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"You’re gonna have to be patient! Takes some men months to get their first meet." I think I've past the year mark already, don't get me wrong I have been as patient as possible, just absolutely confidence destroying. :/ | |||
"Get yourself to a club to get verified in person! " That was actually recommended to me previously so I posted a topic in the forum asking for club advice in the London/South East areas and it got completely blanked. | |||
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"@layla and cherry I totally get it, you would rather meet someone that's previously been verified rather than some unknown guy. Sadly that's the catch 22 that I find myself in at the moment. :/ " It is! I can only recommend again you get to the clubs. Even if you don’t play the clubs and hosts can give you verifications 
Not ideal if you don’t really want to club though! X | |||
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" It is! I can only recommend again you get to the clubs. Even if you don’t play the clubs and hosts can give you verifications
Not ideal if you don’t really want to club though! X"Kinda why I asked previously in another topic, I have no idea which are viable clubs to go to in the London/ South East area that a good for single guys and are not hard to travel too. Also visiting a club by myself is definitely not my idea of a good time. I would prefer if I went with someone I knew, just so it's less daunting and then I could get used to the environment without feeling too much pressure of just jumping in. Sorry for focusing on the negatives, but last thing I want is to visit a club by myself and feel like I have to chat up every single woman I come across and then become one of those unbearably annoying guys that hassles every women that comes through the door. :P | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? " Site supporter? You mean the gold/silver membership thing? If so? It's made no difference so far! XD | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? Site supporter? You mean the gold/silver membership thing? If so? It's made no difference so far! XD " Saved me a few quid then | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? " If you get a platinum - that guarantees 10 pussies a day  | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? If you get a platinum - that guarantees 10 pussies a day "Facts  | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? If you get a platinum - that guarantees 10 pussies a day "Haha I'm dumb but not that dumb | |||
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"Get yourself to a club to get verified in person! That was actually recommended to me previously so I posted a topic in the forum asking for club advice in the London/South East areas and it got completely blanked. " There's a club section (on the Home Screen) where you'll be able to find details of lots of clubs by location | |||
"@layla and cherry I totally get it, you would rather meet someone that's previously been verified rather than some unknown guy. Sadly that's the catch 22 that I find myself in at the moment. :/ " See if there are being any socials organised you could attend. It could be an alternative to a club. | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? Site supporter? You mean the gold/silver membership thing? If so? It's made no difference so far! XD Saved me a few quid then "I would say it makes you slightly more credible/genuine as your prepared to pay for the site but as it's only pennies I think it's kind of pointless, I think a charge of £20 would clear the site of most of the time wasters | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? If you get a platinum - that guarantees 10 pussies a day
Facts " | |||
"I do meet people that aren't verified but it's rare as to meet a verified meet in person shows they'll actually show up, & they are who they say they are as 2 out of 3 non verified people I've tried to meet are no shows " I'm sorry to hear about that, although boggles my mind why someone would arrange for a meet and then not show up. | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? Site supporter? You mean the gold/silver membership thing? If so? It's made no difference so far! XD Saved me a few quid then
I would say it makes you slightly more credible/genuine as your prepared to pay for the site but as it's only pennies I think it's kind of pointless, I think a charge of £20 would clear the site of most of the time wasters "I think you have a point. I was contemplating silver as a trial to be fair. Its only a fiver and besides that I've nothing to lose really. And I am enjoying talking to people on the forums regardless! | |||
" It is! I can only recommend again you get to the clubs. Even if you don’t play the clubs and hosts can give you verifications
Not ideal if you don’t really want to club though! X
Kinda why I asked previously in another topic, I have no idea which are viable clubs to go to in the London/ South East area that a good for single guys and are not hard to travel too.
Also visiting a club by myself is definitely not my idea of a good time. I would prefer if I went with someone I knew, just so it's less daunting and then I could get used to the environment without feeling too much pressure of just jumping in.
