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"Never done anal how do I start it?
I am a woman do I use toys and lube
Plz give me some advice "
Make some time and Start with some self play try fingering and gently add fingers and find out what feels good
Then progress to a dildo I recommend a glass one and again work slowly you will find yourself having orgasms
I use a but plug before I have a play session when I will be having anal I also wear one as I live the look and feeling
ensure your partner is gentle and understands the intimacy of anal sex not just wham bam
oh and clean before any couples sessions it’s the best way to really relax and enjoy
Xx
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Try with your finger first … the key thing is, plenty of lube… and most of all, relax!! - don’t be tense!
There are are many nerve endings in that area … just explore as you feel comfortable. Try with small narrow butt plug - again once you feel comfortable.
I love my ‘bum fun’ now. It almost always plays a part in sex … whether with a partner - or on my own.
Enjoy sweetie x
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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It sounds like you're already doing every right op, toys, lube, relaxation.
If with a partner ask them to use fingers, starting with 1, insert, stretch the muscle gently in each direction, wait until you've adapted to that then add another finger etc until you can take a cock sized object.
It might take more than one attempt, patience and arousal are key! |
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"Never done anal how do I start it?
I am a woman do I use toys and lube
Plz give me some advice "
Very slow, lube, fingers, toys.... When it comes to a real man pick one who's not too long or girthy and very caring and considerate, one who's truly happy to take things VERY slowly xx |
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Lube lube lube......then when you have enough lube use more lube. Lol. Take it very slow, start with fingers first. Let your partner know how your feeling every step of the way and don't be afraid to ask to stop or just hold still. Relax and also douche first. Being clean will help you just enjoy without worrying about natural processes making things awkward. If you take your time it can be a lot of fun but it's not for everyone. Listen to your body and you will be fine  |
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By *lecom1Couple 21 weeks ago
Stornoway |
With my first wife when we first started doing anal she would lie on me reverse cowgirl that way she could control the penetration. She would rub her pussy as she slowly eased down on my cock. Her weight making it hard for me to thrust deep into her hence giving her control. |
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"Use lube and toys first then think about it again in about 3 months time.
Maybe every few weeks gradually increase the size of the dildo "
A drink can relax you too and get the guy to be gentle Patience inch by inch , You will end up having a lovely orgasm when you get it right , Or it might not be for you , not everyone loves it |
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Actually enjoy the person you're with and nothing else is required. The person should be gentle considerate patient affectionate and turn you on way before sex actually happens. When you have that house don't need anything extra.
Also have a healthy diet, good hygiene and body control and awareness. |
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"Honestly baby oil is the way forward  xx
Just remember baby oil cannot be used safely with condoms. "
Baby oil should never be used at all. It's a petroleum product .
For toys use natural oil or water based lube .
For condoms , generally no oil is good. Apply water based oil. Ultrasound lube is good.That's what they do in medical settings when insert fingers and instruments in you. |
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By *orny PTMan 21 weeks ago
Peterborough |
Start by playing with your bum hole days or weeks beforehand.
Gentle rubbing and small circles, with NO pushing action will tell the sphincter muscles to relax.
It should feel similar to having a finger in your ear. That's how delicate you need to be. Then when you're ready try it with some lube and see if your finger gets sucked in. Keep it steady and still until the first knuckle and leave it there. Keep this there and see how you feel.
Circling is more gentle and gently persuades those individual muscles to relax in turn.
(This is how I got myself ready for my first prostate and colonoscopy exams.) Having damaged insides and Farmer Giles ain't much fun.
A smaller cock will be an advantage here. Spooning will take away all balancing issues as doggy and other positions might be a bit awkward.
When doing spoons keep him still, as you guide your self onto his cock, that way you'll be fully in control and relaxed.
Good luck
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Very slowly, lots of lube.
Get a set of plugs, for me they were the easiest things to train with. They didn't feel as intimidating as a dildo. Lube the smallest one up and start to edge it in.
Do so daily, until you can wear it for a time comfortably. Then move onto the bigger ones. |
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"Honestly baby oil is the way forward xx
Just remember baby oil cannot be used safely with condoms.
Baby oil should never be used at all. It's a petroleum product .
For toys use natural oil or water based lube .
For condoms , generally no oil is good. Apply water based oil. Ultrasound lube is good.That's what they do in medical settings when insert fingers and instruments in you."
Ultrasound lube is ky jelly |
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For me spooning is always best initially it gives me control over how far in and I can let himself know when I am ready to build up speed or not! Another way is to lie flat on the bed you need someone you trust and who is gentle for this and let them gently take control.
As mentioned by other make sure you are with a patient and considerate person, not someone who watched a lot of porn and thinks women want to be rammed and hurt a lot when doing anal!
Personally I started by myself with toys and when I knew I enjoyed it and could take a certain size without being hurt, we moved onto himself
 Dove xXx |
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"Honestly baby oil is the way forward xx
Just remember baby oil cannot be used safely with condoms. "
This.... plus baby oil can irritate the delicate areas! Use a good quality water/silicone based lube |
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Practical advice would be.
As one profile said, douche yourself, think about what you eat at least 24 hours in advance, drink lots of fluids and make sure you’re empty.
The rest it about taking time and exploring. Often best on your own in the shower.
Worst thing is to have some guy just think about himself and force it, that is some extreme pain.
For us guys we get a hell of a lot of pleasure from a good pounding of our ass. I’ve come hands free many times that way. So very good.
