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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Good plan or bad plan?
Anyone else using fab for this or is it a ‘sex site’ accept and act accordingly.
Anyone met their partner through ‘the lifestyle’?
The world needs more  right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think this is the best place to find someone... Difficult.. but you both know eachother better from the off... I know so many people that are incompatible sexually, with their partners or just daren't ask for things they want or even just reveal exactly who they are for fear they will scare someone off... I could never be with someone I couldn't be open with, so if I was ever looking again, I would consider someone I met on here... Even though, if someone can't take being told who I am and what I like to get up to, they aren't really for me anyway  |
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" I could never be with someone I couldn't be open with, so if I was ever looking again, I would consider someone I met on here... Even though, if someone can't take being told who I am and what I like to get up to, they aren't really for me anyway "
I agree. I've not started a relationship here, but I've made a lot of good friends and the feeling of openness and the lack of judgment is so wonderful. Very few people in my daily life know I'm on a site like this. I'm not ashamed of it. I just don't think they'd understand it. |
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You can meet a partner anywhere.
Neither hubby or I were looking for a relationship and we weren’t using fab for anything but casual meets. However, when we met sparks flew and we knew instantly that it wasn’t just an ordinary fab meet. I moved in with him 6 months after we met and we’ve been married 5 years |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We met on fab and clicked from the off. Best relationship either of us have been in, we can be completely honest with each other and talk openly about sex or anything for that matter.
Best of it is too, neither of us wanted or were even looking for a relationship.
Funny how things turn out 
Looking forward to our next adventure   |
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"We met on fab and clicked from the off. Best relationship either of us have been in, we can be completely honest with each other and talk openly about sex or anything for that matter.
Best of it is too, neither of us wanted or were even looking for a relationship.
Funny how things turn out
Looking forward to our next adventure "
I need to find someone as hot as the female in this couple! Wow! |
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"You can meet a partner anywhere.
Neither hubby or I were looking for a relationship and we weren’t using fab for anything but casual meets. However, when we met sparks flew and we knew instantly that it wasn’t just an ordinary fab meet.
I moved in with him 6 months after we met and we’ve been married 5 years"
Ah, that's a lovely outcome! |
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"You can meet a partner anywhere.
Neither hubby or I were looking for a relationship and we weren’t using fab for anything but casual meets. However, when we met sparks flew and we knew instantly that it wasn’t just an ordinary fab meet. I moved in with him 6 months after we met and we’ve been married 5 years"
Awwwwwwwww. |
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"We met on fab and clicked from the off. Best relationship either of us have been in, we can be completely honest with each other and talk openly about sex or anything for that matter.
Best of it is too, neither of us wanted or were even looking for a relationship.
Funny how things turn out
Looking forward to our next adventure
I need to find someone as hot as the female in this couple! Wow!"
Me too.. and I'm straight |
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"We met on fab and clicked from the off. Best relationship either of us have been in, we can be completely honest with each other and talk openly about sex or anything for that matter.
Best of it is too, neither of us wanted or were even looking for a relationship.
Funny how things turn out
Looking forward to our next adventure
I need to find someone as hot as the female in this couple! Wow!
Me too.. and I'm straight "
I think she would be one to bring out your bi side haha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met my ex boyfriend in chams , neither was looking but it happened ,lasted 4n half years and we are still very close. Much better to meet someone with the same lifestyle, I'd be happy if I found that again x |
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Great thread... I would love to meet someone I could date and have this type of lifestyle with.. but I think it is quite difficult to come by.. dating alone is hard work let alone adding in another element of it... A girl can dream... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We met on fab and clicked from the off. Best relationship either of us have been in, we can be completely honest with each other and talk openly about sex or anything for that matter.
Best of it is too, neither of us wanted or were even looking for a relationship.
Funny how things turn out
Looking forward to our next adventure
I need to find someone as hot as the female in this couple! Wow!
