I have appreciated the work that goes into a solid profile, and that you will never get anywhere with a person that is not after the same as you. Therefore, sending a wink or a message is really pointless plus can be frustrating to them. Hopefully, I have learnt my lesson now. Not only do I read profiles, but I have worked to make mine a simpler and better read for anyone kind enough to check mine out. Fab is for like minded people that match needs, and not a cheap knocking shop where you get exactly what you like all the time | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I think the majority of guys come on when they're horny so aren't always thinking with their brain! Personally I will always read a profile before looking at the photos. It's no good looking at photos only to discover in the text there's something that discounts you. Like yours for instance, you don't like hairy men, so that would rule me out and I wouldn't message. But that's me. | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 I think the majority of guys come on when they're horny so aren't always thinking with their brain! Personally I will always read a profile before looking at the photos. It's no good looking at photos only to discover in the text there's something that discounts you. Like yours for instance, you don't like hairy men, so that would rule me out and I wouldn't message. But that's me. " I have no clue what the majority of guys are feeling when they come on here. I only the way I'm feeling. | |||
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"As an example of no they don't. Last message we received. Outside our age range, miles away, suggesting a very specific sex act I make no reference to at all in our profile and asking for things that I could not marry up to our profile (i.e no clue how they thought we’d be interested) My best guess is he never got past the photo gallery. " In fairness it's a very distracting and sexy photo gallery. Poor fella! | |||
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"No guys do not read profiles at all .x" Show me the data | |||
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"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. " Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it | |||
"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it " Not pitchforks just the truth. Certain Single males on here ruin it for the rest end of!! | |||
"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it Not pitchforks just the truth. Certain Single males on here ruin it for the rest end of!! " I can live with that. I had to ban a couple of guys that aggressively refused to stop messaging of their own accord. Once the fun messages become hidden by the dross, then it must become very boring | |||
"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it Not pitchforks just the truth. Certain Single males on here ruin it for the rest end of!! I can live with that. I had to ban a couple of guys that aggressively refused to stop messaging of their own accord. Once the fun messages become hidden by the dross, then it must become very boring" We've had everything on here from out n out racism to full on abuse cuz they can't get a meet. The second you say no the vileness starts. Don't get us wrong some lovely guys on here so respectful and genuine. We just wish fab would do something about the scum that hurl abuse. We know they don't as we block n report them. They are still on the block list. So fab don't remove them. Shame this site used to be so much fun. Now it's just hard work!! | |||
"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it Not pitchforks just the truth. Certain Single males on here ruin it for the rest end of!! " Some couples aren’t much better tbf or women or whoever. There’s shit in every category. | |||
"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. " A very good point well made | |||
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"A lot of people on here done read profiles and the complain when you don’t reply. " A lot of people do read profiles, send an email suited to the profile and don't get a reply and moan..or get a reply but it's not what they want and moan.. . Is there a theme? Life's so tough. | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I’ve written long profile text and short ones and can say generally it’s mainly men that don’t read whereas couples and women tend to before messaging | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 Read every profile right the way through construct relevant hello messages that refer to the profile with a bit of cheek humour etc. Literally no replies .. " 
Why do people not read messages ? Or reply ? .. | |||
"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " Because on mobile phones your profile is at the bottom and they're lazy. Ex web designer. | |||
"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " When has a men ever read the instructions first ?? | |||
"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 Read every profile right the way through construct relevant hello messages that refer to the profile with a bit of cheek humour etc. Literally no replies ..
