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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Hello,

Was just wondering if social meets before more physical meets were considered odd or if its your standard practise too?

When I was on here as part of a married couple 6 or 7 years ago I didn't give it much thought. We'd meet couples after just a few messages if we felt an attraction.

As a single woman I'm much more cautious. Id rather meet someone somewhere public first, have a chat, flirt, see if there's chemistry then take it from there. If there is then next meet would be less clothed.

I seem to get a few negative responses when I say this to people. I don't want to date anyone, hence using fab over a dating site, but I also don't want to just turn up at a complete strangers front door.

Anyone else only meet socially for the first time?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Totally the same with everything you said.

When I met with my hubby it was a few messages then a play meet.

Now I meet alone ALWAYS a social 1st and if guys aren't willing to do that then no meet of any kind takes place.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Always a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Hello,

Was just wondering if social meets before more physical meets were considered odd or if its your standard practise too?

When I was on here as part of a married couple 6 or 7 years ago I didn't give it much thought. We'd meet couples after just a few messages if we felt an attraction.

As a single woman I'm much more cautious. Id rather meet someone somewhere public first, have a chat, flirt, see if there's chemistry then take it from there. If there is then next meet would be less clothed.

I seem to get a few negative responses when I say this to people. I don't want to date anyone, hence using fab over a dating site, but I also don't want to just turn up at a complete strangers front door.

Anyone else only meet socially for the first time? "

Absolutely the same, you have to be so careful. The downside is less attention, however they aren't worth the bother if they don't realise why you ask for this. You stick to your guns young lady and good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Thanks!!

This had made me feel better.

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By *hav02Man  over a year ago

Glasgow/London


" Id rather meet someone somewhere public first, have a chat, flirt, see if there's chemistry then take it from there. If there is then next meet would be less clothed.

"

This

If someone refuses a social first, then they're not for you. simples. It's always nice to enjoy a kiss at the end of a social date

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By *ringles0510Woman  over a year ago

Central Borders

For me as well, social first and we'll see what happens from there. Then once a date is set it's very frequently followed by "what will you wear" or "what's your kinks".

Social cancelled

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By *igsaw93Woman  over a year ago

Glasgow

I don't generally have time to set up two meets for everyone, so I have strict requirements for vetting messages. If I'm still genuinely interested then I'll arrange a social with potential.

That way, there's all the safety/ public nature of a social meet first but if it goes well then there's the option of going somewhere for play within the same meet. Stops the diary getting crowded with coffees that cancel / postpone last minute as we all have adult lives to juggle too.

Clubs / parties are also great for vetting new people, seeing if the chemistry is there and having options for play.

At the end of the day, you set what you are comfortable with and only meet people who respect that. Safety first. Always.

Jigs x

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By *avie65Man  over a year ago

In the west.

There are far too many nutjobs about for you just to Rick up to someone's door. Socials let you see what they are really like and if they are a nutter they will drop their guard at some point. And you will also get to see if theyatch the photo they sent.

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By *enni WhiteTV/TS  over a year ago

Glasgow

Always social first

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Goes without saying, always a social first and in a public place x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Always a social first.

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By *uzzy-LogicMan  over a year ago

Fochabers

First time meeting new people, social.

If we have met at a club or organised social then straight to fun is fine.

I really enjoy a good social meet

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman  over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

Always a social for

Me and I also don’t share pics so anyone I meet would like the opp to see me first

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

100% always social meet first

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman  over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I usually do a social meet 1st but if I’m getting good vibes from someone then I have been known to skip the social meet but it’s only happened a couple of times

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket

I think this thread is a load of shite. Every first meet is a social until it isn't. The idea that if you meet someone and you have to have sex is nonsense. Fab is meant to be a place where you can vet people before you meet them through veris and chat etc, and the idea that you will turn up to some axe murderer's house is just silly. There is nothing wrong with having social meets but the idea that you need to have a meet a week before so you can go home and think about it before going back and shagging them is just daft.

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee

Always a social meet first. If there's no attraction just chatting then no play meet is arranged.

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By *cotscpl1968Couple  over a year ago

tayside

Always a social first flirting good

But sometimes there’s no attraction so easy to step away

Just like real life some you will be attracted to some not but it’s alway good to make new freinds

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By *randmrsG123Couple  over a year ago

Port Glasgow

When we meet we talk and send photos on here and go with the flow at the first meet! usually ends in fun though,m.

