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By *cottishMrs OP   Woman  over a year ago

Wishaw

So, I rarely block people on here. I know if someone is a massive bellend, or I've had a run in with them, if they're on my block list. However, am I using it too sparingly? I have people that chat to me, and despite one word replies from me, showing no interest, but being polite, they continue to message. I'm not meeting just now anyway, but even when I was, there would be people who would continue to chat to me about menial things, and it really adds on to my time on here, when I have to reply.

My question is, do you block these people? People you have no interest in, but haven't been arseholes, or been rude? They're just persistent, or not your type? It would MASSIVELY cut down the amount of messages I receive, and mean I don't have to reply to be courteous xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I block anyone that’s rude to me. Ignores me (usually means they are not interested) or people I have no intention of meeting.

Saves a lot of time!

The block button is there for a reason. Use it as you wish!

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By *cottishMrs OP   Woman  over a year ago

Wishaw


"I block anyone that’s rude to me. Ignores me (usually means they are not interested) or people I have no intention of meeting.

Saves a lot of time!

The block button is there for a reason. Use it as you wish!

"

Yes, that sounds ideal. Especially the people I have no intention of meeting, but continue to message for weeks and months. And I'm too bloody polite, and try to respond where possible xx

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman  over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

I just delete them tbh most of these ones that are persistent just create another one anyway the block list is only for the really speschul cunts you know who you are lol

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By *inthgowmale45Man  over a year ago

linlithgow

I use the block button when i get no response after a week or so. I know not to message again

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By *cottishMrs OP   Woman  over a year ago

Wishaw


"I just delete them tbh most of these ones that are persistent just create another one anyway the block list is only for the really speschul cunts you know who you are lol "

Lmao! You know me, I'm too bloody nice for my own good sometimes. I just end up replying to them xx

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By *cottishMrs OP   Woman  over a year ago

Wishaw


"I use the block button when i get no response after a week or so. I know not to message again "

Yeah, that's fair. I can understand that xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman  over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Just don’t reply to their emails and they will soon get the message if you are not wanting to block them .

By replying they obviously think they are in with a chance to meet you .

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By *ueen CatWoman  over a year ago

fife

Iv no idea how big the block list is as only let's you count up to 280 but I reckon I'm over 1000 and still going strong lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Block who you like when you like. You owe no one anything. We don't use the block button n often, only for abusive people and people who persistently send the same cut n paste message.

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By *cottishMrs OP   Woman  over a year ago

Wishaw


"Just don’t reply to their emails and they will soon get the message if you are not wanting to block them .

By replying they obviously think they are in with a chance to meet you ."

I feel worse doing that lol. I'm a nightmare lol xx

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By *cottishMrs OP   Woman  over a year ago

Wishaw


"Iv no idea how big the block list is as only let's you count up to 280 but I reckon I'm over 1000 and still going strong lol "

Lol. It surely can't be that bad on here?? Lol xx

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By *cottishMrs OP   Woman  over a year ago

Wishaw


"Block who you like when you like. You owe no one anything. We don't use the block button n often, only for abusive people and people who persistently send the same cut n paste message. "

Good point!xx

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By *nferno sausageMan  over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

I only block folk, out of spite, after they've made it plainly obvious, on at least 5 occasions, that I'm not for them.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman  over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Just don’t reply to their emails and they will soon get the message if you are not wanting to block them .

By replying they obviously think they are in with a chance to meet you .

I feel worse doing that lol. I'm a nightmare lol xx"

As Someone has already said you owe them nothing therefore no point in spinning things out with endless & useless messages that are not going to lead anywhere .

Put all your time into those you are interested in that’s what I do .

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman  over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"So, I rarely block people on here. I know if someone is a massive bellend, or I've had a run in with them, if they're on my block list. However, am I using it too sparingly? I have people that chat to me, and despite one word replies from me, showing no interest, but being polite, they continue to message. I'm not meeting just now anyway, but even when I was, there would be people who would continue to chat to me about menial things, and it really adds on to my time on here, when I have to reply.

My question is, do you block these people? People you have no interest in, but haven't been arseholes, or been rude? They're just persistent, or not your type? It would MASSIVELY cut down the amount of messages I receive, and mean I don't have to reply to be courteous xx"

I’ve just asked a guy who he is and why he’s messaging me. He gives me a run down of what he’s doing daily, has done for about 10 days. Wishes me a good day and that’s it. I don’t always respond, because his profile is shite and has no information. I’ve finally caved, asking him what he wants….