Why do people not read messages ? Or reply ? .."Too many messages sometimes to reply Even when you say thanks but not what I’m looking for they can take that as a foot in the door and keep messaging unfortunately | |||
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"Totally. But what gets me is they do that but expect the ladies to dress up make and effort but they have put none in. " Your point is 100% correct - and that type of response from guys IS definitely poor. That being so it's also true to say that guys are; A) Expected to make 100% of the running. B) Are always wrong. C) Are expected to write an individual message to every single woman they approach. D) Are required to referene that profile, selling themselves as compatible. E) Utilise and display a good use of humour. F) Are expected to send face photos,potentially to someone who won't do the same. G) Are expected by all(including the other male 'chancers' who do nothing but try to gain favour by slating other fellas). H) Are told to expect absolutely nothing. I) Largely get absolutely nothing. I could go on, but while I'm very much onside with the women as I know the kind of crap they get sent on here, all a woman has to do is log on......nothing else - and that's what the vast majority of women do. Sifting through unpleasant, sometimes nasty drivel from some pretty horrible men is something that should never need to happen. I despise that approach and wish it weren't so, but in the same way that all of the above is never going to change, neither is that way women go about things. It's equally difficult, just in totally opposite ways. As a result I don't message anyone any more,which is a pity as it's what Fab should be about, with good people making connections. Sadly the negative side of Fab is slowly killing that, with some really great guys I've met in clubs having left to do more positive things with their time, leaving the ladies to those who aren't really swingers, but just want to get their end away. I'd call on all guys to make sure they read and respond only to profiles where they genuinely believe they fit the bill, with women only receiving more quality in their inboxes, but it'll never happen - nor will many women do more than read, delete and feel frustration about their messages. I've always thought women should block men, then search for themselves, but over the ten years I've been here that's an incredibly rare thing. Shame. This could be amazing couldn't it. | |||
"Totally. But what gets me is they do that but expect the ladies to dress up make and effort but they have put none in. Your point is 100% correct - and that type of response from guys IS definitely poor. That being so it's also true to say that guys are; A) Expected to make 100% of the running. B) Are always wrong. C) Are expected to write an individual message to every single woman they approach. D) Are required to referene that profile, selling themselves as compatible. E) Utilise and display a good use of humour. F) Are expected to send face photos,potentially to someone who won't do the same. G) Are expected by all(including the other male 'chancers' who do nothing but try to gain favour by slating other fellas). H) Are told to expect absolutely nothing. I) Largely get absolutely nothing. I could go on, but while I'm very much onside with the women as I know the kind of crap they get sent on here, all a woman has to do is log on......nothing else - and that's what the vast majority of women do. Sifting through unpleasant, sometimes nasty drivel from some pretty horrible men is something that should never need to happen. I despise that approach and wish it weren't so, but in the same way that all of the above is never going to change, neither is that way women go about things. It's equally difficult, just in totally opposite ways. As a result I don't message anyone any more,which is a pity as it's what Fab should be about, with good people making connections. Sadly the negative side of Fab is slowly killing that, with some really great guys I've met in clubs having left to do more positive things with their time, leaving the ladies to those who aren't really swingers, but just want to get their end away. I'd call on all guys to make sure they read and respond only to profiles where they genuinely believe they fit the bill, with women only receiving more quality in their inboxes, but it'll never happen - nor will many women do more than read, delete and feel frustration about their messages. I've always thought women should block men, then search for themselves, but over the ten years I've been here that's an incredibly rare thing. Shame. This could be amazing couldn't it. " Some valid points to be fair. Although we (I speak for us, not every couple) will respond to anyone who has messaged assuming they’re read the profile. We get between 20-30 messages a day, we have lives outside of this and most messages have less than three words! When we met people on Fab, we always suggested meeting half way so effort was shared. If we had a hotel we would pay half etc. We never expected any perspective guy or couple to travel further or pay more than we do. In closing, a quick read of a profile and a personal message doesn’t take much time and goes a long way. When we message a guy or couple, we read the profile and message based on compatibility. And guess what?…we get ignored too. We move on 😊 | |||
