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I think it's common sense to read them, no? Or are people so taken in by the public photos/videos they don't bother reading?
It's annoying to receive (multiple) messages from people who clearly haven't read your profile and your're looking for completely different things on here.
Whilst I get some profiles drag on or sound very condensing (especially the "attach pictures" when the profile themselves have zero pictures or pp themselves) a quick scan beforehand, make sure your're what the OP is looking for, you fit the requirements, and you've in theory got something to offer. |
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By *inkycatWoman 13 weeks ago
High Wycombe |
I never really message tbh. If I did, I would. But I expect someone to read my profile before they message: for example earlier a bi guy messaged me who only wanted daytime meets. I don’t play with bi men and can’t do daytimes… what was the point?! This happens a lot. I look at the profile of most of the people who message me unless they’re a shadow and decide whether to reply.
And then I get jaded with it, hide my profile and vanish. |
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"I think it's common sense to read them, no? Or are people so taken in by the public photos/videos they don't bother reading?
It's annoying to receive (multiple) messages from people who clearly haven't read your profile and your're looking for completely different things on here.
Yes we agree. I suppose it’s to be expected to get lots of single men not reading profiles and sending out cut and pastes. I get that it’s a numbers game for them xx
Whilst I get some profiles drag on or sound very condensing (especially the "attach pictures" when the profile themselves have zero pictures or pp themselves) a quick scan beforehand, make sure your're what the OP is looking for, you fit the requirements, and you've in theory got something to offer. "
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Yes I always read profiles before messaging, and that includes the profiles of those that message me first, I read their's before I reply to them.
I wish people would read mine before messaging but I can tell most haven't. |
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Yes to both questions, it’s so annoying when you get a message from someone who hasn’t read the profile and then gets upset when you ask them why they messaged you, when there profile is the complete opposite |
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Yes and yes. Whats the point in messaging if youre not compatible?!
I think others do read profiles but disregard them sometimes. When a message starts ‘great pics’ i know theyve not read a word of my bio.
I feel there would be a lot more positive interactions on here if folk read bios and acted accordingly. |
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"Do you always read profiles before you send a message?
Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?
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99% of the time yes, the 1% I slip up on invariably ends up with me being slapped down  |
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Reading profile bios is important but so is physical attraction. Ive had situations where, the persons matched what I've written in my bio, but i don't feel attracted based on their pics. That in turn has lead to comments like ‘i read your bio and we match so whats the problem’ then said bio has been used to try and push for interaction. |
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We read the bios and would expect anyone messaging us to read ours.
It's really easy to tell if they have not read our bio. Which makes it easier to delete their message,that usually consists of..hi. |
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Someone told me they had to message 100's of women to get 1 reply so that was too time consuming to read them all 😂 safe to say they wasn't for me nor matched my criteria which they'd have realised if they'd read the profile
Mrs |
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"Do you always read profiles before you send a message?
Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?
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I actually don't mind if people read our profile or not, most of it's nonsense anyway  . I actually enjoy chatting online, to whoever wants to, I find the interaction part entertaining xxx
Mr D. |
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By * and BCouple 13 weeks ago
Durham |
It confuses the hell out of us why folk don't read profiles, reading a profile gives all a clue if it is what they are looking for. People make it so clear in messages that they just haven't bothered, then they wonder why they don't get anywhere on fab and then vent their anger. They are getting no where with us as if they can't put the effort into reading a profile then they wouldn't be putting in any effort to meet and would be another no show statistic. The no show people are what we are all trying to avoid   |
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By * and BCouple 13 weeks ago
Durham |
"Reading proper it's like a newspaper. "
Yes it is and it gives you all the information you need just like a newspaper article. That is if they can be even bothered to write a profile, how is that going to work? You click onto a profile and nothing there, are you going to message? are you just going to pass by? |
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If you are going to message someone with the any inclination to engage in conversation or even meet, then the minimum requirement should be to at least read their profile first, and people wonder why they have no success on this site. |
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Yes and yes.
I don't send many messages, but do get replies occasionally.
And as a single male, I need to stand out, so I've got a profile that explains why people should consider me. Of course I want people to read it.
But still get messages from people who haven't.
One of my 'rule's is that people who contact me should have a message longer than their username.
Latest message "Hi".
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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Both ways, Common courtesy. If they don’t take the time to read something we have invested our time in crafting so they understand how we work, I ain’t interested in giving anything from me. I mean, yes, we are here for sex and the fun and we are not intending to marry anyone, but doesn’t cost a penny to take a minute before trying to stick it in… |
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"Do you always read profiles before you send a message?
Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?
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Yes… what’s the point of messaging if we’re not right for them.
Yes we do! We are fussy with certain desires… if you message and don’t match our wants we just delete |
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"Yes I do because I like to have a drink and I’m smoker so need to what there into and how local they are to me and I want them to read mine so they know I smoke and don’t wear heels "
your profile is clear and concise. Very straightforward (if you read it of course) x
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Yes, I always read profiles.
If someone reads mine before messaging it's nice, but not essential.
There's the odd message I get when someone hasn't even bothered to check my gender, leave alone read my profile - those ammuse me more than anything else... maybe once or twice some may have been wound up, or had an unexpected shock part way through a conversation   |
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Yes. Genrally goes in the order of pictures, profile. Although the bio, intrests and stats are important it goes hand in hand with the pictures because our attraction is the sum of the parts. We don't need war and peace, just an indication of personality and what they're down for.
I can't understand why anyone would approach someone with intent without reading the profile?
Likewise although we don't say much we'd like to think people have at least read our profile. The intrested in section to see what we're down for. The stats to at least see our sexuallity preferences. And of course our small bio to get a flavour for us.
We don't go into huge detail about what we like and what we're looking for. One because it's quite a broad spectrum. Two because if you do some people will tailor their response to give you what they think you want to hear rather than their ture self. |
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"Do you always read profiles before you send a message?
Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?
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Yes, I will read a profile before I message someone to make sure I am what they are looking for (if interested in meeting).
Yes, most messages I got the answer was in my profile. Right now I am not meeting (summer holidays) yet i was still getting messages to meet up. Would save a lot of time if my profile was read. |
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By *riel13Woman 12 weeks ago
Northampton |
I always read profiles... It pisses me off when someone doesn't read mine before messaging... What's the point of writing one otherwise... I don't understand people that have a well written one that don't bother reading them! |
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"Yeh we read and we expect people to read ours. Never really understood how people would choose to message without seeing anything about us!"
Absolutely agree!
You have a great detailed profile… I would know from reading it that we’re not for you!
So we wouldn’t waste our time, wasting yours!
I hate it when people message asking a question that’s answered in our profile (which I know is long and detailed )
We usually answer ‘it’s in our profile’ and delete!
Wife
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Yes, always. I don't want to waste anyone's time, especially my own, by sending unwanted messages.
And...
Yes, I'd prefer folks to read my ramblings before messaging. As a realist, I don't expect it. |
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The very top line of ours says no dick pics, yet we receive loads everyday, so people definitely just look at the pictures.
We however will always read your profile if you've sparked our interest to check we're compatible. |
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By *x cplCouple 12 weeks ago
North of Oxford |
Always read the profile before responding. As ours says what we can see what they like and if they tempt us. If not sadly don't always reply which I know annoys some but if they read our profile would see they aren't what we seek. |
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