….I’ll keep you updated. Bet it’s the same bloke actually. I’ll message you x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Why are you on fab? For your own enjoyment I'm guessing? In that case why waste time replying to people you're not interested in or who aren't adding anything to your experience here? It might sound harsh but you're not responsible for anyone but yourself, they'll get over it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So, I rarely block people on here. I know if someone is a massive bellend, or I've had a run in with them, if they're on my block list. However, am I using it too sparingly? I have people that chat to me, and despite one word replies from me, showing no interest, but being polite, they continue to message. I'm not meeting just now anyway, but even when I was, there would be people who would continue to chat to me about menial things, and it really adds on to my time on here, when I have to reply.

My question is, do you block these people? People you have no interest in, but haven't been arseholes, or been rude? They're just persistent, or not your type? It would MASSIVELY cut down the amount of messages I receive, and mean I don't have to reply to be courteous xx"

I think you should use it a bit less sparingly.

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By *inkredibleMan  over a year ago

Livingston

It's good that you send replies to people you're not interested in, but I think they're gonna feel like that means there is a chance with you unless you're clear that nothing is going to happen.

There are times we've received one liner replies from people and wondered if it was worth pursuing, but then it's led to something good.

I would say give them a friendly no, maybe a sterner no, then just block them if they persist

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By *hatEscalatedQuicklyCouple  over a year ago

scotland


"So, I rarely block people on here. I know if someone is a massive bellend, or I've had a run in with them, if they're on my block list. However, am I using it too sparingly? I have people that chat to me, and despite one word replies from me, showing no interest, but being polite, they continue to message. I'm not meeting just now anyway, but even when I was, there would be people who would continue to chat to me about menial things, and it really adds on to my time on here, when I have to reply.

My question is, do you block these people? People you have no interest in, but haven't been arseholes, or been rude? They're just persistent, or not your type? It would MASSIVELY cut down the amount of messages I receive, and mean I don't have to reply to be courteous xx"

We block people who we don't think we'd want to meet for various reasons. Sometimes it's just because they repeat message.

Like others have said use it however works best for you.

I understand wanting to be polite, but for us, getting one word replies to messages is actually more frustrating than no response or a straightforward no thanks. It wastes more of everyone's time.

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By *hy and innocentCouple  over a year ago

Glasgow

We tend to reply to most messages even if it’s a polite no thank you.

We end up blocking if they don’t take no for an answer, become abusive or the generally rude vulgar messages.

We would have no intention of meeting these folk anyway

Shy

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why are you on fab? For your own enjoyment I'm guessing? In that case why waste time replying to people you're not interested in or who aren't adding anything to your experience here? It might sound harsh but you're not responsible for anyone but yourself, they'll get over it. "

Fuck sake....Bert just spontaneously combusted reading that

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why are you on fab? For your own enjoyment I'm guessing? In that case why waste time replying to people you're not interested in or who aren't adding anything to your experience here? It might sound harsh but you're not responsible for anyone but yourself, they'll get over it.

Fuck sake....Bert just spontaneously combusted reading that "

And we all thought it was just more thunder!

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By *xploring_FunWoman  over a year ago

Coventry

As soon as you reply it makes some guys think there’s a chance there (because most people don’t reply).

I block a lot. Saves my time and other people’s time.

I block if there’s no way I’d ever be inteteted.

If their profile is months/years old and says “fill in later”.

If their message is rude or offensive.

If they’re rude or offensive on the forum.

If their status either whinges too much, asks someone who has blocked them/filtered them to message or is looking for drugs.

Blocking is a good tool to use on here imo. It cuts down on pointless repeat messages that aren’t going to bring fun for everyone.

Also keep in mind that every person you reply politely too will be able to message again if you ever choose to filter who can message you, as it counts as a previous conversation.

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By *ock69erMan  over a year ago

Middle o’ Fife

I think too many people take being blocked way too personally, they look upon it as an insult or a punishment of some kind when it really isn't... Unless they really are being an arsehole of course.

I, like many people on here, use the block button as a tool, a filter if you like, to remove and de-clutter the wheen o' folk I'm never going to meet, have no interest in meeting or they have no wish to meet guys like me.

Using the block button isn't being rude, it's just another tool to use to make Fab life a little easier.

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By *sm265Woman  over a year ago

Shangri-la

I block for all sorts of reasons, sometimes I even block for no particular reason at all!

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By *4Fun11Woman  over a year ago

Glasgow

I don’t think twice about it and once they’re on there I don’t give them another thought.

Lots n lots of reasons tbh but it’s all part and parcel of the mechanics of the site.

Use it Mrs and don't stress about it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I block anyone that’s rude to me. Ignores me (usually means they are not interested) or people I have no intention of meeting.

Saves a lot of time!

The block button is there for a reason. Use it as you wish!

