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Men using the term slag ,slut
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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago
w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND |
"I won't allow any man to call me anything like that without permission "
100% this ..but random mail saying u look like a dirty slut or can i fuck u slut or updates saying looking for sluts to fuck .its a huge turn off |
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It’s highly offensive and degrading in my opinion. Updates saying looking for a dirty slut, slag etc, calling me one in messages or meeting me and calling me one will result in you being told to get out or me leaving, deleted and blocked. |
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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago
w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND |
"It’s highly offensive and degrading in my opinion. Updates saying looking for a dirty slut, slag etc, calling me one in messages or meeting me and calling me one will result in you being told to get out or me leaving, deleted and blocked. "
Thats exactly it. It screams they have no respect and shows how they think about women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won't allow any man to call me anything like that without permission
100% this ..but random mail saying u look like a dirty slut or can i fuck u slut or updates saying looking for sluts to fuck .its a huge turn off"
Absolutely agree 100%, When they eventually introduce the arseholes filter in here, you will be fine, don't let them get to you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won't allow any man to call me anything like that without permission
100% this ..but random mail saying u look like a dirty slut or can i fuck u slut or updates saying looking for sluts to fuck .its a huge turn off"
Yep instant block if they do that |
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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago
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Thankfully this isn't something I encounter often, but whenever I am subjected to these derogatory names, I instantly delete.
Same goes with any profile names with slut/slag. It speaks to how they perceive women.
I'm not on here to be subjectified and any twat that does deserves to be ignored and blocked! At the very least!  |
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"It’s highly offensive and degrading in my opinion. Updates saying looking for a dirty slut, slag etc, calling me one in messages or meeting me and calling me one will result in you being told to get out or me leaving, deleted and blocked.
Thats exactly it. It screams they have no respect and shows how they think about women"
Yes, a real red flag |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not a term I'd use for a woman.
Although curious if what's been said would apply to a woman who uses either term for herself? Plenty of usernames on here with these terms in them"
Some women like it, some don't. I think it's common sense to be respectful to strangers and not use such terms until you know for sure
I like it in the bedroom with certain men but only when I've gave them permission  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it’s a term used in bed and is one that turns the woman on during play, acceptable.
Any other time, get into the fucking sea."
Get into the sea....I like that and will be stealing it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its an instant block from me.
I absolutely despise derogative language. I honestly don't understand why anyone would message a random stranger thinking it was ok but then I suppose men and women's brains work very differently |
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It all comes down to a bit of respect, and I'd never call a woman anything like that.
I mean in chat, if someone has certain terms in their username I will even avoid using those when addressing them.
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A guy kept on telling me that he was going to use me like the dirty slut I am when I was on cam a few weeks ago.
I may act like an auld hairy sometimes after a bottle of the vino calapso, but the nearest you're getting to me pal is licking your screen. |
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"It all comes down to a bit of respect, and I'd never call a woman anything like that.
I mean in chat, if someone has certain terms in their username I will even avoid using those when addressing them.
Mandy"
Aye, does sound a bit contradictory "Hey DIRTYCUMSLUTQUEEN you look so classy tonight"
But, if that floats yer boat then fair dos. |
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"A guy kept on telling me that he was going to use me like the dirty slut I am when I was on cam a few weeks ago.
I may act like an auld hairy sometimes after a bottle of the vino calapso, but the nearest you're getting to me pal is licking your screen. "
If you block them, can they still see you on cam? |
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"A guy kept on telling me that he was going to use me like the dirty slut I am when I was on cam a few weeks ago.
I may act like an auld hairy sometimes after a bottle of the vino calapso, but the nearest you're getting to me pal is licking your screen.
If you block them, can they still see you on cam?"
No. This was the first time I'd ever encountered this guy in chat though so didn't realise he was a prick until he said that. To be fair the room are pretty good at calling anyone out if you've asked them to stop and they persist. |
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"The guys who call you slut or slag in messages probably also say 'good girl' if their playmate cums 
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I quite like good girl. Think it all comes down to consent. If you're going to go out on a limb and say something which may cause upset or offence then ask first. |
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"The guys who call you slut or slag in messages probably also say 'good girl' if their playmate cums
I quite like good girl. Think it all comes down to consent. If you're going to go out on a limb and say something which may cause upset or offence then ask first."
I hate it, they may as well pat me on the head whilst they're at it. But yes, I agree. |
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"The guys who call you slut or slag in messages probably also say 'good girl' if their playmate cums
I quite like good girl. Think it all comes down to consent. If you're going to go out on a limb and say something which may cause upset or offence then ask first.