Me too.. and I'm straight
I think she would be one to bring out your bi side haha x "
Haha you answered this for me I do like to try it on with straight ladies
Thank you both 
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"We met on fab and clicked from the off. Best relationship either of us have been in, we can be completely honest with each other and talk openly about sex or anything for that matter.
Best of it is too, neither of us wanted or were even looking for a relationship.
Funny how things turn out
Looking forward to our next adventure
I need to find someone as hot as the female in this couple! Wow!
Me too.. and I'm straight
I think she would be one to bring out your bi side haha x
Haha you answered this for me I do like to try it on with straight ladies
Thank you both
QB "
If anyone woman would be .. certainly top of the list  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We met on fab and clicked from the off. Best relationship either of us have been in, we can be completely honest with each other and talk openly about sex or anything for that matter.
Best of it is too, neither of us wanted or were even looking for a relationship.
Funny how things turn out
Looking forward to our next adventure
I need to find someone as hot as the female in this couple! Wow!
Me too.. and I'm straight
I think she would be one to bring out your bi side haha x
Haha you answered this for me I do like to try it on with straight ladies
Thank you both
QB
If anyone woman would be .. certainly top of the list x"
 Well if you ever get bored of the males..
What a lovely thread i feel very lucky to have found someone on here. I was single for 10years and enjoyed it but we found love and friendship with each other.
Just enjoy some deviant dates and fate will do the rest
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would of said no, but since chatting with people on fab I now really like the idea of having a girlfriend or wife who sleeps with other guys and comes back to me. I was totally against this once, but now it appeals to me in a sexy way. so yes I'm up for a date and see where things go.
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"We met on fab and clicked from the off. Best relationship either of us have been in, we can be completely honest with each other and talk openly about sex or anything for that matter.
Best of it is too, neither of us wanted or were even looking for a relationship.
Funny how things turn out
Looking forward to our next adventure
I need to find someone as hot as the female in this couple! Wow!
Me too.. and I'm straight
I think she would be one to bring out your bi side haha x
Haha you answered this for me I do like to try it on with straight ladies
Thank you both
QB
If anyone woman would be .. certainly top of the list x
Well if you ever get bored of the males..
What a lovely thread i feel very lucky to have found someone on here. I was single for 10years and enjoyed it but we found love and friendship with each other.
Just enjoy some deviant dates and fate will do the rest
QB "
Such a flirt lady... Love it
... And yes fate and the love god's |
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Good to hear happy endings. Tbh, I'd be wary of hoping for a committed relationship with someone who's been in this scene for a significant length of time. I see it as a passing phase that suits me whilst single but not sure that it'd be part of a loving relationship in my case. I suspect most single guys wouldn't admit that if it came down to the wire between meeting or not. |
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"I met my husband on the scene together 7 years, married 2 years this October and expecting our first baby in August/September "
awwww sweet. Hope all goes well for new arrival. Take care and enjoy. Oh. And get plenty sleep in now. Lol. |
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"Good to hear happy endings. Tbh, I'd be wary of hoping for a committed relationship with someone who's been in this scene for a significant length of time. I see it as a passing phase that suits me whilst single but not sure that it'd be part of a loving relationship in my case. I suspect most single guys wouldn't admit that if it came down to the wire between meeting or not. "
Everyone is different I’ve been on the scene around 12 years and my husband has been for 8.
We swing together and separate but have rules. Just because we are swingers doesn’t mean we can’t have a committed relationship we are taking time out to start our family and concentrate on that as I don’t think me meeting while I’m pregnant is appropriate and if Covid wasn’t happening, he would have my blessing to meet people. I’d rather stay in and relax ha!
Communication is what it boils down to. People off the scene can’t commit either so kind of irrelevant where you meet someone |
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If thisxis a swingers site
Then why are all the shady 2timin shits shaggin behibd ur partners backs with others
Instead of bein on here as a couole n swingin with other couples
Or the ones who say they are single
But have partners n just pure cheatin liars
Wats wrong with all the honest n real people on here
Spoils it for all single people |
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"Everyone is different I’ve been on the scene around 12 years and my husband has been for 8.