If i was a single lady on here i would be meeting socially first, like said above there are far too many folk out there that unfortunately want to cause trouble and are nutters!

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By *bostCouple  over a year ago

glasgow

Definitely a social first.

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple  over a year ago

HereAndThere

We are also social first it’s safer and can build up to a better play meet

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By *ife NinjaMan  over a year ago

Dunfermline

Socials are fun. You can have a chat and see if you actually want to get naked

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Even as a single man. I would insist on a social first. For me personally there has to be a mutual connection.

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By *ab timeWoman  over a year ago

Dundee

Always a social first

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Always a social for me too. Need some kind of connection there before the fun begins!

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By *astmale123Man  over a year ago

Parkhead Glasgow

Only way to out the dreamers, having them meet in person for a coffee and they run a mile lol

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By *4Fun11Woman  over a year ago

Glasgow

Always always a social meet first.

Some ppl use pics that are either not theirs or years old (hard to believe I know )

That’s not to say that the social meet won’t jump to a fun meet if the connection is there

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman  over a year ago

Midlothian

You do whatever makes you feel safe, and don't feel the need to explain yourself. It's a very dangerous world for a woman, and meeting someone new in public first is good sense. I too wouldn't meet someone alone for sexytime that I hadn't met somewhere safe first, to get a feel of their character. Anyone who had an attitude about it would raise a red flag for me.

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS  over a year ago

Edinburgh

As othgers have said, safety always comes first, and you have to remember that someone on here can come over as the kindest or nicest person you've spoken and then be a complete @rse in real life.

Behind a keyboard, a lot of people portray a totally different character.

For instance if you were to meet me for a social you'd get a bloke in jeans and a t-shirt

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Social first is my preference too

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think this thread is a load of shite. Every first meet is a social until it isn't. The idea that if you meet someone and you have to have sex is nonsense. Fab is meant to be a place where you can vet people before you meet them through veris and chat etc, and the idea that you will turn up to some axe murderer's house is just silly. There is nothing wrong with having social meets but the idea that you need to have a meet a week before so you can go home and think about it before going back and shagging them is just daft. "

And yet on your profile it specifically states you’re happy to meet for a social first?

you’ve obviously never met someone that can’t take No for an answer

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Just do what you have to do to make sure everyone is comfortable, I always at the very least have a video chat with the person.

I think this eliminates any awkwardness or shyness and makes it more fun

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By *ighland gentlemanMan  over a year ago

Ardgay

Would expect a social meet first although have had a few where it's straight to action but those have always been after a series of chats, both messaging and phone.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Any meets I've had have been social first.

I personally don't think it's an odd request. There's so many fake profiles on here and folk using old pictures, it's good to make sure the person you're talking to matches what you're looking at.

Plus it's a good way to out any mental cases and potential crack pots lol!

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By *orl1971Couple  over a year ago

Glasgow

We always like a social meet first and most of the couples we’ve met seem to like this too. It means everyone came relax on that first meet with no pressure to play. It works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Years ago I occasionally met people without a social. The odd time or 2 without a face pic. Learned hard lessons as a woman on my own and realised that both men and women leave ourselves vulnerable.

I once met someone for a social. Conversation was very slow and not easy flowing, I felt no chemistry yet he was keen to advance to adult fun. No, no, no deffo not for me.

My safety comes first.

Previously whenever I have stipulated a social for a first meeting and the guy cools off, i know ghosting will happen. And much similar to what was mentioned here already, if a date and time has been arranged and then suddenly the guy asks what am I into, any kinks etc, instant turn off and I cancel. Sometimes things immediately tail off because once I respond that I'd rather divulge that in face to face conversation, the fella doesn't get the sex chat he was aiming for and there was never gonna be meet - he'd hope he was gonna get his rocks off with just the chat. Not worth my time.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

In the past I would often turn up at a meet after a couple of messages on here

Then I arranged a meet with a couple who were very keen however, I walked in on a full blown domestic.

Tried to leave but was attacked and stabbed.

Since then my safety has become paramount and I insist on meeting for a coffee first

Took me long enough to meet couples again.

One of the reasons why when I engage in cuckolding I insist both partners are 100% this is what they want

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"In the past I would often turn up at a meet after a couple of messages on here

Then I arranged a meet with a couple who were very keen however, I walked in on a full blown domestic.

Tried to leave but was attacked and stabbed.