Sorry for focusing on the negatives, but last thing I want is to visit a club by myself and feel like I have to chat up every single woman I come across and then become one of those unbearably annoying guys that hassles every women that comes through the door. :P"Look in the club review pages they’re split by region! | |||
" There's a club section (on the Home Screen) where you'll be able to find details of lots of clubs by location " I have looked through there a few times, but it's just reviews that quite often mention how annoying the single guys are, so not a really good scope of finding out what's a good club for me as a single guy to try visiting. | |||
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"I've met verified and ninja verified people. I've also been let down by verified and ninja verified people. A verification is no guarantee that they not messing you around" Please tell me ninja verified is a real thing and not a typo  | |||
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"You’re gonna have to be patient! Takes some men months to get their first meet. I think I've past the year mark already, don't get me wrong I have been as patient as possible, just absolutely confidence destroying. :/ " You're a good looking bloke, don't let this site get you down. The last 16 months have been covid ravaged so pointless for anything. Verifications won't guarantee you meets. I'd meet you for a coffee and a veri but I'm too far away. Maybe try meeting women via other ways. Good luck.  | |||
"I've met verified and ninja verified people. I've also been let down by verified and ninja verified people. A verification is no guarantee that they not messing you around" | |||
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"Head over to silverleigh or eurekas mate. Both nice places, and my experience is that single chaps are not treated as lesser humans at all. Look at their websites, and pick your night sensibly as I think both do couple only nights. Get chatting, and go with the expectation that you will still walk away with heavy balls... the purpose of your fist visit is to meet, chat and scope stuff out! Good luck and enjoy!" Thanks for the advice! Was looking at Eureka's, but have recently sold the car so not easy to get to now. Not heard of silverliegh? Also any advice on how to approach the night? from a first timer and a single guy point of view? | |||
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" You're a good looking bloke, don't let this site get you down. The last 16 months have been covid ravaged so pointless for anything. Verifications won't guarantee you meets. I'd meet you for a coffee and a veri but I'm too far away. Maybe try meeting women via other ways. Good luck. "Wow that actually means a lot to me, thank you very much!
Kinda feel like I'm most likely going to meet someone on here by act of Providence. -_-
Or you know I gather the courage to try visiting a club solo. :P | |||
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"I've met verified and ninja verified people. I've also been let down by verified and ninja verified people. A verification is no guarantee that they not messing you around Please tell me ninja verified is a real thing and not a typo "Lol sorry must have been predictive text as I pressed ni instead of no. Was meant to say non | |||
"Hi guys, first off a massive thanks to everyone that gave me advice previously on my profile, but I'm sad to say I've had no luck since then and have still yet to get a meet. I've must have messaged at least a 100 women since then (sadly not an exaggeration). It's not even copy and paste messages either as I try and tailor the message to each person. I start off with a friendly hi, followed by a terrible joke/compliment (if they have a pic on their profile) or even both. :D But still absolutely nothing to show for my efforts, not even a reply (I know I'm not owed a reply, so let's please not focus on that). I remember one of the chats where I did get a reply was "sorry not interested," I pushed a little further and asked why and the reason was, because I was not verified by a meet. So a question to all you ladies/couples, how much does it influence your decision to talk and meet with a single guy if they are unverified by a meet? Kinda feels like that situation where you apply for a basic job and they need you to have X years experience, despite being an entry level position! XD I honestly don't think I'll get to see anyone on here if that's the case, although I'm more than happy to be proved wrong. " Hey I’m the chat rooms, have some conversations and get to some clubs. If you’re a gentleman and respectful, the verifications and meets will follow. | |||
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"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? Site supporter? You mean the gold/silver membership thing? If so? It's made no difference so far! XD Saved me a few quid then
I would say it makes you slightly more credible/genuine as your prepared to pay for the site but as it's only pennies I think it's kind of pointless, I think a charge of £20 would clear the site of most of the time wasters "I 100% agree. I’d happily pay that and more to clear out the time wasters ! | |||
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"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? " Definitely also helps! | |||
