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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
*sigh*
Google ‘ethical unicorn hunting’. Do a bit of reading and look into why the largest demographic for women on here isn’t meeting you.
Single bisexual women aren’t rare, they’re not mythical, I can’t move for tripping over one! So why are they considered elusive? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Those looking for 'unicorns' (hate the term personally) fall into two general categories.
Those where she will be as important an element of any interaction and they're looking as much to ensure she has a good time as they do.
And those looking for a performing seal to entertain and turn on the husband.
The former often have less problems finding company than the latter.......
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Something I've noticed and this is just an observation nothing more, is that single men are often required to jump through any number of hoops to join a couple and fit exactly with their dynamic rather than it being a three way thing but with single women it's the other way around |
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over a year ago
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"Something I've noticed and this is just an observation nothing more, is that single men are often required to jump through any number of hoops to join a couple and fit exactly with their dynamic rather than it being a three way thing but with single women it's the other way around "
We know why that is. They might not like the answer, but we know  |
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"Something I've noticed and this is just an observation nothing more, is that single men are often required to jump through any number of hoops to join a couple and fit exactly with their dynamic rather than it being a three way thing but with single women it's the other way around
We know why that is. They might not like the answer, but we know "
Lol I don't think it's *just* that |
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"Something I've noticed and this is just an observation nothing more, is that single men are often required to jump through any number of hoops to join a couple and fit exactly with their dynamic rather than it being a three way thing but with single women it's the other way around "
I think that's an accurate observation: from years of experience on here as a couple. Not that we made guys jump through hoops, they were just accustomed to it. And with single women it would be as you say at times. |
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"Those looking for 'unicorns' (hate the term personally) fall into two general categories.
Those where she will be as important an element of any interaction and they're looking as much to ensure she has a good time as they do.
And those looking for a performing seal to entertain and turn on the husband.
The former often have less problems finding company than the latter.......
A"
I've been approached mostly by the latter and also had a bad experience with a jealous female so I've given up exploring that side of me. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Something I've noticed and this is just an observation nothing more, is that single men are often required to jump through any number of hoops to join a couple and fit exactly with their dynamic rather than it being a three way thing but with single women it's the other way around
We know why that is. They might not like the answer, but we know
Lol I don't think it's *just* that "
I'm going to throw a hand grenade in here and just say that I think that's down two two things.
Women knowing their worth more and not being so desperate to get a meet that they'll bend to every whim a potential meet has.
Certainly my/our experience over the last 15 years.
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I think what the op is looking for is rare but there are women who like to put on a show. They're often in couples though and if you're happy to have another guy just watching they're easier to find |
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"Something I've noticed and this is just an observation nothing more, is that single men are often required to jump through any number of hoops to join a couple and fit exactly with their dynamic rather than it being a three way thing but with single women it's the other way around
We know why that is. They might not like the answer, but we know
Lol I don't think it's *just* that
I'm going to throw a hand grenade in here and just say that I think that's down two two things.
Women knowing their worth more and not being so desperate to get a meet that they'll bend to every whim a potential meet has.
Certainly my/our experience over the last 15 years.
A"
I don't think that's a hand grenade I think it's probably one of the reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couple here looking for that elusive single female.
We can travel to a hotel and accommodate.
Details of specifics on profile.
Message privately if u are interested. "
Specifics on your profile sound entirely like a fantasy designed to give enjoyment to predominantly the pair of you... Fair enough! But I doubt you'll find many women snapping up the offer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Something I've noticed and this is just an observation nothing more, is that single men are often required to jump through any number of hoops to join a couple and fit exactly with their dynamic rather than it being a three way thing but with single women it's the other way around
We know why that is. They might not like the answer, but we know
Lol I don't think it's *just* that
I'm going to throw a hand grenade in here and just say that I think that's down two two things.
Women knowing their worth more and not being so desperate to get a meet that they'll bend to every whim a potential meet has.
Certainly my/our experience over the last 15 years.
