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Hi everyone, any advice on how best to get single females to speak to couples? We know they get a lot and we are quite new to this so can be quite intimidating and a bit depressing when we never get any responses? |
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"Hi everyone, any advice on how best to get single females to speak to couples? We know they get a lot and we are quite new to this so can be quite intimidating and a bit depressing when we never get any responses? "
Why are you looking for single ladies? The lady from the couple is labelled as "straight" on your profile. From the point of view of a bisexual woman, I would not engage with your profile as I can get men without another woman attached, like in your case.
Have a good chat between yourselves and decide, if you want a woman to join the two of you, that your profile needs updating. |
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I always check a person's bio. Personally yours seems weighted to meeting men and doesn't suggest in the text that you're actually looking for women. Even your opening line is mentioning guys.
I always try to see if I can match a vibe with a bit of humour from a couples bio plus I like to see what kind of person they're looking for as well as what kinda things they're looking for. Is it gonna be mutual or is it gonna be weigted to one of the couple. What dynamic would I be entering into.
Also, I love seeing both of the couple if that's what the intention is for both people. |
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"Hi everyone, any advice on how best to get single females to speak to couples? We know they get a lot and we are quite new to this so can be quite intimidating and a bit depressing when we never get any responses? "
I think be honest on your profile as both of you say straight. Your profile is a bit negative lots of what you don't like.
I am (just guessing here) male write the profile it's very protective and masculine.
Soften it a bit and express some femininity in there of what female and both of you can bring to another female. Good luck |
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"Hi everyone, any advice on how best to get single females to speak to couples? We know they get a lot and we are quite new to this so can be quite intimidating and a bit depressing when we never get any responses?
Why are you looking for single ladies? The lady from the couple is labelled as "straight" on your profile. From the point of view of a bisexual woman, I would not engage with your profile as I can get men without another woman attached, like in your case.
Have a good chat between yourselves and decide, if you want a woman to join the two of you, that your profile needs updating. "
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As a unicorn, I find your profile a little negative, it's full of what you don't want, and nothing about what you do want, or what you enjoy, or what you bring to the table for potential partners.
I also don't send face pics straight off the bat, so that would put me off too. |
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"I always check a person's bio. Personally yours seems weighted to meeting men and doesn't suggest in the text that you're actually looking for women. Even your opening line is mentioning guys.
I always try to see if I can match a vibe with a bit of humour from a couples bio plus I like to see what kind of person they're looking for as well as what kinda things they're looking for. Is it gonna be mutual or is it gonna be weigted to one of the couple. What dynamic would I be entering into.
Also, I love seeing both of the couple if that's what the intention is for both people. "
When we first started out, our profile (albeit on a different site) had all the information we wanted to convey, but it was all written with humour and in a light hearted manner. We were surprised by the number of females who initiated contact with us first.
The second paragraph in this comment here, does reinforce what we thought back then.  |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
An hour before you posted the OP you updated your status to say ‘finally got some pictures up’ so I’m assuming that for the 4 weeks you’ve been on here you haven’t had any pictures on your profile, and now the pictures that you’ve finally got up are one public and one friends only….no matter how good your bio is you’re not going to attract any attention as a couples profile with one public picture of just the female partner…..you might as well just post a picture of a red flag, change your user name to red flag, change your names to Red and Flag and delete your current bio and replace it with the words red and flag |
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" we are quite new to this so can be quite intimidating and a bit depressing when we never get any responses? "
Your profile says "if we don't reply then please don't take offence" so they are just doing the same as you. |
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By *l1pp3ryCouple
over a year ago
Bradford |
"Hi everyone, any advice on how best to get single females to speak to couples? We know they get a lot and we are quite new to this so can be quite intimidating and a bit depressing when we never get any responses?
Why are you looking for single ladies? The lady from the couple is labelled as "straight" on your profile. From the point of view of a bisexual woman, I would not engage with your profile as I can get men without another woman attached, like in your case.