"Hi guys, first off a massive thanks to everyone that gave me advice previously on my profile, but I'm sad to say I've had no luck since then and have still yet to get a meet. I've must have messaged at least a 100 women since then (sadly not an exaggeration). It's not even copy and paste messages either as I try and tailor the message to each person. I start off with a friendly hi, followed by a terrible joke/compliment (if they have a pic on their profile) or even both. :D But still absolutely nothing to show for my efforts, not even a reply (I know I'm not owed a reply, so let's please not focus on that). I remember one of the chats where I did get a reply was "sorry not interested," I pushed a little further and asked why and the reason was, because I was not verified by a meet. So a question to all you ladies/couples, how much does it influence your decision to talk and meet with a single guy if they are unverified by a meet? Kinda feels like that situation where you apply for a basic job and they need you to have X years experience, despite being an entry level position! XD I honestly don't think I'll get to see anyone on here if that's the case, although I'm more than happy to be proved wrong. " I see one of your concerns being verified. You know that your able to get verified via cam on the site, an opportunity for you. As for the rest you have to remember we all have our own preferences and need to respect each others we can't always have what we'd like. But don't let this be an obstacle, your approach seems ok and it's probably given to the wrong people who you don't fit in their criteria. Try mingling on cam I'm not saying it wouldn't work or would but the possibilities to explore and hopefully bring you a positive experience to fulfill your requirements. | |||
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"I've met verified and ninja verified people. I've also been let down by verified and ninja verified people. A verification is no guarantee that they not messing you around" They'll be single guys at all club Just don't be an annoying one that follows the couples and single landlord around all night Be respectful, chat, go with no expectations & you might be pleasantly surprised A lot of the time you'll see the sand people there each week/month and we tend to find in a club environment we tend to play with someone on the second / third told of meeting them, they are also generally the shyest people in the room so just because you may think you haven't caught someone attention doesn't mean your not on their radar, we'd go for the quiet guy over the in your face wants to be our best friend guy | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? If you get a platinum - that guarantees 10 pussies a day "Haha brilliant! | |||
"Get yourself to a club to get verified in person! That was actually recommended to me previously so I posted a topic in the forum asking for club advice in the London/South East areas and it got completely blanked. " It's good advice. I was going to say this. Going to clubs is good fun too. You get to actually know people in person and it a great way to make new friends. There's even a person whose already replied this thread I've seen at a club. So that goes to show you'll get to know a lot of people by going. | |||
"I've met verified and ninja verified people. I've also been let down by verified and ninja verified people. A verification is no guarantee that they not messing you around Please tell me ninja verified is a real thing and not a typo
Lol sorry must have been predictive text as I pressed ni instead of no. Was meant to say non"I'm disappointed now lol | |||
"I've met verified and ninja verified people. I've also been let down by verified and ninja verified people. A verification is no guarantee that they not messing you around Please tell me ninja verified is a real thing and not a typo
Lol sorry must have been predictive text as I pressed ni instead of no. Was meant to say non
I'm disappointed now lol"Hahahahaha | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? Site supporter? You mean the gold/silver membership thing? If so? It's made no difference so far! XD " You can't find anyone in London, to have a social drink with you in a public place?  | |||
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" You can't find anyone in London, to have a social drink with you in a public place? "Not on here I haven't  | |||
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"OP I’m sure there are plenty of other men like you that are finding it hard on here so why don’t you try & arrange to go to a club with another male so you wouldn’t feel like a fish out of water then just a thought "Good advice this. You don't have to go to a club with a lady if you're not confident going alone. | |||
"In a similar boat mate don’t worry and I just enjoy the site lol they’ll cum … eventually "Thanks buddy, fingers crossed to you too then. | |||
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"I haven't had a meet in a long time, not for trying though, older you get the more outside ties there are which restrict availability. Advice I would give from my past when younger without a child at home and meets were much easier to get. 1. Go to social events and get to know people face to face. 2. Go to a club (more than once) as this can really give you 'references' 3. Be able to accommodate 4. Have excellent hygiene" Thanks for the advice ObiWanKenobi(love the name by the way!) And I'll try and do 1 & 2. As for 3, I can be accomodating, I just can't accommodate at the moment and for number 4, psh! of course that's a given. | |||
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"You’re gonna have to be patient! Takes some men months to get their first meet. I think I've past the year mark already, don't get me wrong I have been as patient as possible, just absolutely confidence destroying. :/ " And during the past year, nobody has been meeting because of a global pandemic. Some people are still not comfortable with meeting again just yet. Don't get too hung up on the verification thing. Yes, many won't meet unverified people, but some do, so focus on that. The more you worry about getting that verification, the less likely it is it will happen, because your focus becomes the verification and when people you're communicating with get wind that this is your focus, they'll be less likely to want to meet you, because they will feel that you are only interested in them in order to get your green tick. Sadly, I'm getting the impression that your expectations of fab when you joined were not very realistic. You need to be patient. The more you give off the vibe that you'll meet absolutely anyone and are obsessed with getting verified, the more you will come across as desperate and your chances of getting a meet fall to zero | |||