Since then my safety has become paramount and I insist on meeting for a coffee first

Took me long enough to meet couples again.

One of the reasons why when I engage in cuckolding I insist both partners are 100% this is what they want

"

Dear god that's awful!! Sorry that happened to you.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"In the past I would often turn up at a meet after a couple of messages on here

Then I arranged a meet with a couple who were very keen however, I walked in on a full blown domestic.

Tried to leave but was attacked and stabbed.

Since then my safety has become paramount and I insist on meeting for a coffee first

Took me long enough to meet couples again.

One of the reasons why when I engage in cuckolding I insist both partners are 100% this is what they want

Dear god that's awful!! Sorry that happened to you. "

Harsh lesson and it did put me off for a couple of years

I still get anxious going out to meet new people

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Oh I definitely agree with the replies about it being disappointing when you state its a social meet first and not to expect anything, then start getting disgusting messages just before hand.

I'd arranged my first solo meet a few weeks ago. Spent ages building the confidence to meet alone for the first time, made an effort, only to be sent dick pics, telling me what they're doing to themselves because they're so excited for the meet up. Ugh. Instant cancel.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Oh I definitely agree with the replies about it being disappointing when you state its a social meet first and not to expect anything, then start getting disgusting messages just before hand.

I'd arranged my first solo meet a few weeks ago. Spent ages building the confidence to meet alone for the first time, made an effort, only to be sent dick pics, telling me what they're doing to themselves because they're so excited for the meet up. Ugh. Instant cancel."

LOL. why am I not surprised at this place

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Always a social first

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By *ussymufferMan  over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Always happy to meet up for a coffee and chat first

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By *s Roxie RyderWoman  over a year ago

glasgow

On very very rare occasions I'll meet without a social ...

I agree safety is paramount for everyone

There really are too many crackpots around and you just never know

I've found it's after meeting that the guys turn 'weird' .... so I don't tend to host at mine to any new playmates these days sadly

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Always have a social first you can never be too careful

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By *ovesebonyladiesMan  over a year ago

Scotland

Socials a good idea, keeps everybody happy .. I prefer a social to see they say who they say they are ... plus to see if there is a wee spark of interest, wee bit of flirting and see how relaxed u feel, if u feel good the a wee winch at the end of the social is always nice

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By *nbhir Air DuineMan  over a year ago

Ayr

In the good old days of Yahoo chat and groups some chatting, share some pics and turn up at their house or hotel and have some fun. There was always the element of risk involved, but I think in my early days I only ever had one social prior to playing.

Socials seem to be more common these days and if anybody wants to invite me to one, then I'll be there might even buy you an empire biscuit.

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By *apman02Man  over a year ago

glasgow

Would always be a social first as people can be different on messaging compare to sitting in front of you and also to make women feel 100% safe and comfortable is key.

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman  over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales


"In the good old days of Yahoo chat and groups some chatting, share some pics and turn up at their house or hotel and have some fun. There was always the element of risk involved, but I think in my early days I only ever had one social prior to playing.

Socials seem to be more common these days and if anybody wants to invite me to one, then I'll be there might even buy you an empire biscuit. "

Yeah that’s cause of all the newspaper stories about people meeting rap artists and murderers on fab making the headlines

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By *uiet_69Man  over a year ago

Near


"Hello,

Was just wondering if social meets before more physical meets were considered odd or if its your standard practise too?

When I was on here as part of a married couple 6 or 7 years ago I didn't give it much thought. We'd meet couples after just a few messages if we felt an attraction.

As a single woman I'm much more cautious. Id rather meet someone somewhere public first, have a chat, flirt, see if there's chemistry then take it from there. If there is then next meet would be less clothed.

I seem to get a few negative responses when I say this to people. I don't want to date anyone, hence using fab over a dating site, but I also don't want to just turn up at a complete strangers front door.

Anyone else only meet socially for the first time? "

Social if you want

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think a meet to feel the compatibility, if it works for both then down to business if it doesn’t move on.

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By *wiftieeMan  over a year ago

near Glasgow

Normal procedure, works both ways, and any guy who isn't willing, bin him!

Some time ago, a social led to 2 years with a FWB.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Always a social first and if they give me grief then I just see that as a red flag and move on

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Hello,

Was just wondering if social meets before more physical meets were considered odd or if its your standard practise too?

When I was on here as part of a married couple 6 or 7 years ago I didn't give it much thought. We'd meet couples after just a few messages if we felt an attraction.

