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I had a meet arranged with a single guy last night. Messaged him yesterday afternoon to confirm everything was still on and was assured it was. My pal gave me a lift to the bar where I was meeting the guy, walked in and couldn't see him. I was about 10 mins early so got a drink and took a seat to wait for him. After about 45 mins waiting decided to message him but profile has disappeared.
Why do guys do this. I am now considering blocking single guys now after this happening twice in the last couple of weeks. |
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"I had a meet arranged with a single guy last night. Messaged him yesterday afternoon to confirm everything was still on and was assured it was. My pal gave me a lift to the bar where I was meeting the guy, walked in and couldn't see him. I was about 10 mins early so got a drink and took a seat to wait for him. After about 45 mins waiting decided to message him but profile has disappeared.
Why do guys do this. I am now considering blocking single guys now after this happening twice in the last couple of weeks. "
Sorry to hear that but definitely not uncommon and definitely not restricted to gender (although i would guess a very high % will be male)
Fab has many time wasters ..dreaners and fakes but dont let that crowd get to you ... there are genuine people on here too and you will start to suss the fakes out ... almost all new profiles are fake (in my opinion)
Better luck next time .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Now that is a shame, that sort of thing is rife within the fab world.
But hopefully it doesn't put you off meeting single guys again.
Would you like me to restore your faith in single guys
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"Now that is a shame, that sort of thing is rife within the fab world.
But hopefully it doesn't put you off meeting single guys again.
Would you like me to restore your faith in single guys
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It is kind of putting me off arananging meets with them on here. It's not often I arrange meets with single guys it's usually having nights out with a pal on the pull |
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I'm gutted for you op
It's guys like that who ruin it for the genuine single guys
Hope it doesn't ruin your weekend
I would never of left a stunning woman at the bar on her own
Like others have said chin up and move on I'm sure there will be plenty of others who want to take you for a drink x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If that had been me I would have left after 15 minutes, that's always been my rule. Sorry this has happened to you OP, just chalk it down to experience and move on x |
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"Reason why my socials are during the day so I can go do something else after waiting.i wait 20 mins no more.
Been stood up a few times  "
I agree with this, coffee near the shops that I want to go to.
Plus I like to be lucid, if I got d*unk I’d probably snog him no matter if I liked him or not!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm always at least 15 mins early 
Really?"
Yeah definitely, I'm a punctual guy most of the time so if I'm meeting a woman then I'm no different.
Plus it's only right I think, I can be a bit auld fashioned sometimes |
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"I'm always at least 15 mins early
Really?
Yeah definitely, I'm a punctual guy most of the time so if I'm meeting a woman then I'm no different.
Plus it's only right I think, I can be a bit auld fashioned sometimes"
I’m late for everything. Always at the coos tail!
A wee bit of old fashioned manners are nice. I still like getting a door held for me, or being put to the inside of a pavement.  |
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"I'm always at least 15 mins early
Really?
Yeah definitely, I'm a punctual guy most of the time so if I'm meeting a woman then I'm no different.
Plus it's only right I think, I can be a bit auld fashioned sometimes
I’m late for everything. Always at the coos tail!
A wee bit of old fashioned manners are nice. I still like getting a door held for me, or being put to the inside of a pavement. "
It's funny you mention that because that is another 2 things I do.
Even although the pavement positioning does feel a bit like getting treated like a child.
Giving up a seat is another one |
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"I'm always at least 15 mins early
Really?
Yeah definitely, I'm a punctual guy most of the time so if I'm meeting a woman then I'm no different.
Plus it's only right I think, I can be a bit auld fashioned sometimes
I’m late for everything. Always at the coos tail!
A wee bit of old fashioned manners are nice. I still like getting a door held for me, or being put to the inside of a pavement.
It's funny you mention that because that is another 2 things I do.
Even although the pavement positioning does feel a bit like getting treated like a child.
Giving up a seat is another one "
I do/done the pavement thing with my kids, but my teenage son does it with me now! 
It’s nice to know some men are gentlemen!
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I can’t believe that guys arrange meets whether they be socials or other kinds and don’t turn up! There are probably hundreds of guys on here that don’t get an interaction from fab that would obviously love to meet some of the lovely ladies of Fab…..disappointing! |
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By *arpdiemCouple
over a year ago
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We feel your pain op, we had a social meet arranged on Friday night, was even speaking to the 'couple' a few hours before we were due to meet, we went and got ghosted and not heard anything since. It does happen here it's not the first time it's happened to us but just seems to be more fakes since lockdown  . |
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By *reen31Man
over a year ago
Hawick |
I was speaking to someone for ages had meet arranged then she dissappeared for a while. She did come back on but has not answered message even to inform what happened or why she wont speak to me i have been perfectly polite when asking to |
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
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"I still like getting a door held for me, or being put to the inside of a pavement. "
My first FWB commented on me doing this, it's just the way I was brought up, old fashioned maybe, but that's just me!!  |
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"I still like getting a door held for me, or being put to the inside of a pavement.
