Just been called rude for deleting a message without reading it. Firstly this person does not meet my criteria as they are not from Edinburgh and secondly all the message said was “hello”.
My profile clearly says I’m looking for Edinburgh meets only and I have many reasons for this. And if someone hasn’t taken the time to write a sentence then I won’t respond to “hi” or “hello or “wanna fuck”.
I will respond if someone has taken the time and been polite.
Was I rude? The person let me know he had read my profile as I was told “Airdrie isn’t that far from Edinburgh “
What’s your take on this? Do you take time to respond to everyone. Personally I take a deleted message as thanks but no thanks?
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Why would you care about a rude comment from someone who you don't know and who doesn't know you?
There are many keyboard warriors and unpleasant people on here but there are also many nice people.
Remain optimistic and smile, it confuses people.
Have a hug x |
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"Why would you care about a rude comment from someone who you don't know and who doesn't know you?
There are many keyboard warriors and unpleasant people on here but there are also many nice people.
Remain optimistic and smile, it confuses people.
Have a hug x"
Just curious to what people’s expectations are  |
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By *opeyXWoman 3 weeks ago
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"Just been called rude for deleting a message without reading it. Firstly this person does not meet my criteria as they are not from Edinburgh and secondly all the message said was “hello”.
My profile clearly says I’m looking for Edinburgh meets only and I have many reasons for this. And if someone hasn’t taken the time to write a sentence then I won’t respond to “hi” or “hello or “wanna fuck”.
I will respond if someone has taken the time and been polite.
Was I rude? The person let me know he had read my profile as I was told “Airdrie isn’t that far from Edinburgh “
What’s your take on this? Do you take time to respond to everyone. Personally I take a deleted message as thanks but no thanks?
Xxx"
No if anything it's rude just to send a message saying hello. I never understand when someone sends one or two words.
I've changed my profile to no ping pong messaging. It's easier just to chat with friends and people I've met socially.
If you don't go to socials maybe search profiles yourself then message the profiles that appeal to yourself. |
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"Why would you care about a rude comment from someone who you don't know and who doesn't know you?
There are many keyboard warriors and unpleasant people on here but there are also many nice people.
Remain optimistic and smile, it confuses people.
Have a hug x
Just curious to what people’s expectations are "
There are alot of people with expectations way beyond their capabilities, some even struggle to string a few words together into a sentence.
The block and filter buttons can be your best freind if you use it well |
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If someone can’t say more than one word in an opening messaging, they sure don’t have numerous skills worth pursuing!
Weirdly I’ve had a week of abusive messages on here, one words of just ‘slut’, ‘whore’ etc. Never really had that before! |
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"If someone can’t say more than one word in an opening messaging, they sure don’t have numerous skills worth pursuing!
Weirdly I’ve had a week of abusive messages on here, one words of just ‘slut’, ‘whore’ etc. Never really had that before! "
That’s a good filter though  |
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"If someone can’t say more than one word in an opening messaging, they sure don’t have numerous skills worth pursuing!
Weirdly I’ve had a week of abusive messages on here, one words of just ‘slut’, ‘whore’ etc. Never really had that before! "
According to one reply, I'm a scumbag and my wife's a slut because we're ENM  |
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Your profile makes it perfectly clear what you are looking for and what you are not. It's a very nice profile and it's perfectly clear that I am not what you're looking for so I certainly wouldn't be offended if you chose to ignore a message from me. I try not to bother people who clearly don't want someone like me
Good luck in finding someone with more sense |
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"Just been called rude for deleting a message without reading it. Firstly this person does not meet my criteria as they are not from Edinburgh and secondly all the message said was “hello”.
My profile clearly says I’m looking for Edinburgh meets only and I have many reasons for this. And if someone hasn’t taken the time to write a sentence then I won’t respond to “hi” or “hello or “wanna fuck”.
I will respond if someone has taken the time and been polite.