As a single woman I'm much more cautious. Id rather meet someone somewhere public first, have a chat, flirt, see if there's chemistry then take it from there. If there is then next meet would be less clothed.

I seem to get a few negative responses when I say this to people. I don't want to date anyone, hence using fab over a dating site, but I also don't want to just turn up at a complete strangers front door.

Anyone else only meet socially for the first time? "

The norm if you ask me

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes always social first then if everyone is happy some what's app fun or texting exchange likes and dislikes or boundaries

This leads to horny fun and a few times I've called when they have had sex and joined in telling her what I would do if I was there

Then I find that everyone is nice and relaxed when a play meet happens

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By *amierebelMan  over a year ago

nae danger.

Met both ways myself with and without social, but social probs best way to go least then you get see them in the flesh first and if needs must plan that escape

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By *tirling DarkCouple  over a year ago

Stirling

Social meet first with vanilla couples, with sub meets straight into play.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Social first, Recently I was told verbally abused for insisting on it."If i wanted to meet for coffee,i will go See my gran ,ya Pus#y".

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Definitely always a social first whilst I've never had any bad experiences I know a few people who have and a social might have helped to avoid that situation x

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket


"Social first, Recently I was told verbally abused for insisting on it."If i wanted to meet for coffee,i will go See my gran ,ya Pus#y". "

They shouldn't have said that. It clearly states on your profile you prefer a social first and all your veris are socials as well. Hope you find the love you are looking for Dyno. x

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By *llWomanButNoLadyWoman  over a year ago

Dundee

Always a social first! My two reasons for this are safety, you have no idea who people are, and attraction, you might get on chatting but in person that might be very different. I’ve been on and off for years and I’ve noticed there seems to be a lot more guys who think you’re unreasonable wanting a social first even when you explain your rationale for it. In my mind that flags them as a wrongun for not accepting that reason.

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By *nbhir Air DuineMan  over a year ago

Ayr


"I’ve been on and off for years and I’ve noticed there seems to be a lot more guys who think you’re unreasonable wanting a social first even when you explain your rationale for it."

Don't know why you would feel the need to explain it. If they don't like it they can lump it.

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By *llWomanButNoLadyWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"I’ve been on and off for years and I’ve noticed there seems to be a lot more guys who think you’re unreasonable wanting a social first even when you explain your rationale for it.

Don't know why you would feel the need to explain it. If they don't like it they can lump it. "

That’s a fair point but I’m too much of a mug so I always feel the need to explain myself haha

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By *arpdiemCouple  over a year ago

dunfermline

We feel this shows the difference between those on here that say its a swingers site and those that say its a sex site, we do like a good social and newsflash there is a whole social side to swinging its not just about sex (big part we won't argue that haha) hence organised socials are always well attended, usually in a non play venue.

Just our opinion as swingers, op you stick to your guns and do what you feel you need or want to be safe after all THAT'S what's paramount.

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket


"We feel this shows the difference between those on here that say its a swingers site and those that say its a sex site, we do like a good social and newsflash there is a whole social side to swinging its not just about sex (big part we won't argue that haha) hence organised socials are always well attended, usually in a non play venue.

Just our opinion as swingers, op you stick to your guns and do what you feel you need or want to be safe after all THAT'S what's paramount. "

Swinging is about sex. The argument about socials is not the difference between a swinging site and a sex site, its about it being a dating site.

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By *arpdiemCouple  over a year ago

dunfermline


"

Swinging is about sex. The argument about socials is not the difference between a swinging site and a sex site, its about it being a dating site."

As we said thats our opinion and you've voiced yours, thing about the forums you are allowed to voice your opinion and sex is a massive part of swinging (pretty sure we said that in our original post though) but there's been a lot of money raised for a lot of charities through organised socials where sex obviously hasn't came (no pun intended haha) into it but the gyst of our original post was for op to do what she feels she needs to to be safe!

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket


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Swinging is about sex. The argument about socials is not the difference between a swinging site and a sex site, its about it being a dating site.

