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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really. I guess it depends on the context though, I'm often jealous when my friend sends me photos of her relaxing in her hot tub drinking wine while I'm wrestling 2 narky kids and trying to get them to behave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not n any way shape or form and never have been in any part of my life ... even tried to make myself decades ago because everyone else does hahahahahahahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was scared i was gonna be jealous, didnt think id like sharing. He thought he was only gonna get to watch the first time we ever met anyone. haha. I was gagging to let another woman loose on him. I love watching another woman enjoy my man. Its hot |
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"I was scared i was gonna be jealous, didnt think id like sharing. He thought he was only gonna get to watch the first time we ever met anyone. haha. I was gagging to let another woman loose on him. I love watching another woman enjoy my man. Its hot "
This is really awesome to hear and thanks for sharing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t ever recall feeling jealous, but sometimes feel mildly envious. Only once have I felt a sickening level of envy and never wish to feel that again. Any sign of it in future and I’ll give my head a wobble. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Jealous vs Envy - the two are often misplaced emotions
I’m not known for harbouring jealous tendencies and it’s a disaster waiting to happen when it encroaches in NSA  "
Indeed, but it's important to acknowledge the difference between jealousy and envy - the former can be quite brutal and ugly, the latter less so.
In fact I think feelings of envy can be quite healthy if you manage them correctly, and to some degree are inevitable even where NSA is involved. The my though is how you manage those feelings, whether they be jealousy or envy, when they do happen - let them overcome you and control you and it definitely is a disaster in the making - recognise them for what they are and use them to better understand yourself and they're something different entirely. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not really. I guess it depends on the context though, I'm often jealous when my friend sends me photos of her relaxing in her hot tub drinking wine while I'm wrestling 2 narky kids and trying to get them to behave. "
Love it. |
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"Jealous of the fab men who get all the meets"
This, to a certain extent.
I'm more envious of men who know how to talk to women, because at the age of almost 47 I STILL haven't a clue. As sobe of the replies I've had to sent messages will confirm.... :-/
Or, to be more accurate, I don't know how to talk to women I find attractive and lead the conversation round to things going further. Normal conversation is fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jealousy has no place in swinging.. At all, ever..
As a younger guy, I suffered a little with it... I think most people at one time or another has experienced it.
Swinging completely changed all that for me and I felt so relieved as a result.. Its a foul emotion..
I just don't think (although I've seen it in clubs) a couple who are supposed to love each other and be swingers.. Should be swinging if there is even a sniff of it in the air..
I view swinging couples as a pair who love each other more deeply than your average vanilla couple.. Because they swing..because both get off on seeing each other pleasured by partners outside their relationship.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope. But I've encountered jealousy and possessiveness over me from a man. I didn't like it and turned out he wasn't as exclusive as he said he was and had asked of me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I could be classed as jealous in relationships, but in fact I’m just exceedingly territorial.
My irrational behaviour is very low key and I’ve yet to be caught when tailing a guy 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you a jealous person ?"
No, I can't be bothered with that crap, I just walk the other way and carry on and do what I do. Such a waste of time and energy bring jealous. |
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"Occasionally. But I try to face and work on my flaws, where I can, rather than deny they exist and have them blow up in my face
That obviously because you're awesome. Live and learn.  "
Lol! I don't like explosions. I learn to mostly avoid them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can be quite jealous at times, I’m very happy to admit it. But I think good communication solves that.
I don’t like it when people claim they’re not when actually their actions say otherwise. I like transparency and good communication. |
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"I can be quite jealous at times, I’m very happy to admit it. But I think good communication solves that.
I don’t like it when people claim they’re not when actually their actions say otherwise. I like transparency and good communication. "
Yes. I think it best to communicate and mitigate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. But I've encountered jealousy and possessiveness over me from a man. I didn't like it and turned out he wasn't as exclusive as he said he was and had asked of me. "
not from Holland was he  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep 
But I find ways to manage it
How to you manage it? "
Badly  . Seriously though with trust and communication it can easily be managed. My jealousy rears its head when I am kept in the dark or people are vague with me or hide things |
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"Yep
But I find ways to manage it
How to you manage it?
Badly . Seriously though with trust and communication it can easily be managed. My jealousy rears its head when I am kept in the dark or people are vague with me or hide things "
I find some dyads make my feelings easier or harder to manage. The harder ones invariably crash and burn. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope. But I've encountered jealousy and possessiveness over me from a man. I didn't like it and turned out he wasn't as exclusive as he said he was and had asked of me. "
Exactly this. I wasn't jealous about him seeing others, but I was bloody angry abut the hypocrisy
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Not jealous, not territorial, I just can't be arsed with any of that.
