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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can you be? I mean if you looked like Brad Pitt then a lot of women would just involuntarily grab there ankles ??
But what about the other way around? If you are bald git with a "dad bod" do you have any chance?
I'm both insecure and curious ?? I have had relationships but it took time, I've never "pulled" or "had instant chemistry" with anyone.
First of tonight's many questions ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Attraction is something no one can or has fully explained ever OP, nor should it be. It’s mysterious, unpredictable and all part of the excitement  "
I was totally hoping for an easy answer ?? stupid reality, always ruining my dreams.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Casual sex is over rated. I think it’s more worthwhile to get to know a person well, find out what makes them tick and let them find out about you, then when you do meet the sex is explosive.  "
Yeah but that runs the risk.of people finding out I'm basically an emotionally unstable man child who has more issues than Cosmopolitan ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Casual sex is over rated. I think it’s more worthwhile to get to know a person well, find out what makes them tick and let them find out about you, then when you do meet the sex is explosive. "
Mind if I ask, why name yourself after part an aeroplane? |
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Not this really helps but unfortunately on fab there are shit loads of men. Therefore, no matter how good your banter is, how attractive you are, how long your knob is, there is always going to be someone better. Of course there plenty that are worse. You just have to hope the woman you are chatting to also isn't chatting to a brat pitt look alike with a massive knob and great banter! Law of averages! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not this really helps but unfortunately on fab there are shit loads of men. Therefore, no matter how good your banter is, how attractive you are, how long your knob is, there is always going to be someone better. Of course there plenty that are worse. You just have to hope the woman you are chatting to also isn't chatting to a brat pitt look alike with a massive knob and great banter! Law of averages!"
Just curious, have you encountered many well endowed Brad Pitt look alikes on here? ?? I got the feeling it was a game of averages tbh. Doesn't help I'm starting from below average mind.
I take it that the constant rejection begins to wear on sone guys hence the outbursts and juvenile/aggressive behavior? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trust me I'm no model and even I've had casual sex!
I think that while looks might grab someone's attention initially, it takes personality to hold it.
Fake it til you make it when it comes to confidence.
Also remember that people's definitions of hotness will vary. So too will people's wants, needs, hopes and aspirations for any encounter.
All you can do is be yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Trust me I'm no model and even I've had casual sex!
I think that while looks might grab someone's attention initially, it takes personality to hold it.
Fake it til you make it when it comes to confidence.
Also remember that people's definitions of hotness will vary. So too will people's wants, needs, hopes and aspirations for any encounter.
All you can do is be yourself. "
That's me screwed then ?? personality I have its confidence and looks I'm missing.
Btw, you are crazy hot! Don't put yourself down like that! If I lived closer I'd totally be stalking....err I mean contacting you!  |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Attraction is something no one can or has fully explained ever OP, nor should it be. It’s mysterious, unpredictable and all part of the excitement "
Hey OP... I think Flirt69 has a good point.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... Ever heard of that one?
I don't find Bratt Pitt in the least sexy but you're a bit of an alright...
Your bonnie lassie will come to you one day... When you're least expecting her to...
Meantime, kick back, relax and enjoy the scenery... |
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"Trust me I'm no model and even I've had casual sex!
I think that while looks might grab someone's attention initially, it takes personality to hold it.
Fake it til you make it when it comes to confidence.
Also remember that people's definitions of hotness will vary. So too will people's wants, needs, hopes and aspirations for any encounter.
All you can do is be yourself. "
Im know im not great in the looks department, im an acquired taste lol
If im being honest ,i know i totally rely on my personality which i think sees me ok. I do find it a struggle as everything is geared on intial attraction. Whether its normal dating sites, swapping face pics on fab ect. Showing my age but years ago people were more comfortable having a chat on phone ect which gave me more success. My banter is better than my looks....or in my mind it is haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Attraction is something no one can or has fully explained ever OP, nor should it be. It’s mysterious, unpredictable and all part of the excitement
Hey OP... I think Flirt69 has a good point.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... Ever heard of that one?