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"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? If you get a platinum - that guarantees 10 pussies a day "Members buying site supporter membership for the first time in August get to fuck a hot wife in front of there husband…..but you must be verified to qualify | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? Site supporter? You mean the gold/silver membership thing? If so? It's made no difference so far! XD Saved me a few quid then
I would say it makes you slightly more credible/genuine as your prepared to pay for the site but as it's only pennies I think it's kind of pointless, I think a charge of £20 would clear the site of most of the time wasters "Totally agree, if Men won’t spend £5 for 60 days silver site supporter are they really going to drive 40 miles, book a hotel and buy the drinks for the lovely couple ?? | |||
"I haven't had a meet in a long time, not for trying though, older you get the more outside ties there are which restrict availability. Advice I would give from my past when younger without a child at home and meets were much easier to get. 1. Go to social events and get to know people face to face. 2. Go to a club (more than once) as this can really give you 'references' 3. Be able to accommodate 4. Have excellent hygiene Thanks for the advice ObiWanKenobi(love the name by the way!) And I'll try and do 1 & 2. As for 3, I can be accomodating, I just can't accommodate at the moment and for number 4, psh! of course that's a given. "#3 : Does your wife know your on here Marty ? | |||
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"I can't speak for others, but I don't think it's any coincidence that as soon as I got verified for the first time I got more interest from people. And to be fair, that first time only came about because the lady I played with (and still play with occasionally) had had a no show and was rightly complaining about it in her status. I messaged to say I'd fill the void, she agreed and over to hers I went for a sexy evening. That one piece of good fortune seems to have opened the door for me. " Your really cheering Marty up Dave | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? Site supporter? You mean the gold/silver membership thing? If so? It's made no difference so far! XD Saved me a few quid then
I would say it makes you slightly more credible/genuine as your prepared to pay for the site but as it's only pennies I think it's kind of pointless, I think a charge of £20 would clear the site of most of the time wasters
Totally agree, if Men won’t spend £5 for 60 days silver site supporter are they really going to drive 40 miles, book a hotel and buy the drinks for the lovely couple ??"I wouldn't expect anyone to drive 40 miles to meet me, pay for a hotel & buy me drinks it's a shag not a date & at that cost they could pay for a professional | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? Site supporter? You mean the gold/silver membership thing? If so? It's made no difference so far! XD Saved me a few quid then
I would say it makes you slightly more credible/genuine as your prepared to pay for the site but as it's only pennies I think it's kind of pointless, I think a charge of £20 would clear the site of most of the time wasters
Totally agree, if Men won’t spend £5 for 60 days silver site supporter are they really going to drive 40 miles, book a hotel and buy the drinks for the lovely couple ??
I wouldn't expect anyone to drive 40 miles to meet me, pay for a hotel & buy me drinks it's a shag not a date & at that cost they could pay for a professional "I’d be invoicing you after | |||
" Your really cheering Marty up Dave "I can only relate my truth mate.
Marty will be fine if he sticks at it. He's a young 'un so he's got loads of time. I think he may want to consider getting to a social or a club though as that'll increase his chances.
By the way, to those who mention the ability to accommodate, there are many reasons why this is not always possible.
For example, I rent a room and although my landlady is ok in principle about me bringing women back to the house, we currently have her daughter staying with us which makes it impossible until she moves out which should be in the next couple of months.
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" Your really cheering Marty up Dave
I can only relate my truth mate.
Marty will be fine if he sticks at it. He's a young 'un so he's got loads of time. I think he may want to consider getting to a social or a club though as that'll increase his chances.
By the way, to those who mention the ability to accommodate, there are many reasons why this is not always possible.
For example, I rent a room and although my landlady is ok in principle about me bringing women back to the house, we currently have her daughter staying with us which makes it impossible until she moves out which should be in the next couple of months.
It doesn't necessarily mean the guy is married."I was just pulling his leg trying to cheer him up | |||
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" It is! I can only recommend again you get to the clubs. Even if you don’t play the clubs and hosts can give you verifications
Not ideal if you don’t really want to club though! X
Kinda why I asked previously in another topic, I have no idea which are viable clubs to go to in the London/ South East area that a good for single guys and are not hard to travel too.