I am ridiculously envious of very specific things, but that's a different thing to me. I'm envious of someone's talent, or their level of self-belief. I don't want to take it from them though, I'm genuinely glad for them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First party I went to with my ex-fiance, I was really worried that I would freak out seeing him fucking someone else .... but no! I loved it! Still enjoy watching fwb's with other people - it's a real thrill knowing what the other person is getting and how good it is! You cant live this lifestyle if you are a jealous person. You would implode! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope. But I've encountered jealousy and possessiveness over me from a man. I didn't like it and turned out he wasn't as exclusive as he said he was and had asked of me.
Exactly this. I wasn't jealous about him seeing others, but I was bloody angry abut the hypocrisy
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I know exactly how you feel! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. But I've encountered jealousy and possessiveness over me from a man. I didn't like it and turned out he wasn't as exclusive as he said he was and had asked of me.
Exactly this. I wasn't jealous about him seeing others, but I was bloody angry abut the hypocrisy
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You really cannot expect honesty on here. Some people really get off on telling their partners they are exclusive, when for them the whole thrill of this is fucking others behind their partners backs. It always ends in tears - but if you expect honesty they are likely to be yours. Take everything with a huge pinch of salt. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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I'm not a jealous person but I am human so I can sometimes (very very rarely) experience something along those lines.
Jealous feelings, I think, are natural..And usually a window to something deeper.
Maybe something has triggered a past experience which was hurtful and not fully healed. Maybe highlights a need in you in general that is not being met ... or maybe you dont feel safe in a situation and it's time for a new boundary.
If we feel into it a little more deeply, in our hearts we don't really want to control or manipulate some one else because of our feelings..at the same time, it's not always helpful to pretend they are not there. We're very good at Shaming our feelings but in my experience, it just creates more disturbance. I like open communication and unravelling the cause.
Owning challenging feelings rather than indulging them and spitting them out however, is a life's work for most of us!
I would say overwhelming jealousy is a red light that something is not right and needs attention. There's something else going on inside.
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"First party I went to with my ex-fiance, I was really worried that I would freak out seeing him fucking someone else .... but no! I loved it! Still enjoy watching fwb's with other people - it's a real thrill knowing what the other person is getting and how good it is! You cant live this lifestyle if you are a jealous person. You would implode! "
I think my feelings pop up when there's mismatched expectations that aren't worked through. When I feel picked up and discarded at will, my feelings built up and then demolished.
It doesn't happen very often and it's usually just fine. I genuinely don't care who fucks or is friends with whom. But subtle, even accidental head games... That's when I'll go crazy, at least on the inside. And it's hard to resolve that kind of dynamic without communication. That's when explosions or destroyed relationships happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope. But I've encountered jealousy and possessiveness over me from a man. I didn't like it and turned out he wasn't as exclusive as he said he was and had asked of me.
Exactly this. I wasn't jealous about him seeing others, but I was bloody angry abut the hypocrisy
You really cannot expect honesty on here. Some people really get off on telling their partners they are exclusive, when for them the whole thrill of this is fucking others behind their partners backs. It always ends in tears - but if you expect honesty they are likely to be yours. Take everything with a huge pinch of salt. "
I have been lucky enough to have made some great friends on here who are honest. I know what you mean though, there are men (and women) on here who cannot be trusted. I can usually tell, but have been known to make the occasional mistake
The only tears I've shed over them have been angry ones. I'm as annoyed at myself for falling for it, as much as I'm annoyed with them |
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Not remotely.
I am always glad for someone who has achieved what they desire.
I envy some aspects of peoples lives but that isn't jealousy.
I could never be jealous of people's 'stuff' ........ if that is what makes them happy then God help the vacuous souls. |
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"Jealous vs Envy - the two are often misplaced emotions
I’m not known for harbouring jealous tendencies and it’s a disaster waiting to happen when it encroaches in NSA
Indeed, but it's important to acknowledge the difference between jealousy and envy - the former can be quite brutal and ugly, the latter less so.
In fact I think feelings of envy can be quite healthy if you manage them correctly, and to some degree are inevitable even where NSA is involved. The my though is how you manage those feelings, whether they be jealousy or envy, when they do happen - let them overcome you and control you and it definitely is a disaster in the making - recognise them for what they are and use them to better understand yourself and they're something different entirely."
Wise words as always GM |
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"Nope. But I've encountered jealousy and possessiveness over me from a man. I didn't like it and turned out he wasn't as exclusive as he said he was and had asked of me. "
Oh yes.... that happened to me within months of joining fab. Really nice guy I saw often but once I found my confidence and saw others OMG  the peacock feathers came out. He ended up leaving fab because of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not a jealous person but I am human so I can sometimes (very very rarely) experience something along those lines.
