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So I am alone again in the hotel with 54 messages in my inbox
I have changed my status. Can you read it and give me ideas about safety if I am not asking for ID as many said that is too much to ask for
Many thanks in advance
Sam xxx |
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There arent really any safety precautions you can take when you’re advertising a same day meet.
You don’t know the men, anything about them or who they are.
The only thing you can do is pick a hotel with reception, someone knowing where you are and we’ll verified men.
You don’t know any of these men, could be anyone.
However in my opinion, knowing someone a while via text or a social doesn’t improve safety- anyone can be nice for a period of time.
Chance we take I guess. The reason I only meet well verified and clubs verified people. |
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Have a friend check up with you during the meet. You can have a coded response. Ensure that the meet gets covered by CCTV with you, such as at the bar - check where cameras are beforehand.
Have an agreed outline of the meet with the guy before you meet, to ensure you are all content with what you want.
Stop it, if there's anything you aren't happy with. Get him to leave immediately. |
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"So I am alone again in the hotel with 54 messages in my inbox
I have changed my status. Can you read it and give me ideas about safety if I am not asking for ID as many said that is too much to ask for
Many thanks in advance
Sam xxx"
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over a year ago
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All this safety talk but how does a man know it's safe to come to a random strangers hotel? How would he know your 'don't isn't there waiting to do whatever. I'm not saying that's the case just pointing out you're not the only one who needs consider their safety.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There arent really any safety precautions you can take when you’re advertising a same day meet.
You don’t know the men, anything about them or who they are.
The only thing you can do is pick a hotel with reception, someone knowing where you are and we’ll verified men.
You don’t know any of these men, could be anyone.
However in my opinion, knowing someone a while via text or a social doesn’t improve safety- anyone can be nice for a period of time.
Chance we take I guess. The reason I only meet well verified and clubs verified people. "
Pretty much this, there's no guarantees unfortunately especially on such short notice, just be as careful as possible, meet for the first time in a public place and have a friend know your there.
As a previous poster has said safety is a two way street and its certainly something that's worried me in the past too.
You've just got to find what your comfortable with and works for you. If it doesn't feel right you have to have the confidence to say no thank you as well. |
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There's nothing that will guarantee your safety. Aside from the fact that the vast majority of men are ordinary blokes who wouldn't dream of doing anything bad all you can do is take the usual precautions of having a friend check on you and going with your gut feeling |
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"There arent really any safety precautions you can take when you’re advertising a same day meet.
You don’t know the men, anything about them or who they are.
The only thing you can do is pick a hotel with reception, someone knowing where you are and we’ll verified men.
You don’t know any of these men, could be anyone.
However in my opinion, knowing someone a while via text or a social doesn’t improve safety- anyone can be nice for a period of time.
Chance we take I guess. The reason I only meet well verified and clubs verified people. "
Such good advice great thanks so much xx |
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"Have a friend check up with you during the meet. You can have a coded response. Ensure that the meet gets covered by CCTV with you, such as at the bar - check where cameras are beforehand.
Have an agreed outline of the meet with the guy before you meet, to ensure you are all content with what you want.
Stop it, if there's anything you aren't happy with. Get him to leave immediately. "
My Dom knows what’s going on and he’s coming after work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have a friend check up with you during the meet. You can have a coded response. Ensure that the meet gets covered by CCTV with you, such as at the bar - check where cameras are beforehand.
Have an agreed outline of the meet with the guy before you meet, to ensure you are all content with what you want.
Stop it, if there's anything you aren't happy with. Get him to leave immediately.
My Dom knows what’s going on and he’s coming after work "
I'm confused, you say you're alone but now your man is going to be there too so is it a single woman or a couple you're asking men to meet as I think they'd want to know beforehand. |
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By *eliusMan
over a year ago
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"Have a friend check up with you during the meet. You can have a coded response. Ensure that the meet gets covered by CCTV with you, such as at the bar - check where cameras are beforehand.
