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By *amHull OP Man 22 weeks ago
West Hull |
Hi,
It's more a curious one that I've seen people asking for advice but how did you become swingers? Did you ask Mrs or did she ask you? Did you start small and build up to cuck stuff I see? What was the start for you? |
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I've always enjoyed sex, a friend recommended this site to help me explore my bi side. Met a guy on here who offered to take me to a swingers club he was a regular at and it went from there. I decided I enjoyed the atmosphere and the inclusiveness  . |
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Over the years we'd had lots of talks about fantasies and things we'd done before we were together.
One day I suggested going out to our local club. They focus on the social side as much as the sex. That week they had live music. It was almost like going for a night out.
At first we went to a private room; but soon after Mrs said leave the door open...
We've not looked back since. |
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"That's great, when you take a new boundary/step do you talk before? Example being say the first time he watched you suck someone else?"
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One evening fucking my now ex porn on two guys started playing in mmf
She got turned in asked if id do that and I said sure as long as she ate pussy
Few days later she's joined a swingers site and a few days after I'm sucking cock her eating pussy and we are fucking another partner next to each other
Happy times |
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By *amHull OP Man 22 weeks ago
West Hull |
"That's great, when you take a new boundary/step do you talk before? Example being say the first time he watched you suck someone else?
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Ow my bad!! Hopefully they see or ill delete and add later. |
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"That's great, when you take a new boundary/step do you talk before? Example being say the first time he watched you suck someone else?
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Ow my bad!! Hopefully they see or ill delete and add later."
It's fine . It's easy to follow at the moment. It just gets slightly more difficult when there are more posts |
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"So is it something you'd need in a life partner?"
I am lucky, I met my current partner through here so we both had swinging background. If we ever go our separate ways, and I get into a relationship, it would have to be open one/ethical non monogamy one. Can't imagine myself in a traditional, monogamous relationship.
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"So is it something you'd need in a life partner?"
Not sure if this was aimed at us. There are no set rules. It seems on here (Fab) there are lots of people looking for various things.
What works for some doesn't for others. Personally we think it's great to have the connection with someone you love/trust rather than those who do this whilst 'cheating'. Again that's just our point of view and others will see it differently. |
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By *elloWoman 22 weeks ago
alpha centauri |
Moved with a twat of an ex, 100miles away from my friends and family, one day we was looking through the local loot paper for things to do and saw an advert for a swingers club, best decision ever to try it out. |
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By *oxy jWoman 22 weeks ago
somerset |
we got into it by being very open and honest right from the beginning second date night was all about us both wanting open sex lives and we both told each other we were bi too .... thats why people should be honest str8 from the start but too many hide |
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We visited a nudist beach in Lanzarote and thought it was so sexy just talking to naked people.
From there it was contact mags, very few timewasters, it cost £1 to send a reply to a PO Box number with Polaroid photo.
We visited clubs and as we got ourselves around the world of private parties opened up, from there weekends away and swingers holidays in Gran Canaria and Cap D'Agde.
It's changed over the years and is more mainstream and full of timewasters, dreamers and just plain old fashioned nutters.
We love it and have met some brilliant people and some very strange ones too.
Have a great time. |
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We’re still in the process of becoming swingers, but for us it was a case of allowing Marie to accept her sexuality.
Over the last 12 months we have become a lot less prudent and more open. Marie really likes girls and as a married man with a wife I love, my mindset doesn’t feel that it would be right to stop her playing.
She’s not cheating if she lets me know who she’s seeing, where she’s seeeing them and most importantly that I can make sure she’s safe.
We’re talking about the idea of swaps but that’ll be in a few years. |
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Got excited watching guys eye my wife up when she was showing a little flesh , also as postie women both married and single would answer door wearing next to nothing , we would also watch porn together and speak about our fantasy’s ,and we agreed to try soft , she enjoyed wanted to take things further so we did ?? |
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Became one when I started to have sex over 20 years ago so I'm not a UK definition swinger.