We swing together and separate but have rules. Just because we are swingers doesn’t mean we can’t have a committed relationship we are taking time out to start our family and concentrate on that as I don’t think me meeting while I’m pregnant is appropriate and if Covid wasn’t happening, he would have my blessing to meet people. I’d rather stay in and relax ha!
Communication is what it boils down to. People off the scene can’t commit either so kind of irrelevant where you meet someone "
Yes, definitely not saying it isnt possible, as I'm sure it is, and I've met many very happily married swinging couples. I just feel there's an obvious risk, particularly to women, if openly stating that's what you're hoping to find on here. Too many idiots who at heart don't have a true swinging mentality, would take advantage. I count myself as possibly not having true swinging mentality. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seems to me that this site is more about singles looking for hookups than swingers looking to swing so you’ll be in good company "
Is that good or bad in your humble opinion?
Ive been quite warmed by all the great connections made tbh. More single meet up and become couples equals more ‘swingers’? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Great thread... I would love to meet someone I could date and have this type of lifestyle with.. but I think it is quite difficult to come by.. dating alone is hard work let alone adding in another element of it... A girl can dream... "
Agree with this- would be great to find someone on here to date and share the lifestyle- that way get the best of both worlds. However, not sure I’d find it on here unfortunately. |
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"If thisxis a swingers site
Then why are all the shady 2timin shits shaggin behibd ur partners backs with others
Instead of bein on here as a couole n swingin with other couples
Or the ones who say they are single
But have partners n just pure cheatin liars
Wats wrong with all the honest n real people on here
Spoils it for all single people "
Exactly. Cheating is the opposite of a true swinger's mentality, in my opinion. Particularly when it's not just accidently falling for someone else or being tempted, but deliberately, actively advertising for sex with a stranger. I'm often asked if my "naughty" name means I'm actually married and cheating. I'd consider cheating on here to be vile, not "naughty". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know of a fair few singles singles who've met at clubs and are now all loved up and in monogamous relationships.
I also know loads of people who've jumped straight into a swinging relationship. Only one or two are still actively swinging.
I've never dated anyone from Fab. I'm not sure I would. I've done coupley stuff with guys off here. I've been single for 11 years now so there are certain things I miss but I can get that from here with none of the hassle. I'm on here because I'm single, not because I'm looking for the love of my life.
If I ever met someone and wanted to take things further, I'd do so exclusively and away from Fab. Although I wouldn't rule out introducing swinging at a later date.... |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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I think that Fabs can be used for a date as there are lots of people that would like a social which can be viewed as a sort of date before deciding if they would like to have adult fun. I feel I have as much chance of meeting someone special on Fabs as I have on other dating sites |
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"I think this is the best place to find someone... Difficult.. but you both know eachother better from the off... I know so many people that are incompatible sexually, with their partners or just daren't ask for things they want or even just reveal exactly who they are for fear they will scare someone off... I could never be with someone I couldn't be open with, so if I was ever looking again, I would consider someone I met on here... Even though, if someone can't take being told who I am and what I like to get up to, they aren't really for me anyway "
^ this. I'd rather meet someone through here and be on the same page from the get-go than meet someone almost perfect on a vanilla site who is possessive or against poly/open lifestyles then have to break up or potentially cause them hurt further down the line. |
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I'm single but looking for a swinging partner not just a one off shag or a normal GF. Most of the single women in my area are looking for couples or other women. The ones looking for men usually seem to be more about ONS than looking for partners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We met on here nearly 3 years ago and clicked from the off Meeting someone who can enjoy your journey alongside you & with whom you can share experiences is awesome Neither of us were looking for more, so it pays to keep an open mind xx |
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We were both singles on here just looking for sex. But when you know you know and we’re married (to each other) now and happier than ever. Think the honesty of how we met helps a lot. But no neither of we’re looking to date when we met! |
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Met a few people over the years who can’t seem to separate swinging from dating. Had one guy who especially kept trying to get me to go on proper dates To cinema with him etc, Became quite creepy lol |
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"We met on fab and clicked from the off. Best relationship either of us have been in, we can be completely honest with each other and talk openly about sex or anything for that matter.
