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By *egs11ABC OP Woman
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
Ladies, how do un deal with bitter nasty messages?
When i 1st joined i tried tonreply to all messages usually with a "sorry not meeting anyone new" bit got replies ranging from trying to change my mind to name calling . So i added " if i dont teply im not interested" to my profile.
So tonite after getting half a dozen messages to which i didnt reply i got a nasty message saying
"Manners cost nothing but u obviously left urs in 2015 and replaced them with ur profile picture which is a bit disingenious dont u think"
As he isnt verified i presume hes sitting scratching his head wondering why no one replies ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get them very often tbh but if I get a fucking pest after politely declining then I just block them. Don't engage or attempt to reason.
Funnily enough, after being called a stuck up cow I'm even less likely to want to pump them in the backseat of their Corsa....who'd have thunk it.
You'll drive yourself mad trying to figure out folks' motives for saying or doing things on here. I've had equally nasty messages from females too btw.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just block them OP. I block for other reasons, mainly crude messages because I don't get nasty messages so doesn't really apply. Forget about them and move on honey x |
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By *egs11ABC OP Woman
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"I don't get them very often tbh but if I get a fucking pest after politely declining then I just block them. Don't engage or attempt to reason.
Funnily enough, after being called a stuck up cow I'm even less likely to want to pump them in the backseat of their Corsa....who'd have thunk it.
You'll drive yourself mad trying to figure out folks' motives for saying or doing things on here. I've had equally nasty messages from females too btw.
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Haha thing is after they give me abuse im either a fat cow amd he didnt want to meet anyway or they ask u sure u dont want to meet.
Women have sent me abuse as well and also badmouthed me to guys but thats a sign of insecurity on their part x
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By *egs11ABC OP Woman
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"Just block them OP. I block for other reasons, mainly crude messages because I don't get nasty messages so doesn't really apply. Forget about them and move on honey x"
I have. It just pisses me off cos im not nasty to anyone but hey theres nowt as queer as folk x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just block them OP. I block for other reasons, mainly crude messages because I don't get nasty messages so doesn't really apply. Forget about them and move on honey x
I have. It just pisses me off cos im not nasty to anyone but hey theres nowt as queer as folk x "
Especially on here x |
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By *egs11ABC OP Woman
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"Just block them OP. I block for other reasons, mainly crude messages because I don't get nasty messages so doesn't really apply. Forget about them and move on honey x
I have. It just pisses me off cos im not nasty to anyone but hey theres nowt as queer as folk x
Especially on here x" |
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Cant understand why people have to send nasty messages.Being a keyboard warrior will get you nowhere .Whats wrong with some respect and just good old fashioned decency.If someone dosent respond to your message ......move on .....don hassle people... |
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"Ladies, how do un deal with bitter nasty messages?
When i 1st joined i tried tonreply to all messages usually with a "sorry not meeting anyone new" bit got replies ranging from trying to change my mind to name calling . So i added " if i dont teply im not interested" to my profile.
So tonite after getting half a dozen messages to which i didnt reply i got a nasty message saying
"Manners cost nothing but u obviously left urs in 2015 and replaced them with ur profile picture which is a bit disingenious dont u think"
As he isnt verified i presume hes sitting scratching his head wondering why no one replies ?? "
Block and report
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"I don't get them very often tbh but if I get a fucking pest after politely declining then I just block them. Don't engage or attempt to reason.
Funnily enough, after being called a stuck up cow I'm even less likely to want to pump them in the backseat of their Corsa....who'd have thunk it.
You'll drive yourself mad trying to figure out folks' motives for saying or doing things on here. I've had equally nasty messages from females too btw.
Haha thing is after they give me abuse im either a fat cow amd he didnt want to meet anyway or they ask u sure u dont want to meet.
Women have sent me abuse as well and also badmouthed me to guys but thats a sign of insecurity on their part x
" I honestly don’t get any although yes some have got a bit arsey if I’ve not replied to their messages but that’s no big deal I just ignore them .
Women on the other hand yes I’ve had a couple who have done the same to me who have never met me and know nothing about me .