Have a good chat between yourselves and decide, if you want a woman to join the two of you, that your profile needs updating. "
Not meeting at mo hence hidden profile. We have been on and off fab for years. I (fem) am straight but we would love to meet a woman for a 3some (I am happy to kiss and tease but that's the extent of my bi curious side) is there a reason single straight women aren't willing to meet a couple for sex with the male with his female partner present whereas single men are happy to meet a couple for sex with a women when her male partner is present? I would have thought the males would feel more pressure on them (to be bigger/have more stamina etc than hubby) I understand men just want sex and generally don't care where they get it but women can, and generally, will be, more selective but is there a deeper reason? Hubby loves watching me enjoy 2 cocks, is it so wrong for us to want hubby to get the same experience? |
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Personally we find the best way to meet the right single ladies is the same as the best way to meet the right couples or guys. Personally we don't use the Internet for this. We like to find people at clubs, events and socials. When you meet people in the real world you very quickly get a vibe for chemistry and likewise they do too. It generally doesn't take long for you to work out if all three of you work well of not. Our advice would be just get yourselves out into the physical swinger scene and start interacting with ladies (if your not already doing so). Because when there is a mutual 3 chemistry and it just works that's a beautiful thing. |
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"Personally we find the best way to meet the right single ladies is the same as the best way to meet the right couples or guys. Personally we don't use the Internet for this. We like to find people at clubs, events and socials. When you meet people in the real world you very quickly get a vibe for chemistry and likewise they do too. It generally doesn't take long for you to work out if all three of you work well of not. Our advice would be just get yourselves out into the physical swinger scene and start interacting with ladies (if your not already doing so). Because when there is a mutual 3 chemistry and it just works that's a beautiful thing."
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Not meeting at mo hence hidden profile. We have been on and off fab for years. I (fem) am straight but we would love to meet a woman for a 3some (I am happy to kiss and tease but that's the extent of my bi curious side) is there a reason single straight women aren't willing to meet a couple for sex with the male with his female partner present whereas single men are happy to meet a couple for sex with a women when her male partner is present? I would have thought the males would feel more pressure on them (to be bigger/have more stamina etc than hubby) I understand men just want sex and generally don't care where they get it but women can, and generally, will be, more selective but is there a deeper reason? Hubby loves watching me enjoy 2 cocks, is it so wrong for us to want hubby to get the same experience?"
I'm guessing here but...... I would say that the single fem would be worried that she's just there for the man, that he wants it and maybe not the woman from the couple. It could risk an arguement or tension and who wants to put themselves in that situation
It is a little crazy that as a scene we hope for a straight M to join a straight MMF and not a straight F to join an FFM |
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"Remember it’s not all about what you two want, what’s in it for the unicorn?
Sick of getting messages of couples that make me feel like I’m a toy for their crapy sex life "
I think that’s a little harsh of you to imply that’s what we are doing. We have a wonderful sex live together and don’t NEED anyone else. We would always want the other party, whatever the sex, to get as much from it as we do. Sounds like you might have had some bad experiences but certainly no reason to take that out on someone you don’t know or stereotype all couples! |
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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
We’ve never had an issue since joining fab, if we message first and don’t get a reply we move on….single women on here get inundated with messages.
I have to say I agree with the above about going to clubs. Much better to meet people face to face.
Definitely add some more pictures and maybe update your profile. |
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"Hi everyone, any advice on how best to get single females to speak to couples? We know they get a lot and we are quite new to this so can be quite intimidating and a bit depressing when we never get any responses?
Why are you looking for single ladies? The lady from the couple is labelled as "straight" on your profile. From the point of view of a bisexual woman, I would not engage with your profile as I can get men without another woman attached, like in your case.
Have a good chat between yourselves and decide, if you want a woman to join the two of you, that your profile needs updating.
Not meeting at mo hence hidden profile. We have been on and off fab for years. I (fem) am straight but we would love to meet a woman for a 3some (I am happy to kiss and tease but that's the extent of my bi curious side) is there a reason single straight women aren't willing to meet a couple for sex with the male with his female partner present whereas single men are happy to meet a couple for sex with a women when her male partner is present? I would have thought the males would feel more pressure on them (to be bigger/have more stamina etc than hubby) I understand men just want sex and generally don't care where they get it but women can, and generally, will be, more selective but is there a deeper reason? Hubby loves watching me enjoy 2 cocks, is it so wrong for us to want hubby to get the same experience?"
I was mostly curious, why a straight couple would want a woman to join them as there was nothing on their profile regarding that. There was no need to bite my head off. There might be women who are interested in joining a straight couple but in my personal opinion, they are very much in minority. |
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"Hi everyone, any advice on how best to get single females to speak to couples? We know they get a lot and we are quite new to this so can be quite intimidating and a bit depressing when we never get any responses?