I hate it, they may as well pat me on the head whilst they're at it. But yes, I agree."
I'm fond of Pedigree Chum so not fussed |
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"The guys who call you slut or slag in messages probably also say 'good girl' if their playmate cums
I quite like good girl. Think it all comes down to consent. If you're going to go out on a limb and say something which may cause upset or offence then ask first.
I hate it, they may as well pat me on the head whilst they're at it. But yes, I agree.
I'm fond of Pedigree Chum so not fussed "
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"A guy kept on telling me that he was going to use me like the dirty slut I am when I was on cam a few weeks ago.
I may act like an auld hairy sometimes after a bottle of the vino calapso, but the nearest you're getting to me pal is licking your screen. "
I hope there is a calender function on my phone for these blockbuster events! |
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Definitely not right. That word should be used only on context when there is a mutual understanding between the two. No man has any right calling a woman that even after they have had sex and the words may have been used. Alot of men need to show more respect to the other half. |
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So glad to find this thread after a meet last night where one guy kept calling me a slut. I didn't like it at all and should have said something but was during my first dp so was all a bit overwhelming.
Been dwelling on it today as it completely spoiled the experience for me and although technically correct just felt really derogatory and certainly wasn't discussed or agreed.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it is shocking that some men use these terms when they don't even know you or met you. It's different if you agree to be called these names when you are on a meet |
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Not very pleasant at all, unacceptable unless it is an agreed part of some roleplay fun etc. You wouldn't walk up to a woman in a bar or club and ask " you fancy a shag you slag?" So its a no from me. |
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"You wouldn't walk up to a woman in a bar or club and ask " you fancy a shag you slag?" So its a no from me."
I have no idea why but that comment made me lol . Probably because I can imagine the amount of bruised baws it would result in. |
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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago
w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND |
"So glad to find this thread after a meet last night where one guy kept calling me a slut. I didn't like it at all and should have said something but was during my first dp so was all a bit overwhelming.
Been dwelling on it today as it completely spoiled the experience for me and although technically correct just felt really derogatory and certainly wasn't discussed or agreed. "
No man should be calling any woman that during a meet unless u have shown u want it.. it shows they have no respect at all. Doesnt matter if we as women are vanilla or crazy filthy kinky. Until you know a woman wants that kind of talk it shouldnt even be said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive had an in depth convo with someone who loves it says it an empowerment owning the word .. me nah i just dont get it if a woman enjoys sex and has a healthy sexual outlook then shes a slag / slut / hoor .. anyone calls me by them its game over , glesga kiss , good night vienna |
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Not a term that I'd ever use without first knowing that the lady likes the word in the right context too. Also when I'm with a partner in a group situation I have never allowed other guys to use the term towards her.
Interestingly I wrote a short blog on this topic recently. My attraction towards s**ts is off the chart so I've started to make a more conscious effort to attract the women with the qualities of a s**t that I so adore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never found myself in a situation where either word has been accepted, acceptable or needed.
The English language is so varied that there are far better words that suit a situation without being derogatory.
Ravenous is a particular favourite of mine |
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By *bwstarzWoman
over a year ago
south cheshire |
I have to say I happily call myself a slut in certain situations with certain people, I’ve taken ownership of the word, however Joe bloggs randomly calling me a slut or a slag is a big no no and just kills the vibe.
I have noticed though that a club that I used to frequent pretty regular has updated their decor and one of the first thing you see as you walk in is the words ‘I love sluts’ on the wall, as well as cum sluts and various other comments and it doesn’t sit right with me, swinging is all about equality, empowerment and celebrating sexuality however stuff like that just gives me Andrew Tate vibes.
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As others have said, there’s a time and place for it. Usually in the heat of the moment. Not forcing it into an introductory message.
Not something I’d do, but suppose it’s a case by case basis and will work for some. Although I’d imagine they would have better success saving it for message 2 or 3. |
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"So whats womens & mens opinion on men saying they are looking for sluts & slags .me personally its a delete straight away if i get a mail using the terms HUGE turn off"
Very disresecful and i wouldnt use those words. unless i know she enjoys them or finds them hot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Call me boring or old school
But respect! It's just a massive no, and I wouldn't dream of sending messages like that or saying it in real life either.