Only advice I can give is the same as the others don’t give them the time of day just block & report if you feel you have to and move on . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take it off your profile. You're only welcoming abuse. Just say "no" to any messages you don't want a conversation with. If they reply just delete without opening so you don't see the abuse. Don't cause your own problems |
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i don’t understand why people would send nasty messages, i mean i ain’t perfect but i’ve been brought up to show other respect! if someone doesn’t message us back we move on, the last thing i would do is send a nasty message to anyone let alone a woman!
easy enough to say block and move on but i’m sorry to hear your getting these sad times
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear about your bad experiences
I report them and block, I used to reply to every message but now filter and clearly state in profile what am looking for and I clearly state if you contact me
outwith I will just delete message without looking
I have met a guy at mine and he has threatened to come to my door thats why I would never meet at my home again
What am not sure is how seriously Fab takes reporting as they never respond to reporting, a bit of feedback would be appreciated. I do appreciate they busy but threats and nasty messages should be dealt with. |
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By *ookie69Man
over a year ago
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I've had a few nasty messages from woman claiming they want to cover me in baby oil and feck my brains out. They wanted to rip my clothes off, sit me on a chair, make me watch 6 women have sex with one another then cover me in champayne and they could all lick it off.
It was ridiculous..I reported it to admin for advice.
I didn't know if i should wear my denim shirt or my good Versace one.
Honest.. |
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By *ikerBloke...Man
over a year ago
western hemisphere , planet earth |
Aint just the ladies who get them,fabs changed so much over the years,many people have an aura of elitism about them nowadays and feel they have a superiority over others and think its fair to berate and belittle people to keep their heads in the clouds,and also the 6 day newbies who think it`s an asda click n collect site and get all stroppy when someone says no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would block and delete and take no notice of them, they are just idiots that think women owe them a shag!
Just plan old fashioned misogynistic idiots, you know....morons. |
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By *esLibertinesCouple
over a year ago
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Got some when we answer
"Thanks guys but that's not for us", after they start an argument but we just block..who said it's polite answering?!?!
But the worst for us are the messages, 90%, starting with only compliments about the Mrs..well, being a couple, that's a new block list entry. |
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By *ookie69Man
over a year ago
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"Aint just the ladies who get them,fabs changed so much over the years,many people have an aura of elitism about them nowadays and feel they have a superiority over others and think its fair to berate and belittle people to keep their heads in the clouds,and also the 6 day newbies who think it`s an asda click n collect site and get all stroppy when someone says no."
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladies, how do un deal with bitter nasty messages?
When i 1st joined i tried tonreply to all messages usually with a "sorry not meeting anyone new" bit got replies ranging from trying to change my mind to name calling . So i added " if i dont teply im not interested" to my profile.
So tonite after getting half a dozen messages to which i didnt reply i got a nasty message saying
"Manners cost nothing but u obviously left urs in 2015 and replaced them with ur profile picture which is a bit disingenious dont u think"
As he isnt verified i presume hes sitting scratching his head wondering why no one replies ??
Block and report
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Yes. If someone is being abusive you should block and report the message to admin. |
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"I've had a few nasty messages from woman claiming they want to cover me in baby oil and feck my brains out. They wanted to rip my clothes off, sit me on a chair, make me watch 6 women have sex with one another then cover me in champayne and they could all lick it off.
It was ridiculous..I reported it to admin for advice.
I didn't know if i should wear my denim shirt or my good Versace one.
Honest.. "
The cheapo primark one. Rips easily |
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If they’re extremely nasty I block and report.
If they’re just nasty in a “didn’t want you anyway fat cow” I give them a score out of ten for the originality of the insult in reply and block.
You get pretty good at judging which profiles are going to be nasty I’ve found - there’s just something that sets the spidey senses off so most of those I just block and delete without reply |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"Ladies, how do un deal with bitter nasty messages?
When i 1st joined i tried tonreply to all messages usually with a "sorry not meeting anyone new" bit got replies ranging from trying to change my mind to name calling . So i added " if i dont teply im not interested" to my profile.