I'm part of the legitimate lifestyle community as it known to be called in the states. It's not my weekend or just for fun kick it's who I am. It not what I do or done shady taboo tick fetish box that it is over here. |
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I found fab many years ago on my earlier profile and thought it looked interesting. Chatted away to folk and got invited to a few parties and socials and it went from there. I just enjoy the lifestyle. Fab can be a great place at times and I’ve met some really nice people. |
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I am a massive slut. And I finally have a girlfriend who can accept that!
We met at work, and both knew that each other was sex-positive, and while the flirtations turned I to feelings, it was never really a question that we would end up here. We are still both learning exactly what we want, and like, but it is such fucking fun finding out! - L |
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Long time ago when I was a student and used to lodge with married couple. I had a nice girl friend same age as me and the wife kept on asking me how sex with her was. I was very embarrassed and did not know what to say. One morning the wife who was 46 came on to me. I had honestly not thought about her in sexual way. I was very shy and nervous but she led me to her bedroom. We ended up staying there for several hours. I thought sex with my girlfriend was good but this was on a different level. It turned out she had lots of friends and how she got me into swinging. It changed my life as lots of first experiences |
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In our case I was the person who brought her in.
I'd been aware for a little while when we met that monogamy was not for me, faithfulness yes; monogamy no.
So I made it clear from one of our earliest dates that this was a part of the package with me. Before emotions got involved so she could walk away with no baggage if it wasn't for her.
Turned out it was :P so I married her |
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Met someone while I was recovering from my last serious relationship ending - so very vulnerable and this guy ended up being quite toxic and a narcissist.
Well he spent our 6 months trying to force me into swinging - mainly wanted to bring in another woman, had a couples profile on here and he'd tell me things like no one woman can satisfy a man so you have to let me invite a woman in.
I'm straight but I was willing to attend a club with him and see how I felt as I found out Townhouse was just up the road from me...his response to that was he felt insecure about going to a club....yet wanted me to be ok invting a random stranger into my home 
Safe to say I finally woke up, stood my ground and kicked him out - first night I dropped him at his new place was the first night I went to Townhouse and I've been involved in the scene since.
I am seeking out my person as I do want a monogamous relationship but until I find the right person this lifestyle has been a life saver, met the most amazing people and have the best sex I've ever had - constantly learning new things so overall I'm glad I met that little shit but what a rollercoaster to get here  |
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similar story. nudist beach in crete for a laugh, enjoyed the wandering eyes and then were propositioned- thought why not so we had a "holiday" fling. liked the ideas behind it so carried it on when we got back home
"We visited a nudist beach in Lanzarote and thought it was so sexy just talking to naked people.
From there it was contact mags, very few timewasters, it cost £1 to send a reply to a PO Box number with Polaroid photo.
We visited clubs and as we got ourselves around the world of private parties opened up, from there weekends away and swingers holidays in Gran Canaria and Cap D'Agde.
It's changed over the years and is more mainstream and full of timewasters, dreamers and just plain old fashioned nutters.
We love it and have met some brilliant people and some very strange ones too.
Have a great time. "
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We came across a couple on tiktok can’t remember the name. We Started talking about it and was unsure if it was just a fantasy, ended up watching open house and the fantasy got more realistic. We had a look online and we’re looking for a sex club found a club called Cupids in Manchester within 2 days we had booked our hotel and travelled 5 hours to get there lol. Talked to a few couples and introduced us to fab. We now now there’s closer clubs to us haha x |
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We talked about scenarios etc. while having sex, saw things on TV etc.
Visited a nudist beach on hols in Greece which really set the ball rolling.
Following year holidaying in Spain and flicking through the local English paper in a bar (no mobile phones or internet then!!) and there was an advert for a club in the resort, we thought 'what the hell!' and went, the rest is history!!
Strangely, that club is still the best we have ever visited.....
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