My first FWB commented on me doing this, it's just the way I was brought up, old fashioned maybe, but that's just me!! "
It may be old fashioned but it’s thoughtful and courteous. I could be wrong but i think it demonstrates respect to women….. Something that is lost on some men. |
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"We feel your pain op, we had a social meet arranged on Friday night, was even speaking to the 'couple' a few hours before we were due to meet, we went and got ghosted and not heard anything since. It does happen here it's not the first time it's happened to us but just seems to be more fakes since lockdown . "
I totally agree with you. I've noticed a severe decline in the site since lock down and stories in the papers like this weekends Swingathon get another influx of idiots to the site |
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had this done to me...booked hotel and was all set up waiting for her to say she was downstairs..........never heard from her or saw profile again...its the pits....sorry you were treated this way, but he ho it was his loss im sure! |
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over a year ago
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I’ve only been stood up once. I was fuming as I was pretty busy but made time for someone. Something had came up. Still. How long does it take to tell someone you can’t make it?
Wouldn’t do it myself. Treat others how you’d like to be treated  |
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"I’ve only been stood up once. I was fuming as I was pretty busy but made time for someone. Something had came up. Still. How long does it take to tell someone you can’t make it?
Wouldn’t do it myself. Treat others how you’d like to be treated "
Manners and chivalry have defo died a death very few men out there these days that still have old fashioned values, nice when a guy holds open a door for you pulls out a chair etc so many things have been lost over time x |
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"I’ve only been stood up once. I was fuming as I was pretty busy but made time for someone. Something had came up. Still. How long does it take to tell someone you can’t make it?
Wouldn’t do it myself. Treat others how you’d like to be treated
Manners and chivalry have defo died a death very few men out there these days that still have old fashioned values, nice when a guy holds open a door for you pulls out a chair etc so many things have been lost over time x "
We're damned if we do and damned if we don't though. I've apparently annoyed women for offering them seats or offering to carry packages, or holding open doors, been seen as patronising them.  |
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"I’ve only been stood up once. I was fuming as I was pretty busy but made time for someone. Something had came up. Still. How long does it take to tell someone you can’t make it?
Wouldn’t do it myself. Treat others how you’d like to be treated
Manners and chivalry have defo died a death very few men out there these days that still have old fashioned values, nice when a guy holds open a door for you pulls out a chair etc so many things have been lost over time x
We're damned if we do and damned if we don't though. I've apparently annoyed women for offering them seats or offering to carry packages, or holding open doors, been seen as patronising them. "
Then clearly you’ve dodged a bullet |
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"I had a meet arranged with a single guy last night. Messaged him yesterday afternoon to confirm everything was still on and was assured it was. My pal gave me a lift to the bar where I was meeting the guy, walked in and couldn't see him. I was about 10 mins early so got a drink and took a seat to wait for him. After about 45 mins waiting decided to message him but profile has disappeared.
Why do guys do this. I am now considering blocking single guys now after this happening twice in the last couple of weeks. "
Some guys have all the luck and the miss it... |
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"I had a meet arranged with a single guy last night. Messaged him yesterday afternoon to confirm everything was still on and was assured it was. My pal gave me a lift to the bar where I was meeting the guy, walked in and couldn't see him. I was about 10 mins early so got a drink and took a seat to wait for him. After about 45 mins waiting decided to message him but profile has disappeared.
Why do guys do this. I am now considering blocking single guys now after this happening twice in the last couple of weeks. "
wife caught him on the way out the door so had to go visit mother in law with wife n brats |
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"I had a meet arranged with a single guy last night. Messaged him yesterday afternoon to confirm everything was still on and was assured it was. My pal gave me a lift to the bar where I was meeting the guy, walked in and couldn't see him. I was about 10 mins early so got a drink and took a seat to wait for him. After about 45 mins waiting decided to message him but profile has disappeared.
Why do guys do this. I am now considering blocking single guys now after this happening twice in the last couple of weeks. wife caught him on the way out the door so had to go visit mother in law with wife n brats "
Ha ha never thought of that |
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By *indfkdWoman
over a year ago
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"I had a meet arranged with a single guy last night. Messaged him yesterday afternoon to confirm everything was still on and was assured it was. My pal gave me a lift to the bar where I was meeting the guy, walked in and couldn't see him. I was about 10 mins early so got a drink and took a seat to wait for him. After about 45 mins waiting decided to message him but profile has disappeared.
Why do guys do this. I am now considering blocking single guys now after this happening twice in the last couple of weeks. "
Out of curiosity had you spoke to him outside fab? Phone or video chat exchanged photos where they couldn't be faked
If not that would be my suggestion in future there are a lot of time wasters everywhere unfortunately |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't believe it the first time I heard that girls were getting stood up by guys. I think the whole thing is apoling, if you are going to meet then at least have the decency to turn up |
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By *tew008Man
over a year ago
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"I had a meet arranged with a single guy last night. Messaged him yesterday afternoon to confirm everything was still on and was assured it was. My pal gave me a lift to the bar where I was meeting the guy, walked in and couldn't see him. I was about 10 mins early so got a drink and took a seat to wait for him. After about 45 mins waiting decided to message him but profile has disappeared.