A"
I think that's true, but it also shows that couples can be no less than men when it comes to their approach to women on here. A hole's a hole and they're not fussed about which woman joins them because they're grateful regardless. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Something I've noticed and this is just an observation nothing more, is that single men are often required to jump through any number of hoops to join a couple and fit exactly with their dynamic rather than it being a three way thing but with single women it's the other way around
We know why that is. They might not like the answer, but we know
Lol I don't think it's *just* that
I'm going to throw a hand grenade in here and just say that I think that's down two two things.
Women knowing their worth more and not being so desperate to get a meet that they'll bend to every whim a potential meet has.
Certainly my/our experience over the last 15 years.
A
I don't think that's a hand grenade I think it's probably one of the reasons. "
I classed as such because generally whenever I've posted that view I've been decryed by some men saying I'm putting them down.
Which, given we onky meet single guys is ironic. We've always looked for men who place as much importance in what we can offer them as they us. Any encounter is for mutual benefit, not to satisfy some urge we have, fulfill our wishes and for them to be used as a means to an end.
Hence we're choosy and hope that anyone that would meet us is too. We have boundaries and limits and there are certain dynamics we enjoy, but would never expect anyone to bend their own boundaries or lower their standards just to meet. It's not just about 'us'and what we want. It's about them too. They're a person, not a tool or a plaything.
This is generally the difference I/we see between how some approach things and how they 'advertise' what they're looking for in a meet. And often explains why they struggle.
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"Something I've noticed and this is just an observation nothing more, is that single men are often required to jump through any number of hoops to join a couple and fit exactly with their dynamic rather than it being a three way thing but with single women it's the other way around
We know why that is. They might not like the answer, but we know
Lol I don't think it's *just* that
I'm going to throw a hand grenade in here and just say that I think that's down two two things.
Women knowing their worth more and not being so desperate to get a meet that they'll bend to every whim a potential meet has.
Certainly my/our experience over the last 15 years.
A
I don't think that's a hand grenade I think it's probably one of the reasons.
I classed as such because generally whenever I've posted that view I've been decryed by some men saying I'm putting them down.
Which, given we onky meet single guys is ironic. We've always looked for men who place as much importance in what we can offer them as they us. Any encounter is for mutual benefit, not to satisfy some urge we have, fulfill our wishes and for them to be used as a means to an end.
Hence we're choosy and hope that anyone that would meet us is too. We have boundaries and limits and there are certain dynamics we enjoy, but would never expect anyone to bend their own boundaries or lower their standards just to meet. It's not just about 'us'and what we want. It's about them too. They're a person, not a tool or a plaything.
This is generally the difference I/we see between how some approach things and how they 'advertise' what they're looking for in a meet. And often explains why they struggle.
A"
That's very much our attitude. |
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I'm not a performing seal for those who seek unicorns.. The amount of times I've been asked can my man watch if I play alone with a female.
Honestly some people cannot fathom the word *alone*.
I'm more poly than unicorn. It's more freeing that way. |
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"Something I've noticed and this is just an observation nothing more, is that single men are often required to jump through any number of hoops to join a couple and fit exactly with their dynamic rather than it being a three way thing but with single women it's the other way around
We know why that is. They might not like the answer, but we know
Lol I don't think it's *just* that
I'm going to throw a hand grenade in here and just say that I think that's down two two things.
Women knowing their worth more and not being so desperate to get a meet that they'll bend to every whim a potential meet has.
Certainly my/our experience over the last 15 years.
A
I think that's true, but it also shows that couples can be no less than men when it comes to their approach to women on here. A hole's a hole and they're not fussed about which woman joins them because they're grateful regardless."
I think that’s a huge generalisation for men and women, not to mention couples.
Being an man doesn’t mean that being derogatory towards other men will elevate your status.
If you think about a couple then they add people into an already formed relationship not having to start one in the first place. I would argue that a couple can actually be more selective of who they choose to enter that relationship
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Something I've noticed and this is just an observation nothing more, is that single men are often required to jump through any number of hoops to join a couple and fit exactly with their dynamic rather than it being a three way thing but with single women it's the other way around
We know why that is. They might not like the answer, but we know
Lol I don't think it's *just* that
I'm going to throw a hand grenade in here and just say that I think that's down two two things.