Was I rude? The person let me know he had read my profile as I was told “Airdrie isn’t that far from Edinburgh “
What’s your take on this? Do you take time to respond to everyone. Personally I take a deleted message as thanks but no thanks?
Xxx"
I always make my first message to anyone a lil bit original, not one lined, and always with face pic. 😇
My only criticism to the OP is why not listen to guys from further afield? 
We can be willing to travel for an adventure and believe me, its bloody sparse up in the Highlands... 
Besides, my fav restaurant is in Edinburgh!! x |
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I specifically have in my profile not interested in pen pals or non local.. so no you weren't rude if they read it and comprehend, then they'd understand. But it's fab they just want a hole and sadly some get just that so the behaviour won't change.. just delete and save your energy for someone worth the effort. |
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"I specifically have in my profile not interested in pen pals or non local.. so no you weren't rude if they read it and comprehend, then they'd understand. But it's fab they just want a hole and sadly some get just that so the behaviour won't change.. just delete and save your energy for someone worth the effort. "
Was hoping a few of them would see this and learn from it. I live in hope x |
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By *rsMxCouple 3 weeks ago
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"Isn't that the official fab guideline -
'No reply is a reply'?
Lots of guys don't think it applies to them though "
This guy ^ - everybody should be listening to this guy, he speaks sense! x |
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"Just been called rude for deleting a message without reading it. Firstly this person does not meet my criteria as they are not from Edinburgh and secondly all the message said was “hello”.
My profile clearly says I’m looking for Edinburgh meets only and I have many reasons for this. And if someone hasn’t taken the time to write a sentence then I won’t respond to “hi” or “hello or “wanna fuck”.
I will respond if someone has taken the time and been polite.
Was I rude? The person let me know he had read my profile as I was told “Airdrie isn’t that far from Edinburgh “
What’s your take on this? Do you take time to respond to everyone. Personally I take a deleted message as thanks but no thanks?
Xxx"
Nah I don't think it's rude, I'm kinda the same with "if they don't reply, they're not interested". Tbf I don't expect any to be interested in me so I'm always surprised to get a message lol |
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"Just been called rude for deleting a message without reading it. Firstly this person does not meet my criteria as they are not from Edinburgh and secondly all the message said was “hello”.
My profile clearly says I’m looking for Edinburgh meets only and I have many reasons for this. And if someone hasn’t taken the time to write a sentence then I won’t respond to “hi” or “hello or “wanna fuck”.
I will respond if someone has taken the time and been polite.
Was I rude? The person let me know he had read my profile as I was told “Airdrie isn’t that far from Edinburgh “
What’s your take on this? Do you take time to respond to everyone. Personally I take a deleted message as thanks but no thanks?
Xxx"
nope quite within your right if not what your looking for the wife's gets idiots all the time and the abuse that goes with deleting them |
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"Just been called rude for deleting a message without reading it. Firstly this person does not meet my criteria as they are not from Edinburgh and secondly all the message said was “hello”.
My profile clearly says I’m looking for Edinburgh meets only and I have many reasons for this. And if someone hasn’t taken the time to write a sentence then I won’t respond to “hi” or “hello or “wanna fuck”.
I will respond if someone has taken the time and been polite.
Was I rude? The person let me know he had read my profile as I was told “Airdrie isn’t that far from Edinburgh “
What’s your take on this? Do you take time to respond to everyone. Personally I take a deleted message as thanks but no thanks?
Xxx"
You’re not rude they are, block delete roll eyes and move on my dear X  |
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Deleting a message without reading it can be considered a pragmatic thing to do, as opposed to it being a rude gesture.
Women sometimes invoke a 'mass delete' to clear out their inboxes and this could be misconstrued as a personal affront by an unsuspecting single male. It's still not an excuse for someone to call you rude.