I don't find Bratt Pitt in the least sexy but you're a bit of an alright...
Your bonnie lassie will come to you one day... When you're least expecting her to...
Meantime, kick back, relax and enjoy the scenery..."
That's the major benefit of thid place, the scenery! I mean your mounds alone 
Seriously though thanks for the advice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Also on a side note, i dont think covid has helped anyones confidence or self esteem. Lack of any social interaction brings everyones confidence down"
I've yet to see anything covid has helped ?? |
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"Also on a side note, i dont think covid has helped anyones confidence or self esteem. Lack of any social interaction brings everyones confidence down
I've yet to see anything covid has helped ??"
Covid has helped bring out my inner antisocial personality. Fab meet or pj's and the TV..... Pj's everytime
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is always going to be vain and shallow guys and girls that just go for looks in a, profile. But they could be a hunk or a, model, but no personality.
Looks fade, personality and gsoh does not, spice is the virtually o life and can be a huge surprise |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm here for sex.
That to me is I need instant attraction.
Shallow? I do not give a toss.
If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.
It's a sex site after all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm here for sex.
That to me is I need instant attraction.
Shallow? I do not give a toss.
If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.
It's a sex site after all "
Why can't all women be that brutally honest? Sooo much easier to deal with ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was younger I very much enjoyed the chase, spit the best looking single guy in the club and pull him, my pals were always insanely jealous of my hunting skills and yet they were all much better looking than me, thing is all
I got was the thrill of the chase nothing else tbh mostly the sex was shite or worse the conversation so didn’t even get to the sex bit just got in a taxi home ! I used to be incredibly vain but it was defo not fulfilling in any way
Now for me it’s more about the chemistry that comes from the art of conversation and I’d rather go without sex than just fuxk any random and be let unsatisfied |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm here for sex.
That to me is I need instant attraction.
Shallow? I do not give a toss.
If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.
It's a sex site after all "
And this is the example where us single girls are different because the thrill of the chase for the married woman is fine because she gets to go home to her husband who knows all the buttons to press so she does get satisfied even if it’s not from the random ! Us single ladies have to rely on BOB to finish us off and some of us can’t even manage that as Bob just gets us even more frustrated |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nope, get used to forums if you want chat "
I have noticed chat flies far more freely on here, than either messages or cams.....
And it's also a lot less "desperate" ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm here for sex.
That to me is I need instant attraction.
Shallow? I do not give a toss.
If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.
It's a sex site after all
And this is the example where us single girls are different because the thrill of the chase for the married woman is fine because she gets to go home to her husband who knows all the buttons to press so she does get satisfied even if it’s not from the random ! Us single ladies have to rely on BOB to finish us off and some of us can’t even manage that as Bob just gets us even more frustrated "
Who is this BOB and how's he getting all the girls? ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When I was younger I very much enjoyed the chase, spit the best looking single guy in the club and pull him, my pals were always insanely jealous of my hunting skills and yet they were all much better looking than me, thing is all
I got was the thrill of the chase nothing else tbh mostly the sex was shite or worse the conversation so didn’t even get to the sex bit just got in a taxi home ! I used to be incredibly vain but it was defo not fulfilling in any way
Now for me it’s more about the chemistry that comes from the art of conversation and I’d rather go without sex than just fuxk any random and be let unsatisfied "
I am begining to see a distinct lack of pattern here....its almost as if all you ladie are different somehoe  |
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By *tew008Man
over a year ago
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"Nope, get used to forums if you want chat
I have noticed chat flies far more freely on here, than either messages or cams.....
And it's also a lot less "desperate" ??"
Bit more normal than a fantasy sex frenzy, yup |
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For myself expect nothing. And if that turns into something after then take it from there last time I was here I had quite a few couples and single ladies who started as friends then led to "invitations" when the urge struck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For myself expect nothing. And if that turns into something after then take it from there last time I was here I had quite a few couples and single ladies who started as friends then led to "invitations" when the urge struck "
That's the plan I'm goimg to try. Might work, might not but better than nothing and less boring ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you can’t pull in real life you’re probably highly unlikely to pull on here….