Delete, delete , delete I'd they do that - you're better than being called names for someone else's pleasure
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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago
w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND |
"Personally for me in the right context it's a turn on. Just randomly in a message absolutely not! "
100% in the rite moment in the heat of it with the rite person .but random 1s mail or 2nd 3rd mail.is a no go for me |
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It really kicks me straight out of the moment when a guy says something like "you love this dick don't you ya little slut" because I have to correct him "I do enjoy this but I'm not a slut". They see it in porn and think others actually like it in real life. |
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Strangly with whore in my name i don't get that too much, something to do with being a couple profile I suspect and that men respect a man alot more than a female profile. As I've had a single profile and was all the slut slags and everything else you can think of! |
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It the kink world slut is a role. It's a word that can be a term of endearment and a major turn on.
However, it needs to be consensual!
My partner or someone I'm playing with using derogatory terms is hot!
Some random who's just jumped in my DM's, not so much!!
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By *at-me-drink-me OP Woman
over a year ago
w.lothian.TAKE ME TO WONDERLAND |
"It the kink world slut is a role. It's a word that can be a term of endearment and a major turn on.
However, it needs to be consensual!
My partner or someone I'm playing with using derogatory terms is hot!
Some random who's just jumped in my DM's, not so much!!
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I agree in the rite place and time with the rite person .but a random 1st 2nd 3rd mail with no previous chat is a huge turn off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I hate it too. Also hate when they offer you cash like we’re doing a job!
Only like it when Pablo says it the way he does  "
Us too, hate it..
We've also been offered cash, fine food and the hotel paid for. Cringe!  |
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By *evils PuddingCouple
over a year ago
the pub or in the nude in Paisley |
"Yeah I hate it too. Also hate when they offer you cash like we’re doing a job!
Only like it when Pablo says it the way he does
Us too, hate it..
We've also been offered cash, fine food and the hotel paid for. Cringe! "
As soon as folk mention cash or drugs I block them |
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"They wouldn't say that face to face to a woman so why say it on here, don't get why people act differently online "
You don't 'get' why people act differently online?
Because nobody would talk about what is discussed online here with any woman or man they just met in 'real life' (as opposed to 'online'). It is not 'done'. We civilised ourselves out of that a few hundred years back.
"Online" is what allows us to use names like "cs1876" or "_hrobberman" and discuss these sexual things without saying who we really are (thus causing crushing exposure etc). If we went up to complete strangers and spoke using the sexualised language that is used on here we might get arrested.
I am really surprised that you don't get that! |
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By *ewcpl80Couple
over a year ago
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"They wouldn't say that face to face to a woman so why say it on here, don't get why people act differently online
You don't 'get' why people act differently online?
Because nobody would talk about what is discussed online here with any woman or man they just met in 'real life' (as opposed to 'online'). It is not 'done'. We civilised ourselves out of that a few hundred years back.
"Online" is what allows us to use names like "cs1876" or "_hrobberman" and discuss these sexual things without saying who we really are (thus causing crushing exposure etc). If we went up to complete strangers and spoke using the sexualised language that is used on here we might get arrested.
I am really surprised that you don't get that! "
Think your missing the point, he doesn't get why people feel brave enough to use these degrading names when they most likely don't have the balls to do it in real life. Keyboard terrorist I'm told they call it these days. But I'm with him I don't get it ether, just like I don't get wanting to shoot the guy down for asking a legitimate question just because it's done online.
Suppose this is the ages we live today right |
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"They wouldn't say that face to face to a woman so why say it on here, don't get why people act differently online
You don't 'get' why people act differently online?
Because nobody would talk about what is discussed online here with any woman or man they just met in 'real life' (as opposed to 'online'). It is not 'done'. We civilised ourselves out of that a few hundred years back.
"Online" is what allows us to use names like "cs1876" or "_hrobberman" and discuss these sexual things without saying who we really are (thus causing crushing exposure etc). If we went up to complete strangers and spoke using the sexualised language that is used on here we might get arrested.
I am really surprised that you don't get that!
Think your missing the point, he doesn't get why people feel brave enough to use these degrading names when they most likely don't have the balls to do it in real life. Keyboard terrorist I'm told they call it these days. But I'm with him I don't get it ether, just like I don't get wanting to shoot the guy down for asking a legitimate question just because it's done online.
Suppose this is the ages we live today right "
I suppose what I am saying is..
"The freedom that forums, websites and sex sites give you for anonymous open discussion and hookups is the same freedom for anonymous open discussion which allows some people to use words which some consider to be rude and off-limits."
I dont use such language myself but I wholeheartedly support others right to use it. I suppose I am secretly hoping it will reduce the competition! |
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