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Fwb - realistic or not?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondering to myself how realistic is it to have a genuine fwb? Sounds like it would be an easy enough thing to find but my experience so far has shown, not so much.
How is it for others? Any dos and don’ts? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a FWB for a while and it was amazing , but due to things going on in my life i thought it better to cut away from the genuine FWB but remain veey good friends . So i would give it the rhumbs up if u find the right person with the right attitude towards FWB which we both did have  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a few fwb over the years and one of them we are still mates 5 years down the line. It works for different reason, we worked because we were actually mates, he doesn't get the benefits now but still there if I need him. I had another fb who I hated, (so he doesn't get the friend title) haha but the sex was amazing, we lasted so long because it purely was sex, no messing about, gotta find what works for you, it can work tho. |
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Let's be honest FWB starts off as a friend 1st then becomes more. Most folk tend to look for a FB but some of them become FWB.
I had a FWB and a FB. The fwb got feelings attached at the end up and the fb became a good friend after the fucking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had the pleasure of a FWB for over 14months, was amazing and had soo many good times. Was upset when we ended the relationship on one part but over the moon we worked things out and we are still friends (with benefits sometimes) but now with more respect for each other. Still lots of things planned together in the future and will be lifelong friend no matter what life brings us. Not ready for another FWB just now so just enjoying the NSA Safe Fun when I get the opportunity although still open to the idea of a regular FB.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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a fwb can be great if both parties stick to the parameter of what it is , usually in most cases though there ends up with feelings bein caught and usually its one sided . |
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"a fwb can be great if both parties stick to the parameter of what it is , usually in most cases though there ends up with feelings bein caught and usually its one sided ."
This is so true, happened to me, laying in bed post fun and she fired the L word. As much as we were good friends, outside the bedroom we didn't have much in common. Needless to say I lost a good friend. |
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"a fwb can be great if both parties stick to the parameter of what it is , usually in most cases though there ends up with feelings bein caught and usually its one sided ."
I agree with this, but would add it's easier if there's a decent distance between each. Less likely to want to drop in for a coffee or impose too much on the other's already established/contented time/life.
Probably much easier too if not in the first flush of youth and not looking to 'nest' or make babies?
FwB or FB? Space for either/both depending on what you're looking for. Be honest. Including with yourself? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Needle in a haystack springs to mind  "
Agreed, it’s a really tricky thing to find.
I think what can make it difficult is how you define a fwb. The line between it and a fb can be pretty blurry |
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By *at me drink meWoman
over a year ago
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Fwb/fuck buddy is what id love .find it hard to find tho .life timings are hard. I have been meeting a guy fae here for years tho. Find the connection with a regular is better.better sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely not impossible. But yea can be hard to find, as expressed above it’s easy for feelings to get involved. If said feels go both ways then it’s not an issue. But generally 1 falls for the other.
It’s simply human emotion. Can’t control what the heart wants sometimes.
But again, not impossible to find exactly what you want. |
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"I think what can make it difficult is how you define a fwb. The line between it and a fb can be pretty blurry "
Best not to bother with labels, I think. They’re far too slippery.
Personally I’m most like one of those friends you don’t see for months then go out and get really d*unk with as though you were best mates. No idea what you’d end up labelling that as once you added sex to the equation too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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agree with this everyone interpretation of a fwb is different .. to me a fb situation is pretty much the same as a fwb , casual sex with one person if repeated regularly the lines can get blurred .. when that happens as brutal as it sounds its time to cut and run if its one sided .. prolonging it because of sex is a recipe for disaster , jealousy can creep in .. been there done it and ended up with a jealous heidcase to contend with |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"agree with this everyone interpretation of a fwb is different .. to me a fb situation is pretty much the same as a fwb , casual sex with one person if repeated regularly the lines can get blurred .. when that happens as brutal as it sounds its time to cut and run if its one sided .. prolonging it because of sex is a recipe for disaster , jealousy can creep in .. been there done it and ended up with a jealous heidcase to contend with "
Wow hope ur okay.
Thankfully my friend and i are more respectful and totally get our situation now. I am more than happy for him to meet and play with others as he is with me. We do enjoy each others company even without the sex part and both are committed to the friendship. So all happy with us.
Hope u no longer get plaqued by the heidcase x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"agree with this everyone interpretation of a fwb is different .. to me a fb situation is pretty much the same as a fwb , casual sex with one person if repeated regularly the lines can get blurred .. when that happens as brutal as it sounds its time to cut and run if its one sided .. prolonging it because of sex is a recipe for disaster , jealousy can creep in .. been there done it and ended up with a jealous heidcase to contend with
Wow hope ur okay.
Thankfully my friend and i are more respectful and totally get our situation now. I am more than happy for him to meet and play with others as he is with me. We do enjoy each others company even without the sex part and both are committed to the friendship. So all happy with us.
Hope u no longer get plaqued by the heidcase x "
Was a long time ago all good now x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a a fwb .. she knew how to turn me on and would send me videos or pics .. when we met it was dynamite .. would love another one like her .. where are all these amazing women !! Xx"
What happened to her, did she die? |
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"I had a a fwb .. she knew how to turn me on and would send me videos or pics .. when we met it was dynamite .. would love another one like her .. where are all these amazing women !! Xx
What happened to her, did she die?"
Naw .. we just drifted apart .. then she got a boyfriend  |
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The longest fwb I had was for about 18 months. But unfortunately the texts, contact etc became less from them and lies creeped in. That’s when I knew it was over. It’s a very hard thing to find and gain that trust. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm genuinely really hopeful that I'll find my right person for that here. If I find the right friend I've no doubt the benefits will be mind blowing! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pretty similar to most of the other comments here. Its possible but pretty rare to find.