Also visiting a club by myself is definitely not my idea of a good time. I would prefer if I went with someone I knew, just so it's less daunting and then I could get used to the environment without feeling too much pressure of just jumping in.
Sorry for focusing on the negatives, but last thing I want is to visit a club by myself and feel like I have to chat up every single woman I come across and then become one of those unbearably annoying guys that hassles every women that comes through the door. :P"Hahaha! Don’t worry mate, there’ll be more single women comment on this thread, than you’ll see in a club!
Having actual meet verifications does help, and getting the first one is always the most difficult, but you just have to be patient. A lot of people still aren’t meeting due to the pandemic, and many are only meeting within their ‘bubbles’. It will happen though, just keep being the best you you can be, and enjoy the banter in the forums, more people read your comments in here than you realise……
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"The more you worry about getting that verification, the less likely it is it will happen, because your focus becomes the verification and when people you're communicating with get wind that this is your focus, they'll be less likely to want to meet you, because they will feel that you are only interested in them in order to get your green tick." "Sadly, I'm getting the impression that your expectations of fab when you joined were not very realistic." "You need to be patient." "The more you give off the vibe that you'll meet absolutely anyone and are obsessed with getting verified, the more you will come across as desperate and your chances of getting a meet fall to zero" Just before I reply to this, just gonna say sorry in advance, I re-read through what I've written and even though it's a bit ranty, I believe I should keep it as is, as it's got some genuine feelings behind it and might explain where I'm coming from. Yeah I can understand people not wanting to meet during the pandemic lockdown period, but I was signed up a fair bit before that and have been on and off the website since. Usually leaving after I hit my peak tolerance of being rejected or ignored, I have been extremely patient, I have never gotten angry or insulted anyone either for the rejections. But every time someone tells me to be patient (who is verified, hasn't been on here as long as I have or is unverified and has already meet loads of people already), it does come off as extremely condescending. Over a year (possibly a lot more given how long I originally signed up on here) and nothing? And the advice of wait longer would imply waiting a week? A month? A year? It just sucks being repeatedly told to be patient, when I have been. As for the other piece if advice of what everyone has said about keeping an eye open for events or trying a club I'll take it to heart and try those. As for wanting the green tick, I don't want the tick, I just wanted to make a few close friends with similar interests and maybe a fwb, couldn't care less about being verified if I could achieve that goal. Sadly that seems highly unlikely without it. Once again sorry for the ranty reply, hopefully it didn't come off as ill-tempered or unappreciative as you raised some solid points. "It doesn't make you more attractive, just more likely to turn up " Yeah I never quite understood that mindset from a guy, you've managed to get a meet and now you're gonna bail? Madness! :D
"#3 : Does your wife know your on here Marty ? "Recently single, moved back in with the family, so yeah I'm not bringing anyone home with me. :P Also I wouldn't be on here if I was in a relationship, unless she was also up for swinging.
"I can't speak for others, but I don't think it's any coincidence that as soon as I got verified for the first time I got more interest from people." "And to be fair, that first time only came about because the lady I played with (and still play with occasionally) had had a no show and was rightly complaining about it in her status." "I messaged to say I'd fill the void, she agreed and over to hers I went for a sexy evening." "That one piece of good fortune seems to have opened the door for me." "Your really cheering Marty up Dave "It's cool, I found the info quite useful, thanks Dave!
"I don't actually check if someone's verified, I go by how we interact on here and whether there's a spark." "Then move to a chat on phone before arranging a social meet, wouldn't make it a big deal so if they didn't turn up its no big deal." "You seem a decent person and come across well on this thread, I'm sure someone nearby could meet socially with you at some point, good luck "Appreciate the advice Aimee and thanks! Fingers crossed someone eventually takes an interest in me and finally gives me that yes, when I ask.
"Lots of good replies on here, but please don’t push for a reason on why someone says no, they don’t have to justify why." That is true and I didn't try to come off nasty or anything when I asked. If I remember right I asked, if it was ok to ask if there was anything I said or if there was something about my profile that put her off, not as a why but so I could tweak my profile or change my approach to first messages and she kindly but abruptly told me that me being unverified was the reason. :/ Phew! I think that's all of them, thanks again to everyone above for the insights and suggestions. As I mentioned previously I honestly don't want the verification and would love it if I can get by without it, as I would prefer to just make some friends on here and hopefully one very good fwb. | |||
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" Your really cheering Marty up Dave
I can only relate my truth mate.