You don’t have to be polite but you can still say thanks but no thanks and block them

Yes, that sounds ideal. Especially the people I have no intention of meeting, but continue to message for weeks and months. And I'm too bloody polite, and try to respond where possible xx"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why are you on fab? For your own enjoyment I'm guessing? In that case why waste time replying to people you're not interested in or who aren't adding anything to your experience here? It might sound harsh but you're not responsible for anyone but yourself, they'll get over it.

Fuck sake....Bert just spontaneously combusted reading that "

Luckily he's too old to message me anyway

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman  over a year ago

Glasgow

You could just be an adult and tell them you have no intention of meeting them. I really don't see the point in messaging people you have no interest in. You could just block men from messaging you. I really don't get your logic at all

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By *ye rolls matter!!Man  over a year ago

Glasgow area

I've sent a handful of messages to people on here. A few have started a wee chat, a few have been read and deleted. I take the hint when the message is deleted and don't go crying into my corn flakes about it. Wouldn't for a second keep messaging when it's clearly unwanted.

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman  over a year ago

Glasgow


"I've sent a handful of messages to people on here. A few have started a wee chat, a few have been read and deleted. I take the hint when the message is deleted and don't go crying into my corn flakes about it. Wouldn't for a second keep messaging when it's clearly unwanted."

If you were messaging a profile that you liked the look off and they kept replying but it was just one word answers. How long would you keep messaging them for

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By *cottishMrs OP   Woman  over a year ago

Wishaw


"You could just be an adult and tell them you have no intention of meeting them. I really don't see the point in messaging people you have no interest in. You could just block men from messaging you. I really don't get your logic at all "

My apologies if I didn't make it clear, but I tell them I'm not interested and then they continue to message. My question was whether it was harsh to block. I try to be considerate, where possible, because I'm aware that single males get it rough on here. I'm not aware there was anywhere that suggested I wasn't being an adult about it, since that's not synonymous with being polite or considerate

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By *ye rolls matter!!Man  over a year ago

Glasgow area


"I've sent a handful of messages to people on here. A few have started a wee chat, a few have been read and deleted. I take the hint when the message is deleted and don't go crying into my corn flakes about it. Wouldn't for a second keep messaging when it's clearly unwanted.

If you were messaging a profile that you liked the look off and they kept replying but it was just one word answers. How long would you keep messaging them for "

Tough one. But I'd personally think that one word answers weren't showing much interest at all and I'd more than likely leave it at that. Heard too many stories from female friends about just how creepy and persistent men are towards them and it's just terrifying to hear. Respect and decency along with good manners don't cost a penny

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By *ye rolls matter!!Man  over a year ago

Glasgow area


"You could just be an adult and tell them you have no intention of meeting them. I really don't see the point in messaging people you have no interest in. You could just block men from messaging you. I really don't get your logic at all

My apologies if I didn't make it clear, but I tell them I'm not interested and then they continue to message. My question was whether it was harsh to block. I try to be considerate, where possible, because I'm aware that single males get it rough on here. I'm not aware there was anywhere that suggested I wasn't being an adult about it, since that's not synonymous with being polite or considerate "

Sorry. I misread completely! At the end of the day blocking is a personal choice I'd say. Is it harsh, no, particularly if you don't want a given person repeatedly messaging you or _iewing your profile. Everyone will block for different reasons but at the end of the day it's up to each person on their reasons to block.

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman  over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales


"Iv no idea how big the block list is as only let's you count up to 280 but I reckon I'm over 1000 and still going strong lol "

Oh really lol

Another good reason not to block so I can still go have a nosey when someone messages and says have you seen what that daft cunt has gone and posted now

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By *cottishMrs OP   Woman  over a year ago

Wishaw


"Iv no idea how big the block list is as only let's you count up to 280 but I reckon I'm over 1000 and still going strong lol

Oh really lol

Another good reason not to block so I can still go have a nosey when someone messages and says have you seen what that daft cunt has gone and posted now "

Lmao!! Well, this is why I have you! You can show me what gets posted lmao!!!!xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I block for reasons like abusive messages or someone's being a knob in the forums.obviously the returning fake profiles get blocked also lol.

Only block guys that really don't take no for an answer to save my time from replying ..lol or

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"So, I rarely block people on here. I know if someone is a massive bellend, or I've had a run in with them, if they're on my block list. However, am I using it too sparingly? I have people that chat to me, and despite one word replies from me, showing no interest, but being polite, they continue to message. I'm not meeting just now anyway, but even when I was, there would be people who would continue to chat to me about menial things, and it really adds on to my time on here, when I have to reply.

My question is, do you block these people? People you have no interest in, but haven't been arseholes, or been rude? They're just persistent, or not your type? It would MASSIVELY cut down the amount of messages I receive, and mean I don't have to reply to be courteous xx"

Yeah, if people persistently message me after I've said I'm not interested then they end up on the block list. No qualms about it.