Well unless you have a vagina and are still breathing.
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Thanks for the honesty I really do appreciate it.
Well I am srill breathing and I do have a vagina.... It does still count if it's my grannies and in a jar of formaldehyde right? |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"I'm here for sex.
That to me is I need instant attraction.
Shallow? I do not give a toss.
If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.
It's a sex site after all
And this is the example where us single girls are different because the thrill of the chase for the married woman is fine because she gets to go home to her husband who knows all the buttons to press so she does get satisfied even if it’s not from the random ! Us single ladies have to rely on BOB to finish us off and some of us can’t even manage that as Bob just gets us even more frustrated
Who is this BOB and how's he getting all the girls? ??"
I’m here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm here for sex.
That to me is I need instant attraction.
Shallow? I do not give a toss.
If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.
It's a sex site after all
And this is the example where us single girls are different because the thrill of the chase for the married woman is fine because she gets to go home to her husband who knows all the buttons to press so she does get satisfied even if it’s not from the random ! Us single ladies have to rely on BOB to finish us off and some of us can’t even manage that as Bob just gets us even more frustrated
Who is this BOB and how's he getting all the girls? ??
I’m here. "
Damm! ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm here for sex.
That to me is I need instant attraction.
Shallow? I do not give a toss.
If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.
It's a sex site after all
And this is the example where us single girls are different because the thrill of the chase for the married woman is fine because she gets to go home to her husband who knows all the buttons to press so she does get satisfied even if it’s not from the random ! Us single ladies have to rely on BOB to finish us off and some of us can’t even manage that as Bob just gets us even more frustrated
Who is this BOB and how's he getting all the girls? ??
I’m here. "
Hahahaha  it’s your wit and charm that has all the women at your beck and call cough cough “bullshit”
Although Bob these days is being put aside to make way for MOB |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm here for sex.
That to me is I need instant attraction.
Shallow? I do not give a toss.
If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.
It's a sex site after all
And this is the example where us single girls are different because the thrill of the chase for the married woman is fine because she gets to go home to her husband who knows all the buttons to press so she does get satisfied even if it’s not from the random ! Us single ladies have to rely on BOB to finish us off and some of us can’t even manage that as Bob just gets us even more frustrated
Who is this BOB and how's he getting all the girls? ??
I’m here.
Hahahaha it’s your wit and charm that has all the women at your beck and call cough cough “bullshit”
Although Bob these days is being put aside to make way for MOB "
Dammit! Now there is a Bob and Mob!!!! |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"I'm here for sex.
That to me is I need instant attraction.
Shallow? I do not give a toss.
If someone fancies you they will meet you.if not move on to someone who does.
It's a sex site after all
And this is the example where us single girls are different because the thrill of the chase for the married woman is fine because she gets to go home to her husband who knows all the buttons to press so she does get satisfied even if it’s not from the random ! Us single ladies have to rely on BOB to finish us off and some of us can’t even manage that as Bob just gets us even more frustrated
Who is this BOB and how's he getting all the girls? ??
I’m here.
Hahahaha it’s your wit and charm that has all the women at your beck and call cough cough “bullshit”
Although Bob these days is being put aside to make way for MOB "
And MOB s_ands for More of Bob right? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Although Bob these days is being put aside to make way for MOB
BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend?
MOB?
Mains operated lol "
Damm that's heavy duty ?? |
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"Casual sex is over rated. I think it’s more worthwhile to get to know a person well, find out what makes them tick and let them find out about you, then when you do meet the sex is explosive. "
This sums it up for me.
I'm also putting in the effort on my appearance - I'm back out running again, trying to keep that wild lockdown mullet trimmed, trying to get a tan etc.
Not only do I look better, it's good for my confidence.
One day I might be back to meets, and while I'm not exactly 6-pack and a Coulthard chin, I'm good enough and hoping for some flirting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Trust me I'm no model and even I've had casual sex!
