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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My daughter turns 16 this week and is having a house party tonight, I will be upstairs to make sure nothing gets out of hand, but what do I do about alcohol? Do I get lagers and cider in? Do I inform parents there will be alcohol there? When I was 16 I was going up town to "the dancing" but what I did at that age was in the 80's and I did it on the fly, I would really appreciate some feed back on this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My daughter turns 16 this week and is having a house party tonight, I will be upstairs to make sure nothing gets out of hand, but what do I do about alcohol? Do I get lagers and cider in? Do I inform parents there will be alcohol there? When I was 16 I was going up town to "the dancing" but what I did at that age was in the 80's and I did it on the fly, I would really appreciate some feed back on this "
Let her have some say in what happens as she will have attended 1 and know the score.. and you will score great Dad points.. try and remain.. out of the way.. and remind her if she needs u you are there.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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good luck  the thing you need to watch out for is people turning up that weren`t invited, we had sons 18th last month 54 people in house and when the kids turned up you thought i was opening a pub lol but had few adults around to make sure nothing got out of hand and one at the door just to check they were on the list before being allowed in,  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im taking all answers on board, think I need to realize my wee baby is growing up lol, the Malibu punch sounds good, I'll think of an exotic name for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My daughter turns 16 soon and I do let her have the odd Bacardi breezer with me. However hmmm dunno if would let it be an alcohol party when only 16. Could piss a few parents off. It's tricky as don't want her to get slagged for it being a smartie party but end of day they are underage and if anyone gets wind of it you could get into bother. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My daughter turns 16 soon and I do let her have the odd Bacardi breezer with me. However hmmm dunno if would let it be an alcohol party when only 16. Could piss a few parents off. It's tricky as don't want her to get slagged for it being a smartie party but end of day they are underage and if anyone gets wind of it you could get into bother. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Decided im only buying soft drinks as I wouldn't be happy if she went to a party and came back d*unk, some parents have called to ask if it's ok for their kids to bring some, I said was up to them but no crates and no spirits allowed, my daughter quite happy with that as she has been at parties where house was trashed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Make up some cool punch and cocktails tho. With fruity syrups ie strawberry kiwi orange and mix with lemonade and fruit juice looks fab. Can get some great ideas if you google non alcoholic cocktails. Sugar round rim of glass wee umbrella and sparklers and away ye go. Kids will love them. X |
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I think if you allow kids to have a sociable drink in the company of adults they then appreciate it more and are less likely to go behind your back, My parents always allowed me to have a glass of wine when they had one and i was encouraged to try different things, on the 2 occasions that i did go out and get d*unk i was made to clean up my mess the next morning and that put me off drinking like that for a while!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can also buy alcohol free bubbly from asda. Called muskat and pops like real champers. Brill and only couple of quid a bottle. Really looks the part x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I would stick to cocktails with little alchol and alcho-pops with low alchol.... Stick low alchol beer in jugs.... The less they know and all that lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's tricky tho jands. Some parents don't want their kids to drink any alcohol no matter if low volume or not. To save any kuffufle and cause any grievances ( which as we know you always get one) best to make it alcohol free. Just my wee opinion x |
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Hate to be a party pooper, but with the changes in the law, it is an offence to supply minors with alcohol even at a party. It is getting more and more difficult to even help kids be sensible about alcohol.  |
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My daughter had her 16th Birthday party at a venue, and they had designed special "mocktails" which were non alcoholic, but my daughter and her friends loved the idea of being grown up etc.. Xx C xX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At 16, I think alcohol can be given, but only under supervision, with parental conscent and providing the party goers go directly home afterwards and not hang about the streets.