Why do guys do this. I am now considering blocking single guys now after this happening twice in the last couple of weeks.
Sorry to hear that but definitely not uncommon and definitely not restricted to gender (although i would guess a very high % will be male)
Fab has many time wasters ..dreaners and fakes but dont let that crowd get to you ... there are genuine people on here too and you will start to suss the fakes out ... almost all new profiles are fake (in my opinion)
Better luck next time ...."
never happened with me, guys never stood me up |
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"I had a meet arranged with a single guy last night. Messaged him yesterday afternoon to confirm everything was still on and was assured it was. My pal gave me a lift to the bar where I was meeting the guy, walked in and couldn't see him. I was about 10 mins early so got a drink and took a seat to wait for him. After about 45 mins waiting decided to message him but profile has disappeared.
Why do guys do this. I am now considering blocking single guys now after this happening twice in the last couple of weeks.
Out of curiosity had you spoke to him outside fab? Phone or video chat exchanged photos where they couldn't be faked
If not that would be my suggestion in future there are a lot of time wasters everywhere unfortunately "
We had messaged for a couple of weeks but I won't give out my phone number. I did speak to him on here on cam in the chat room though |
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"Now that is a shame, that sort of thing is rife within the fab world.
But hopefully it doesn't put you off meeting single guys again.
Would you like me to restore your faith in single guys
It is kind of putting me off arananging meets with them on here. It's not often I arrange meets with single guys it's usually having nights out with a pal on the pull"
It’s not just single guys, last meet I attempted to arrange, 2 years ago now…. I turned up well on time, waited approximately 45 mins, left, to get a message 3 hours late saying ‘sorry, forgot’ that was it. Load of bull… time wasters are everywhere no matter what sex they are. Someone will meet you have faith … says I that can’t get one |
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"Now that is a shame, that sort of thing is rife within the fab world.
But hopefully it doesn't put you off meeting single guys again.
Would you like me to restore your faith in single guys
It is kind of putting me off arananging meets with them on here. It's not often I arrange meets with single guys it's usually having nights out with a pal on the pull
It’s not just single guys, last meet I attempted to arrange, 2 years ago now…. I turned up well on time, waited approximately 45 mins, left, to get a message 3 hours late saying ‘sorry, forgot’ that was it. Load of bull… time wasters are everywhere no matter what sex they are. Someone will meet you have faith … says I that can’t get one "
Can’t believe anyone ever stood you up |
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"Now that is a shame, that sort of thing is rife within the fab world.
But hopefully it doesn't put you off meeting single guys again.
Would you like me to restore your faith in single guys
It is kind of putting me off arananging meets with them on here. It's not often I arrange meets with single guys it's usually having nights out with a pal on the pull
It’s not just single guys, last meet I attempted to arrange, 2 years ago now…. I turned up well on time, waited approximately 45 mins, left, to get a message 3 hours late saying ‘sorry, forgot’ that was it. Load of bull… time wasters are everywhere no matter what sex they are. Someone will meet you have faith … says I that can’t get one
Can’t believe anyone ever stood you up "
Flattery will get you everywhere!!
Well I wasn’t 2 minutes in giving her a piece of my mind and suffice to say, have blocked her. Won’t waste my time trying to appease someone that isn’t interested.
Like I’ve said before, too many in for an ego stroke. Must be a way to out all the chaff, how I don’t know. |
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over a year ago
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What an arse! I am literally just home, I got stood up tonight after waiting for 2hrs.... felt like if I left I'd get a message of "where are you?" But i had to go. I know how you feel, keep your chin up. Maybe I can help restore faith in single guys! Haha  |
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"What an arse! I am literally just home, I got stood up tonight after waiting for 2hrs.... felt like if I left I'd get a message of "where are you?" But i had to go. I know how you feel, keep your chin up. Maybe I can help restore faith in single guys! Haha "
It is not nice. I was sitting in a bar by myself where I didn't know anyone but stayed and ended up having a good time so it wasn't a wasted night |
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"What an arse! I am literally just home, I got stood up tonight after waiting for 2hrs.... felt like if I left I'd get a message of "where are you?" But i had to go. I know how you feel, keep your chin up. Maybe I can help restore faith in single guys! Haha
It is not nice. I was sitting in a bar by myself where I didn't know anyone but stayed and ended up having a good time so it wasn't a wasted night"
Thats a bonus if that happens! I felt like a total idiot last night |
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"Yet another guy makes the single guys look like fuds! This guy was very probably married and shat himself in case he got caught. "
No he only makes himself look like a fud. These types make the decent ones stand out in my opinion. Normally by a mile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been given wrong address, plus years ago I picked up a woman brought her to mine, just chstting, she asked for my address and postcode for her pal, 4 times She went to the toilet, she went again with her bag, she fucked of |
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"What an arse! I am literally just home, I got stood up tonight after waiting for 2hrs.... felt like if I left I'd get a message of "where are you?" But i had to go. I know how you feel, keep your chin up. Maybe I can help restore faith in single guys! Haha
It is not nice. I was sitting in a bar by myself where I didn't know anyone but stayed and ended up having a good time so it wasn't a wasted night"
You are brave and resilient and if you don’t mind me saying so, very sexy!! Xx |
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I travelled to the south of france to meet a couple I didn't mind them not meeting it was the huge expense of calls and texts Oh were are in this bar then that then sorry just left then...