As we said thats our opinion and you've voiced yours, thing about the forums you are allowed to voice your opinion and sex is a massive part of swinging (pretty sure we said that in our original post though) but there's been a lot of money raised for a lot of charities through organised socials where sex obviously hasn't came (no pun intended haha) into it but the gyst of our original post was for op to do what she feels she needs to to be safe! "

I think you missed my point. I was clarifying that meeting for socials is not swinging but dating. Just like any meet on any dating site. If you are are looking to meet someone off fab for sex you don't need a social first. Have one if you want one but its a waste of everyone's time. There are all sorts of well verified guys out there, black ones. white ones, tall one's short one's fat one's and thin ones. They have loads of veri's so what do you gain from a social. Just because you meet them you don't have to shag them. We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her. Also there are plenty of single guys out there desperate for veris so meet for socials with no intention of having sex.

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By *arpdiemCouple  over a year ago

dunfermline

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her."

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her.

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure"

so you don't think that happens then?

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her.

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure

so you don't think that happens then?"

Where did I say that? I said I personally don't know anyone who does that. You're claiming we all know 'many' couples who do this. So what was your figure?

Or are you answering a question with a question because you don't have an answer?

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her.

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure

so you don't think that happens then?

Where did I say that? I said I personally don't know anyone who does that. You're claiming we all know 'many' couples who do this. So what was your figure?

Or are you answering a question with a question because you don't have an answer? "

no I;m not. There are thousands of meets every day on fab so hundres of thousands a year. I would say many hundreds of these fit the bill. i think you are just being eristical avoiding the main argument about socials tbh.

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her.

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure

so you don't think that happens then?

Where did I say that? I said I personally don't know anyone who does that. You're claiming we all know 'many' couples who do this. So what was your figure?

Or are you answering a question with a question because you don't have an answer?

no I;m not. There are thousands of meets every day on fab so hundres of thousands a year. I would say many hundreds of these fit the bill. i think you are just being eristical avoiding the main argument about socials tbh. "

Ah, so you don't actually personally know anyone who does this then. So that was a lie. Saying something is a fact doesn't actually make it so, surely at your age you would know that by now.

I've also already given my opinion on socials.

And on another note, proof reading is your friend.

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her.

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure

so you don't think that happens then?

Where did I say that? I said I personally don't know anyone who does that. You're claiming we all know 'many' couples who do this. So what was your figure?

Or are you answering a question with a question because you don't have an answer?

no I;m not. There are thousands of meets every day on fab so hundres of thousands a year. I would say many hundreds of these fit the bill. i think you are just being eristical avoiding the main argument about socials tbh.

Ah, so you don't actually personally know anyone who does this then. So that was a lie. Saying something is a fact doesn't actually make it so, surely at your age you would know that by now.

I've also already given my opinion on socials.

And on another note, proof reading is your friend."

If I said I knew someone you would say prove it. Its childish. Because you don't know anyone doesn't make it not a fact? Calling me a liar is silly. Your opinion on socials is no more right or wrong than mine. At least I have bothered to explain my opinion. You clearly can't explain yours. At least not with any intelligence.

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By *luemanblueMan  over a year ago

Livingston

Always meet up first for a coffee or drink

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her.

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure

so you don't think that happens then?

Where did I say that? I said I personally don't know anyone who does that. You're claiming we all know 'many' couples who do this. So what was your figure?

Or are you answering a question with a question because you don't have an answer?

no I;m not. There are thousands of meets every day on fab so hundres of thousands a year. I would say many hundreds of these fit the bill. i think you are just being eristical avoiding the main argument about socials tbh.

Ah, so you don't actually personally know anyone who does this then. So that was a lie. Saying something is a fact doesn't actually make it so, surely at your age you would know that by now.

I've also already given my opinion on socials.

And on another note, proof reading is your friend.

If I said I knew someone you would say prove it. Its childish. Because you don't know anyone doesn't make it not a fact? Calling me a liar is silly. Your opinion on socials is no more right or wrong than mine. At least I have bothered to explain my opinion. You clearly can't explain yours. At least not with any intelligence. "

You said 'we all know...' did you not? I asked you how many you knew. Your reply made it clear that you are just making an assumption, you have no facts to back up your claim. If you did, you would say so. So yes, you're lying.

If my opinion on socials or any thing else, or anyone else's opinion on absolutely anything at all, is no more right or wrong than yours, why do you always feel the need to post on every thread that everyone else is wrong and you are always right, and that everyone else is of a lower intelligence than you?

A genuine narcissistic compulsion or just loving the sound of your own voice? Genuine question.

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her.

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure

so you don't think that happens then?

Where did I say that? I said I personally don't know anyone who does that. You're claiming we all know 'many' couples who do this. So what was your figure?

