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Same old what am I doing wrong post
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By *WB85Man 7 weeks ago
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You're doing nothing wrong what's so ever.....it's a bizarre process that doesn't happen over night.
If club visits are possible try that, it's another way of getting talking to people.
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You are not doing anything wrong mate, as a lot of the replies here. Try getting yourself out to a club. Thats the best approach. Its near impossible otherwise for people to get to know you. In person is the best approach  |
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Agree, being a bit forward with the whole face pic thing is a bit of red flag for us personally, but not everyone lol
Just hit the clubs fella, honestly stay active on the club scene and just enjoy yourself. It's not a race, it's a way life, that fits into our lives. |
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Sometimes the "cannot accommodate " puts people off but the reality is that of the 36,000 people currently online probably 30,000 are single guys so you need to be really selective to find good matches. Good luck and as others have said, try clubs and socials. |
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Don't use fab to meet people. It does not work anymore. The site is predominantly single men, the minority is single women and couples, many of whom won't even meet single males.
The online thing is just done for a multitude of reasons. To many fantasists, time wasters, abusive people etc et.
My wife and I switched to clubs and social events several years back and never looked back. Fabs just for keeping in touch now rather than meeting new folk.
Gotta put yourself really out there to be noticed these days.
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"Can’t seem to strike up a conversation with anyone I like, please give your thoughts on my profile and any tips you can recommend on improving it , try to be kind ! "
On here, you are outnumbered thousands to one, you are a tiny percentage.
But enter the real world of socials and clubs, it flips on its head.
You become one of the very small group who actually go out and meet, giving you a far better chance of fun.
You will meet ladies and couples who also actually meet, which is a very good start.
Or, you can stay online and moan, it's up to you.
Whatever you decide, good luck.
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"You’re on a year with no meets. And you’re demanding face pics .
Think that’s about it "
I don't see the problem there, it's perfectly acceptable when a woman or couple demand pics in their profiles. What's the difference? Ohhhhhhh. He's a single guy.... that's why. |
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"Can’t seem to strike up a conversation with anyone I like, please give your thoughts on my profile and any tips you can recommend on improving it , try to be kind ! "
To be fair bud, I feel exactly the same, effort put in, people read - take 1 look at my ugly mug and they don't even bother to reply.
Honestly I'm not sure why most guys on here subject themselves to the complete mind fuck of a woman's world,
Yes men are majority but women control who what when!
That said, imagine a world where guys said "No" and didn't bother to message or chase. I wonder how that would work out lol. A woman chasing a Man for sex - God forbid. Lmao |
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"Can’t seem to strike up a conversation with anyone I like, please give your thoughts on my profile and any tips you can recommend on improving it , try to be kind !
To be fair bud, I feel exactly the same, effort put in, people read - take 1 look at my ugly mug and they don't even bother to reply.
Honestly I'm not sure why most guys on here subject themselves to the complete mind fuck of a woman's world,
Yes men are majority but women control who what when!
That said, imagine a world where guys said "No" and didn't bother to message or chase. I wonder how that would work out lol. A woman chasing a Man for sex - God forbid. Lmao "
This has just a sniff of misogyny about it. |
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"Can’t seem to strike up a conversation with anyone I like, please give your thoughts on my profile and any tips you can recommend on improving it , try to be kind !
To be fair bud, I feel exactly the same, effort put in, people read - take 1 look at my ugly mug and they don't even bother to reply.
Honestly I'm not sure why most guys on here subject themselves to the complete mind fuck of a woman's world,
Yes men are majority but women control who what when!
That said, imagine a world where guys said "No" and didn't bother to message or chase. I wonder how that would work out lol. A woman chasing a Man for sex - God forbid. Lmao "
Can I ask what the problem is?
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"Sometimes the "cannot accommodate " puts people off but the reality is that of the 36,000 people currently online probably 30,000 are single guys so you need to be really selective to find good matches. Good luck and as others have said, try clubs and socials."
That’s a sobering figure......
30,000 single men! |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"Sometimes the "cannot accommodate " puts people off but the reality is that of the 36,000 people currently online probably 30,000 are single guys so you need to be really selective to find good matches. Good luck and as others have said, try clubs and socials.