Best thing for me the pace was Cap dag I had an amazing time !!!!!! |
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"What an arse! I am literally just home, I got stood up tonight after waiting for 2hrs.... felt like if I left I'd get a message of "where are you?" But i had to go. I know how you feel, keep your chin up. Maybe I can help restore faith in single guys! Haha
It is not nice. I was sitting in a bar by myself where I didn't know anyone but stayed and ended up having a good time so it wasn't a wasted night
You are brave and resilient and if you don’t mind me saying so, very sexy!! Xx"
Thank you. I am quite an outgoing person so it helps. |
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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago
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"What an arse! I am literally just home, I got stood up tonight after waiting for 2hrs.... felt like if I left I'd get a message of "where are you?" But i had to go. I know how you feel, keep your chin up. Maybe I can help restore faith in single guys! Haha "
2 hours!!
Exactly what was going through your head?
Did you think they were still gonna turn up? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What I don't understand is people are always saying how hard it is for single guys on here.
So single guy actually manages to get a meet then doesn't go through with it! |
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"What I don't understand is people are always saying how hard it is for single guys on here.
So single guy actually manages to get a meet then doesn't go through with it! "
A lot of men are shite bags….but that’s just my opinion! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What I don't understand is people are always saying how hard it is for single guys on here.
So single guy actually manages to get a meet then doesn't go through with it!
A lot of men are shite bags….but that’s just my opinion! "
Don't tell everyone, it's the best kept secret no?  |
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"What I don't understand is people are always saying how hard it is for single guys on here.
So single guy actually manages to get a meet then doesn't go through with it!
A lot of men are shite bags….but that’s just my opinion!
Don't tell everyone, it's the best kept secret no? "
Nah, most women here know it as a fact! It’s only the men that don’t know it! |
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"What I don't understand is people are always saying how hard it is for single guys on here.
So single guy actually manages to get a meet then doesn't go through with it!
A lot of men are shite bags….but that’s just my opinion! "
I'm tempted to give you a proper scolding for that statement, but I'm a wee bit feart. |
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"What I don't understand is people are always saying how hard it is for single guys on here.
So single guy actually manages to get a meet then doesn't go through with it!
A lot of men are shite bags….but that’s just my opinion!
I'm tempted to give you a proper scolding for that statement, but I'm a wee bit feart. "
Do your best, bumple boy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There will likely be a tonne of messages about how men suck on here.
Guys want it now, if you don't.. woops.
If you don't the day after .. woops.
Days later.. it's still their fault. Sorry, but unless you explicitly say "here for friends" it's your problem.
They are here for the same reasons you are!
This site FS
Get a grip folks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some guys bottle it and ghost women ,better to chat a bit longer ,build up a rapport and feel at ease with the person you intend to meet,piss poor planning leads to piss poor performance |
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"There will likely be a tonne of messages about how men suck on here.
Guys want it now, if you don't.. woops.
If you don't the day after .. woops.
Days later.. it's still their fault. Sorry, but unless you explicitly say "here for friends" it's your problem.
They are here for the same reasons you are!
This site FS
Get a grip folks. "
So how does any of that relate to someone arranging a meet, confirming the meet, then just not showing and then either deleting or hiding profile? That's time wasting, clear and simple. Nothing to do with differing schedules or looking for requirements.
Theres plenty women, couples and Tgirls who do it too, but by and far the worst for it are single guys. It's not guy bashing, it's just the facts... |
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By *lair101TV/TS
over a year ago
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Half the people making arrangements with me never show or confirm...its a sad fact, and very frustrating. I never meet somewhere out, so im at least spared all that hassle. Still tho, an hour getting ready and another hour waitng for someone to arrive is just disrespectful and cowardly on their part.
Ive had people say 'im on my way' and never show up...hide their profile. I just block them...ive blocked 6 in the last month or so for not attending appointments or meets. |
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"Half the people making arrangements with me never show or confirm...its a sad fact, and very frustrating. I never meet somewhere out, so im at least spared all that hassle. Still tho, an hour getting ready and another hour waitng for someone to arrive is just disrespectful and cowardly on their part.
Ive had people say 'im on my way' and never show up...hide their profile. I just block them...ive blocked 6 in the last month or so for not attending appointments or meets."
