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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So there’s a “gentleman” in my inbox offering his very kind services of pretending to be my partner in order to gain entry as a couple to clubs and to reel in a single female under the guise that we are a genuine couple.
Now this has made me bring up a little bit of vom in my mouth. Anybody else had this before? |
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It happens a lot
Lots of people do couple up to meet couples too, I personally don't understand it, to me a couples swap part of it is knowing your partner is with their wife/husband & vice versa
With two singles buddying up you don't get the same emotional head part of it, we may as well look for two singles ourselves |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It happens a lot
Lots of people do couple up to meet couples too, I personally don't understand it, to me a couples swap part of it is knowing your partner is with their wife/husband & vice versa
With two singles buddying up you don't get the same emotional head part of it, we may as well look for two singles ourselves "
Literally my thoughts too. If I found out when I was a couple that I’d been lied to by what I thought was a couple I’d feel used in a way. |
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Yes, definitely happens regularly, men saying they "are nervous to go on their own". When I asked if they really need a woman to hold their hand, most of them never gets back to me.
And let me add my thoughts regarding, what some people believe to be, "fake couples". Where in the Fab rules or swinging rules does it state that a "true couple" has to be husband and wife? What's wrong with FWB couples, or even fuck buddies? Me and my partner, we don't live together, we are not married and not planning to be. Are we a "fake couple" then? Nobody complained so far. |
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"It happens a lot
Lots of people do couple up to meet couples too, I personally don't understand it, to me a couples swap part of it is knowing your partner is with their wife/husband & vice versa
With two singles buddying up you don't get the same emotional head part of it, we may as well look for two singles ourselves
Literally my thoughts too. If I found out when I was a couple that I’d been lied to by what I thought was a couple I’d feel used in a way. "
Why would you feel used? For the purpose of that play, they were a couple. Do you need to see wedding certificates??? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It happens a lot
Lots of people do couple up to meet couples too, I personally don't understand it, to me a couples swap part of it is knowing your partner is with their wife/husband & vice versa
With two singles buddying up you don't get the same emotional head part of it, we may as well look for two singles ourselves
Literally my thoughts too. If I found out when I was a couple that I’d been lied to by what I thought was a couple I’d feel used in a way.
Why would you feel used? For the purpose of that play, they were a couple. Do you need to see wedding certificates??? "
If people tell me they’re a couple and my intention is to play with a couple then yes I’ve been deceived and in turn would feel used. I’m not sure why I need to explain my feelings on this or have them invalidated.
Two strangers turning up to a venue or meet together portraying a relationship and leading others to believe that are being deceptive. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes, definitely happens regularly, men saying they "are nervous to go on their own". When I asked if they really need a woman to hold their hand, most of them never gets back to me.
And let me add my thoughts regarding, what some people believe to be, "fake couples". Where in the Fab rules or swinging rules does it state that a "true couple" has to be husband and wife? What's wrong with FWB couples, or even fuck buddies? Me and my partner, we don't live together, we are not married and not planning to be. Are we a "fake couple" then? Nobody complained so far."
I’m not sure where anyone called you a fake couple or why you feel so attacked by this?
Would you class your relationship with your partner the same as a stranger from the internet? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It happens a lot.
Some men think that attending as part of a couple makes other women see them as safe to play with. "
That’s where the ick comes into this for me. |
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There are some females here who state they are looking for a partner to swing with at clubs. However, it is pushy of the gentleman to assume others are up for it and send random messages. I guess it's the fab equivalent of a Nigerian scam letter, hoping that if enough people are contacted, someone will bite.
My response would be the same as with the Nigerians- just ignore the message. |
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"Yes, definitely happens regularly, men saying they "are nervous to go on their own". When I asked if they really need a woman to hold their hand, most of them never gets back to me.
And let me add my thoughts regarding, what some people believe to be, "fake couples". Where in the Fab rules or swinging rules does it state that a "true couple" has to be husband and wife? What's wrong with FWB couples, or even fuck buddies? Me and my partner, we don't live together, we are not married and not planning to be. Are we a "fake couple" then? Nobody complained so far."
I never called anyone a fake couple but if I were to couple swap (im married and also have a couples profile) part of the appeal of that couple to me is taking someone's husband knowing the wife is enjoying my husband, I don't get that same kick if it's just two fuck buddies
I should say we rarely meet couples as I think it's hard to find a four way attraction which is where the getting off on fucking someone's husband comes into it, someone I might not be interested in occasionally becomes more attractive if im
In the mood to role play that scenario in my head & is why I commented that I'd rather look for two singles ourselves than for with a couple who are a couple only to swing |
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It's as old a trick for solo guys to con their way into meeting genuine couples.
From the contact magazine days to now, an unsuccessful solo man hires a working woman to act as his partner to get access to the female in a couple.
It's something we always used to look out for. |
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"So there’s a “gentleman” in my inbox offering his very kind services of pretending to be my partner in order to gain entry as a couple to clubs and to reel in a single female under the guise that we are a genuine couple.
Now this has made me bring up a little bit of vom in my mouth. Anybody else had this before? "
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We've had this several times for a Club in Torquay where single guys can only attend with a couple on Saturday nights. They've offered to pay our entry which is tempting but worry they'll be a pain in the ass once in. |
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"We've had this several times for a Club in Torquay where single guys can only attend with a couple on Saturday nights. They've offered to pay our entry which is tempting but worry they'll be a pain in the ass once in."
Not literally I hope! |
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... Why would you feel used? For the purpose of that play, they were a couple. Do you need to see wedding certificates???
If people tell me they’re a couple and my intention is to play with a couple then yes I’ve been deceived and in turn would feel used. I’m not sure why I need to explain my feelings on this or have them invalidated.
Two strangers turning up to a venue or meet together portraying a relationship and leading others to believe that are being deceptive. "
This exactly. If you meet a 'couple' then they are vouching for each other so the expectation is that they trust each other and that in turn makes you feel more comfortable to trust them.
It's potentially deceptive but the real line would be crossed if they were untruthful when asked the question "How long have you been together?"
Personally I wouldn't feel comfortable doing this. The only way possible would to be extremely honest with the people we meet by disclosing our non 'relationship' straight away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, definitely happens regularly, men saying they "are nervous to go on their own". When I asked if they really need a woman to hold their hand, most of them never gets back to me.
And let me add my thoughts regarding, what some people believe to be, "fake couples". Where in the Fab rules or swinging rules does it state that a "true couple" has to be husband and wife? What's wrong with FWB couples, or even fuck buddies? Me and my partner, we don't live together, we are not married and not planning to be. Are we a "fake couple" then? Nobody complained so far."
I've got the same thing with my partner in that we don't live together nor plan to get married. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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I don’t ever go to clubs with people I don’t know (made that mistake one time only) If they end up being a twat that Is on me. Like someone said, if we are there together then we are somehow vouching for each other. Now I know I’m not a dickhead, but I wouldn’t be able to tell someone else about a guy I didn’t know. If people only want couples to fuck, Thats ok of course so when I club with friends I’m always quite open about our relationship status. If it’s not what others are looking for that’s absolutely fine. I don’t see why we get wound up about it. People have their view of “couple” and I don’t care to try to change it.
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