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By (user no longer on site) OP 14 weeks ago
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So your chatted to the person or couple for a week. Exchanged pictures chatted on phone. You feel really comfortable, so where would you have a social?
Obviously the social can just be a social or even lead that night to some fun.
So where would you prefer;
At theirs, at yours or a public place etc..
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By *rioxxxMan 14 weeks ago
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Best avoid drink of alcohol at a social, it clouds your judgement, public place always the busier the better ,if it goes pear shaped say your leaving don’t just walk out, be polite if it’s not happening and tell the lady |
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As I am mainly based around BDSM activities, a pre social meet is imperative to establish boundaries and limitations.
I tend to meet in clubs only for this reason. At a push, I might arrange to meet at a bdsm munch social gathering.
I also meet in clubs as a matter of course for safety.
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"We tend to meet in a bar for a drink. Would never meet at ours or their place as there would be a bit of pressure to move to play.
We could give that a go "
We’re always open to socials. They’re usually always fun and we’ve heard some great stories |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 14 weeks ago
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I had a social just the other day and it was superb. In a wee coffee shop and we just chatted and flirted and had such a laugh. She got to know me more and I got to know her. Both ended up wanting each other more and we both said next time we intend to have a fun meet.
If it was a social at her or mines would it have ended up having fun?, probably yes but I was happy as she was great company in the social and sexy as feck.
I’ve had socials at mines and at others and seriously enjoyed them, I never put myself under pressure or put pressure on us to play. The social is just that, to get on, get to know, have a chat and laugh and connect, what happens naturally is fine. |
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"I had a social just the other day and it was superb. In a wee coffee shop and we just chatted and flirted and had such a laugh. She got to know me more and I got to know her. Both ended up wanting each other more and we both said next time we intend to have a fun meet.
If it was a social at her or mines would it have ended up having fun?, probably yes but I was happy as she was great company in the social and sexy as feck.
I’ve had socials at mines and at others and seriously enjoyed them, I never put myself under pressure or put pressure on us to play. The social is just that, to get on, get to know, have a chat and laugh and connect, what happens naturally is fine. "
it's great when a social meet goes well and your sat their knowing you both want to take things further.
A wee flirt is so good too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 14 weeks ago
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"The one social we ended up having via here we went to 'bloc' in town. Had dinner and chatted. Enjoyed ourselves. X "
Yeah the social can be fun but we all want to get on with whom we are meeting so even picking the right place needs bit of thought. too noisy or busy can be the wrong choice |
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Simply a coffee meet usually an hour just enough time to know whether you would like to see them again or not especially if you have got on well in chat beforehand.
Wouldn’t meet at someone’s house to save any awkwardness |
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By *adcowWoman 14 weeks ago
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A coffee or lunch or even meet at a club(that way all bases covered if there is a spark) but state play is not guaranteed. Had that before, met someone for a coffee and all he kept saying "when are we leaving to play? Your place or outside" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 14 weeks ago
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"A coffee or lunch or even meet at a club(that way all bases covered if there is a spark) but state play is not guaranteed. Had that before, met someone for a coffee and all he kept saying "when are we leaving to play? Your place or outside" "
That doesn't sound like a social meet, thats sounds like someone who is only interested in himself and only wanting to use you and beat it. Least you found out anyways  |
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Social you say?
Pub?
Pub.
Pub!
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"Nice little bar, couple of cocktails, friendly chat & a cheeky flirt. If I'm on a social with you it's with a view to us getting down to business. Its gotta be fun  "
Jokes aside, this is the answer. Buttercup’s right.
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"it's great when a social meet goes well and your sat their knowing you both want to take things further. A wee flirt is so good too "
And Nawty’s right too.
I just agree with everyone today.
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"Social you say?
Pub?
Pub.
Pub!
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Nice little bar, couple of cocktails, friendly chat & a cheeky flirt. If I'm on a social with you it's with a view to us getting down to business. Its gotta be fun
Jokes aside, this is the answer. Buttercup’s right.
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it's great when a social meet goes well and your sat their knowing you both want to take things further. A wee flirt is so good too
And Nawty’s right too.
I just agree with everyone today.
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Of course we are right, well let's face it we're never wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 14 weeks ago
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"Social you say?
Pub?
Pub.
Pub!
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Nice little bar, couple of cocktails, friendly chat & a cheeky flirt. If I'm on a social with you it's with a view to us getting down to business. Its gotta be fun
Jokes aside, this is the answer. Buttercup’s right.
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it's great when a social meet goes well and your sat their knowing you both want to take things further. A wee flirt is so good too
And Nawty’s right too.
I just agree with everyone today.