Thier loss Clair.
Still baffles me why are they even on here, if they have no intention of meeting up and enjoying sex with people. |
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"What I don't understand is people are always saying how hard it is for single guys on here.
So single guy actually manages to get a meet then doesn't go through with it!
A lot of men are shite bags….but that’s just my opinion! "
I'm thinking that too now |
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"Half the people making arrangements with me never show or confirm...its a sad fact, and very frustrating. I never meet somewhere out, so im at least spared all that hassle. Still tho, an hour getting ready and another hour waitng for someone to arrive is just disrespectful and cowardly on their part.
Ive had people say 'im on my way' and never show up...hide their profile. I just block them...ive blocked 6 in the last month or so for not attending appointments or meets."
I will always meet in a pub or for a coffee first. I won't give out my address, if the meet goes well and there is mutual attraction and connection only can they come back to my place |
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"What I don't understand is people are always saying how hard it is for single guys on here.
So single guy actually manages to get a meet then doesn't go through with it!
A lot of men are shite bags….but that’s just my opinion! "
They are, and no doubt have multiple profiles on here and sites like that one with the fire symbol etc..
But then, a lot of us are genuine and walk the walk too… we just get ignored. |
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"I had a meet arranged with a single guy last night. Messaged him yesterday afternoon to confirm everything was still on and was assured it was. My pal gave me a lift to the bar where I was meeting the guy, walked in and couldn't see him. I was about 10 mins early so got a drink and took a seat to wait for him. After about 45 mins waiting decided to message him but profile has disappeared.
Why do guys do this. I am now considering blocking single guys now after this happening twice in the last couple of weeks. "
So sorry to hear this bcause of idiots like that give us good genuine guys that's trying a bad name it's hard enough trying to get a meet at times or even just a chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree lots of guys think with there dicks or give a girl or a couple a crap meet or a, no show, they ruin it for the genuine folk , and the same for women it's on both sides of the fence, not every guy and girls are perfect  |
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
OP that’s terrible but notch it down to experience.
We had a guy cancel at the last minute as he forgot he was going on holiday. We had another who was d*unk when we turned up at his hotel room. We take a zero tolerance approach. If you’re not a priority for them then they’re not a priority for you.
Don’t agree the bad ones make the good guys look good. The bad guys put inexperienced couple off swinging when they mess them about. |
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Though some are no doubt time wasters, I suspect a lot of people just get cold feet at the last minute, and dont set out to mess people around, and rather than do the decent thing just take the easier option. |
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That's out of order. There's just no need for that crap. Why even waste your own time arranging it then leave the woman hanging. Sorry the guy was a dickhead |
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"Fucks up all the good guys opportunities, dickhead. You don't stand up a female , end of "
As I keep saying. No it doesn't. It makes the good ones stand out. If, as a single guy you are not standing out you need to look at yourself, not blame others for lack of opportunities.
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over a year ago
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"Fucks up all the good guys opportunities, dickhead. You don't stand up a female , end of
As I keep saying. No it doesn't. It makes the good ones stand out. If, as a single guy you are not standing out you need to look at yourself, not blame others for lack of opportunities.
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Ah well that's me away to look at myself |
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"Fucks up all the good guys opportunities, dickhead. You don't stand up a female , end of
As I keep saying. No it doesn't. It makes the good ones stand out. If, as a single guy you are not standing out you need to look at yourself, not blame others for lack of opportunities.
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My main point is that you don't leave a female standing alone waiting for you not to turn up, and mud sticks, if there's guy's doing this multiple times , then doubt about every guy will enter females minds |
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Not having anything against the op but this is just why i dont do social meet in pub and bars. I either do it and the home (mine or theres) or a club that why i can tell right away if there wasting my time, because the geuine one meet at clubs if the can accom like myself and the not so geuine ones make up excuse and try to wiggle out and its soon very visable… ps as single guy i ve been stood up even to the point so one tried to make me wait out side there home till there husband left for work (without my knowledge).
Its just people you just need to create your own check list of verification requirement prior to socialising with that person then do so expecting to be let down and have a back up so you havent wasted your time… last one i used was meeting near a cinema so i could go to the cinema instead on a Saturday. Funny enough thay meet was a great one and i ve still not see “birds of prey” yet |
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"Not having anything against the op but this is just why i dont do social meet in pub and bars. I either do it and the home (mine or theres) or a club that why i can tell right away if there wasting my time, because the geuine one meet at clubs if the can accom like myself and the not so geuine ones make up excuse and try to wiggle out and its soon very visable… ps as single guy i ve been stood up even to the point so one tried to make me wait out side there home till there husband left for work (without my knowledge).
Its just people you just need to create your own check list of verification requirement prior to socialising with that person then do so expecting to be let down and have a back up so you havent wasted your time… last one i used was meeting near a cinema so i could go to the cinema instead on a Saturday. Funny enough thay meet was a great one and i ve still not see “birds of prey” yet"
I doubt there are many women who would want a first social meeting at their home! Anyone asking me to do so would be told where to go!!!