Marty will be fine if he sticks at it. He's a young 'un so he's got loads of time. I think he may want to consider getting to a social or a club though as that'll increase his chances.
By the way, to those who mention the ability to accommodate, there are many reasons why this is not always possible.
For example, I rent a room and although my landlady is ok in principle about me bringing women back to the house, we currently have her daughter staying with us which makes it impossible until she moves out which should be in the next couple of months.
It doesn't necessarily mean the guy is married."while this is true, dont forget there are literaly thousands of other single gus out there who can accom, so its easyer for us to just go for them, rather than wander if the guy is married | |||
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" It is! I can only recommend again you get to the clubs. Even if you don’t play the clubs and hosts can give you verifications
Not ideal if you don’t really want to club though! X
Kinda why I asked previously in another topic, I have no idea which are viable clubs to go to in the London/ South East area that a good for single guys and are not hard to travel too.
Also visiting a club by myself is definitely not my idea of a good time. I would prefer if I went with someone I knew, just so it's less daunting and then I could get used to the environment without feeling too much pressure of just jumping in.
Sorry for focusing on the negatives, but last thing I want is to visit a club by myself and feel like I have to chat up every single woman I come across and then become one of those unbearably annoying guys that hassles every women that comes through the door. :P"OP. You don't need to go to a club. I would recommend going to one if your local swingers social events. Search on the forums to see what's local to you . It's a nice chilled out atmosphere as there's no play allowed as they are usually held in a pub that has a function room . I've had some great socials. Call it networking and get chatting with like minded people. Who knows what will happen . The rest is up to you. Good look and hope all goes well for you on your fab journey | |||
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"You’re gonna have to be patient! Takes some men months to get their first meet. I think I've past the year mark already, don't get me wrong I have been as patient as possible, just absolutely confidence destroying. :/ You're a good looking bloke, don't let this site get you down. The last 16 months have been covid ravaged so pointless for anything. Verifications won't guarantee you meets. I'd meet you for a coffee and a veri but I'm too far away. Maybe try meeting women via other ways. Good luck. "What a kind response! | |||
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"Hi guys, first off a massive thanks to everyone that gave me advice previously on my profile, but I'm sad to say I've had no luck since then and have still yet to get a meet. I've must have messaged at least a 100 women since then (sadly not an exaggeration). It's not even copy and paste messages either as I try and tailor the message to each person. I start off with a friendly hi, followed by a terrible joke/compliment (if they have a pic on their profile) or even both. :D But still absolutely nothing to show for my efforts, not even a reply (I know I'm not owed a reply, so let's please not focus on that). I remember one of the chats where I did get a reply was "sorry not interested," I pushed a little further and asked why and the reason was, because I was not verified by a meet. So a question to all you ladies/couples, how much does it influence your decision to talk and meet with a single guy if they are unverified by a meet? Kinda feels like that situation where you apply for a basic job and they need you to have X years experience, despite being an entry level position! XD I honestly don't think I'll get to see anyone on here if that's the case, although I'm more than happy to be proved wrong. " Mate. This site is no good for you. You are better going on a dating site. That way both you and the woman are in the same position. I went on one and ended up getting married to a beautiful girl so it does work. You just need the confidence. | |||
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"Get yourself to a club to get verified in person! That was actually recommended to me previously so I posted a topic in the forum asking for club advice in the London/South East areas and it got completely blanked. " I agree a club is the best place to go to meet people,but we only know chameleons | |||
"Does being a site supporter help, too? And is it worth it do you think? If you get a platinum - that guarantees 10 pussies a day "Can you carry over any unused ones ?  | |||
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"Get yourself to a club to get verified in person! " How do you do that as not tried a club especially on my own? | |||
"You can get Cam verified if needs be. But as already mentioned verifications don’t guarantee anything on here. The only really successful meets I’ve ever had on this site was due to meeting at clubs. For example I literally got a message when I got home from a guy who’d seen me at the club but was too shy to approach me. Another time at a well known swingers B&B. A couple came to my flat as we talked previously in a club and asked for a social, so I invited them over. This site you’ll always be one of many but at a social or club, you’ll be one of whoever is attending, for me those odds are a lot better. "How do you get cam verified as I work nights  | |||