Of course we are right, well let's face it we're never wrong "
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By (user no longer on site) OP 14 weeks ago
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"I had a social just the other day and it was superb. In a wee coffee shop and we just chatted and flirted and had such a laugh. She got to know me more and I got to know her. Both ended up wanting each other more and we both said next time we intend to have a fun meet.
If it was a social at her or mines would it have ended up having fun?, probably yes but I was happy as she was great company in the social and sexy as feck.
I’ve had socials at mines and at others and seriously enjoyed them, I never put myself under pressure or put pressure on us to play. The social is just that, to get on, get to know, have a chat and laugh and connect, what happens naturally is fine. "
Have to admit, the social that I talked about above was superb, great conversation, tease, giggles, finding out about each other and it lasted over 3 and a half hours and genuinely felt we had only been chatting 20 odd mins and being in a public place was totally fine.
I genuinely don't mind meeting at mines or theirs or a public place as I usually get the feel for the person(s) I'm chatting with and if I wasn't comfortable I wouldn't meet |
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"Our preferd soical is dinner at a restaurant "
I would never do dinner for a social. Would feel trapped for too long if I wasn't into them🫣
Coffee works for me. If it's going well we can have another.😜 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 14 weeks ago
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"Our preferd soical is dinner at a restaurant
I would never do dinner for a social. Would feel trapped for too long if I wasn't into them🫣
Coffee works for me. If it's going well we can have another.😜 "
Thought it was tea? 
Yeah dinner, deffo no way.
I don't want my company watch me take my fish tea and stick it on two slices of tiger bread and eat it
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"Our preferd soical is dinner at a restaurant
I would never do dinner for a social. Would feel trapped for too long if I wasn't into them🫣
Coffee works for me. If it's going well we can have another.😜
Thought it was tea?
Yeah dinner, deffo no way.
I don't want my company watch me take my fish tea and stick it on two slices of tiger bread and eat it
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It is tea. Just milk cause I'm sweet enough🤣 |
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Tbh it’s the same as a coffee place. If you’re no feeling it then pay for your meal and can leave at any time. Tbh people are saying at least an hour for coffee, that’s the same time as dinner depending on where you are going. - female
The reason we choose a restaurant so we have that length of time with people because we don’t think you’d get to know someone in 30 mins. Feel like you need longer to build a bond/get to know the person. |
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"Our preferd soical is dinner at a restaurant
I would never do dinner for a social. Would feel trapped for too long if I wasn't into them🫣
Coffee works for me. If it's going well we can have another.😜
Thought it was tea?
Yeah dinner, deffo no way.
I don't want my company watch me take my fish tea and stick it on two slices of tiger bread and eat it
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why not that's exactly what I need my company to see |
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"Tbh it’s the same as a coffee place. If you’re no feeling it then pay for your meal and can leave at any time. Tbh people are saying at least an hour for coffee, that’s the same time as dinner depending on where you are going. - female
The reason we choose a restaurant so we have that length of time with people because we don’t think you’d get to know someone in 30 mins. Feel like you need longer to build a bond/get to know the person. "
That's true. It's just more awkward for me personally. Cause no way I'm paying for my food n no eating it🤣 so I'm stuck there til the 3 courses are done🫣😜 |
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"Tbh it’s the same as a coffee place. If you’re no feeling it then pay for your meal and can leave at any time. Tbh people are saying at least an hour for coffee, that’s the same time as dinner depending on where you are going. - female
The reason we choose a restaurant so we have that length of time with people because we don’t think you’d get to know someone in 30 mins. Feel like you need longer to build a bond/get to know the person.
That's true. It's just more awkward for me personally. Cause no way I'm paying for my food n no eating it🤣 so I'm stuck there til the 3 courses are done🫣😜"
Tbh that's the point to see manurisms and see if those things don't put people off as someone can always just fake woo you but when ribs and such as at a table yiu see how humans truly are also how one treats staff is important to us. Tips are mandatory |
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"Only ever had one social that I can mind of and it was in Glasgow for a drink, didn't go the way I'd hoped and I was still able to go for a pint. Winner winner
Always good to have a plan B "
Definitely, was last summer, beer gardens just off buchannon street, on the one sunny day we hot as well. 🙌 |
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By *aylorMan 14 weeks ago
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I prefer to meet for a cuppy and a wee dawnder if the weather permits.
One time I met, we walked over the railway bridge and sat on Moncrieff Island on a gorgeous day and chatted as the River Tay flowed by
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By *nverMan 13 weeks ago
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I prefer hotel bars myself.
They tend to be simultaneously public and private, if that makes sense. Good for a coffee or a drink and something to eat. Not to mention the fact that if everything thing clicks in to place, well.... you're in a hotel!! |
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Depends on them..
I personally hate coffee socials pretty boring!!.. I prefer something active billiards miniature golf then chill get lunch.. let's a bit of flirting and interactive. For me if there's no chemistry there will be no orgasm. |
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