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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago
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I get this very often, people messaging me with derogatory comments , Does get me down at times and when I’m feeling low and someone messages me it really does make me feel like deleting my account at times xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I genuinely believe it’s that little devil on their shoulder, often brought on by rejection and the perception that you have something they don’t.
Take a deep breath, and remember you’ve got intelligence, decency and a great body  |
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"I genuinely believe it’s that little devil on their shoulder, often brought on by rejection and the perception that you have something they don’t.
Take a deep breath, and remember you’ve got intelligence, decency and a great body "
it's not me I'm talking about but thank you,I do appreciate that x |
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"It’s just like real life. People judge. Many think they’re superior. Some believe their way is the only way. A few are simply curious  "
I can judge if something is for me or not without prejudice.
And I understand curiosity..I just dislike the superior attitude x |
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I’d wager that embittered jealousy would in all probability account for the vast majority of unsolicited messages exclusively showcasing profile critiques.
It says a great deal more about the sender than it does regarding the receivers profile in most cases. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people feel the need to comment on other's profiles negatively?
I honestly don't get it...move a long if it isn't for you. Live and let live "
I love you |
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They do it to make themselves feel better about their sad little lives usually as they have far too much time on their hands and get worked up over those who are busy enjoying themselves.
Keep doing your fun stuff as it's the biggest wind up for the sad little twats with their useless comments |
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"They do it to make themselves feel better about their sad little lives usually as they have far too much time on their hands and get worked up over those who are busy enjoying themselves.
Keep doing your fun stuff as it's the biggest wind up for the sad little twats with their useless comments "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people feel the need to comment on other's profiles negatively?
I honestly don't get it...move a long if it isn't for you. Live and let live "
Because online everyone can be a critic and a lot of people forget that, at the other end of the screen is a human being.
They don’t see as what they see as a bad thing, more constructive and if the other person doesn’t like it, it’s up to them.
People very quickly forget about endearment and feelings when they’re not saying something to someone’s face.
If people were as arrogant, rude, angry and opinionated in real life as they were online, they might find a slap in the chips offends. |
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"It’s just like real life. People judge. Many think they’re superior. Some believe their way is the only way. A few are simply curious "
Don’t forget bonkers, some are bonkers. I’m not, I’ve got all my marbles, I keep them in box in the middle drawer in the garage next to the locks that don’t have any keys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can get misunderstandings in online speak but out and out criticism is not right. It doesn't bother me as I think it says more about the person saying it than you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think the main issue is that some people don't see the internet as "real" and there are no consequences.
Also Iv noticed that as soon as one person comments negatively then others soon jump on the bandwagon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the main issue is that some people don't see the internet as "real" and there are no consequences.
Also Iv noticed that as soon as one person comments negatively then others soon jump on the bandwagon. "
Totally agree with this. If people can’t be nice then just shut up and go to another forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The ones who do my head in are those who comment negatively, then when you comment on theirs in the same way they, and justifiably, they get all stroppy, report you to admin and get you banned! If you can't take it...don't give it!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the main issue is that some people don't see the internet as "real" and there are no consequences.
Also Iv noticed that as soon as one person comments negatively then others soon jump on the bandwagon.
Totally agree with this. If people can’t be nice then just shut up and go to another forum. "
I agree. I'm always up for healthy debate and it's healthy to disagree and put across your point of view but there is no need for personal attacks and digs. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I think the main issue is that some people don't see the internet as "real" and there are no consequences.
Also Iv noticed that as soon as one person comments negatively then others soon jump on the bandwagon.
Totally agree with this. If people can’t be nice then just shut up and go to another forum. "
Sometimes the right things to say isn't always the nice thing to say. Being nice to keep people happy and avoiding the negative is not healthy. It actually discourages discussion and learning opportunities to be missed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the main issue is that some people don't see the internet as "real" and there are no consequences.
Also Iv noticed that as soon as one person comments negatively then others soon jump on the bandwagon.
Totally agree with this. If people can’t be nice then just shut up and go to another forum.
Sometimes the right things to say isn't always the nice thing to say. Being nice to keep people happy and avoiding the negative is not healthy. It actually discourages discussion and learning opportunities to be missed. "
I'm not saying we all have be sweetness and light but there is a way of strongly disagreeing or being offended without being an arsehole. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I think the main issue is that some people don't see the internet as "real" and there are no consequences.
Also Iv noticed that as soon as one person comments negatively then others soon jump on the bandwagon.
Totally agree with this. If people can’t be nice then just shut up and go to another forum.
Sometimes the right things to say isn't always the nice thing to say. Being nice to keep people happy and avoiding the negative is not healthy. It actually discourages discussion and learning opportunities to be missed.
I'm not saying we all have be sweetness and light but there is a way of strongly disagreeing or being offended without being an arsehole. "
Which is why I quoted him and not you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the main issue is that some people don't see the internet as "real" and there are no consequences.
Also Iv noticed that as soon as one person comments negatively then others soon jump on the bandwagon.
Totally agree with this. If people can’t be nice then just shut up and go to another forum.
Sometimes the right things to say isn't always the nice thing to say. Being nice to keep people happy and avoiding the negative is not healthy. It actually discourages discussion and learning opportunities to be missed.