So tonite after getting half a dozen messages to which i didnt reply i got a nasty message saying
"Manners cost nothing but u obviously left urs in 2015 and replaced them with ur profile picture which is a bit disingenious dont u think"
As he isnt verified i presume hes sitting scratching his head wondering why no one replies ?? "
"Ladies, how do un deal with bitter nasty messages?
When i 1st joined i tried tonreply to all messages usually with a "sorry not meeting anyone new" bit got replies ranging from trying to change my mind to name calling . So i added " if i dont teply im not interested" to my profile.
So tonite after getting half a dozen messages to which i didnt reply i got a nasty message saying
"Manners cost nothing but u obviously left urs in 2015 and replaced them with ur profile picture which is a bit disingenious dont u think"
As he isnt verified i presume hes sitting scratching his head wondering why no one replies ?? "
Sorry to hear about this. You replied with the best of intentions as well.
It's ironic considering that it's their aggressive reactions which have caused you to not reply anymore.
They're just idiots. If not replying to messages is preventing you getting this kind of abuse, then it's good that you stopped |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just block the bas*ards.
You don’t have to be nice.
If they can’t take rejection then that’s their problem.
The block button is fantastic for getting rid of all the idiots
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"Ladies, how do un deal with bitter nasty messages?
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Report, block, delete, forget about it (keyboard warrior, entitled egotistical small dick syndrome!). Next...
Nothing else to think about. It's that simple |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ladies, how do un deal with bitter nasty messages?
When i 1st joined i tried tonreply to all messages usually with a "sorry not meeting anyone new" bit got replies ranging from trying to change my mind to name calling . So i added " if i dont teply im not interested" to my profile.
So tonite after getting half a dozen messages to which i didnt reply i got a nasty message saying
"Manners cost nothing but u obviously left urs in 2015 and replaced them with ur profile picture which is a bit disingenious dont u think"
As he isnt verified i presume hes sitting scratching his head wondering why no one replies ?? "
I got a nasty message the other day from someone I’d been chatting too and agreed to a social with. He wasn’t for me, there was no spark at all when he met, he did all he could to get me back to his (even walking to the meeting place in the hope of a lift home) kept saying all the things he’d like to do, oh just come to mine for a juice…. A coffee…. We could have a wee play….. all the while I’m saying no….. in the end I took him back, then he’s inviting me down whenever to watch a movie… (I can do that in my own house) so when I got home I sent him a polite message explaining he’s not for me, and we should leave it at that. What he replied was plain nasty and really knocked my confidence, he threw his toys out his pram. |
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"It really is all part and parcel of being on a free site like this.
You’ll always get them, you just have to grow a thicker skin and take it with a pinch of salt. "
It happens on paid sites as well.
In fact, with some twats the more they’ve paid the more entitled they are so the nastier they get when turned down. |
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By *egs11ABC OP Woman
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"It really is all part and parcel of being on a free site like this.
You’ll always get them, you just have to grow a thicker skin and take it with a pinch of salt.
It happens on paid sites as well.
In fact, with some twats the more they’ve paid the more entitled they are so the nastier they get when turned down."
I know. Its more to do with personality ( or lack of) than how much u pay x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No need at the end of the day we have preference and somtmetime even that's net it just doesn't do it so its a no and we are all entitled to that, send abuse just shows why your single on fab imo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to intrude on a thread aimed at the ladies, but abusive messages come from female members too. Had one this evening saying I don't deserve to meet anyone due to being 'pig ugly'. If people don't like how I look, just scroll on through. No need to be insulting |
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"Sorry to intrude on a thread aimed at the ladies, but abusive messages come from female members too. Had one this evening saying I don't deserve to meet anyone due to being 'pig ugly'. If people don't like how I look, just scroll on through. No need to be insulting "
Too many arseholes on here with enormous egos. And hidden behind their keyboards they'll pull out all the stops. Report and block and don't give it a second thought x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Too many arseholes on here with enormous egos. And hidden behind their keyboards they'll pull out all the stops. Report and block and don't give it a second thought x"
Yeah have reported/blocked. Makes you wonder what they get out of being like that x. |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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SM has caused a lot of this, guy's and or incels lying back in their wanking chariots thinking they are god's gift. When all they have are teeth like a row of condemned houses, BO and their maw cuts their hair with a knife and a bowl to style it. |
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"Sorry to intrude on a thread aimed at the ladies, but abusive messages come from female members too. Had one this evening saying I don't deserve to meet anyone due to being 'pig ugly'. If people don't like how I look, just scroll on through. No need to be insulting " some people are just horrible … I hope you reported this ? |
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By *igsaw93Woman
over a year ago
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It's a very different level on here.