That’s a sobering figure......
30,000 single men!"
And probably only 60 or 70 from 30,000 who would be seen as all round fuckables |
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"Maybes move out of your parents house too, that might help!
And you mate
Haha so you do lol, I was just messing but you shoot, you score  "
Yes mate you are right, I do live in my parents house , it’s just that they are no longer alive …. |
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Your profile is fine OP it wouldn't be for me (even on my single womens profile) purely because I'm not into fitness and you want someone who is oh and you have a penis 😂 but anyway.....it's great to have your preferences however it will reduce the interest too for those that aren't gym fit.
Just gotta keep trying, it's hard for guys on here.
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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Yes mate you are right, I do live in my parents house , it’s just that they are no longer alive ….
Shame you can't accommodate in it. "
Oooh caught you out there!  |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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Yes mate you are right, I do live in my parents house , it’s just that they are no longer alive ….
Shame you can't accommodate in it.
Oooh caught you out there! "
Nor can you? |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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Yes mate you are right, I do live in my parents house , it’s just that they are no longer alive ….
Shame you can't accommodate in it.
Oooh caught you out there!
Nor can you?"
Shhh showpan, my mammy doesn't like me bringing people home! |
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By *essTTWoman 7 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"You’re on a year with no meets. And you’re demanding face pics .
Think that’s about it "
Demanding is a really strong word.
People are allowed to see what others look like when speaking to see if the attraction is there |
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"From a misandry point of view, by all means explain??
Oblivious to spell check too?
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Lmao, Learn to read.
Misogyny - male view.
Misandry - female view!!!
Sooooo not sure what you are referring too. |
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By *essTTWoman 7 weeks ago
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"From a misandry point of view, by all means explain??
Oblivious to spell check too?
Lmao, Learn to read.
Misogyny - male view.
Misandry - female view!!!
Sooooo not sure what you are referring too. "
That's not what those words mean. |
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"Can’t seem to strike up a conversation with anyone I like, please give your thoughts on my profile and any tips you can recommend on improving it , try to be kind ! "
Actually a nice profile with lovely pics x |
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"Can’t seem to strike up a conversation with anyone I like, please give your thoughts on my profile and any tips you can recommend on improving it , try to be kind !
Actually a nice profile with lovely pics x"
Thank you it’s appreciated and yours is too ! |
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"Can’t seem to strike up a conversation with anyone I like, please give your thoughts on my profile and any tips you can recommend on improving it , try to be kind ! "
Same old men are in a huge majority on here and it really difficult for them to get a reply, never mind sex answer. |
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"From a misandry point of view, by all means explain??
Oblivious to spell check too?
Lmao, Learn to read.
Misogyny - male view.
Misandry - female view!!!
Sooooo not sure what you are referring too.
That's not what those words mean."
Misandry.
noun
dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against MEN (i.e. the male sex).
Misogyny
noun
dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against WOMEN.
Straight from the dictionary.
Look it up for yourself.
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It’s all got very snappy in here 🤷🏻♂️
OP, the profile is fairly decent compared to a lot we see. Not a cock pic in sight is always a win for us.
Not being able to accommodate would put us off because it’s often a red flag for someone cheating and we don’t want that drama. Others would be more than happy with that though so you won’t please everyone. And that’s kind of our point, there is no magic formula for getting meets. Socials and clubs have proved 99% more effective for us than Fab alone. Hence we now only meet in clubs.
Don’t be disheartened by no response because contrary to popular Fab belief, we only get maybe one response for every 10 messages we send and we actively seek single men! (Probably because we would like to meet them in a club setting and they don’t want/fancy a club visit or they don’t like what they see on our profile) We move on and don’t take it personally because we accept we won’t be attractive to everyone.
Anyway, only our opinion and others will have a totally different point of view. V&K x |
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By *essTTWoman 6 weeks ago
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"Can’t seem to strike up a conversation with anyone I like, please give your thoughts on my profile and any tips you can recommend on improving it , try to be kind ! "
Your profile is fine, but unfortunately there are way more men on here than women so it can be difficult for men to get attention on here x |
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"You’re on a year with no meets. And you’re demanding face pics .
