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"Profile advice please "
So - you're right in that, being realistic as a more mature guy on here in a sea of single men, it may be a little harder straight off.
Your profile is a starting point for people to know if you share interests and are compatible and if there is any initial physical attraction.
I would suggest you put more into yours - if you were in my age range, I'd pass you by because 1) you tell me nothing about you as a person 2) you say nothing about what you want other than female company and 3) you have the warning on your profile 
What do you enjoy? Sexually and generally? Are you looking for one to ones, group meets, clubs, socials? Regular meets or one offs? Do you have any kinks you'd like to try or enjoy and want more of? What are you like as a person?
A few more photos wouldn't hurt either. They don't need to be graphic, in fact many aren't wild about cock shots, but more clothed or partially naked ones give people an idea of physical attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"I find it hard to meet ladies I am a older man and would appreciate any help "
You can't get meets if you don't have a six pack, bulging pecs, a 9 inch cock, and a lack of concern about your sexual health. |
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"You haven't asked for profile advice so I can't give it
C'mon guys it's time paople stopped repeating this rubbish. "
Well when people offer it without being asked, they get told off by the forum mods. So very terribly sorry if it bothers you  |
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"advice for me to please"
Probably best to start your own topic rather than hijacking someone else's. You seem to have had a couple of meets, though, so clearly you have an approach that works in some cases. What do you think you're lacking? |
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I'll give some free advice to ALL single nen on here.
The sites probably 75% single guys now. The odds are not in your favour.
As with Dating Apps, women are bombarded by single guys and couples. Thanks to Swipe left, swipe right culture Most people are judged instantly based on a photo / look of you and that's it.
Others can give you x,you or z answers but this really is the truth of it. Women are bombarded with attention and spoilt for choice. Some disagree with that statement and I'm in no way having any sort of pop at women but it's the reality. And yes ladies, I am aware not all men on her are to your tastes in looks or behaviour
But the truth is Men have to stand out to you. You can get 100 messages a day. Most guys on her probably never get messaged by anyone. Women get to boil things down to "do I fancy him or not based purely on a picture" and it's based on that. Harsher still ypu realise (according to dtudies) women do not find 80% of men physically attractive. Men however have other ways of being attractive to women but it rarely translates online but is a in person thing.
My advice is to most men on here....don't waste your time or energy. If you want to meet women, go back out into the real world, stop worrying and be old school. Sitting behind a phone screen wondering why ypure getting nowhere isn't going to work.
I really dont wanna come off Doom and gloom but it really is the world we live in now. All my meets come from meeting people at social events and clubs and I do great. I've never had any luck attempting to meet solely through Fab. Great for keeping in touch and seeing when socials and club events but for meet...never happens. Struggle even as a couple on here with my wife but face to face at events, we do great. Loads of freinds and loads of fun times.
I really wish I was wrong in what I was saying but there really is a epidemic of lonely men going on in this country right now and I think, in part, its to do.with so much reliance on technology.
So brush up on your social skills, try a club or a social event or just talk to the next attractive women you see....because this online stuff...it just ain't working anymore.
Good luck guys.
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"You haven't asked for profile advice so I can't give it
C'mon guys it's time paople stopped repeating this rubbish.
Well when people offer it without being asked, they get told off by the forum mods. So very terribly sorry if it bothers you "
I that case they should ask Admin to intervene, Admin wrote the rules that say you can. |
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"You haven't asked for profile advice so I can't give it
C'mon guys it's time paople stopped repeating this rubbish.
Well when people offer it without being asked, they get told off by the forum mods. So very terribly sorry if it bothers you
I that case they should ask Admin to intervene, Admin wrote the rules that say you can. "
Perfect, which rule so I can quote it? |
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By (user no longer on site) 8 weeks ago
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No one will meet you. You're not 9ft tall, you're not a bbc, you're not possessing a 12 pack abdominal display. You're not young enough to tempt an mf couple's husband into being interested. No one will meet you.