I had one for about 2 years, suited each others life and we had amazing fun. Eventually feelings started to play a part and we decided to call it a day. |
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I’ve got fwb that I’ve known for 15 years I found it a lot easier back in the day to find genuine guys that wanted the same and was lucky enough to have 2/4 at any one time on the go but lately it’s really difficult to find one that lasts more than a few weeks, the grass is always greener until it’s not and nowadays I can’t be bothered listening to excuses |
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On the plus side fwb for 15 years has a lovely early birthday treat organised for me next week it will be strange because we haven’t been together sexually for at least five years we met once after my marriage broke down but our paths haven’t crossed since even though he’s sought me out a few times |
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"On the plus side fwb for 15 years has a lovely early birthday treat organised for me next week it will be strange because we haven’t been together sexually for at least five years we met once after my marriage broke down but our paths haven’t crossed since even though he’s sought me out a few times "
Doesn't that just make him a friend you used to fuck? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a a fwb .. she knew how to turn me on and would send me videos or pics .. when we met it was dynamite .. would love another one like her .. where are all these amazing women !! Xx
What happened to her, did she die?
Naw .. we just drifted apart .. then she got a boyfriend "
As good as dead then. |
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"Pretty similar to most of the other comments here. Its possible but pretty rare to find.
I had one for about 2 years, suited each others life and we had amazing fun. Eventually feelings started to play a part and we decided to call it a day."
Yes fuck that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering to myself how realistic is it to have a genuine fwb? Sounds like it would be an easy enough thing to find but my experience so far has shown, not so much.
How is it for others? Any dos and don’ts?"
My experience has been negative, it seems an impossible task.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's possible, I've had one for 3 years-ish but also think It was a little bit of luck it worked out well, mainly
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I think luck might play a big part in it all - both in the same place at the same time for a fwb.
It’s interesting seeing it from different viewpoints. One thing everyone agrees on is open communication which sounds so obvious but I’ve found some men still seem to struggle to say what they actually want which rips my knitting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've had one then like a few have said above feelings became involved. She started to ask me if I wanted go exclusive / relationship, after a while I said yes. Then one day I turned up at her house and saw a bunch of guys clothes in the corner, so she wanted me to go exclusive but for her to continue playing the field
So after her lies I ended it  |
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"G has met 2 ladies on his single profile, 1 a definite fwb and the second heading that way.
I'm not so lucky, been here 10 years and never found anyone to fit the bill. "
How does he find the time to fit in the friendship aspect? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve found some men still seem to struggle to say what they actually want which rips my knitting
Y’know, if you need me to be even more direct you just had to say. "
You are perfectly direct already know the label and how to apply it |
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"How can there be so many ladies looking for fwb when there's more guys willing on this thread alone never mind on all of fab lol
Picky I guess Lol "
Because its not a case of he'll do. There has to be a connection, attraction, compatibility and a want to meet that person reg. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's possible, I've had one for 3 years-ish but also think It was a little bit of luck it worked out well, mainly
I think luck might play a big part in it all - both in the same place at the same time for a fwb.
It’s interesting seeing it from different viewpoints. One thing everyone agrees on is open communication which sounds so obvious but I’ve found some men still seem to struggle to say what they actually want which rips my knitting "
Yep definitely a bit of luck I think!
Yeah not all of them are great at communicating which you need. I'm learning though. First FWB situation after long marriage. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's probably as hard as finding any relationship. Yeah there's no strings but you still need to find someone compatible.
I guess fab is a bit like a dating site, hundreds to choose from but finding the right one isn't the easiest.
Totally worth it when you do though. |
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"G has met 2 ladies on his single profile, 1 a definite fwb and the second heading that way.
I'm not so lucky, been here 10 years and never found anyone to fit the bill.
How does he find the time to fit in the friendship aspect?"
He chats with them most days on WhatsApp, the potential one he's had a few coffees with. He'll meet them whilst I'm at work |
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"How can there be so many ladies looking for fwb when there's more guys willing on this thread alone never mind on all of fab lol "
Because attraction plays a big part. It's like those guys who always complain in their status updates that they're a 'nice guy' yet women don't want that. You can be the nicest person on the planet but if there's no attraction it's a no. |
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
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Personally, I don't think it's necessary to go looking for a FWB.
You meet, then you meet again, then again, then........and suddenly you've become friends.
Going out and spending the day together, maybe not always about sex. As another thread here, maybe sometimes it's just kissing and cuddling.
Having an FWB is special, to be recommended. |
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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago
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"How can there be so many ladies looking for fwb when there's more guys willing on this thread alone never mind on all of fab lol
Picky I guess Lol "
And here we have the reason 
Nothing to do with attraction or connection. I guess because I’m on a sex site I’ll shag anyone eh! |
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"How can there be so many ladies looking for fwb when there's more guys willing on this thread alone never mind on all of fab lol
That isn't what I meant by the post .. attraction is important but its not just looks that are attractive .. I like a woman who is a nice person and if she's attractive that's a bonus .. I meant there must be 10 guys at least to every woman on here .. there must surely be a few that uve met that uve been attracted to .. lots of people are on this site for different reasons .. not just to get sweaty lol
And here we have the reason
Nothing to do with attraction or connection. I guess because I’m on a sex site I’ll shag anyone eh! "
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Realistic sure. But the fwb means friends, and friendship. I've got one, met him back at the beginning of my fab life, we text most weeks about life, jobs, friends, clubs, meets, occasionally we'll have coffee and even more rarely we'll fuck.
I was seeing someone for a while, and our dynamic changed to just friendship, no issues. An actual friend, with occasional, benefits.
Most people say fwb, but actually they just want someone to fuck regularly, thats fun too but not the same thing imo. |
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