Kicking about upstairs may be out of the equation in that case, plus as someone else pointed out, maybe a few other adults just to ensure of keeping out gatecrashers! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldnt allow alchohol at all! And if I knew my daughter was at a party where the parents had supplied alchohol I would take it further x"
education about alcohol works better than prohibition imo
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By *__KMan
over a year ago
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I remember my 16th was full of sex. Rather, me and my at the time girlfriend spending the whole day in bed. Alcohol didn't enter my life 'til I was 17. But kids today are weird. I don't think a few drinks would be that bad. |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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"I wouldnt allow alchohol at all! And if I knew my daughter was at a party where the parents had supplied alchohol I would take it further x education about alcohol works better than prohibition imo"
they should be educated enough to know its an offence (the parents that is)! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think if you allow kids to have a sociable drink in the company of adults they then appreciate it more and are less likely to go behind your back, My parents always allowed me to have a glass of wine when they had one and i was encouraged to try different things, on the 2 occasions that i did go out and get d*unk i was made to clean up my mess the next morning and that put me off drinking like that for a while!!! "
Ditto My 2 were the same never seen them d*unk :  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldnt allow alchohol at all! And if I knew my daughter was at a party where the parents had supplied alchohol I would take it further x education about alcohol works better than prohibition imo
they should be educated enough to know its an offence (the parents that is)!"
Well, that's not entirely correct, teenagers are permitted to drink alcohol in the home, there is no law against that, a quick google will take you to directgov website and will confirm that! |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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no I think you are mistaken, I was talking about my daughter attending a party at someone elses house and been given alcohol without my knowledge ... that was infact what the OP was referring to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well the op did ask about alcohol and asking or informing the other parents, and I did say with parental consent, so im not so sure why you're getting a wee bit upset with that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wad simply pointing out that educating your children works far better that just ignoring it, better to be open with them then they don't feel they need to hide stuff from their parents.
My opinion, granted, but I am entitled to have one, just, as you are! |
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Just make sure that she doesn't advertise it on Facebook or any other social media. Have a guest list and enough adults to make sure nothing gets out of hand.
Correct about the wine and spirits and be firm if anyone is obviously getting pished. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no I think you are mistaken, I was talking about my daughter attending a party at someone elses house and been given alcohol without my knowledge ... that was infact what the OP was referring to. "
do you think your kids are not going to drink behind your back ? with or wothout your permission i dont know anyone that didn`t do it, and as to the fact of giving them drink he asked for some suggestions but as the saying goes you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink lol |
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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago
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My 17 yr old has been at a few parties at friends and with the girls mums permission and that of the other parents we sent them there with 2 alcopops each and they were fine. Adult supervision at the actual party to ensure no drink spiking and any other "activities" and she should have a great party! |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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"no I think you are mistaken, I was talking about my daughter attending a party at someone elses house and been given alcohol without my knowledge ... that was infact what the OP was referring to.
do you think your kids are not going to drink behind your back ? with or wothout your permission i dont know anyone that didn`t do it, and as to the fact of giving them drink he asked for some suggestions but as the saying goes you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink lol"
... not really sure of the can lead a horse to water comment ... we were asked for our suggestions, mine was given; I didnt drink behind my parent back so now you know someone who didnt, perhaps I would have will never know but my friend died at a party (that I didnt attend), choked to death in the bath when he was 15 years old after drinking with alcohol supplied by the birthday girls parents. I really do not wish to say anything else on the subject, perhaps it would be easier to accept we have have different opinions and not to worry so much about what others were. |
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"no I think you are mistaken, I was talking about my daughter attending a party at someone elses house and been given alcohol without my knowledge ... that was infact what the OP was referring to.
do you think your kids are not going to drink behind your back ? with or wothout your permission i dont know anyone that didn`t do it, and as to the fact of giving them drink he asked for some suggestions but as the saying goes you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink lol
... not really sure of the can lead a horse to water comment ... we were asked for our suggestions, mine was given; I didnt drink behind my parent back so now you know someone who didnt, perhaps I would have will never know but my friend died at a party (that I didnt attend), choked to death in the bath when he was 15 years old after drinking with alcohol supplied by the birthday girls parents. I really do not wish to say anything else on the subject, perhaps it would be easier to accept we have have different opinions and not to worry so much about what others were."
I never d*unk till my 18th Birthday as i respected my parents to much to go behind their backs . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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She had a great time, no alcohol supplied by me, a few boys brought some beers that their parents had given them, no wild night just music, dancing and a good laugh, thanks for comments and drink ideas |
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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago
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when my son was 17 he used to go to a house where the guy was an alcoholic who had loads of teenagers in his house and supplied alcohol. One night after a fight in said house the police were called I complained about him giving the kids alcohol , apparantly its only illegal to buy it for them but if ur in ur own home and they are over 14 there is no law broken. I couldnt believe it and i hope the law has changed since then. |
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