Why are you looking for single ladies? The lady from the couple is labelled as "straight" on your profile. From the point of view of a bisexual woman, I would not engage with your profile as I can get men without another woman attached, like in your case.
Have a good chat between yourselves and decide, if you want a woman to join the two of you, that your profile needs updating.
Not meeting at mo hence hidden profile. We have been on and off fab for years. I (fem) am straight but we would love to meet a woman for a 3some (I am happy to kiss and tease but that's the extent of my bi curious side) is there a reason single straight women aren't willing to meet a couple for sex with the male with his female partner present whereas single men are happy to meet a couple for sex with a women when her male partner is present? I would have thought the males would feel more pressure on them (to be bigger/have more stamina etc than hubby) I understand men just want sex and generally don't care where they get it but women can, and generally, will be, more selective but is there a deeper reason? Hubby loves watching me enjoy 2 cocks, is it so wrong for us to want hubby to get the same experience?
I was mostly curious, why a straight couple would want a woman to join them as there was nothing on their profile regarding that. There was no need to bite my head off. There might be women who are interested in joining a straight couple but in my personal opinion, they are very much in minority. "
I don’t think they meant to “bite your head off”. I think they were genuinely asking the question as to why is it different for a man to join a straight couple to a woman joining a straight couple? |
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I think it's fair to say although in the minority straight women do exist on the scene and some are happy to enjoy sharing the guy in a couple. Just the same as two straight guys can enjoy sharing the female in a couple. I think it hard to be a straight woman on the scene because to most all women are considered Bi (or at least bi playful) by default until proven otherwise. But let's not forget some straight women do enjoy the hotness of simply sharing a guy with the right couple. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"I think it's fair to say although in the minority straight women do exist on the scene and some are happy to enjoy sharing the guy in a couple. Just the same as two straight guys can enjoy sharing the female in a couple. I think it hard to be a straight woman on the scene because to most all women are considered Bi (or at least bi playful) by default until proven otherwise. But let's not forget some straight women do enjoy the hotness of simply sharing a guy with the right couple."
Yep people still assume I'm bi despite it saying im straight on my profile.
I've had couples in the past mail me but they nearly always bring up fem play,which i won't do.Its sometimes like they can't belive I am actually straight ie you will snog my mrs though etc- err no i won't.
I've blocked couples now because they didn't read my profile and seemed to just want MFF anyway.To be honest I've not seen many straight fem couples on here who are specifically looking for another straight fem for a 3sum. |
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Yep people still assume I'm bi despite it saying im straight on my profile.
I've had couples in the past mail me but they nearly always bring up fem play,which i won't do.Its sometimes like they can't belive I am actually straight ie you will snog my mrs though etc- err no i won't.
I've blocked couples now because they didn't read my profile and seemed to just want MFF anyway.To be honest I've not seen many straight fem couples on here who are specifically looking for another straight fem for a 3sum."
Whilst I'm not straight..... an FFM where it's 'straight' is defo on our bucket list. Where he pleases us both and we please him.
I guess my point is..... just as a bi-man can 'play straight'.... so can I/bi-women
Just about communication beforehand |
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"Personally we find the best way to meet the right single ladies is the same as the best way to meet the right couples or guys. Personally we don't use the Internet for this. We like to find people at clubs, events and socials. When you meet people in the real world you very quickly get a vibe for chemistry and likewise they do too. It generally doesn't take long for you to work out if all three of you work well of not. Our advice would be just get yourselves out into the physical swinger scene and start interacting with ladies (if your not already doing so). Because when there is a mutual 3 chemistry and it just works that's a beautiful thing."
Agree. I’ve met very few couples or males from
Fab itself, I tend to make connections in the clubs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There’s some great advice on here for couples looking to include another woman into the mix.
Can I ask OP as you are both straight, what are you looking for in this dynamic? |
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"Thank you all for your advice so far. The profile definitely needs updating as things change. The face pic thing is more for guys but not reflected in the profile itself, still learning!!! "
Your interest section is very limited. Maybe saying what the kinks are, that you want to explore might help. We started off as a straight couple but in reality we or I decided to be honest and change my sexuality to bi, as we both are into that dynamic, especially in a threesome. |
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Replying as a single bisexual woman who plays with couples. The major thing that would put me off is that the woman in your profile is listed as straight. If that's the case then what is it that you're looking for with a single woman? I would state that in your profile. If you want a threesome without sexual contact between the two women, then say that. If the woman in your couple is bi-curious, then that should be listed as the orientation.