Have an agreed outline of the meet with the guy before you meet, to ensure you are all content with what you want.
Stop it, if there's anything you aren't happy with. Get him to leave immediately.
My Dom knows what’s going on and he’s coming after work
I'm confused, you say you're alone but now your man is going to be there too so is it a single woman or a couple you're asking men to meet as I think they'd want to know beforehand."
Maybe this is why advice is being sought … if we’re confused, what chance for the OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All this safety talk but how does a man know it's safe to come to a random strangers hotel? How would he know your 'don't isn't there waiting to do whatever. I'm not saying that's the case just pointing out you're not the only one who needs consider their safety. "
And as it turns out, OPs Dom IS going to be there.
OP, are you making this clear to those you're talking to or are they going to find this out when they arrive?
From what I've read on the thread you posted yesterday and this one, you seem to be creating a lot of confusion - the question about the dishwasher being just one example. |
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"All this safety talk but how does a man know it's safe to come to a random strangers hotel? How would he know your 'don't isn't there waiting to do whatever. I'm not saying that's the case just pointing out you're not the only one who needs consider their safety.
And as it turns out, OPs Dom IS going to be there.
OP, are you making this clear to those you're talking to or are they going to find this out when they arrive?
From what I've read on the thread you posted yesterday and this one, you seem to be creating a lot of confusion - the question about the dishwasher being just one example."
My view exactly. And I’d question the motives of anyone who is ok with these very large red flags. |
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Personally, I would knock the hotel on the head and just go to a club, daytime ones will have single men and onsite security. Get your kicks safely and if you are feeling extra frisky, go to an open area and ask 2 or 3 guys to join you. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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So you are asking others for photo ID and an address and to pay £25 to get into a pool before you will meet people while giving them your home address were your family and father live?
I would say that isn't safe for the people you are asking and nor for you and I am very susprised that you had someone hand these details over.
There are some tips in the FAQ's for safe meeting
https://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#safe_meeting |
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"So I am alone again in the hotel with 54 messages in my inbox
I have changed my status. Can you read it and give me ideas about safety if I am not asking for ID as many said that is too much to ask for
Why is it? They wouldn't get in to any club without ID. Your safety is NOT 'too much to ask for'.
Many thanks in advance
Sam xxx"
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Why is it? They wouldn't get in to any club without ID. Your safety is NOT 'too much to ask for'."
There’s a huge difference between showing ID at a club, where there are systems in place for its safekeeping (if they even keep a copy) and sending a copy to a randomer you’ve never met. And there are clubs that don’t require it. The other issue is that in this situation it doesn’t make you safer, just the opposite. |
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"Ask for guys registration number meet in car park to check make sure he knows you’ll text the info to a friend. As others have said meet in reception covered by CCTV etc "
Thanks this is cool advice great stuff |
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"I’m sure that we are all pleased to hear that all went well and you received the attention you deserve. Phew"
(Emoji disaster on first post)
I sincerely hope this whole fiasco was just attention-wh*ring and OP is not as naive as it appeared. |
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"I’m sure that we are all pleased to hear that all went well and you received the attention you deserve. Phew
(Emoji disaster on first post)
I sincerely hope this whole fiasco was just attention-wh*ring and OP is not as naive as it appeared. "
It appears Anton got lucky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's no way of a meet being 100% safe.
People have been attacked/assaulted/ killed by partners they've known for years.
You can only do your best to minimise your risk. |
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Blimey, I just read the whole thing. I’m going to buy myself a dishwasher, or stay at a hotel that has one because if i go empty it and come back to 69 messages waiting for me then it’s money well spent  |
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By *odkajemWoman
over a year ago
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"Blimey, I just read the whole thing. I’m going to buy myself a dishwasher, or stay at a hotel that has one because if i go empty it and come back to 69 messages waiting for me then it’s money well spent "
 I was like HOW is this still going
Walter Mitty always springs to mind when this thread resurges....  |
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