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"I'll give some free advice to ALL single nen on here.
The sites probably 75% single guys now. The odds are not in your favour.
As with Dating Apps, women are bombarded by single guys and couples. Thanks to Swipe left, swipe right culture Most people are judged instantly based on a photo / look of you and that's it.
Others can give you x,you or z answers but this really is the truth of it. Women are bombarded with attention and spoilt for choice. Some disagree with that statement and I'm in no way having any sort of pop at women but it's the reality. And yes ladies, I am aware not all men on her are to your tastes in looks or behaviour
But the truth is Men have to stand out to you. You can get 100 messages a day. Most guys on her probably never get messaged by anyone. Women get to boil things down to "do I fancy him or not based purely on a picture" and it's based on that. Harsher still ypu realise (according to dtudies) women do not find 80% of men physically attractive. Men however have other ways of being attractive to women but it rarely translates online but is a in person thing.
My advice is to most men on here....don't waste your time or energy. If you want to meet women, go back out into the real world, stop worrying and be old school. Sitting behind a phone screen wondering why ypure getting nowhere isn't going to work.
I really dont wanna come off Doom and gloom but it really is the world we live in now. All my meets come from meeting people at social events and clubs and I do great. I've never had any luck attempting to meet solely through Fab. Great for keeping in touch and seeing when socials and club events but for meet...never happens. Struggle even as a couple on here with my wife but face to face at events, we do great. Loads of freinds and loads of fun times.
I really wish I was wrong in what I was saying but there really is a epidemic of lonely men going on in this country right now and I think, in part, its to do.with so much reliance on technology.
So brush up on your social skills, try a club or a social event or just talk to the next attractive women you see....because this online stuff...it just ain't working anymore.
Good luck guys.
Absolutely spot on with this.
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Perfect, which rule so I can quote it? "
No nit-picking please
Unless someone specifically asks for their profile to be critiqued or if it's relevant to the thread e.g. someone is wondering why they're not having success, please don't critique their profile or be mean about it. We want the forum to be open and friendly to newbies and everyone starts somewhere.
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Perfect, which rule so I can quote it?
No nit-picking please
Unless someone specifically asks for their profile to be critiqued or if it's relevant to the thread e.g. someone is wondering why they're not having success, please don't critique their profile or be mean about it. We want the forum to be open and friendly to newbies and everyone starts somewhere.
Note the "or if it's relevant...." "
I’m not nit picking - I’m asking a question so I can do exactly what you’ve suggested which is refer any mods who give people a stern word to the referenced rules. And you’ve kindly provided what I asked for, so now I can do exactly that! |
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"Noted thank you just thought it was open forum to speak "
It is, but imagine you were talking up at a graduation ceremony to get your diploma and someone else came up with you and went "I'm graduating too, might as well do both of us at once."
If you create your own topic, you stand a much better chance of getting replies that are specific to you, instead of starting a confusing crossfire of people responding to you while other people are still responding to the original poster. |
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I think most men struggle on dating sites as there are so many men compared to females and couples.
My advice don't jump through hoops to try and get a meet. There's many other ways to socialise and get meets compared to this site.
I've found when I've met guys who are "curious" find women and couples possess an attitude and again expect you to jump through hoops
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Perfect, which rule so I can quote it?
No nit-picking please
Unless someone specifically asks for their profile to be critiqued or if it's relevant to the thread e.g. someone is wondering why they're not having success, please don't critique their profile or be mean about it. We want the forum to be open and friendly to newbies and everyone starts somewhere.
Note the "or if it's relevant...."
I’m not nit picking - I’m asking a question so I can do exactly what you’ve suggested which is refer any mods who give people a stern word to the referenced rules. And you’ve kindly provided what I asked for, so now I can do exactly that! "
I should have used quotation marks
"No nit-picking please" is what the rule is called |
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