Best of it is too, neither of us wanted or were even looking for a relationship.
Funny how things turn out
Looking forward to our next adventure
I need to find someone as hot as the female in this couple! Wow!"
Haha me too Moriarty! 
Me and my other half are the same, but whilst we didn't meet on here we did meet online - he's the best!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good plan or bad plan?
Anyone else using fab for this or is it a ‘sex site’ accept and act accordingly.
Anyone met their partner through ‘the lifestyle’?
The world needs more right? "
Fab is whatever you want it to be.Use it as you see fit and however works best for you,whether that be purely for sex or social or dating,etc or a combination of reasons,depends on the individual and their wants really,one size doesn't fit all in this instance.
Personally I think Fab has changed from being a primarily swinging and sex site to a hybrid of Facebook and POF,but that's just my own personal take and experience of it,I'm sure others feel differently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We met on fab and clicked from the off. Best relationship either of us have been in, we can be completely honest with each other and talk openly about sex or anything for that matter.
Best of it is too, neither of us wanted or were even looking for a relationship.
Funny how things turn out
Looking forward to our next adventure
I need to find someone as hot as the female in this couple! Wow!"
Oh to be 10 years younger |
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"People can and do date and meet their partners on fab. All I would say is be wary of people who claim they want the same as you but really dont."
This!!!
I'm very open about wanting to find someone to be with on this site. I appreciate it's not likely to happen and do have fun along the way BUT I dont deserve to be lied to and told platitudes just to get into my knickers (clues in the title fellas, if we chat and arrange a meet - you are going to get laid. It's not necessary to lie and say you want what I want just because you can). That said, I'll keep looking because I cant be with someone I'm not sexually compatible with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally I think fab is just another platform in which to meet people. The majority of people on here are more honest about what they want like nsa sex but when you meet the one whether that’s on a swinging site, on a night out or at a supermarket, if it’s meant to develop into more then it will no matter where you meet  |
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I'm open to the idea of meeting someone off here for a full on relationship, because I feel I could open up about my deepest, darkest desires (which aren't that dark compared to some of the things I read on here) and not be judged for it.
Or not much, anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would absolutely use fab to find an open minded, kinky boyfriend, but as above I wouldn’t necessarily want that to be a swinging relationship. Possibility of throwing that in in the future, but not guaranteed! |
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Absolutely, if you want swinging to be a part of your life into a relationship. It's an awesome thing to find someone who shares your sexual desires and wants to explore with you. We met on here (although we were not looking for a relationship). Most of the population are not swingers. So the trouble with in normal dating when do say Im a swinger and I want to swing? Normally on relationship dating sites you could invest loads of time and energy with a 'good match' only to find that down the road when you approach such matters the lifestyle isn't for them. Or if your too upfront about it early on (especially as a female) they maybe interested with the perception of an easy lay rather than a genuine relationship interest.
On Fab it's kind of already taken your a swinger and the other person likewise. Therefore you can just concentrate on finding a good relationship with someone like minded. However just be careful (especially as a woman) for games players who may say their looking for more just to get in your pants. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've posted in the stories and fantasy section called the girl who has my heart forever
It reads like fantasy, but its a true story
Romance or love is a double edged sword, I've lost my heart completely to this gorgeous lady,I completely and utterly adore her and the times we have are beyond compare,but she will never be mine as she has a partner and so do I,neither on fab
Beware romance on here,the pain of longing can be unbearable when there is no hope |
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"I've posted in the stories and fantasy section called the girl who has my heart forever
It reads like fantasy, but its a true story
Romance or love is a double edged sword, I've lost my heart completely to this gorgeous lady,I completely and utterly adore her and the times we have are beyond compare,but she will never be mine as she has a partner and so do I,neither on fab
Beware romance on here,the pain of longing can be unbearable when there is no hope"
You both need to leave your partners.