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By *exy gentMan  over a year ago

Midlothian

I can totally understand the block button, get frustrated when been chatting and suddenly blocked

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By *oDownEasyMan  over a year ago

Ayrshire

I block if a reply comes back saying not interested, or if an email is deleted without reply -obviously not interested,so saves me bothering them again.

Have only rarely had to do so because someone is nasty, or just a complete "tampon" (stuck up cunts )

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket

I quite like being blocked, who cares if people block or get blocked? If people don't like what you say on a forum and block you, you know they need to get out more! Far too many people taking social media far, far too seriously.

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By *xploring_FunWoman  over a year ago

Coventry

It’s amusing that people always say on these threads that blocking someone for something they say on a forum is sad or they need to get out more or get a life if you block someone you haven’t personally spoken to.

The first guy I blocked from this forum was posting on a thread about anal and stated that if a woman didn’t like it he often found a hand on the neck persuasive.

Absolutely fuck all with my judgement, or my life, blocking people who come out with shit like that.

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket


"It’s amusing that people always say on these threads that blocking someone for something they say on a forum is sad or they need to get out more or get a life if you block someone you haven’t personally spoken to.

The first guy I blocked from this forum was posting on a thread about anal and stated that if a woman didn’t like it he often found a hand on the neck persuasive.

Absolutely fuck all with my judgement, or my life, blocking people who come out with shit like that. "

Doesn't that just take up a lot of your life? Reading things you don't like and then going to the bother of blocking them? It seems like just ignoring them would be sufficient.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Ffs , now I get it,the one word answers to my texts ,i thought maybe they were just shy

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By *ueen CatWoman  over a year ago

fife


"It’s amusing that people always say on these threads that blocking someone for something they say on a forum is sad or they need to get out more or get a life if you block someone you haven’t personally spoken to.

The first guy I blocked from this forum was posting on a thread about anal and stated that if a woman didn’t like it he often found a hand on the neck persuasive.

Absolutely fuck all with my judgement, or my life, blocking people who come out with shit like that.

Doesn't that just take up a lot of your life? Reading things you don't like and then going to the bother of blocking them? It seems like just ignoring them would be sufficient. "

If only it was sufficient. But guys carry on with message after message until you either message or block and more often than not the message with have to be blocked anyway. If they were just ignored then we wouldn't see the wood from the trees in our inbox.

I use mine as a way of a filter

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By *ueen CatWoman  over a year ago

fife

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By *xploring_FunWoman  over a year ago

Coventry


"It’s amusing that people always say on these threads that blocking someone for something they say on a forum is sad or they need to get out more or get a life if you block someone you haven’t personally spoken to.

The first guy I blocked from this forum was posting on a thread about anal and stated that if a woman didn’t like it he often found a hand on the neck persuasive.

Absolutely fuck all with my judgement, or my life, blocking people who come out with shit like that.

Doesn't that just take up a lot of your life? Reading things you don't like and then going to the bother of blocking them? It seems like just ignoring them would be sufficient. "

Take up a lot of my life?

If I’m reading a thread and a man indicates he’s a violent person who uses superior strength to get his way it takes two seconds to block him (and another few to report him).

Why would I want to just ignore it and risk coming across him in messages and not making the connection?

Why would anyone think the way to deal with men like that is to ignore them?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm just going to block everyone!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Best filter on the site

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Im going to start sending official letters to anyone I'm interested in

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I block folk on the forum because I can and I want to.

It really is that simple.

More often than not if there's a dickhead on the forum he's prob been banned and came back under a new name.

Same shite different name.

That's why I block from the forum.

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By *ullie-kingMan  over a year ago

newmains

I appreciate a "thanks for your message but your not my type sorry" message any day over ignores or hints

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By *ane DTV/TS  over a year ago

London

A few on a block, but I have other ways of dealing with persistent offenderss

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm probably on more block lists than I have blocked . I've blocked only 4 people for various reasons, 1 consistently mailing after being told not interested, 2 for sending friends request after chatting and refusing to exchange face pics, last for clearly being a single male posing as a couple

Blocking is your right and should be used accordingly. In my opinion x

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By *cottieboy123Man  over a year ago

Perth


"I appreciate a "thanks for your message but your not my type sorry" message any day over ignores or hints "

I'll support this 100%.

With a 90%/10% ratio male to female on Fab it is clear who will be receiving the most messages.

Frankly a sperm has better odds of meeting a woman than a man on Fab.

Some of us read profiles, do not cut and paste replies, although some of the details can be rather repetitive, and send a thoughtful message. Do these stand out from the other dross listed above?