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"Totally. But what gets me is they do that but expect the ladies to dress up make and effort but they have put none in. Your point is 100% correct - and that type of response from guys IS definitely poor. That being so it's also true to say that guys are; A) Expected to make 100% of the running. B) Are always wrong. C) Are expected to write an individual message to every single woman they approach. D) Are required to referene that profile, selling themselves as compatible. E) Utilise and display a good use of humour. F) Are expected to send face photos,potentially to someone who won't do the same. G) Are expected by all(including the other male 'chancers' who do nothing but try to gain favour by slating other fellas). H) Are told to expect absolutely nothing. I) Largely get absolutely nothing. I could go on, but while I'm very much onside with the women as I know the kind of crap they get sent on here, all a woman has to do is log on......nothing else - and that's what the vast majority of women do. Sifting through unpleasant, sometimes nasty drivel from some pretty horrible men is something that should never need to happen. I despise that approach and wish it weren't so, but in the same way that all of the above is never going to change, neither is that way women go about things. It's equally difficult, just in totally opposite ways. As a result I don't message anyone any more,which is a pity as it's what Fab should be about, with good people making connections. Sadly the negative side of Fab is slowly killing that, with some really great guys I've met in clubs having left to do more positive things with their time, leaving the ladies to those who aren't really swingers, but just want to get their end away. I'd call on all guys to make sure they read and respond only to profiles where they genuinely believe they fit the bill, with women only receiving more quality in their inboxes, but it'll never happen - nor will many women do more than read, delete and feel frustration about their messages. I've always thought women should block men, then search for themselves, but over the ten years I've been here that's an incredibly rare thing. Shame. This could be amazing couldn't it. Some valid points to be fair. Although we (I speak for us, not every couple) will respond to anyone who has messaged assuming they’re read the profile. We get between 20-30 messages a day, we have lives outside of this and most messages have less than three words! When we met people on Fab, we always suggested meeting half way so effort was shared. If we had a hotel we would pay half etc. We never expected any perspective guy or couple to travel further or pay more than we do. In closing, a quick read of a profile and a personal message doesn’t take much time and goes a long way. When we message a guy or couple, we read the profile and message based on compatibility. And guess what?…we get ignored too. We move on 😊 " I make you 100% correct. I joined Fab as part of a couple for several years and recognise everything you say. Was never difficult to gain interest, although it wasn't all compatible as we'd all expect. Since rejoining as a single the dynamic has been completely different, with clubs being extremely successful for me and some pretty amazing friends made. The opposite is true with Fab sadly, though not surprisingly. Though I always tried to ensure respectful quality of messages sent (when I used to send them), ticking all their boxes - and only ever messaging those people where potential compatibility was in line with every element of what they looked for - response rate was zero over four plus years. I'd never recommend using Fab to get meets directly to any new single guy as a result - in fact I'd warn against bothering completely. I don't think Fab would be a loss to anyone (barring those who make money from it) if single guys were removed completely. It says everything when someone who tries to set their standards high is very successful in a club, but invisible online. All of that being said it appears that the good guys become fewer and fewer on here, while the badly behaved ones become ever more numerous. A sad state of affairs, but I suspect it'll only get worse. Good guys know their value and don't want to be lumped in with the rest, nor will they continue to bang their heads on a wall forever, whereas the 'chancers' will come and go constantly. I suspect as a result couples and single women will continue to be bombarded with more and more approaches of a poor nature - something they don't deserve to have happen. Personally I've nothing to lose - or gain - in saying this as I no longer message anyone, so no axe to grind. I'd just lose to see more class displayed by single guys and more effort from women, but neither are likely for the most part. | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I always used to when aI did message. If it was someone I'd have liked to get to know I'd read their profile at least twice and wouldn't message (a pointless exercise to be honest) if as much as one thing about me didn't match what they said they were looking for. I'd always try to find some common ground to reference and make an effort with photos etc. Still zero response ever mind you. I'm genuinely surprised any men bother messaging any more. That being said it appears the ones that do do so poorly a lot of the time. Problem you have is that high value men won't continue to waste their time when they're constantly ignored, leaving women with the dross, by and large. It's a never-ending circle that'll never change, unless people's attitudes and approaches change.....which they never will sadly. The best guys will find better things to do. | |||
"... ...Problem you have is that high value men won't continue to waste their time when they're constantly ignored, leaving women with the dross, by and large." · The "high value men" (HVM™) have very little to worry about. They are often contacted by the more discerning women of substance. 🌿 | |||
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"We got one that started "Hi Mark and Lynda" WTF "That tickled me! 😂 | |||
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"... ...Problem you have is that high value men won't continue to waste their time when they're constantly ignored, leaving women with the dross, by and large. · The "high value men" (HVM™) have very little to worry about. They are often contacted by the more discerning women of substance. 🌿" They are also never contacted in some cases. There are several really good guys at the club I go to who have zero response on Fab, yet are hugely successful in a club setting. | |||
"... ...Problem you have is that high value men won't continue to waste their time when they're constantly ignored, leaving women with the dross, by and large. · The "high value men" (HVM™) have very little to worry about. They are often contacted by the more discerning women of substance. 🌿 · They are also never contacted in some cases. There are several really good guys at the club I go to who have zero response on Fab, yet are hugely successful in a club setting. " • Indeed, I'm sure they do well. Personally, clubs hold little mystique for me; Fab serves its purpose inordinately. | |||