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By *ndisMan 21 weeks ago
Liverpool |
Go slow, and steady, with someone who you can trust, lots of lube, don't go too big too soon, it's uncomfortable the fisrt few times but start small then work up once happy with a small things. It could take a while before you are happy moving up and take your time as too big too soon will put you off! And really you need a partner who will listen and go at your pace instead of someone who thinks you are ready and just goes for it. Toys at home are a good start but obviously its used mainly for things coming out so at some point expect a little mess. Maybe towels on the bed first or try douching in the shower! |
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Reading this with interest. I used to be able to do anal... till an ex caused some damage. Stitches involved...
Im really wanting to have anal with Mr. I know I used to be able to. I think a lot of mine is psychological x |
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Always douche, helps to stay clean. Use luke warm water. You don't wanna cause damage.
Silicone based lube is better for anal. Take it slow and with a trusted partner.
Remember you must be relaxed otherwise your muscles won't wanna play along.
Once you've got it right, you'll never look back. I love it. The feeling before and after is immense. The orgasm is out of this world when it hits the right spot for me. |
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There's a really good book (and video) by Tristan taormino called a guide to anal sex for women.
Orgasms during training and stretching with toys and fingers can be useful in conditioning you to enjoy it. Take it slow. |
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By *oodo69Man 6 weeks ago
London (visiting very often) |
Wife prefers when l lick and finger her first, for quite a long time actually. She loves that and often orgasms from having her tight hole licked. Or sometimes we use a butt plug and lube first to open her up a bit before gently sliding my cock very slowly inside her. Needs a bit of careful slow fucking before we can start go deeper and harder. We both love it xx |
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By *ister_EMan 4 weeks ago
Hayling Island |
Experimenting is lots of fun and anal sex can add a whole new dimension of pleasure to your sex life so I'd definitely encourage you to go for it.
Ideally start with a partner who is experienced, sensual and very patient. Remember that it's not all or nothing. Lots of people enjoy anal play and stimulation without full penetration.
Letting your partner tease, and finger your hole during oral will hugely enhance your orgasms for instance. As will a finger or plug or toy during sex.
You can encourage your partner and show them what you like by reciprocating. And teasing and fingering each other is very intimate and erotic.
Rimming is amazing to give and receive and not 'ick' at all if you both practice good hygiene.
Lubrication is your best friend when it comes to anal play. And there are great lubricants that are designed specifically for anal play. Don't use water based lube that will dry out as they can become sticky and will actually increase friction.
Position is key in the beginning! Doggy feels great once you are loosened up and he is fully inside you but it's a terrible position to start with. It tightens your sphincter muscles and makes penetration more difficult/painful.
Lying on your back with legs supported is great for relaxing your muscles as is lying on your side.
If he has no experience then consider sitting on him as it gives you complete control and will be more comfortable than him prodding and thrusting.
There are two muscles that need to be stretched. Steady pressure is much better than poking and prodding and going in and out.
You may feel a burning sensation or pain as he first enters, if you are not completely relaxed.
It will pass quickly though once he is inside you. Just hold it in there and don't let him push further or pull out. Especially when the muscle tightens around his head and clamp down involuntarily.
Just hold him inside and it will pass in a moment and you will feel the muscles release, accompanied with a feeling of relief and pleasure.
He will slide in deeper and hit the second sphincter muscle. Repeat the previous process and then he should easily slide all the way inside.
Hold him inside you and just get used to the feeling and let your body adjust. Clitoral stimulation will definitely help through this whole stage.
Once your muscles have relaxed he will be able to start rocking back and fourth and gradually increase the length of his thrusts. By now you will be feeling immense pleasure and when he pulls out you will experience a feeling of emptiness and craving to be filled. Keep adding more lube, and if you haven't both cum already then he should be able to fuck you a little harder and faster.
Not all women cum from anal, especially without clitoral stimulation so don't be disappointed if you don't. It should still be very pleasurable for both of you and using a vibrator on your clit can definitely help you orgasm.
Hygiene is not a sexy topic, but it's especially important for anal! Evacuating fully and Douching before anal is not only cleaner but will help you relax and feel more confident.
Make sure he uses different fingers or washes well before touching your vagina after playing with your bum and make sure he washes well, using soap, if he wants to fuck your pussy afterwards. Switching between holes looks hot on porn, but can lead to nasty UTI's for women.
The same goes for toys. Use different toys for each hole or wash well before switching between holes. Using condoms on your toys is also far more hygenic.
There may be a little 'unsightly contamination' on him after a good session, so have wet wipes to hand for when he pulls out. Some guys are squeamish about this, other's more relaxed, but if you anticipate and prepare you minimise awkwardness and discomfort after sex.
I would definitely encourage you to explore and play with yourself first. Fingers, toys and plugs are a great way to learn and prepare. And encourage him to use them on you before penetration.
Not only will this help to loosen and stretch your bum before sex, it will help you be more relaxed to recieve him.
Hope some of this helps and that you will be able to add a whole new repertoire of pleasure to your sex life
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I've always started to give anal with very gentle touches while doing other things, then slowly start with some tongue action which helps her to relax before moving on to using fingers. Can never use too much lube & when it eventually comes to inserting your manhood just the tip to start with short slow thrusts & not being too keen to force it all in straight away. |
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"I've always started to give anal with very gentle touches while doing other things, then slowly start with some tongue action which helps her to relax before moving on to using fingers. Can never use too much lube & when it eventually comes to inserting your manhood just the tip to start with short slow thrusts & not being too keen to force it all in straight away."
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"I've always started to give anal with very gentle touches while doing other things, then slowly start with some tongue action which helps her to relax before moving on to using fingers. Can never use too much lube & when it eventually comes to inserting your manhood just the tip to start with short slow thrusts & not being too keen to force it all in straight away."
very helpful advice .
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