A simple "no thanks" takes a second to complete. It clears any doubt and shows a degree of respect and recognition that an individual has made an effort.

Or block. Its no insult, just saves everyone time.

Thoughts, anyone?

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By *assy LassieWoman  over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Why are you on fab? For your own enjoyment I'm guessing? In that case why waste time replying to people you're not interested in or who aren't adding anything to your experience here? It might sound harsh but you're not responsible for anyone but yourself, they'll get over it.

Fuck sake....Bert just spontaneously combusted reading that

Luckily he's too old to message me anyway "

Watch out he will accuse you of being ageist with that patter

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By *ueen CatWoman  over a year ago

fife


"I appreciate a "thanks for your message but your not my type sorry" message any day over ignores or hints

I'll support this 100%.

With a 90%/10% ratio male to female on Fab it is clear who will be receiving the most messages.

Frankly a sperm has better odds of meeting a woman than a man on Fab.

Some of us read profiles, do not cut and paste replies, although some of the details can be rather repetitive, and send a thoughtful message. Do these stand out from the other dross listed above?

A simple "no thanks" takes a second to complete. It clears any doubt and shows a degree of respect and recognition that an individual has made an effort.

Or block. Its no insult, just saves everyone time.

Thoughts, anyone?

"

Going on that ratio of men to women, how much time do you think we would have to spend sending every person a no thanks ontop of the people we already chat with, forums, doing our own searches and messages and perving. I used to try to reply to all but 9 out of 10 times it was matched with questions or abuse so had to press block anyway

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By *ampWithABrainWoman  over a year ago

Glasgow

I think you’re being way too nice you can’t possibly have the time to reply to everyone who messages you without it meaning you’re not spending time conversing with those you have an interest in.

I block for all sorts of reasons but if I get 3 messages from people I’m not interested in - and I delete those messages without reading usually as profile didn’t appeal - then I block.

There’s no point entertaining - and potentially giving false hope - to people you have no intention of meeting, if anything it’s probably kinder to ignore/block than keep chatting with them.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Out of curiosity say, a woman gets 100 messages each day, lets forget about the amount of these that must be repeat messages due to the maths,number of guys on the site, new guys joining etc.

The question I have is, how do you decide which messages to open? You wouldn't be able to read them all surely, so is it the title that makes you read it or do you open and read all 50?

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By *cottieboy123Man  over a year ago

Perth


"I appreciate a "thanks for your message but your not my type sorry" message any day over ignores or hints

I'll support this 100%.

With a 90%/10% ratio male to female on Fab it is clear who will be receiving the most messages.

Frankly a sperm has better odds of meeting a woman than a man on Fab.

Some of us read profiles, do not cut and paste replies, although some of the details can be rather repetitive, and send a thoughtful message. Do these stand out from the other dross listed above?

A simple "no thanks" takes a second to complete. It clears any doubt and shows a degree of respect and recognition that an individual has made an effort.

Or block. Its no insult, just saves everyone time.

Thoughts, anyone?

Going on that ratio of men to women, how much time do you think we would have to spend sending every person a no thanks ontop of the people we already chat with, forums, doing our own searches and messages and perving. I used to try to reply to all but 9 out of 10 times it was matched with questions or abuse so had to press block anyway"

It's sad to hear that, obviously people have different levels of respect. On the few occasions a reply has said "thanks bit no thanks" my 2 second reply is " thank you, happy fabbing". Doesn't take long.

Each to their own, I suppose, but thank you for participating.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Out of curiosity say, a woman gets 100 messages each day, lets forget about the amount of these that must be repeat messages due to the maths,number of guys on the site, new guys joining etc.

The question I have is, how do you decide which messages to open? You wouldn't be able to read them all surely, so is it the title that makes you read it or do you open and read all 100?"

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By *ampWithABrainWoman  over a year ago

Glasgow


"Out of curiosity say, a woman gets 100 messages each day, lets forget about the amount of these that must be repeat messages due to the maths,number of guys on the site, new guys joining etc.

The question I have is, how do you decide which messages to open? You wouldn't be able to read them all surely, so is it the title that makes you read it or do you open and read all 100?"

Check profiles first (in stealth mode) if profile doesn’t appeal instant delete, if profile possibly ok open message if it’s basic/boring, offensive, rude or shows in some other way they aren’t for me I delete.

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By *alcon43Woman  over a year ago

Paisley


"Out of curiosity say, a woman gets 100 messages each day, lets forget about the amount of these that must be repeat messages due to the maths,number of guys on the site, new guys joining etc.

The question I have is, how do you decide which messages to open? You wouldn't be able to read them all surely, so is it the title that makes you read it or do you open and read all 50?"