I’d rather meet potential psychos in a coffee shop instead of giving them my address! |
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"Not having anything against the op but this is just why i dont do social meet in pub and bars. I either do it and the home (mine or theres) or a club that why i can tell right away if there wasting my time, because the geuine one meet at clubs if the can accom like myself and the not so geuine ones make up excuse and try to wiggle out and its soon very visable… ps as single guy i ve been stood up even to the point so one tried to make me wait out side there home till there husband left for work (without my knowledge).
Its just people you just need to create your own check list of verification requirement prior to socialising with that person then do so expecting to be let down and have a back up so you havent wasted your time… last one i used was meeting near a cinema so i could go to the cinema instead on a Saturday. Funny enough thay meet was a great one and i ve still not see “birds of prey” yet
I doubt there are many women who would want a first social meeting at their home! Anyone asking me to do so would be told where to go!!!
I’d rather meet potential psychos in a coffee shop instead of giving them my address!"
So meet a club. Which is what is said.
Why meet at a coffee shop to just be stood up and have your time wasted? Which is exactly what happened to the op…
If you meet at a club then there the potential to meet other link mind folk or at the least some to chat to
About how shit bag your meet was from not ahowing up |
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"Not having anything against the op but this is just why i dont do social meet in pub and bars. I either do it and the home (mine or theres) or a club that why i can tell right away if there wasting my time, because the geuine one meet at clubs if the can accom like myself and the not so geuine ones make up excuse and try to wiggle out and its soon very visable… ps as single guy i ve been stood up even to the point so one tried to make me wait out side there home till there husband left for work (without my knowledge).
Its just people you just need to create your own check list of verification requirement prior to socialising with that person then do so expecting to be let down and have a back up so you havent wasted your time… last one i used was meeting near a cinema so i could go to the cinema instead on a Saturday. Funny enough thay meet was a great one and i ve still not see “birds of prey” yet
I doubt there are many women who would want a first social meeting at their home! Anyone asking me to do so would be told where to go!!!
I’d rather meet potential psychos in a coffee shop instead of giving them my address!
So meet a club. Which is what is said.
Why meet at a coffee shop to just be stood up and have your time wasted? Which is exactly what happened to the op…
If you meet at a club then there the potential to meet other link mind folk or at the least some to chat to
About how shit bag your meet was from not ahowing up"
Not everyone lives near a swingers club though, or wants to meet in the evenings. An initial social meet in a club works for you, which is fantastic, but it wouldn't necessarily work for anyone else.
A social meet somewhere public like a coffee shop is what works for me. If I'm stood up then it's frustrating but I always take a book and treat myself to a lovely slice of cake so it never feels like my times been wasted. Instead I acknowledge I've dodged a bullet, and enjoy the peace and quiet with my book anyway! |
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"Not having anything against the op but this is just why i dont do social meet in pub and bars. I either do it and the home (mine or theres) or a club that why i can tell right away if there wasting my time, because the geuine one meet at clubs if the can accom like myself and the not so geuine ones make up excuse and try to wiggle out and its soon very visable… ps as single guy i ve been stood up even to the point so one tried to make me wait out side there home till there husband left for work (without my knowledge).
Its just people you just need to create your own check list of verification requirement prior to socialising with that person then do so expecting to be let down and have a back up so you havent wasted your time… last one i used was meeting near a cinema so i could go to the cinema instead on a Saturday. Funny enough thay meet was a great one and i ve still not see “birds of prey” yet
I doubt there are many women who would want a first social meeting at their home! Anyone asking me to do so would be told where to go!!!
I’d rather meet potential psychos in a coffee shop instead of giving them my address!
So meet a club. Which is what is said.
Why meet at a coffee shop to just be stood up and have your time wasted? Which is exactly what happened to the op…
If you meet at a club then there the potential to meet other link mind folk or at the least some to chat to
About how shit bag your meet was from not ahowing up"
I wouldn’t ask a guy to meet me in cjs. If he pays the fees to get in and I don’t like him i wouldn’t feel good about that. And I wouldn’t be doing a pity fuck cos I felt sorry for him.
I’m good with coffee shops. If the guy doesn’t show I go shopping. Suits me fine |
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"Not having anything against the op but this is just why i dont do social meet in pub and bars. I either do it and the home (mine or theres) or a club that why i can tell right away if there wasting my time, because the geuine one meet at clubs if the can accom like myself and the not so geuine ones make up excuse and try to wiggle out and its soon very visable… ps as single guy i ve been stood up even to the point so one tried to make me wait out side there home till there husband left for work (without my knowledge).
Its just people you just need to create your own check list of verification requirement prior to socialising with that person then do so expecting to be let down and have a back up so you havent wasted your time… last one i used was meeting near a cinema so i could go to the cinema instead on a Saturday. Funny enough thay meet was a great one and i ve still not see “birds of prey” yet
I doubt there are many women who would want a first social meeting at their home! Anyone asking me to do so would be told where to go!!!