Afflicting emotional pain on to some unwitting person because you’ve tuned out of them into someone else is disgraceful and unforgiveable, in my eyes anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely, if you want swinging to be a part of your life into a relationship. It's an awesome thing to find someone who shares your sexual desires and wants to explore with you. We met on here (although we were not looking for a relationship). Most of the population are not swingers. So the trouble with in normal dating when do say Im a swinger and I want to swing? Normally on relationship dating sites you could invest loads of time and energy with a 'good match' only to find that down the road when you approach such matters the lifestyle isn't for them. Or if your too upfront about it early on (especially as a female) they maybe interested with the perception of an easy lay rather than a genuine relationship interest.
On Fab it's kind of already taken your a swinger and the other person likewise. Therefore you can just concentrate on finding a good relationship with someone like minded. However just be careful (especially as a woman) for games players who may say their looking for more just to get in your pants."
I couldn't agree more. |
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NSA is a great way to start a relationship. It’s starts in the bedroom and you just find yourselves doing more and more stuff together.
I remember an old fb asking me to go round to hers. It was the time of the month so we couldn’t have sex it was just to cuddle. I think we both realised it was more than nsa. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not here looking to date but I don't see why someone can't. Once your honest and let people know that's what your looking for then I don't see the problem. |
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I think there's a big difference between using the site to date and ending up dating someone you met on the site.
If you come on here specifically looking for a partner I think you will find a lot of disappointment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've posted in the stories and fantasy section called the girl who has my heart forever
It reads like fantasy, but its a true story
Romance or love is a double edged sword, I've lost my heart completely to this gorgeous lady,I completely and utterly adore her and the times we have are beyond compare,but she will never be mine as she has a partner and so do I,neither on fab
Beware romance on here,the pain of longing can be unbearable when there is no hope
You both need to leave your partners.
Afflicting emotional pain on to some unwitting person because you’ve tuned out of them into someone else is disgraceful and unforgiveable, in my eyes anyway."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Met Mr Bulldog nearly 6 years ago on Fab. Wasn't looking for a boyfriend.
Was in my 'Running Around Time' (basically being a total slut)
We were meant to be Club Buddies but got closer.....he told me as soon as he saw the first pic of me, which was only my eyes, he fell in love. And when we actually met in person he knew I was The One. Took me a while to get there too but when it hit me WOW!
So it can happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Great thread... I would love to meet someone I could date and have this type of lifestyle with.. but I think it is quite difficult to come by.. dating alone is hard work let alone adding in another element of it... A girl can dream... "
Agree x |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
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"People can and do date and meet their partners on fab. All I would say is be wary of people who claim they want the same as you but really dont."
That's the same in any environment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would most definitely be up for finding an open-minded female in here for some ‘meets’ initially but more than open to let it develop into something more meaningful between us and explore more in-depth between us
Sooooooo..if there’s any women reading this, based in West London, likes a Welsh accent, you know what to do..haha |
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"Good plan or bad plan?
Anyone else using fab for this or is it a ‘sex site’ accept and act accordingly.
Anyone met their partner through ‘the lifestyle’?
The world needs more right? "
It's whatever people want it to be as long as they're honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Open to all aspects really.
I think here you can at least be up front about exactly what you want and need in a sexual partner.
If two people find that connection then so be it |
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"Good plan or bad plan?
Anyone else using fab for this or is it a ‘sex site’ accept and act accordingly.
Anyone met their partner through ‘the lifestyle’?
The world needs more right? "
I joined here 6 years ago in the hope of finding the one. So is it crazy i dont think so but I've had to play the slow patient game that's for sure. |
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By *attyBWoman
over a year ago
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"Met Mr Bulldog nearly 6 years ago on Fab. Wasn't looking for a boyfriend.
Was in my 'Running Around Time' (basically being a total slut)
We were meant to be Club Buddies but got closer.....he told me as soon as he saw the first pic of me, which was only my eyes, he fell in love. And when we actually met in person he knew I was The One. Took me a while to get there too but when it hit me WOW!