Think that’s about it
I don't see the problem there, it's perfectly acceptable when a woman or couple demand pics in their profiles. What's the difference? Ohhhhhhh. He's a single guy.... that's why. "
You don’t see a problem with someone who has been on the site for a year and hasn’t met anyone, even for a social, requiring face pics ?
Ok then ……
When we include “discreet” in our profile, we mean it. Sending face pics to a guy who’s been on site over a year and hasn’t met anyone doesn’t meet our definition of discreet.
Each to their own though. |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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"Can’t seem to strike up a conversation with anyone I like, please give your thoughts on my profile and any tips you can recommend on improving it , try to be kind !
Your profile is fine, but unfortunately there are way more men on here than women so it can be difficult for men to get attention on here x"
This is very true, I don't send dick pics and try to convey a bit of personality and decency in my messages, but they seem to be going unread as the females on here have another 200 in their inbox! Bit of a lottery really, so I'm going to look at dates for CJ's and start putting myself back out there. Anything that happens on here, I'll regard as a bonus! |
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Same problem when I message. Tried humour, poetry, and something more direct depending on the profile. Being a gentleman I am never rude and ensure my messages are grammatically correct. Nothing. I don't mind no replies but lots of messages are not even read even though they are active on the site. I'm not really sure what many people want to read in a message. |
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"Same problem when I message. Tried humour, poetry, and something more direct depending on the profile. Being a gentleman I am never rude and ensure my messages are grammatically correct. Nothing. I don't mind no replies but lots of messages are not even read even though they are active on the site. I'm not really sure what many people want to read in a message. "
There's no one single answer, because women aren't a hive mind. A message that one person would love, another might hate. And the main thing you're up against is sheer volume, which unfortunately means that no amount of grammatical correctness or skilled crafting will help if they simply never see it. |
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By *heelerMan 6 weeks ago
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"You’re on a year with no meets. And you’re demanding face pics .
Think that’s about it
I don't see the problem there, it's perfectly acceptable when a woman or couple demand pics in their profiles. What's the difference? Ohhhhhhh. He's a single guy.... that's why.
You don’t see a problem with someone who has been on the site for a year and hasn’t met anyone, even for a social, requiring face pics ?
Ok then ……
When we include “discreet” in our profile, we mean it. Sending face pics to a guy who’s been on site over a year and hasn’t met anyone doesn’t meet our definition of discreet.
Each to their own though. "
If you received a mail from someone very local would you reply back 'hi how are you have you a face pic'.
This happened to me this morning I accept nice to see who you are messaging .I wouldn't mind sending one after a few messages. |
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"You’re on a year with no meets. And you’re demanding face pics .
Think that’s about it
I don't see the problem there, it's perfectly acceptable when a woman or couple demand pics in their profiles. What's the difference? Ohhhhhhh. He's a single guy.... that's why.
You don’t see a problem with someone who has been on the site for a year and hasn’t met anyone, even for a social, requiring face pics ?
Ok then ……
When we include “discreet” in our profile, we mean it. Sending face pics to a guy who’s been on site over a year and hasn’t met anyone doesn’t meet our definition of discreet.
Each to their own though.
If you received a mail from someone very local would you reply back 'hi how are you have you a face pic'.
This happened to me this morning I accept nice to see who you are messaging .I wouldn't mind sending one after a few messages."
Absolutely not. We hold ourselves to the same criteria we hold others to |
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"Same problem when I message. Tried humour, poetry, and something more direct depending on the profile. Being a gentleman I am never rude and ensure my messages are grammatically correct. Nothing. I don't mind no replies but lots of messages are not even read even though they are active on the site. I'm not really sure what many people want to read in a message. "
Not advocating it, but open a female profile with literally no pics! Put in a relatively boring profile text. Just see how many fuck me messages you get.
Then - imagine what other women who actually have decent profiles get.
100 guys to 1 female. Maybe more. Lol |
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Maybe lose the “not looking for just anybody” bit, just as it might possibly get read into too much and ppl might think, I won’t bother he’s probably out of my league etc l, maybe lose the socks too in the photos 😂 |
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