Women knowing their worth more and not being so desperate to get a meet that they'll bend to every whim a potential meet has.
Certainly my/our experience over the last 15 years.
A
I think that's true, but it also shows that couples can be no less than men when it comes to their approach to women on here. A hole's a hole and they're not fussed about which woman joins them because they're grateful regardless.
I think that’s a huge generalisation for men and women, not to mention couples.
Being an man doesn’t mean that being derogatory towards other men will elevate your status.
If you think about a couple then they add people into an already formed relationship not having to start one in the first place. I would argue that a couple can actually be more selective of who they choose to enter that relationship
Marc "
Sorry, some couples, some men. Does that clear up the generalisation?
In addition to that, I wasn't being derogatory towards all other other, just some and sure as shit don't need it to "elevate my status" as I couldn't give a single rat's arse about my status on a swinger's website of all things.
And finally, we aren't talking about the couple in relation to who they let in, but the different requirements for men and women. |
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I think it's hard for all sides when finding a "unicorn" (single bi woman). When I first started, my focus was on making sure the couple was comfortable as they have the relationship together and my ps5 has never not wanted me back.
I found though that it becomes more like a "performing monkey" act. I think if couples were more clear, it would be easier. Not everyone is looking for the same thing with a single woman. And some women will want different dynamics. I personally loved the initial wham bam with a couple and that was that. Some couples treated me like royalty. I've changed now for more of a mutual friendship thing.
I've had the best luck in clubs. Found some amazing couples where it is a mutual passionate meet and it's great. I'd highly recommend going to clubs. It's easier than over message to convey what everyone wants and to form that connection. |
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Sigh..
So many judgemental negative comments
We are on a swinger site
I want another female to have fun with
I want my partner to watch
If that offends people then so be it
If the word unicorn offends ,so be it.
We are here for fun not to be judged .
Not forcing ourselves on anyone
Not wanting a performing monkey
You either are interested or not.
Blimey so many overthinkers who drain the joy out of everything. |
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Not rare at all. I don't mind the term unicorn. I have played that role many times and had a wonderful time. I wouldn't do it on a private meet. Have you tried clubs ? Most of them have single lady and couple nights. |
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"Not rare at all. I don't mind the term unicorn. I have played that role many times and had a wonderful time. I wouldn't do it on a private meet. Have you tried clubs ? Most of them have single lady and couple nights."
Yes we have several times at the attic but wanted something outside of a club now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What's in it for the woman?
Not much I’d say 
Me..
And I get her.
Pretty easy response.
And my partner gets to watch."
Not having a dig, but I think you may need to rethink your approach OP. If a single guy said that a woman should meet them because they get him out of it, he'd get pelters! If a woman were to join you, why should they join you over the numerous other couples looking for a single woman to join them? What's your selling point and what can you offer them that would entice them to join you? Just some food for thought  |
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Proud straight unicorn...
I only play with the husband if he can't satisfy and stay hard and please one woman fully before thinking he deserves two women he's not for me.. I prefer us to have fun utilizing him and not each other... I'm not there for his lesbian fantasy or for his bi gf/partner to fulfill her freebie lesbian cheat session..
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By *riladeCouple
over a year ago
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Polyamorous couple here... I wouldn't use the term 'unicorn'. It means single, so an outsider in your relationship with no aftercare. Also I wouldn't try to find a girl online. There are many all-out bisexual or curious girls in clubs and pubs who are keen to try new things. Girls on fab and other dating platforms think of themselves as some sort of a reward as they get hundreds of messages a day.... |
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"Polyamorous couple here... I wouldn't use the term 'unicorn'. It means single, so an outsider in your relationship with no aftercare. Also I wouldn't try to find a girl online. There are many all-out bisexual or curious girls in clubs and pubs who are keen to try new things. Girls on fab and other dating platforms think of themselves as some sort of a reward as they get hundreds of messages a day...."
Have to agree with this. We actually find dating apps better to approach people than on here. |
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