I think that while looks might grab someone's attention initially, it takes personality to hold it.
Fake it til you make it when it comes to confidence.
Also remember that people's definitions of hotness will vary. So too will people's wants, needs, hopes and aspirations for any encounter.
All you can do is be yourself. "
I think that while looks might grab someone's attention initially, it takes personality to hold it - Definitely this!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Casual sex is over rated. I think it’s more worthwhile to get to know a person well, find out what makes them tick and let them find out about you, then when you do meet the sex is explosive. "
Agree. Ive never had a one night stand as it just doesnt do anything for me .. sex is so much better when i know at least a bit about what works for them / us. |
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"There is always going to be vain and shallow guys and girls that just go for looks in a, profile. But they could be a hunk or a, model, but no personality.
Looks fade, personality and gsoh does not, spice is the virtually o life and can be a huge surprise "
I don't think it's fair to suggest someone is vain and shallow because physical attraction is important. For me, physical attraction is what grasps my attention, personality is what keeps it.
The way I look at it is I'm here for fun and excitement, not dating. If I were dating someone, I could afford them the time to get to know their personality and see how amazing they are, but this isn't dating, this is sex. I don't want to sleep with someone I'm not attracted to, I don't think that makes me vain or shallow. I think it shows that, just because I'm a swinger, doesn't mean I'll sleep with any Tom, Dick or Harry. |
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I read the thread title and initially thought it was going to be about the warm weather!
I think everyone has different ideas of what is 'hot' so on that basis no one isn't hot enough. It all comes down to individual preferences. I'm well aware that I'm probably not everyone's cup of tea & not everyone will be mine. I really don't think it is shallow to want to be attracted to someone you are going to be intimate with though.
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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"I read the thread title and initially thought it was going to be about the warm weather!
I think everyone has different ideas of what is 'hot' so on that basis no one isn't hot enough. It all comes down to individual preferences. I'm well aware that I'm probably not everyone's cup of tea & not everyone will be mine. I really don't think it is shallow to want to be attracted to someone you are going to be intimate with though.
K"
Exactly this. It’s not always the best looking people that you click with either. No idea where the chemistry comes from but if it’s there you can have fun and in some cases long lasting friendships too. |
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"Can you be? I mean if you looked like Brad Pitt then a lot of women would just involuntarily grab there ankles ??
But what about the other way around? If you are bald git with a "dad bod" do you have any chance?
I'm both insecure and curious ?? I have had relationships but it took time, I've never "pulled" or "had instant chemistry" with anyone.
First of tonight's many questions ??"
I’m in the dad bod / hair category… Have done alright when out and about (pre covid) but have became massively scunnered with the hoops needing jumped through on here. The real ones will find me, I’ve nothing to hide. |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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"There is always going to be vain and shallow guys and girls that just go for looks in a, profile. But they could be a hunk or a, model, but no personality.
Looks fade, personality and gsoh does not, spice is the virtually o life and can be a huge surprise "
I really dislike these types of replies. Why is it vain or shallow to want to have sex with someone you are attracted to? It doesn’t matter if the bloke has the best personality in the world if I don’t fancy him I am not getting physical with him. One persons hot is another persons not so I’m sure there is someone for everyone on here. |
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"There is always going to be vain and shallow guys and girls that just go for looks in a, profile. But they could be a hunk or a, model, but no personality.
Looks fade, personality and gsoh does not, spice is the virtually o life and can be a huge surprise
I really dislike these types of replies. Why is it vain or shallow to want to have sex with someone you are attracted to? It doesn’t matter if the bloke has the best personality in the world if I don’t fancy him I am not getting physical with him. One persons hot is another persons not so I’m sure there is someone for everyone on here. "
Yes! Thank you. I hate when the shallow card is played. No, it's not shallow, it's attraction xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab is somewhere I come onto once in a while, if you aren’t confident this isn’t the place for you. Misconception that you will find something. No chance now it seems like there are 20men to 1woman don’t forget it’s a swingers site. Don’t get down if you fail on here |
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