Or are you answering a question with a question because you don't have an answer?

no I;m not. There are thousands of meets every day on fab so hundres of thousands a year. I would say many hundreds of these fit the bill. i think you are just being eristical avoiding the main argument about socials tbh.

Ah, so you don't actually personally know anyone who does this then. So that was a lie. Saying something is a fact doesn't actually make it so, surely at your age you would know that by now.

I've also already given my opinion on socials.

And on another note, proof reading is your friend.

If I said I knew someone you would say prove it. Its childish. Because you don't know anyone doesn't make it not a fact? Calling me a liar is silly. Your opinion on socials is no more right or wrong than mine. At least I have bothered to explain my opinion. You clearly can't explain yours. At least not with any intelligence.

You said 'we all know...' did you not? I asked you how many you knew. Your reply made it clear that you are just making an assumption, you have no facts to back up your claim. If you did, you would say so. So yes, you're lying.

If my opinion on socials or any thing else, or anyone else's opinion on absolutely anything at all, is no more right or wrong than yours, why do you always feel the need to post on every thread that everyone else is wrong and you are always right, and that everyone else is of a lower intelligence than you?

A genuine narcissistic compulsion or just loving the sound of your own voice? Genuine question."

Well it is you that is making an argument from ignorance. If you didn't know that this happens than you are right, we don't 'all' know.

I post on very few threads, most are just irreverent comments. The fact that you have said I post on every thread clearly makes you the liar. When I have a serious point I wish to make I do it as I have in this thread, which is socials on fab are unnecessary. I never said anyone was 'wrong' to have a social. Maybe you should have done a little proof reading.

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her.

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure

so you don't think that happens then?

Where did I say that? I said I personally don't know anyone who does that. You're claiming we all know 'many' couples who do this. So what was your figure?

Or are you answering a question with a question because you don't have an answer?

no I;m not. There are thousands of meets every day on fab so hundres of thousands a year. I would say many hundreds of these fit the bill. i think you are just being eristical avoiding the main argument about socials tbh.

Ah, so you don't actually personally know anyone who does this then. So that was a lie. Saying something is a fact doesn't actually make it so, surely at your age you would know that by now.

I've also already given my opinion on socials.

And on another note, proof reading is your friend.

If I said I knew someone you would say prove it. Its childish. Because you don't know anyone doesn't make it not a fact? Calling me a liar is silly. Your opinion on socials is no more right or wrong than mine. At least I have bothered to explain my opinion. You clearly can't explain yours. At least not with any intelligence.

You said 'we all know...' did you not? I asked you how many you knew. Your reply made it clear that you are just making an assumption, you have no facts to back up your claim. If you did, you would say so. So yes, you're lying.

If my opinion on socials or any thing else, or anyone else's opinion on absolutely anything at all, is no more right or wrong than yours, why do you always feel the need to post on every thread that everyone else is wrong and you are always right, and that everyone else is of a lower intelligence than you?

A genuine narcissistic compulsion or just loving the sound of your own voice? Genuine question.

Well it is you that is making an argument from ignorance. If you didn't know that this happens than you are right, we don't 'all' know.

I post on very few threads, most are just irreverent comments. The fact that you have said I post on every thread clearly makes you the liar. When I have a serious point I wish to make I do it as I have in this thread, which is socials on fab are unnecessary. I never said anyone was 'wrong' to have a social. Maybe you should have done a little proof reading.

"

Narcissism it is then.

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her.

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure

so you don't think that happens then?

Where did I say that? I said I personally don't know anyone who does that. You're claiming we all know 'many' couples who do this. So what was your figure?

Or are you answering a question with a question because you don't have an answer?

no I;m not. There are thousands of meets every day on fab so hundres of thousands a year. I would say many hundreds of these fit the bill. i think you are just being eristical avoiding the main argument about socials tbh.

Ah, so you don't actually personally know anyone who does this then. So that was a lie. Saying something is a fact doesn't actually make it so, surely at your age you would know that by now.

I've also already given my opinion on socials.

And on another note, proof reading is your friend.

If I said I knew someone you would say prove it. Its childish. Because you don't know anyone doesn't make it not a fact? Calling me a liar is silly. Your opinion on socials is no more right or wrong than mine. At least I have bothered to explain my opinion. You clearly can't explain yours. At least not with any intelligence.

