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"Never done anal how do I start it?
I am a woman do I use toys and lube
Plz give me some advice "
Make some time and Start with some self play try fingering and gently add fingers and find out what feels good
Then progress to a dildo I recommend a glass one and again work slowly you will find yourself having orgasms
I use a but plug before I have a play session when I will be having anal I also wear one as I live the look and feeling
ensure your partner is gentle and understands the intimacy of anal sex not just wham bam
oh and clean before any couples sessions it’s the best way to really relax and enjoy
Xx
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Try with your finger first … the key thing is, plenty of lube… and most of all, relax!! - don’t be tense!
There are are many nerve endings in that area … just explore as you feel comfortable. Try with small narrow butt plug - again once you feel comfortable.
I love my ‘bum fun’ now. It almost always plays a part in sex … whether with a partner - or on my own.
Enjoy sweetie x
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It sounds like you're already doing every right op, toys, lube, relaxation.
If with a partner ask them to use fingers, starting with 1, insert, stretch the muscle gently in each direction, wait until you've adapted to that then add another finger etc until you can take a cock sized object.
It might take more than one attempt, patience and arousal are key! |
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"Never done anal how do I start it?
I am a woman do I use toys and lube
Plz give me some advice "
Very slow, lube, fingers, toys.... When it comes to a real man pick one who's not too long or girthy and very caring and considerate, one who's truly happy to take things VERY slowly xx |
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Lube lube lube......then when you have enough lube use more lube. Lol. Take it very slow, start with fingers first. Let your partner know how your feeling every step of the way and don't be afraid to ask to stop or just hold still. Relax and also douche first. Being clean will help you just enjoy without worrying about natural processes making things awkward. If you take your time it can be a lot of fun but it's not for everyone. Listen to your body and you will be fine  |
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By *lecom1Couple 2 days ago
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With my first wife when we first started doing anal she would lie on me reverse cowgirl that way she could control the penetration. She would rub her pussy as she slowly eased down on my cock. Her weight making it hard for me to thrust deep into her hence giving her control. |
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"Use lube and toys first then think about it again in about 3 months time.
Maybe every few weeks gradually increase the size of the dildo "
A drink can relax you too and get the guy to be gentle Patience inch by inch , You will end up having a lovely orgasm when you get it right , Or it might not be for you , not everyone loves it |
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Actually enjoy the person you're with and nothing else is required. The person should be gentle considerate patient affectionate and turn you on way before sex actually happens. When you have that house don't need anything extra.
Also have a healthy diet, good hygiene and body control and awareness. |
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"Honestly baby oil is the way forward  xx
Just remember baby oil cannot be used safely with condoms. "
Baby oil should never be used at all. It's a petroleum product .
For toys use natural oil or water based lube .
For condoms , generally no oil is good. Apply water based oil. Ultrasound lube is good.That's what they do in medical settings when insert fingers and instruments in you. |
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Start by playing with your bum hole days or weeks beforehand.
Gentle rubbing and small circles, with NO pushing action will tell the sphincter muscles to relax.
It should feel similar to having a finger in your ear. That's how delicate you need to be. Then when you're ready try it with some lube and see if your finger gets sucked in. Keep it steady and still until the first knuckle and leave it there. Keep this there and see how you feel.
Circling is more gentle and gently persuades those individual muscles to relax in turn.
(This is how I got myself ready for my first prostate and colonoscopy exams.) Having damaged insides and Farmer Giles ain't much fun.
A smaller cock will be an advantage here. Spooning will take away all balancing issues as doggy and other positions might be a bit awkward.
When doing spoons keep him still, as you guide your self onto his cock, that way you'll be fully in control and relaxed.
Good luck
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Very slowly, lots of lube.
Get a set of plugs, for me they were the easiest things to train with. They didn't feel as intimidating as a dildo. Lube the smallest one up and start to edge it in.
Do so daily, until you can wear it for a time comfortably. Then move onto the bigger ones. |
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"Honestly baby oil is the way forward xx
Just remember baby oil cannot be used safely with condoms.
Baby oil should never be used at all. It's a petroleum product .
For toys use natural oil or water based lube .
For condoms , generally no oil is good. Apply water based oil. Ultrasound lube is good.That's what they do in medical settings when insert fingers and instruments in you."
Ultrasound lube is ky jelly |
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For me spooning is always best initially it gives me control over how far in and I can let himself know when I am ready to build up speed or not! Another way is to lie flat on the bed you need someone you trust and who is gentle for this and let them gently take control.
As mentioned by other make sure you are with a patient and considerate person, not someone who watched a lot of porn and thinks women want to be rammed and hurt a lot when doing anal!
Personally I started by myself with toys and when I knew I enjoyed it and could take a certain size without being hurt, we moved onto himself
 Dove xXx |
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