I'm not saying we all have be sweetness and light but there is a way of strongly disagreeing or being offended without being an arsehole.
Which is why I quoted him and not you. "
Just making my point |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the main issue is that some people don't see the internet as "real" and there are no consequences.
Also Iv noticed that as soon as one person comments negatively then others soon jump on the bandwagon.
Totally agree with this. If people can’t be nice then just shut up and go to another forum.
Sometimes the right things to say isn't always the nice thing to say. Being nice to keep people happy and avoiding the negative is not healthy. It actually discourages discussion and learning opportunities to be missed. "
I think most important above all is not what you say, but WHY you say it.... ....helping a friend with some difficult truth Vs belittling an unknown for your own gain.... ....innit |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do people feel the need to comment on other's profiles negatively?
I honestly don't get it...move a long if it isn't for you. Live and let live "
Most often they've been rejected a few too many times for their ego to cope with and that next person is the dumpling ground for the shit they have kept under lock inside. It's subjective and rarely has any objectivity to it. Good way of sorting block material without having to look deeper. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think maybe some people think they are helping, and are trying to give constructive criticism, and some people have self esteem issues and it makes them feel better.
It's sad, but not necessarily done to be deliberately cruel.
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"I often get told I shouldn't be using fab
Not sure on the basis of inforamtion that opinion is formed on
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I’ve been told in a club recently I need a boyfriend! How can someone say that when they don’t know me? |
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"Do people feel the need to comment on other's profiles negatively?
I honestly don't get it...move a long if it isn't for you. Live and let live
Human nature I guess x
How’s you?"
I'm good thanks...I'm at work. You ok? x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I honestly can't believe that people actually take time out of their day to message people they have no interest in meeting. It's a bit sad if you ask me. "
They only thing I can think of is they fancy the person and get frustrated when they realise they don't fit what the person is looking for.
It's so unnecessary though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I honestly can't believe that people actually take time out of their day to message people they have no interest in meeting. It's a bit sad if you ask me. "
Not only this, but I don't actually think they actually feel any better for saying what they do? It's a downward spiral unfortunately. |
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"I often get told I shouldn't be using fab
Not sure on the basis of inforamtion that opinion is formed on
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Oh yes you should!
Unfortunately people don’t have a reason for being horrible, they’re just horrible people. |
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Oh god I've had more than one randomer message me out of the blue to tell me why they don't fancy me (normally it's that I'm too fat for them).
Tempting as it is to point out that I've never spoken to them, much less offered myself to them, I normally keep my mouth shut, delete and block.
There's enough negativity in these people's lives, I don't need to add to it.
I don't get why people bother OP, but some people just enjoy pissing on other people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I honestly can't believe that people actually take time out of their day to message people they have no interest in meeting. It's a bit sad if you ask me. "
I've messaged people about advice, clubs and forum topics, so it can be done. They've all threatened to chop my balls off but you cant have everything  |
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"Oh god I've had more than one randomer message me out of the blue to tell me why they don't fancy me (normally it's that I'm too fat for them).
Tempting as it is to point out that I've never spoken to them, much less offered myself to them, I normally keep my mouth shut, delete and block.
There's enough negativity in these people's lives, I don't need to add to it.
I don't get why people bother OP, but some people just enjoy pissing on other people."
'There's enough negativity in these people's lives, I don't need to add to it'
I think this says so much and is a great attitude
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh god I've had more than one randomer message me out of the blue to tell me why they don't fancy me (normally it's that I'm too fat for them).
Tempting as it is to point out that I've never spoken to them, much less offered myself to them, I normally keep my mouth shut, delete and block.
There's enough negativity in these people's lives, I don't need to add to it.
I don't get why people bother OP, but some people just enjoy pissing on other people.
'There's enough negativity in these people's lives, I don't need to add to it'
I think this says so much and is a great attitude
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Your profile is too damn sexy!
Wait, is that a criticism? |
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I think I need to clarify. I don't get a lot of negativity but I see it for other people and I really dislike it. I don't know what makes people think they can be hurtful and it's ok to be so.
If someone is suffering from low self esteem it
can be really damaging
or being just plain rude, either way I find it really distasteful.
I had a bee in my bonnet when I wrote the post.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dunno.
I only absorb positive messages.
Like the ones that say how beautiful my bottom is and how they’d like to make love to me.
Sometimes I even get messaged by girls as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the main issue is that some people don't see the internet as "real" and there are no consequences.
Also Iv noticed that as soon as one person comments negatively then others soon jump on the bandwagon.
Totally agree with this. If people can’t be nice then just shut up and go to another forum.
Sometimes the right things to say isn't always the nice thing to say. Being nice to keep people happy and avoiding the negative is not healthy. It actually discourages discussion and learning opportunities to be missed. "
There’s a difference between giving constructive criticism and trying to belittle someone. |
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"Dunno.
I only absorb positive messages.
Like the ones that say how beautiful my bottom is and how they’d like to make love to me.
Sometimes I even get messaged by girls as well."
Tis indeed a beautiful arse  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of people have opinions... unfortunately.
I try to take the bad with the good, though it depends on what mood I happen to be in at the time.
Likely the same as everyone else. Lol |
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