You can usually read the first line. I look at the profile and see how much they’ve put into it. Sometimes it’s just disgusting what people send unsolicited. I’m sure they wouldn’t be that brave face to face.

I block a lot, delete some and respond to the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I just delete them tbh most of these ones that are persistent just create another one anyway the block list is only for the really speschul cunts you know who you are lol

Lmao! You know me, I'm too bloody nice for my own good sometimes. I just end up replying to them xx"

Sometimes you need to be a bit mean and having g read some of my partners messages I can see why

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By *xploring_FunWoman  over a year ago

Coventry


"Out of curiosity say, a woman gets 100 messages each day, lets forget about the amount of these that must be repeat messages due to the maths,number of guys on the site, new guys joining etc.

The question I have is, how do you decide which messages to open? You wouldn't be able to read them all surely, so is it the title that makes you read it or do you open and read all 50?"

You can see the first line.

For me it’s profile name - some are instant delete.

Have a look at the profile to see if it’s a “fill in later” “ask me” type one or actually has anything on it. The wording on the profile also gives clues if I’m likely to get abuse for saying no.

Then open the message if the profile is decent.

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By *xploring_FunWoman  over a year ago

Coventry


"

It's sad to hear that, obviously people have different levels of respect. On the few occasions a reply has said "thanks bit no thanks" my 2 second reply is " thank you, happy fabbing". Doesn't take long.

Each to their own, I suppose, but thank you for participating. "

At least 80% of the time a “no thanks” gets abuse back.

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"I appreciate a "thanks for your message but your not my type sorry" message any day over ignores or hints

I'll support this 100%.

With a 90%/10% ratio male to female on Fab it is clear who will be receiving the most messages.

Frankly a sperm has better odds of meeting a woman than a man on Fab.

Some of us read profiles, do not cut and paste replies, although some of the details can be rather repetitive, and send a thoughtful message. Do these stand out from the other dross listed above?

A simple "no thanks" takes a second to complete. It clears any doubt and shows a degree of respect and recognition that an individual has made an effort.

Or block. Its no insult, just saves everyone time.

Thoughts, anyone?

"

Would you type out no thanks 100 times a day? And then deal with all the messages asking why not? If so you obviously have a lot of time on your hands.

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By *cottieboy123Man  over a year ago

Perth

Hi, and thanks, your comments put a different perspective on the whole process.

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By *tirling DarkCouple  over a year ago

Stirling

We block people who contact us and it is clear they haven't read our profile. Don't get how people can't do the basic courtesy of respecting what others are looking for/ not looking for.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman  over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I appreciate a "thanks for your message but your not my type sorry" message any day over ignores or hints

I'll support this 100%.

With a 90%/10% ratio male to female on Fab it is clear who will be receiving the most messages.

Frankly a sperm has better odds of meeting a woman than a man on Fab.

Some of us read profiles, do not cut and paste replies, although some of the details can be rather repetitive, and send a thoughtful message. Do these stand out from the other dross listed above?

A simple "no thanks" takes a second to complete. It clears any doubt and shows a degree of respect and recognition that an individual has made an effort.

Or block. Its no insult, just saves everyone time.

Thoughts, anyone?

Would you type out no thanks 100 times a day? And then deal with all the messages asking why not? If so you obviously have a lot of time on your hands."

would feel like being back at school …I must not talk in class lol

Hated doing that do definitely not going to say no thank you a 100 times a day lol

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman  over a year ago

Glasgow

I was going to go to one of the socials but noticed that 5 of the women on the thread had blocked me. I've not spoken to any of them so I'm guessing it's been something I've said on the forum. Who knows

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"I appreciate a "thanks for your message but your not my type sorry" message any day over ignores or hints

I'll support this 100%.

With a 90%/10% ratio male to female on Fab it is clear who will be receiving the most messages.

Frankly a sperm has better odds of meeting a woman than a man on Fab.

Some of us read profiles, do not cut and paste replies, although some of the details can be rather repetitive, and send a thoughtful message. Do these stand out from the other dross listed above?

A simple "no thanks" takes a second to complete. It clears any doubt and shows a degree of respect and recognition that an individual has made an effort.

Or block. Its no insult, just saves everyone time.

Thoughts, anyone?

Would you type out no thanks 100 times a day? And then deal with all the messages asking why not? If so you obviously have a lot of time on your hands.

would feel like being back at school …I must not talk in class lol

Hated doing that do definitely not going to say no thank you a 100 times a day lol "

And that's before you even get to the ones you might be interested in!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman  over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I appreciate a "thanks for your message but your not my type sorry" message any day over ignores or hints

I'll support this 100%.