Being called nasty names, insulted etc is one thing that we all unfortunately get used to on social media. Block, delete and move on.
That being said, the amount of death and r*** threats on messages is beyond a joke. And fab often does nothing when they are reported. They are horrible to receive, get tiring and can scare some women off the scene altogether. Something really does need to be done to get their profiles removed permanently.
Jigs xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a very different level on here.
Being called nasty names, insulted etc is one thing that we all unfortunately get used to on social media. Block, delete and move on.
That being said, the amount of death and r*** threats on messages is beyond a joke. And fab often does nothing when they are reported. They are horrible to receive, get tiring and can scare some women off the scene altogether. Something really does need to be done to get their profiles removed permanently.
Jigs xx "
Rape threats !!! No way that should be reported police not fab that's disgusting |
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"It's a very different level on here.
Being called nasty names, insulted etc is one thing that we all unfortunately get used to on social media. Block, delete and move on.
That being said, the amount of death and r*** threats on messages is beyond a joke. And fab often does nothing when they are reported. They are horrible to receive, get tiring and can scare some women off the scene altogether. Something really does need to be done to get their profiles removed permanently.
Jigs xx
Rape threats !!! No way that should be reported police not fab that's disgusting"
The advice you'd get from the police is to come off the site. Until someone appears on your doorstep they won't do anything. And if a profile is permanently removed, they'd just come back with another one. |
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"It's a very different level on here.
Being called nasty names, insulted etc is one thing that we all unfortunately get used to on social media. Block, delete and move on.
That being said, the amount of death and r*** threats on messages is beyond a joke. And fab often does nothing when they are reported. They are horrible to receive, get tiring and can scare some women off the scene altogether. Something really does need to be done to get their profiles removed permanently.
Jigs xx
Rape threats !!! No way that should be reported police not fab that's disgusting
The advice you'd get from the police is to come off the site. Until someone appears on your doorstep they won't do anything. And if a profile is permanently removed, they'd just come back with another one."
The good still outweighs the bad though. Otherwise I wouldn't be on here x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a very different level on here.
Being called nasty names, insulted etc is one thing that we all unfortunately get used to on social media. Block, delete and move on.
That being said, the amount of death and r*** threats on messages is beyond a joke. And fab often does nothing when they are reported. They are horrible to receive, get tiring and can scare some women off the scene altogether. Something really does need to be done to get their profiles removed permanently.
Jigs xx
Rape threats !!! No way that should be reported police not fab that's disgusting
The advice you'd get from the police is to come off the site. Until someone appears on your doorstep they won't do anything. And if a profile is permanently removed, they'd just come back with another one."
I'm actually sickened by what I'm reading I've made silly comments pissed and frustrated but that's no excuse, but to make threats like that is a whole other level think my times nearing a end on here tbh some sick things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly wanted to be part of a like minded community which on the most fab gives but that type of thing which until now I was unaware of, I question is that a community I want to be known within. Some thinking defo required now, in shock completely.
That's not being nasty n dont care it's words is pure evil |
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Very simplistic - delete block next..
No point in getting worked up or taking anything to heart.
Keyboard warriors with nothing better to do than belittle woman to try and make them feel vulnerable..
Don't deserve the time of day.. |
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"Very simplistic - delete block next..
No point in getting worked up or taking anything to heart.
Keyboard warriors with nothing better to do than belittle woman to try and make them feel vulnerable..
Don't deserve the time of day.. "
Missed out BLOCK also.. |
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