I’d rather meet potential psychos in a coffee shop instead of giving them my address!
So meet a club. Which is what is said.
Why meet at a coffee shop to just be stood up and have your time wasted? Which is exactly what happened to the op…
If you meet at a club then there the potential to meet other link mind folk or at the least some to chat to
About how shit bag your meet was from not ahowing up
Not everyone lives near a swingers club though, or wants to meet in the evenings. An initial social meet in a club works for you, which is fantastic, but it wouldn't necessarily work for anyone else.
A social meet somewhere public like a coffee shop is what works for me. If I'm stood up then it's frustrating but I always take a book and treat myself to a lovely slice of cake so it never feels like my times been wasted. Instead I acknowledge I've dodged a bullet, and enjoy the peace and quiet with my book anyway!"
You say it with so much more diplomacy, but this was what I was trying to say |
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"Not having anything against the op but this is just why i dont do social meet in pub and bars. I either do it and the home (mine or theres) or a club that why i can tell right away if there wasting my time, because the geuine one meet at clubs if the can accom like myself and the not so geuine ones make up excuse and try to wiggle out and its soon very visable… ps as single guy i ve been stood up even to the point so one tried to make me wait out side there home till there husband left for work (without my knowledge).
Its just people you just need to create your own check list of verification requirement prior to socialising with that person then do so expecting to be let down and have a back up so you havent wasted your time… last one i used was meeting near a cinema so i could go to the cinema instead on a Saturday. Funny enough thay meet was a great one and i ve still not see “birds of prey” yet
I doubt there are many women who would want a first social meeting at their home! Anyone asking me to do so would be told where to go!!!
I’d rather meet potential psychos in a coffee shop instead of giving them my address!
So meet a club. Which is what is said.
Why meet at a coffee shop to just be stood up and have your time wasted? Which is exactly what happened to the op…
If you meet at a club then there the potential to meet other link mind folk or at the least some to chat to
About how shit bag your meet was from not ahowing up"
Btw…can I ask why you have two accounts….just wondering? |
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"Not having anything against the op but this is just why i dont do social meet in pub and bars. I either do it and the home (mine or theres) or a club that why i can tell right away if there wasting my time, because the geuine one meet at clubs if the can accom like myself and the not so geuine ones make up excuse and try to wiggle out and its soon very visable… ps as single guy i ve been stood up even to the point so one tried to make me wait out side there home till there husband left for work (without my knowledge).
Its just people you just need to create your own check list of verification requirement prior to socialising with that person then do so expecting to be let down and have a back up so you havent wasted your time… last one i used was meeting near a cinema so i could go to the cinema instead on a Saturday. Funny enough thay meet was a great one and i ve still not see “birds of prey” yet
I doubt there are many women who would want a first social meeting at their home! Anyone asking me to do so would be told where to go!!!
I’d rather meet potential psychos in a coffee shop instead of giving them my address!
So meet a club. Which is what is said.
Why meet at a coffee shop to just be stood up and have your time wasted? Which is exactly what happened to the op…
If you meet at a club then there the potential to meet other link mind folk or at the least some to chat to
About how shit bag your meet was from not ahowing up
Not everyone lives near a swingers club though, or wants to meet in the evenings. An initial social meet in a club works for you, which is fantastic, but it wouldn't necessarily work for anyone else.
A social meet somewhere public like a coffee shop is what works for me. If I'm stood up then it's frustrating but I always take a book and treat myself to a lovely slice of cake so it never feels like my times been wasted. Instead I acknowledge I've dodged a bullet, and enjoy the peace and quiet with my book anyway!
You say it with so much more diplomacy, but this was what I was trying to say "
But I like your idea of shopping much better |
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"Not having anything against the op but this is just why i dont do social meet in pub and bars. I either do it and the home (mine or theres) or a club that why i can tell right away if there wasting my time, because the geuine one meet at clubs if the can accom like myself and the not so geuine ones make up excuse and try to wiggle out and its soon very visable… ps as single guy i ve been stood up even to the point so one tried to make me wait out side there home till there husband left for work (without my knowledge).
Its just people you just need to create your own check list of verification requirement prior to socialising with that person then do so expecting to be let down and have a back up so you havent wasted your time… last one i used was meeting near a cinema so i could go to the cinema instead on a Saturday. Funny enough thay meet was a great one and i ve still not see “birds of prey” yet
I doubt there are many women who would want a first social meeting at their home! Anyone asking me to do so would be told where to go!!!
I’d rather meet potential psychos in a coffee shop instead of giving them my address!"
This exactly. I won't give out my home address without meeting socially first and always feel better knowing there are other people around. If I meet in a pub or cafe and there is a spark, attraction and connection I will invite them back. |
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To answer a few points that were raised.
Regarding meeting in a club it migh be OK if there was one close. Am I going to suggest to someone who stays 20mins away that we travel 3 and a half hours to meet for a social, I think not.