With a 90%/10% ratio male to female on Fab it is clear who will be receiving the most messages.

Frankly a sperm has better odds of meeting a woman than a man on Fab.

Some of us read profiles, do not cut and paste replies, although some of the details can be rather repetitive, and send a thoughtful message. Do these stand out from the other dross listed above?

A simple "no thanks" takes a second to complete. It clears any doubt and shows a degree of respect and recognition that an individual has made an effort.

Or block. Its no insult, just saves everyone time.

Thoughts, anyone?

Would you type out no thanks 100 times a day? And then deal with all the messages asking why not? If so you obviously have a lot of time on your hands.

would feel like being back at school …I must not talk in class lol

Hated doing that do definitely not going to say no thank you a 100 times a day lol

And that's before you even get to the ones you might be interested in!"

Exactly !

More effort on those who you are interested in and none on those you ain’t

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We tend to block profiles that are obviously fake or who have no interest in meeting

Basically timewasters

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I was going to go to one of the socials but noticed that 5 of the women on the thread had blocked me. I've not spoken to any of them so I'm guessing it's been something I've said on the forum. Who knows "
or it could be they have blocked all woman contacting them?

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By *ookie69Man  over a year ago

Whistle Dixie


"Why are you on fab? For your own enjoyment I'm guessing? In that case why waste time replying to people you're not interested in or who aren't adding anything to your experience here? It might sound harsh but you're not responsible for anyone but yourself, they'll get over it. "

This x

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By *iewMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

The second I start to concern myself who have blocked me or me them, I will give it all up. It’s a profile on the internet, I owe them and they owe me NOTHING.

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By *4Fun11Woman  over a year ago

Glasgow


"I was going to go to one of the socials but noticed that 5 of the women on the thread had blocked me. I've not spoken to any of them so I'm guessing it's been something I've said on the forum. Who knows "

Don’t let that stop you. Get yourself along

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By *4Fun11Woman  over a year ago

Glasgow


"The second I start to concern myself who have blocked me or me them, I will give it all up. It’s a profile on the internet, I owe them and they owe me NOTHING.

"

What he said

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By *ookie69Man  over a year ago

Whistle Dixie


"The second I start to concern myself who have blocked me or me them, I will give it all up. It’s a profile on the internet, I owe them and they owe me NOTHING.

"

This

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By *uffolkJohnMan  over a year ago

Newmarket


"The second I start to concern myself who have blocked me or me them, I will give it all up. It’s a profile on the internet, I owe them and they owe me NOTHING.

This "

That won't go down well with the self righteous blockers on here.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I used to try and bow out graciously if things weren't going according to plan and I simply didn't want to chat anymore. I'd say something along the lines of "thanks for the chat but you're not what I'm looking for, I'm not enjoying this anymore".

Some would take that like an adult. Others would come back at a later date with inane or bitchy comments.

So I save us both the hassle now and just block if I don't want to talk further.

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By *ab365XMan  over a year ago

Paisley


"I used to try and bow out graciously if things weren't going according to plan and I simply didn't want to chat anymore. I'd say something along the lines of "thanks for the chat but you're not what I'm looking for, I'm not enjoying this anymore".

Some would take that like an adult. Others would come back at a later date with inane or bitchy comments.

So I save us both the hassle now and just block if I don't want to talk further."

Don’t forget, you’ll need an official letter if you’re going to block someone!

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By *eiaorganaWoman  over a year ago

Dundee


"I used to try and bow out graciously if things weren't going according to plan and I simply didn't want to chat anymore. I'd say something along the lines of "thanks for the chat but you're not what I'm looking for, I'm not enjoying this anymore".

Some would take that like an adult. Others would come back at a later date with inane or bitchy comments.

So I save us both the hassle now and just block if I don't want to talk further.

Don’t forget, you’ll need an official letter if you’re going to block someone! "

On headed paper, for true authenticity

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By *he BFG 2001Man  over a year ago

Central


"I used to try and bow out graciously if things weren't going according to plan and I simply didn't want to chat anymore. I'd say something along the lines of "thanks for the chat but you're not what I'm looking for, I'm not enjoying this anymore".

Some would take that like an adult. Others would come back at a later date with inane or bitchy comments.

So I save us both the hassle now and just block if I don't want to talk further."

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman  over a year ago

Glasgow


"I was going to go to one of the socials but noticed that 5 of the women on the thread had blocked me. I've not spoken to any of them so I'm guessing it's been something I've said on the forum. Who knows or it could be they have blocked all woman contacting them?"

They seem very sociable so I highly doubt it

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman  over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales


"I was going to go to one of the socials but noticed that 5 of the women on the thread had blocked me. I've not spoken to any of them so I'm guessing it's been something I've said on the forum. Who knows or it could be they have blocked all woman contacting them?