So it can happen "
And this is why I love you both dearly and I hope one day someone loves and adores me as much as Mr B loves and adores you! xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i do think fab could do with a section just for dating so that others know whos looking or open to a relationship as its clearly something alot of fabbers want |
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If you want swinging as an element of a future relationship, great idea. It removes an elephant in the room/potential future sticking point. Allowing the both of you to concentrate on the other aspects of forming a relationship. |
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i do think fab could do with a section just for dating so that others know whos looking or open to a relationship as its clearly something alot of fabbers want"
The only thing to be aware of is some people not actually interested in a relationship may pretend to do to get into others pants on false pretenses. |
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We didn't meet on Fab but joined after lots of discussions about sexual fantasies etc.
Its great to find someone who you can be honest with without fear of being judged and who can both enjoy the lifestyle but feel no pressure from the other to do anything they are not happy with.
I can let loose with Mr B, I believe being able to explore our sexuality and act out our desires to indulge sexually with others has bought us closer together in the time we have known each other can't imagine this with anyone else tbh
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good plan or bad plan?
Anyone else using fab for this or is it a ‘sex site’ accept and act accordingly.
Anyone met their partner through ‘the lifestyle’?
The world needs more right? "
Met on fabs and first date was at the old Kestrels near Heathrow. Had a shag and been together ever since as a normal couple who also like to swing
Also we know plenty of other couples who met the same way |
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"Good plan or bad plan?
Anyone else using fab for this or is it a ‘sex site’ accept and act accordingly.
Anyone met their partner through ‘the lifestyle’?
The world needs more right?
Met on fabs and first date was at the old Kestrels near Heathrow. Had a shag and been together ever since as a normal couple who also like to swing
Also we know plenty of other couples who met the same way"
Yup that's basically us, met through the site, chatted everyday all the time and became inseparable so it morphed into a normal relationship. It definitely can happen |
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"I think this is the best place to find someone... Difficult.. but you both know eachother better from the off... I know so many people that are incompatible sexually, with their partners or just daren't ask for things they want or even just reveal exactly who they are for fear they will scare someone off... I could never be with someone I couldn't be open with, so if I was ever looking again, I would consider someone I met on here... Even though, if someone can't take being told who I am and what I like to get up to, they aren't really for me anyway "
Exactly this! |
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OP it's really depends on what you want as the endgame? It wouldn't be something that is really recommend as conventional dating in our book.
We met through meeting at a swingers club (not on here) and to be honest we are both reasonably happy with the two swingers in a relationship and it just happened.
Also saying it's not without its complications.
As far as other commitments go "Fab swingers" is the clue in the name of the site really and sadly it's not the plesent environment it used to be now there's lots of people treating it as a hook-up site for the singles and cheats.
Plenty of dating sites for dating and tinder and others for hookups that are more suited to them kinda things we just guess it must be the Free or cheap element that attracts the wrong kind of people who spoil it?
Can't imagine your going to get messages like "I want to smash your back doors in!", "want me to fill you full of cum" or "can I make you pregnant" on match dot Cum |
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I'd absolutely love to find someone on here for a loving and fun relationship! Mention on regular dating sites that I'm into ethical non-monogamy, physically only, but it's tricky...
Gives me hope reading about so many of you finding happiness with someone from swinging! |
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Oh I am definitely looking for a relationship within the swinging world. Unfortunately in my experience the men that say they want this aren’t all they seem.
I can dream I guess and keep on searching. |
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Plenty of dating sites for dating and tinder and others for hookups that are more suited to them kinda things we just guess it must be the Free or cheap element that attracts the wrong kind of people who spoil it?
Can't imagine your going to get messages like "I want to smash your back doors in!", "want me to fill you full of cum" or "can I make you pregnant" on match dot Cum "
Haha oh you would be surprised!! Some of the messages I get on traditional dating sites are worse than those I get on fab. |
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"We met on fab and clicked from the off. Best relationship either of us have been in, we can be completely honest with each other and talk openly about sex or anything for that matter.
