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Is it time to quit FAB and give up when . . .
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"on almost every female profile I like, I go to message and I get this message:
STOP. THINK.
You've already sent XXXXX a message and not received a reply back.
Deflated "
Or a status with had to bulk delete inbox message me again, erm no thank you  genuinely best just to not send messages and wait see what comes in your inbox been my approach the past year and has worked pretty well, that said though most likely miss out on lots of possible chats as not many ladies will message first |
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"on almost every female profile I like, I go to message and I get this message:
STOP. THINK.
You've already sent XXXXX a message and not received a reply back.
Deflated "
i would say update your profile.
lockdown is coming to an end?
and some new pics, and maybe dont message every single woman on here.
also someone said, wait on the ladies messaging you, that could be an idea. some of the best meets i have had are with women who messaged me first. |
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"on almost every female profile I like, I go to message and I get this message:
STOP. THINK.
You've already sent XXXXX a message and not received a reply back.
Deflated "
you need a little profile update the lockdown paragraphs are irrelevant now .
Maybe add a few interesting photos too .
Think about what you are saying in your messages and if there is something you could change to hopefully get a reply .
I know socials arnt for everyone but they are a great way for people to meet face to face ,I know I’ve been surprised by some over the years who I dismissed in messaged them met them at a social or party and got on like a house on fire lol
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I’m with Falcon & NSV though I think you’ve already changed your bio slightly.
More pics rather than that silly emoji one (I hate those! Makes me think the person has the emotional maturity of someone much much younger. You’re middle aged be somewhat mature and sensible)
Also proof read your bio and use spellcheck. Just makes a better impression
“Ultimately”
“I’m Looking” errant capitalisation.
“More action” I personally find that phrase rather…mechanical/impersonal and offputting.
“I cannot accommodate because I have children at home” all the time? If so does that mean are you married/attached? What’s the situation?
“My penis is a grower rather than a shower which I know you'll enjoy.” Presumptuous bordering on arrogant which turns many women off.
“I love giving oral and I love to worship pussy.”
Not something that would entice me but some will like that.
“You'll get full respect, complete pleasure” again rather presumptuous
“ashusered discretion from me.”
Assured
“Thanks for taking the time to read my profile and I hope we get the chance to chat.”
I like that |
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"I’m with Falcon & NSV though I think you’ve already changed your bio slightly.
More pics rather than that silly emoji one (I hate those! Makes me think the person has the emotional maturity of someone much much younger. You’re middle aged be somewhat mature and sensible)
Also proof read your bio and use spellcheck. Just makes a better impression
“Ultimately”
“I’m Looking” errant capitalisation.
“More action” I personally find that phrase rather…mechanical/impersonal and offputting.
“I cannot accommodate because I have children at home” all the time? If so does that mean are you married/attached? What’s the situation?
“My penis is a grower rather than a shower which I know you'll enjoy.” Presumptuous bordering on arrogant which turns many women off.
“I love giving oral and I love to worship pussy.”
Not something that would entice me but some will like that.
“You'll get full respect, complete pleasure” again rather presumptuous
“ashusered discretion from me.”
Assured
“Thanks for taking the time to read my profile and I hope we get the chance to chat.”
I like that "
100% agree with above. |
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can i ask what your messages day
example i get
hey
how r u
nice tits
wanna suck me, etc…
The list goes on, the lack of pics would immediately put me off, I have ended up speaking to many guys who aren’t my “type” but who send a brilliant initial message
if someone sends me a good intro I almost always reply even if just a thank you
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"can i ask what your messages day
example i get
hey
how r u
nice tits
wanna suck me, etc…
The list goes on, the lack of pics would immediately put me off, I have ended up speaking to many guys who aren’t my “type” but who send a brilliant initial message
if someone sends me a good intro I almost always reply even if just a thank you
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Yep! If you make some effort to stand out, show you’ve read our bios and understood that’s a good start |
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Thanks Vamp and ScotsCouple.
Any message I send is always profile based and more than just one line. I often get a message backnsaying No Thank you or not my type, so the messages must be alright-ish.
I don't bombard 100s of messages to profiles, I only message those that appeal and match my interests.
Thanks for your comments. |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"I’m with Falcon & NSV though I think you’ve already changed your bio slightly.
More pics rather than that silly emoji one (I hate those! Makes me think the person has the emotional maturity of someone much much younger. You’re middle aged be somewhat mature and sensible)
Also proof read your bio and use spellcheck. Just makes a better impression
“Ultimately”
“I’m Looking” errant capitalisation.
“More action” I personally find that phrase rather…mechanical/impersonal and offputting.
“I cannot accommodate because I have children at home” all the time? If so does that mean are you married/attached? What’s the situation?
“My penis is a grower rather than a shower which I know you'll enjoy.” Presumptuous bordering on arrogant which turns many women off.
“I love giving oral and I love to worship pussy.”
Not something that would entice me but some will like that.
“You'll get full respect, complete pleasure” again rather presumptuous
“ashusered discretion from me.”
Assured
“Thanks for taking the time to read my profile and I hope we get the chance to chat.”
I like that "
So not going to ask you for a profile audit   |
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"I’m with Falcon & NSV though I think you’ve already changed your bio slightly.
More pics rather than that silly emoji one (I hate those! Makes me think the person has the emotional maturity of someone much much younger. You’re middle aged be somewhat mature and sensible)
Also proof read your bio and use spellcheck. Just makes a better impression
“Ultimately”
“I’m Looking” errant capitalisation.
“More action” I personally find that phrase rather…mechanical/impersonal and offputting.
“I cannot accommodate because I have children at home” all the time? If so does that mean are you married/attached? What’s the situation?
“My penis is a grower rather than a shower which I know you'll enjoy.” Presumptuous bordering on arrogant which turns many women off.
“I love giving oral and I love to worship pussy.”
Not something that would entice me but some will like that.
“You'll get full respect, complete pleasure” again rather presumptuous
“ashusered discretion from me.”
Assured
“Thanks for taking the time to read my profile and I hope we get the chance to chat.”
I like that
So not going to ask you for a profile audit "
You’re all good. Was I too pernickety?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you are yet another curious guy starting out trying to do the right thing on here but finding you have been completely wide of the 'fab' mark all these years you've been alive courting the other sex. You'll tie yourself in knots trying to follow some of the advice on here. Always remember to be true to yourself and stand your ground about who you are not be moly coddled by the fab elite (mostly ladies who love an opportunity to deride a guy after some lovin). It really is a bit of a power trip on here for some. You will, very definitely, have more success meeting face to face using other sites. All the best .. |
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Have a look at some of the guys who are regular posters on forums you’ll see how their profiles are written and take a lead from that ?
But near in mind this is a swinging site not a sex site so you have to fit a dynamic that couples or single ladies are looking for if not then you will just have to try harder |
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…only message those that appeal and match my interests.
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Something a friend on here told me was ‘the women on here may appeal to you and match your interests but make sure you’re honest with yourself about whether you match theirs too, before you message’.
Now the last bit can be difficult based on how little (fill in later) or how vague some profiles can be but a lot can be quite clear. At the end of the day, if you chose to message, getting the opening text attention grabbing is sometimes more difficult.
Best thing, get along to organised socials and take part in the forums. You’ll start to stand out more. |
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