You said 'we all know...' did you not? I asked you how many you knew. Your reply made it clear that you are just making an assumption, you have no facts to back up your claim. If you did, you would say so. So yes, you're lying.

If my opinion on socials or any thing else, or anyone else's opinion on absolutely anything at all, is no more right or wrong than yours, why do you always feel the need to post on every thread that everyone else is wrong and you are always right, and that everyone else is of a lower intelligence than you?

A genuine narcissistic compulsion or just loving the sound of your own voice? Genuine question.

Well it is you that is making an argument from ignorance. If you didn't know that this happens than you are right, we don't 'all' know.

I post on very few threads, most are just irreverent comments. The fact that you have said I post on every thread clearly makes you the liar. When I have a serious point I wish to make I do it as I have in this thread, which is socials on fab are unnecessary. I never said anyone was 'wrong' to have a social. Maybe you should have done a little proof reading.

Narcissism it is then. "

Ignorance it is then.

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her.

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure

so you don't think that happens then?

Where did I say that? I said I personally don't know anyone who does that. You're claiming we all know 'many' couples who do this. So what was your figure?

Or are you answering a question with a question because you don't have an answer?

no I;m not. There are thousands of meets every day on fab so hundres of thousands a year. I would say many hundreds of these fit the bill. i think you are just being eristical avoiding the main argument about socials tbh.

Ah, so you don't actually personally know anyone who does this then. So that was a lie. Saying something is a fact doesn't actually make it so, surely at your age you would know that by now.

I've also already given my opinion on socials.

And on another note, proof reading is your friend.

If I said I knew someone you would say prove it. Its childish. Because you don't know anyone doesn't make it not a fact? Calling me a liar is silly. Your opinion on socials is no more right or wrong than mine. At least I have bothered to explain my opinion. You clearly can't explain yours. At least not with any intelligence.

You said 'we all know...' did you not? I asked you how many you knew. Your reply made it clear that you are just making an assumption, you have no facts to back up your claim. If you did, you would say so. So yes, you're lying.

If my opinion on socials or any thing else, or anyone else's opinion on absolutely anything at all, is no more right or wrong than yours, why do you always feel the need to post on every thread that everyone else is wrong and you are always right, and that everyone else is of a lower intelligence than you?

A genuine narcissistic compulsion or just loving the sound of your own voice? Genuine question.

Well it is you that is making an argument from ignorance. If you didn't know that this happens than you are right, we don't 'all' know.

I post on very few threads, most are just irreverent comments. The fact that you have said I post on every thread clearly makes you the liar. When I have a serious point I wish to make I do it as I have in this thread, which is socials on fab are unnecessary. I never said anyone was 'wrong' to have a social. Maybe you should have done a little proof reading.

Narcissism it is then.

Ignorance it is then."

If you don't like people calling you out on your bullshit, then don't be on your bullshit. You're no better than anyone else on here, no matter what you tell yourself.

If you tried being on here with a more positive attitude, you'd find that people might actually have time for your 'facts'.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Social first always with no expectations for us.

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her.

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure

so you don't think that happens then?

Where did I say that? I said I personally don't know anyone who does that. You're claiming we all know 'many' couples who do this. So what was your figure?

Or are you answering a question with a question because you don't have an answer?

no I;m not. There are thousands of meets every day on fab so hundres of thousands a year. I would say many hundreds of these fit the bill. i think you are just being eristical avoiding the main argument about socials tbh.

Ah, so you don't actually personally know anyone who does this then. So that was a lie. Saying something is a fact doesn't actually make it so, surely at your age you would know that by now.

I've also already given my opinion on socials.

And on another note, proof reading is your friend.

If I said I knew someone you would say prove it. Its childish. Because you don't know anyone doesn't make it not a fact? Calling me a liar is silly. Your opinion on socials is no more right or wrong than mine. At least I have bothered to explain my opinion. You clearly can't explain yours. At least not with any intelligence.

You said 'we all know...' did you not? I asked you how many you knew. Your reply made it clear that you are just making an assumption, you have no facts to back up your claim. If you did, you would say so. So yes, you're lying.

If my opinion on socials or any thing else, or anyone else's opinion on absolutely anything at all, is no more right or wrong than yours, why do you always feel the need to post on every thread that everyone else is wrong and you are always right, and that everyone else is of a lower intelligence than you?

A genuine narcissistic compulsion or just loving the sound of your own voice? Genuine question.