Best of it is too, neither of us wanted or were even looking for a relationship.
Funny how things turn out
Looking forward to our next adventure "
Nice story that,well done. |
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I have had a couple of fwb type relationships from here and wouldnt mind another. Getting all the compatibility pieces of the jigsaw to fit isnt easy though. |
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"I have had a couple of fwb type relationships from here and wouldnt mind another. Getting all the compatibility pieces of the jigsaw to fit isnt easy though.
is fwb classed as dating than nsa? "
The labels confuse me too ha! I see NSA as either a one off or just sex with no contact in between and nothing other than sex. A FWB or FB has a social element too I think - that’s how I define it in my head. |
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Plenty of dating sites for dating and tinder and others for hookups that are more suited to them kinda things we just guess it must be the Free or cheap element that attracts the wrong kind of people who spoil it?
Can't imagine your going to get messages like "I want to smash your back doors in!", "want me to fill you full of cum" or "can I make you pregnant" on match dot Cum
Haha oh you would be surprised!! Some of the messages I get on traditional dating sites are worse than those I get on fab. "
This is so true, normal dating sites are worse than fab
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Plenty of dating sites for dating and tinder and others for hookups that are more suited to them kinda things we just guess it must be the Free or cheap element that attracts the wrong kind of people who spoil it?
Can't imagine your going to get messages like "I want to smash your back doors in!", "want me to fill you full of cum" or "can I make you pregnant" on match dot Cum
Haha oh you would be surprised!! Some of the messages I get on traditional dating sites are worse than those I get on fab.
This is so true, normal dating sites are worse than fab
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not for me. i get the filthiest weirdest messages ever from fab. Makes vanilla dating sites look like mary whitehouse followers in comparison |
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"I have had a couple of fwb type relationships from here and wouldnt mind another. Getting all the compatibility pieces of the jigsaw to fit isnt easy though.
is fwb classed as dating than nsa?
The labels confuse me too ha! I see NSA as either a one off or just sex with no contact in between and nothing other than sex. A FWB or FB has a social element too I think - that’s how I define it in my head. "
yes me too |
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The labels confuse me too ha! I see NSA as either a one off or just sex with no contact in between and nothing other than sex. A FWB or FB has a social element too I think - that’s how I define it in my head. "
Generally, dating has prospect of a romantic element to it and usually expected in non-swinging circles to be exclusive in time. FWB would be an actual friendship with additional sexual element. FB is casual sex on a repeat basis. NSA generally means unaccountable to each other. |
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We met on a thread similar to this where we said we wanted a swinging relationship . Two months later it's going great. Can't wait for the adventures to begin and our future together |
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"You can meet a partner anywhere.
Neither hubby or I were looking for a relationship and we weren’t using fab for anything but casual meets. However, when we met sparks flew and we knew instantly that it wasn’t just an ordinary fab meet. I moved in with him 6 months after we met and we’ve been married 5 years"
That’s such a lovely story.. live in hope |
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This is a really interesting post for me in many respects. I have dated in normal circumstances and I have dated here and on other adult social networking sites. For me if I go vanilla after a while I crave let’s collectively call it kink (broad subject I appreciate) and vice versa. For me the fundamentals are now having the ability to self reflect and understand that maybe my usual type is the issue.
Having read other forum posts that the likes of Tinder are just mainly hook up sites rather than dating sites and on one thread many people said they had more meets from Tinder than here. I think another issue with perhaps more of the men is some are in existing relationships and are looking to play without the wife or girlfriends permission. So you single ladies can be seduced very quickly because these chaps have a very small window of opportunity to play.
I was going to leave this world behind. I had met someone I really liked. Both of us were wary because we had been in long term relationships with abusive narcissistic people (it happens to us men too) so we started seeing each other and she revealed she loves bad boys, younger, ripped Dom guys, I tick none of those boxes lol but she now understands they are not relationship material but still lusts after them. I then reveal I am on here and my ideal woman is someone who wants to be with me but likes sleeping with other men.