Meeting in a cafe is something I do but it's not an option for a night time meet.
Meeting in a bar is my preference for a evening meet and when it didn't happen my night was not wasted. I am an outgoing person and find it easy to speak to people I don't know and ended up having a good night anyway.
I won't meet with just anybody and had been chatting by message for a while before agreeing to a meet but it's always social first but will go further if we are compatable.
I won't meet first at either their place or mine, always somewhere there or others about. |
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"To answer a few points that were raised.
Regarding meeting in a club it migh be OK if there was one close. Am I going to suggest to someone who stays 20mins away that we travel 3 and a half hours to meet for a social, I think not.
Meeting in a cafe is something I do but it's not an option for a night time meet.
Meeting in a bar is my preference for a evening meet and when it didn't happen my night was not wasted. I am an outgoing person and find it easy to speak to people I don't know and ended up having a good night anyway.
I won't meet with just anybody and had been chatting by message for a while before agreeing to a meet but it's always social first but will go further if we are compatable.
I won't meet first at either their place or mine, always somewhere there or others about. "
You shouldn't feel the need to justify why you meet the way you meet..it's what works for you! You're not to blame if someone hasn't got the balls to go through with plans made to meet. No matter how you do first meets, be it straight to sex in the back of their Citroen, Costa at lunchtime or swingers club at midnight, there is always a risk the other person may not turn up. There really isn't any way to avoid it, a no show is a possibility when we make appointments with any other person, on Fab or off!
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"To answer a few points that were raised.
Regarding meeting in a club it migh be OK if there was one close. Am I going to suggest to someone who stays 20mins away that we travel 3 and a half hours to meet for a social, I think not.
Meeting in a cafe is something I do but it's not an option for a night time meet.
Meeting in a bar is my preference for a evening meet and when it didn't happen my night was not wasted. I am an outgoing person and find it easy to speak to people I don't know and ended up having a good night anyway.
I won't meet with just anybody and had been chatting by message for a while before agreeing to a meet but it's always social first but will go further if we are compatable.
I won't meet first at either their place or mine, always somewhere there or others about.
You shouldn't feel the need to justify why you meet the way you meet..it's what works for you! You're not to blame if someone hasn't got the balls to go through with plans made to meet. No matter how you do first meets, be it straight to sex in the back of their Citroen, Costa at lunchtime or swingers club at midnight, there is always a risk the other person may not turn up. There really isn't any way to avoid it, a no show is a possibility when we make appointments with any other person, on Fab or off!
Xxx"
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"Not having anything against the op but this is just why i dont do social meet in pub and bars. I either do it and the home (mine or theres) or a club that why i can tell right away if there wasting my time, because the geuine one meet at clubs if the can accom like myself and the not so geuine ones make up excuse and try to wiggle out and its soon very visable… ps as single guy i ve been stood up even to the point so one tried to make me wait out side there home till there husband left for work (without my knowledge).
Its just people you just need to create your own check list of verification requirement prior to socialising with that person then do so expecting to be let down and have a back up so you havent wasted your time… last one i used was meeting near a cinema so i could go to the cinema instead on a Saturday. Funny enough thay meet was a great one and i ve still not see “birds of prey” yet
I doubt there are many women who would want a first social meeting at their home! Anyone asking me to do so would be told where to go!!!
I’d rather meet potential psychos in a coffee shop instead of giving them my address!
So meet a club. Which is what is said.
Why meet at a coffee shop to just be stood up and have your time wasted? Which is exactly what happened to the op…
If you meet at a club then there the potential to meet other link mind folk or at the least some to chat to
About how shit bag your meet was from not ahowing up
Btw…can I ask why you have two accounts….just wondering?"
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"Not having anything against the op but this is just why i dont do social meet in pub and bars. I either do it and the home (mine or theres) or a club that why i can tell right away if there wasting my time, because the geuine one meet at clubs if the can accom like myself and the not so geuine ones make up excuse and try to wiggle out and its soon very visable… ps as single guy i ve been stood up even to the point so one tried to make me wait out side there home till there husband left for work (without my knowledge).
Its just people you just need to create your own check list of verification requirement prior to socialising with that person then do so expecting to be let down and have a back up so you havent wasted your time… last one i used was meeting near a cinema so i could go to the cinema instead on a Saturday. Funny enough thay meet was a great one and i ve still not see “birds of prey” yet
I doubt there are many women who would want a first social meeting at their home! Anyone asking me to do so would be told where to go!!!
I’d rather meet potential psychos in a coffee shop instead of giving them my address!
So meet a club. Which is what is said.
Why meet at a coffee shop to just be stood up and have your time wasted? Which is exactly what happened to the op…
If you meet at a club then there the potential to meet other link mind folk or at the least some to chat to
About how shit bag your meet was from not ahowing up
Btw…can I ask why you have two accounts….just wondering?
Doubles his chances of a knockback "
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