What is it that you can offer to the woman you're seeking, what makes you stand out in the sea of couples looking for 'unicorns'? It might help to give a bit more information about you as a couple, what do you like? A little more about you as people.
And more photos of you both would be good, both separately and together. |
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"There’s some great advice on here for couples looking to include another woman into the mix.
Can I ask OP as you are both straight, what are you looking for in this dynamic?"
What do couples look for in a single man? I don’t see how it’s different to be honest but nobody ever asks why couples look for men, seems a bit double standards to me. Same dynamics would apply but with 2 women rather than 2 men |
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"There’s some great advice on here for couples looking to include another woman into the mix.
Can I ask OP as you are both straight, what are you looking for in this dynamic?
What do couples look for in a single man? I don’t see how it’s different to be honest but nobody ever asks why couples look for men, seems a bit double standards to me. Same dynamics would apply but with 2 women rather than 2 men"
The dynamic can vary hugely, whether the third person is a man or a woman. It might be that a member of the couple is bi or curious but doesn't want to list it. It might be that there's a cuck dynamic, maybe the other member of the couple only wants to watch. Etc, etc. It's really better to just say what it is you're looking for, rather than let people guess.
Especially when there are so many couples looking for single women. Many of those women won't try to work out what you're looking for if you don't put it out there to begin with, they'll just move on to a couple that they know right away matches their interests. |
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"The dynamic can vary hugely, whether the third person is a man or a woman. It might be that a member of the couple is bi or curious but doesn't want to list it. It might be that there's a cuck dynamic, maybe the other member of the couple only wants to watch. Etc, etc. It's really better to just say what it is you're looking for, rather than let people guess.
Especially when there are so many couples looking for single women. Many of those women won't try to work out what you're looking for if you don't put it out there to begin with, they'll just move on to a couple that they know right away matches their interests. "
That’s a fair comment but then doesn’t that apply to all profiles though? |
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Honestly on the site we haven't spoken to many single fems we have found though that if you go to clubs and start a conversation you tend to find they are pretty open to chatting with couples.
To be fair we haven't met many people from this site,we have met most of our friends through the club/social seen.
We know clubs are not for everyone but you don't have to play in a club you can just use it for meeting people socially. |
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"The dynamic can vary hugely, whether the third person is a man or a woman. It might be that a member of the couple is bi or curious but doesn't want to list it. It might be that there's a cuck dynamic, maybe the other member of the couple only wants to watch. Etc, etc. It's really better to just say what it is you're looking for, rather than let people guess.
Especially when there are so many couples looking for single women. Many of those women won't try to work out what you're looking for if you don't put it out there to begin with, they'll just move on to a couple that they know right away matches their interests.
That’s a fair comment but then doesn’t that apply to all profiles though?"
It does, I'm just pointing it out here since you're asking for advice.
Single men that don't have exceptional profiles will be passed over in much the same way.
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"There’s some great advice on here for couples looking to include another woman into the mix.
Can I ask OP as you are both straight, what are you looking for in this dynamic?
What do couples look for in a single man? I don’t see how it’s different to be honest but nobody ever asks why couples look for men, seems a bit double standards to me. Same dynamics would apply but with 2 women rather than 2 men"
I wasn’t trying to trip you up OP, just genuinely interested as you don’t state it on your profile and any woman will want to know before they interact with you.
Couples looking for a single man will usually specify what they’re looking for.
And there are plenty of forum threads about what couples look for in a man.
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"There’s some great advice on here for couples looking to include another woman into the mix.
Can I ask OP as you are both straight, what are you looking for in this dynamic?
What do couples look for in a single man? I don’t see how it’s different to be honest but nobody ever asks why couples look for men, seems a bit double standards to me. Same dynamics would apply but with 2 women rather than 2 men
I wasn’t trying to trip you up OP, just genuinely interested as you don’t state it on your profile and any woman will want to know before they interact with you.
Couples looking for a single man will usually specify what they’re looking for.
And there are plenty of forum threads about what couples look for in a man.
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Fair enough, I just took it the wrong way! Thank you |
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After many people giving you OP very sound advice and asking the same direct question of your profile saying your both straight,we really wonder now at this stage why you keep avoiding the specific question and not giving an answer |
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Go to clubs and get talking to people. You will have more luck.
Also, please for the love of god when you are messaging single females, read their profiles and if they say they don’t meet couples or only play with couples they know don’t message them, they won’t be interested. |
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