"... ...Problem you have is that high value men won't continue to waste their time when they're constantly ignored, leaving women with the dross, by and large. · The "high value men" (HVM™) have very little to worry about. They are often contacted by the more discerning women of substance. 🌿 · They are also never contacted in some cases. There are several really good guys at the club I go to who have zero response on Fab, yet are hugely successful in a club setting. • Indeed, I'm sure they do well. Personally, clubs hold little mystique for me; Fab serves its purpose inordinately." Definitely fair to say different things work for different people. I suspect a few men do very well, some moderately so, while some are fantasists. It seems the majority di not, but we all know why that is in many cases. When I first joined Fab I was reasonably successful to start with, though that's petered out over time. It's a mystery, but good luck to you if it works for you. I'm lucky that ine of the absolute best - and classiest - clubs in the country is on my doorstep. Also by chance it's one of the few where people actually take the trouble to get to know new visitors, without prejudice...at least most of the time. Having visited a good amount of clubs you're not missing much in a lot of cases. | |||
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"We got one that started "Hi Mark and Lynda" WTF
That tickled me! 😂"If your name is Mark and your partner Lynda I can forward it to you  | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " Eh what was that you said???? | |||
"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I go boobie blind
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"Honestly I'm assuming it's just a numbers game situation most of the time. Cast a wide net with a copy and paste message that maybe gets tweaked and hope that it catches someone's attention. Obviously it would be better to cultivate a message to someone's profile but in somes eyes they could put a lot of effort into a message and get exactly the same response (or lack of one)... So they end up going down the numbers game. Annoying but just the way it is. Easy to recognise and move on though at least." I must admit I hate a copy & paste message, especially if I’ve received it numerous times. I would like to think read the profile ticks some boxes tailor your messages accordingly. But obviously odds are against as so many men  | |||
"... ...Problem you have is that high value men won't continue to waste their time when they're constantly ignored, leaving women with the dross, by and large. · The "high value men" (HVM™) have very little to worry about. They are often contacted by the more discerning women of substance. 🌿 · They are also never contacted in some cases. There are several really good guys at the club I go to who have zero response on Fab, yet are hugely successful in a club setting. • Indeed, I'm sure they do well. Personally, clubs hold little mystique for me; Fab serves its purpose inordinately. Definitely fair to say different things work for different people. I suspect a few men do very well, some moderately so, while some are fantasists. It seems the majority di not, but we all know why that is in many cases. When I first joined Fab I was reasonably successful to start with, though that's petered out over time. It's a mystery, but good luck to you if it works for you. I'm lucky that ine of the absolute best - and classiest - clubs in the country is on my doorstep. Also by chance it's one of the few where people actually take the trouble to get to know new visitors, without prejudice...at least most of the time. Having visited a good amount of clubs you're not missing much in a lot of cases. " Well I’m so pleased I’m not the only guy who found ‘some’ clubs to be far removed from the ideal they are constantly sold as in here. Certainly speaking as a solo guy, who appreciates fully, the welcome of “Single guy? Thanks for your money, it’s through there…..”……….
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"Totally. But what gets me is they do that but expect the ladies to dress up make and effort but they have put none in. " This is so true often look like they’ve rolled out of bed in yesterdays clothes | |||
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"In my experience even if guys read the profile they ignore what is in it and send a message sometimes entirely opposite of what the profile says. Go figure, it’s fab so that explains it " We often get messages along the lines of "I've read your profile and I'm not what your looking for but...." | |||
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"In my experience even if guys read the profile they ignore what is in it and send a message sometimes entirely opposite of what the profile says. Go figure, it’s fab so that explains it We often get messages along the lines of "I've read your profile and I'm not what your looking for but...."" yep easy instant block for me | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " Lazy! | |||
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"long profiles bore me to tears can’t lie can only imagine how they would bang on in real life " Wish to have sex with people when you cannot be bothered to spend five minutes understanding the couple. | |||
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"Not to mention the number who seem to read the profile and ask for something you have clearly said you are not looking for " That is my favourite, and not only applocable to ladiesmwho get bombarded with male requests. Us straight guys get some very aggressive messages from men too | |||
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"I'm getting quite a few messages about how hot my tits and arse are. My publicly available pictures are a wonky parsnip (featuring my hand) and my hair (featuring my forehead). It's just "message every woman within fifty miles", honestly "That has made me smile. Your pics are hilarious, no wonder that you are acting like a magnet on here! | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " Most men don’t | |||