Well it is you that is making an argument from ignorance. If you didn't know that this happens than you are right, we don't 'all' know.

I post on very few threads, most are just irreverent comments. The fact that you have said I post on every thread clearly makes you the liar. When I have a serious point I wish to make I do it as I have in this thread, which is socials on fab are unnecessary. I never said anyone was 'wrong' to have a social. Maybe you should have done a little proof reading.

Narcissism it is then.

Ignorance it is then.

If you don't like people calling you out on your bullshit, then don't be on your bullshit. You're no better than anyone else on here, no matter what you tell yourself.

If you tried being on here with a more positive attitude, you'd find that people might actually have time for your 'facts'."

Tbf if I spoke to you like you have spoken to me in this thread you would have hit the report button.

If you only accept facts from people you like you are on the right forum.

I don't care too much if people like you have time for me or not.

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By *apman02Man  over a year ago

glasgow

Right you 2 keep the flirting for private messaging haha

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"We all know that many women from couples meet men for a 'social' in a pub with the husband hiding in the corner getting his kicks watching her stroke the guys leg or sharing a kiss. Then home they go with them having no intention of letting the guy shag her.

Do we? I don't. How many do you know? Just a ballpark figure

so you don't think that happens then?

Where did I say that? I said I personally don't know anyone who does that. You're claiming we all know 'many' couples who do this. So what was your figure?

Or are you answering a question with a question because you don't have an answer?

no I;m not. There are thousands of meets every day on fab so hundres of thousands a year. I would say many hundreds of these fit the bill. i think you are just being eristical avoiding the main argument about socials tbh.

Ah, so you don't actually personally know anyone who does this then. So that was a lie. Saying something is a fact doesn't actually make it so, surely at your age you would know that by now.

I've also already given my opinion on socials.

And on another note, proof reading is your friend.

If I said I knew someone you would say prove it. Its childish. Because you don't know anyone doesn't make it not a fact? Calling me a liar is silly. Your opinion on socials is no more right or wrong than mine. At least I have bothered to explain my opinion. You clearly can't explain yours. At least not with any intelligence.

You said 'we all know...' did you not? I asked you how many you knew. Your reply made it clear that you are just making an assumption, you have no facts to back up your claim. If you did, you would say so. So yes, you're lying.

If my opinion on socials or any thing else, or anyone else's opinion on absolutely anything at all, is no more right or wrong than yours, why do you always feel the need to post on every thread that everyone else is wrong and you are always right, and that everyone else is of a lower intelligence than you?

A genuine narcissistic compulsion or just loving the sound of your own voice? Genuine question.

Well it is you that is making an argument from ignorance. If you didn't know that this happens than you are right, we don't 'all' know.

I post on very few threads, most are just irreverent comments. The fact that you have said I post on every thread clearly makes you the liar. When I have a serious point I wish to make I do it as I have in this thread, which is socials on fab are unnecessary. I never said anyone was 'wrong' to have a social. Maybe you should have done a little proof reading.

Narcissism it is then.

Ignorance it is then.

If you don't like people calling you out on your bullshit, then don't be on your bullshit. You're no better than anyone else on here, no matter what you tell yourself.

If you tried being on here with a more positive attitude, you'd find that people might actually have time for your 'facts'.

Tbf if I spoke to you like you have spoken to me in this thread you would have hit the report button.

If you only accept facts from people you like you are on the right forum.

I don't care too much if people like you have time for me or not."

If you believe that, then you clearly haven't been paying attention. Healthy debate is fine, but that's not what you do, as the regulars on here know.

But keep on showing your arse in public. The forums are so handy for seeing who people really are.

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"Right you 2 keep the flirting for private messaging haha "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Social meet should always happen first. If connection then go from there.

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By *ikadoCouple  over a year ago

kilmarnock

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By *hozatMan  over a year ago

Fife

I don't know what all the fuss is about, nobody seems to reply to my messages anyhow, don't have a clue why as I'm a real nice guy.

Hannibal Lecter x

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By *he UnitMan  over a year ago

Paisley

Lol at the guys getting into an argument here!

Anyway, a social is always for me. Anything else is a little creepy. Isn't about "dating", it's about the fact you can't use DMs, Kik or Snapchat to decide if you want to bump uglies.

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By *ueen CatWoman  over a year ago

fife

I rarely have socials with men, mostly socials with couples but usually play straight after and usually always socials with women

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