So she joined here and we have pretty much a perfect thing now, she gets to have her cake and eat it and I love eating her cake or pie lol!
Long winded post but the bottom line is, we were both single and craving love and intimacy but also craving wild sexy times. The key has been open and honest communication and spotting the needy men who think they can get between us. |
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"Actively trying.
I think the saying "patience is a virtue" applies here in order to match accordingly to what both people want x"
This is a great answer |
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It makes sense to meet people who like/crave or has the same fetishes you have ,well that's what you would think but its easier to meet future partners in a vanilla setting I find  |
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"Good plan or bad plan?
Anyone else using fab for this or is it a ‘sex site’ accept and act accordingly.
Anyone met their partner through ‘the lifestyle’?
The world needs more
right? "
Yes I used Fab in this way...for dating... Because I got bored with POF. This site sure ain't boring for certain. & Pls I don't want an on-slaught of abuse because I've used Fab in this way...re-dating. I've been challenged in the past. It's my profile & I'm free to use it in anyway I wish. Within reason of course...
Anyway Happy Fabbing & All That X |
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Good place to start really in my opinion..at least on here i feel its more straight to the point and on the same page compared to Dating sites..
Depends on both individuals it can be a great start to an open relationship, or you can find someone to share your fantasies with
I know couples that have been married from
Here... |
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"Yes please, saves wasting time in the vanilla world"
I've been on here for some time and I find that once most people find another half they stop being swingers and delete profiles or stop meeting, even when they both meet via websites like this lol
The other side I've seen of couples meeting from swingers/sex sites is that often the bloke wants to continue meeting other women with his new partner but the female half isn't allowed to meet other men because a lot of men are jealous individuals (I wanted to put most). Talk about have your cake and eat it lol.
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"I've been on here for some time and I find that once most people find another half they stop being swingers and delete profiles or stop meeting, even when they both meet via websites like this lol
The other side I've seen of couples meeting from swingers/sex sites is that often the bloke wants to continue meeting other women with his new partner but the female half isn't allowed to meet other men because a lot of men are jealous individuals (I wanted to put most). Talk about have your cake and eat it lol.
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Thats why I question and debate are you really a swinger if you're single?? My opinion is not. |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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Does it really matter if someone is a real swinger or simply using Fab as a contact list? If everyone is getting what the want and enjoy the site is working well.
If someone is looking for a long term relationship and someone is looking for quick sex what does it matter? There are plenty of other people on this site to meet the requirements of both. |
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I’m here to date, it doesn’t affect those here to swing. I can be more open here than I can with the likes of tinder and POF So I will hopefully meet someone interested in the same things I am without the awkward moment of having to say what you like when chatting to someone from a vanilla site |
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"I’m here to date, it doesn’t affect those here to swing. I can be more open here than I can with the likes of tinder and POF So I will hopefully meet someone interested in the same things I am without the awkward moment of having to say what you like when chatting to someone from a vanilla site "
This ^^^^ |
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"I’m here to date, it doesn’t affect those here to swing. I can be more open here than I can with the likes of tinder and POF So I will hopefully meet someone interested in the same things I am without the awkward moment of having to say what you like when chatting to someone from a vanilla site
This ^^^^ "
Me too.. |
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Would be so incredible to meet your perfect partner on here. Sex is so important and healthy in a relationship. Yet we all pretend it’s shite such as liking the same Music or food that makes people compatible for a long term. I want to have a sensation life and share with someone as equally open minded and honest about what makes them lust. |
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From my(granted, limited experience) I've always found fab to be the best way of meeting anyone from the opposite sex. There's more information re proximity etc than any others I've come across and you can try a message without constant reminders to 'upgrade' at exhorbedent rates! And I'm not a member of staff, moderator or connected in any way. Just a happy user. |
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We were on Fab for NSA sex when we met. We met for a coffee in May, had sex around June/July moved in together Sept and married two years later. Our second wedding anniversary tomorrow. You know when you know..... |
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