I would disregard their indignation and just move on. 🌿 |
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"Abuse is not acceptable in any form it ruins it for us genuine guys"
Never done saying this but! .. it doesn't ruin in for genuine guys. If anything it makes them stand out more. There are arseholes in all walks of life, does that affect you in every aspect. NO so why is fab different. |
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"Abuse is not acceptable in any form it ruins it for us genuine guys"
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No it doesn't. The inappropriate behaviour of other men has caused little-to-no detriment to my positive experiences on here. |
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People use the word 'rude' incorrectly, it is not rude to not reply. Men use it as a defensive mechanism to turn the tables as they haven't got the end result they think they are due and have lost face somewhat |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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It’s preferable to be courteous but online that doesn’t get you far.
I’ve only ever had this twice which is not a lot however I’d imagine many others on fab have had this much more.
I responded to a dm with a polite no thanks to be hit with being an ugly man child with a small dick. Accurate…yes but also rude and quite hurtful
So to save that grief, it’s probably best for those with busier inboxes to leave without a response. |
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"I specifically have in my profile not interested in pen pals or non local.. so no you weren't rude if they read it and comprehend, then they'd understand. But it's fab they just want a hole and sadly some get just that so the behaviour won't change.. just delete and save your energy for someone worth the effort.
Was hoping a few of them would see this and learn from it. I live in hope x"
Your call OP and your profile.
I travel through to Edinburgh so it wouldn’t bother me to do so, but I’d read profile and not message if it specifically says something like you’ve said |
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"Just been called rude for deleting a message without reading it. Firstly this person does not meet my criteria as they are not from Edinburgh and secondly all the message said was “hello”.
My profile clearly says I’m looking for Edinburgh meets only and I have many reasons for this. And if someone hasn’t taken the time to write a sentence then I won’t respond to “hi” or “hello or “wanna fuck”.
I will respond if someone has taken the time and been polite.
Was I rude? The person let me know he had read my profile as I was told “Airdrie isn’t that far from Edinburgh “
What’s your take on this? Do you take time to respond to everyone. Personally I take a deleted message as thanks but no thanks?
Xxx
I always make my first message to anyone a lil bit original, not one lined, and always with face pic. 😇
My only criticism to the OP is why not listen to guys from further afield?
We can be willing to travel for an adventure and believe me, its bloody sparse up in the Highlands...
Besides, my fav restaurant is in Edinburgh!! x"
Because that doesn’t suit me for many reasons. I don’t accommodate, I don’t drive, I don’t have time to travel and hotel meets aren’t for me |
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As a guy I actually appreciate either having it deleted or read then deleted which I can then move on and I don't chase, try to be as respectful as I can if i do msg in the first place I allways Tey and double read profiles so i don't miss anything |
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In my personal opinion a one word message like "Hello" is rude. It suggests the person has not made any effort or even read your profile. Even two sentences shows a bit more but one word is poor. There is nothing wrong with ignoring a message which has had zero effort put into it. |
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"In my personal opinion a one word message like "Hello" is rude. It suggests the person has not made any effort or even read your profile. Even two sentences shows a bit more but one word is poor. There is nothing wrong with ignoring a message which has had zero effort put into it."
I dont mind a hello. Tho I check profiles first and if they are a couple of lines and half arsed then it's a delete.
Personally I believe the 2nd message is more important.... you have her attention, so what ya gonny do with it?🤷♀️ |
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By *lba1Woman 2 weeks ago
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I must be seen as very rude then
.. Im on so infrequently and rarely reply to messages. My profile is lame and still get messages from London and all sorts.
I've also seen more rude messages recently and entitled arseholes demanding a reply cos they know I've read their message. They can do one. Definitely 'no reply is a reply' |
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"I must be seen as very rude then
.. Im on so infrequently and rarely reply to messages. My profile is lame and still get messages from London and all sorts.
I've also seen more rude messages recently and entitled arseholes demanding a reply cos they know I've read their message. They can do one. Definitely 'no reply is a reply' "
Hello Mrs. How are you doing? |
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