They seem very sociable so I highly doubt it "

I’ve had friends who are blocked and the swear they didn’t block me and I’ve not blocked them checked out block list and we’re not on each other’s quick message to admin and it was fixed

As far as I’m aware I’ve only got 2 females blocked on 5 accounts

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I used to try and bow out graciously if things weren't going according to plan and I simply didn't want to chat anymore. I'd say something along the lines of "thanks for the chat but you're not what I'm looking for, I'm not enjoying this anymore".

Some would take that like an adult. Others would come back at a later date with inane or bitchy comments.

So I save us both the hassle now and just block if I don't want to talk further."

Its easy for you, everyone is scared of tuff muff

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I used to try and bow out graciously if things weren't going according to plan and I simply didn't want to chat anymore. I'd say something along the lines of "thanks for the chat but you're not what I'm looking for, I'm not enjoying this anymore".

Some would take that like an adult. Others would come back at a later date with inane or bitchy comments.

So I save us both the hassle now and just block if I don't want to talk further.

Its easy for you, everyone is scared of tuff muff "

Speak for yourself, I'm not scared of her!

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By *4Fun11Woman  over a year ago

Glasgow


"I was going to go to one of the socials but noticed that 5 of the women on the thread had blocked me. I've not spoken to any of them so I'm guessing it's been something I've said on the forum. Who knows or it could be they have blocked all woman contacting them?

They seem very sociable so I highly doubt it

I’ve had friends who are blocked and the swear they didn’t block me and I’ve not blocked them checked out block list and we’re not on each other’s quick message to admin and it was fixed

As far as I’m aware I’ve only got 2 females blocked on 5 accounts "

You’ve got 5 accounts

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By *cottishMrs OP   Woman  over a year ago

Wishaw

Well, update... I intend to use my block button a lot more. I've run out of patience for men who think women owe them a damn thing x

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By *reyw01fMan  over a year ago

Hamilton

i insta block for one of 2 reasons

they have been rude , aggressive disrespectful in chat normally wanabe directors to ladies on cam

confused random fabs on my pics from gay bi n fab straight blokes no offence to them but if they cant work out why they cant msg me then they have it coming

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By *avie65Man  over a year ago

In the west.

I block rude and aggressive people from the forums and young guys, women and couples who look and Fab my profile, but I have a few reasons for blocking them.

I don't mind my photos being Fabbed but I don't want a teenager rocking up to me in a pub and saying I saw you on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I used to try and bow out graciously if things weren't going according to plan and I simply didn't want to chat anymore. I'd say something along the lines of "thanks for the chat but you're not what I'm looking for, I'm not enjoying this anymore".

Some would take that like an adult. Others would come back at a later date with inane or bitchy comments.

So I save us both the hassle now and just block if I don't want to talk further.

Its easy for you, everyone is scared of tuff muff

Speak for yourself, I'm not scared of her! "

You know I'm saft as really

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I used to try and bow out graciously if things weren't going according to plan and I simply didn't want to chat anymore. I'd say something along the lines of "thanks for the chat but you're not what I'm looking for, I'm not enjoying this anymore".

Some would take that like an adult. Others would come back at a later date with inane or bitchy comments.

So I save us both the hassle now and just block if I don't want to talk further.

Its easy for you, everyone is scared of tuff muff

Speak for yourself, I'm not scared of her!

You know I'm saft as really "

Definitely, give us a cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Definitely block , I block anyone who persists on trying to get you to put cam on or do phone

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By *ookie69Man  over a year ago

Whistle Dixie

I generally block when it’s necessary and the people that have blocked me aren’t any real loss anyway.

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman  over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales


"I was going to go to one of the socials but noticed that 5 of the women on the thread had blocked me. I've not spoken to any of them so I'm guessing it's been something I've said on the forum. Who knows or it could be they have blocked all woman contacting them?

They seem very sociable so I highly doubt it

I’ve had friends who are blocked and the swear they didn’t block me and I’ve not blocked them checked out block list and we’re not on each other’s quick message to admin and it was fixed

As far as I’m aware I’ve only got 2 females blocked on 5 accounts

You’ve got 5 accounts "

No they have five accounts between them that I’ve blocked them on

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I operate a "3 strikes and you're out" rule"! If you've sent 2 messages and I've not replied, then on receipt of the 3rd I block. Keeps it simple. Same with men that send the same cut n paste message!

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By *emyselfandbiCouple  over a year ago

GLASGOW

We block if we know the other person isn't Interested, harrass us or if it's like pulling teeth trying to have a conversation! Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Just did another.....ahhhhhhhh that felt good

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