"Get yourself to a club to get verified in person! " What the lady says, think if you open yourself to the club world, verifications won’t matter. | |||
" How do you get cam verified as I work nights "Doesn't your cam work in daylight? Are you a vampire?! | |||
"It's hard for men on here, I feel you but being verified does go some way towards having more success. My advice.. Visit clubs and get to know people on the scene. As your network expands so does your chance of receiving invites to gatherings, munches and 1on1 meets. If its 121 with a single woman you want, use a different site "I’ve met plenty of single women 121 using Fab, and certainly far more than I ever did visiting clubs lol! I obviously chose the wrong clubs! | |||
"I do meet people that aren't verified but it's rare as to meet a verified meet in person shows they'll actually show up, & they are who they say they are as 2 out of 3 non verified people I've tried to meet are no shows I'm sorry to hear about that, although boggles my mind why someone would arrange for a meet and then not show up. " Plenty people on here have no intention of meeting they are like the keyboard warriors of Facebook. I used to have spells where I would have social meets in town on an afternoon. A coffee while I was out anyway, so as not to really waste my time. These I did purposely with unverified people - my good deed so to speak as i appreciate it can be difficult and sometimes a few bad apples spoil it for the genuine ones | |||
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" How do you get cam verified as I work nights
Doesn't your cam work in daylight? Are you a vampire?! "As in I can't meet evening or nights as work prohibits and don't know where you go to use cam when almost awake in the day ?? | |||
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"Get yourself to a club to get verified in person! " Totally agree with this,even as a couple we find it so much easier to meet at clubs | |||
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"It's hard for men on here, I feel you but being verified does go some way towards having more success. My advice.. Visit clubs and get to know people on the scene. As your network expands so does your chance of receiving invites to gatherings, munches and 1on1 meets. If its 121 with a single woman you want, use a different site "Pretty much this | |||
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"Hey OP - I had some social verifications on my old account (COVID safe at the time). My advice would be don't aim for a meet, aim for a social (as some have said here, clubs are great for this). I also have some thoughts on your profile if you're interested? Not that mine is particularly good. Anyway, DM me and happy to share " Hi well angled, don't think we can do the DM thing as we both have our filters set against that.
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The only part I won't take out, is the reason for why I can't accommodate, as some lovely ladies in a previous thread I made, mentioned they would rather know why, I couldn't accommodate. Although its a case of you can't meet everyone's tastes so I just decided it would be best to keep it in, as I prefer being upfront and transparent with people.
As for the rest, all done and re-edited, so thank you very much for the advice, its greatly appreciated! | |||
"Your profile tells me everything I need to know OP." Hopefully in a good way, but I've gone ahead and made some edits as I'm always open to suggestions. | |||
"Thanks for the kind words Well Angled and if there's ever a social event happening where we can have a drink and a chat, feel free to give me a shout. I've taken onboard everything you said and made some edits to the profile, sorry if some words seem to be copied from your example, but they seemed to be good descriptors that applied to me and I legitimately couldn't think of alternatives that wouldn't come off as sounding wrong or out of place.
The only part I won't take out, is the reason for why I can't accommodate, as some lovely ladies in a previous thread I made, mentioned they would rather know why, I couldn't accommodate. Although its a case of you can't meet everyone's tastes so I just decided it would be best to keep it in, as I prefer being upfront and transparent with people.
As for the rest, all done and re-edited, so thank you very much for the advice, its greatly appreciated! "Very glad I could be of some help. Profile looks great (and makes sense about the accommodation explanation). Hope you find what you're looking for! | |||
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"OP bear in mind we have been in lockdown etc, so really your journey is just beginning! Good luck" Thanks Choc cock! | |||
"I prefer to see a veri, as it shows me they have met before. I've had some really bad experiences with unverified fellas. And found some real gems! I am trying not to tar everyone with the same brush. "Sorry to hear about that and it is fair enough as it is from your previous experience. Just hope I can get someone to roll the dice and meet with me, even if it's just a social coffee/drink thing. | |||
"I prefer to see a veri, as it shows me they have met before. I've had some really bad experiences with unverified fellas. And found some real gems! I am trying not to tar everyone with the same brush. "The vast majority are fake! Varied or not means very little. | |||
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