Jealous feelings, I think, are natural..And usually a window to something deeper.
Maybe something has triggered a past experience which was hurtful and not fully healed. Maybe highlights a need in you in general that is not being met ... or maybe you dont feel safe in a situation and it's time for a new boundary.
If we feel into it a little more deeply, in our hearts we don't really want to control or manipulate some one else because of our feelings..at the same time, it's not always helpful to pretend they are not there. We're very good at Shaming our feelings but in my experience, it just creates more disturbance. I like open communication and unravelling the cause.
Owning challenging feelings rather than indulging them and spitting them out however, is a life's work for most of us!
I would say overwhelming jealousy is a red light that something is not right and needs attention. There's something else going on inside.
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I love reading your posts, you talk so much sense. |
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By *tew008Man
over a year ago
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"Not remotely.
I am always glad for someone who has achieved what they desire.
I envy some aspects of peoples lives but that isn't jealousy.
I could never be jealous of people's 'stuff' ........ if that is what makes them happy then God help the vacuous souls. "
Yea I envy certain things but never jealous. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm not a jealous person but I am human so I can sometimes (very very rarely) experience something along those lines.
Jealous feelings, I think, are natural..And usually a window to something deeper.
Maybe something has triggered a past experience which was hurtful and not fully healed. Maybe highlights a need in you in general that is not being met ... or maybe you dont feel safe in a situation and it's time for a new boundary.
If we feel into it a little more deeply, in our hearts we don't really want to control or manipulate some one else because of our feelings..at the same time, it's not always helpful to pretend they are not there. We're very good at Shaming our feelings but in my experience, it just creates more disturbance. I like open communication and unravelling the cause.
Owning challenging feelings rather than indulging them and spitting them out however, is a life's work for most of us!
I would say overwhelming jealousy is a red light that something is not right and needs attention. There's something else going on inside.
I love reading your posts, you talk so much sense. "
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Ramblings that come purely from trying to navigate this bonkers existence!! |
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"I'm not a jealous person but I am human so I can sometimes (very very rarely) experience something along those lines.
Jealous feelings, I think, are natural..And usually a window to something deeper.
Maybe something has triggered a past experience which was hurtful and not fully healed. Maybe highlights a need in you in general that is not being met ... or maybe you dont feel safe in a situation and it's time for a new boundary.
If we feel into it a little more deeply, in our hearts we don't really want to control or manipulate some one else because of our feelings..at the same time, it's not always helpful to pretend they are not there. We're very good at Shaming our feelings but in my experience, it just creates more disturbance. I like open communication and unravelling the cause.
Owning challenging feelings rather than indulging them and spitting them out however, is a life's work for most of us!
I would say overwhelming jealousy is a red light that something is not right and needs attention. There's something else going on inside.
I love reading your posts, you talk so much sense.
X
Ramblings that come purely from trying to navigate this bonkers existence!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not a jealous person but I am human so I can sometimes (very very rarely) experience something along those lines.
Jealous feelings, I think, are natural..And usually a window to something deeper.
Maybe something has triggered a past experience which was hurtful and not fully healed. Maybe highlights a need in you in general that is not being met ... or maybe you dont feel safe in a situation and it's time for a new boundary.
If we feel into it a little more deeply, in our hearts we don't really want to control or manipulate some one else because of our feelings..at the same time, it's not always helpful to pretend they are not there. We're very good at Shaming our feelings but in my experience, it just creates more disturbance. I like open communication and unravelling the cause.
Owning challenging feelings rather than indulging them and spitting them out however, is a life's work for most of us!
I would say overwhelming jealousy is a red light that something is not right and needs attention. There's something else going on inside.
I love reading your posts, you talk so much sense.
X
Ramblings that come purely from trying to navigate this bonkers existence!! "
You’re doing a great job of it, I enjoy your ramblings, I think we’re probably on a very similar wavelength |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, I’m very territorial- what’s mine is mine!!!
But it also depends on the situation.... and the person! "
Very much this, but as a swinging couple and singles I manage mine very well, I love watching/knowing another woman fuck my husband but I also remind him when we/he gets home that I'm the best fuck he ever had.
It's our kink we enjoy that feeling, but only in the swinging world, in the vanilla world .... well that's a whole different ball game! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes, I’m very territorial- what’s mine is mine!!!
But it also depends on the situation.... and the person!
Very much this, but as a swinging couple and singles I manage mine very well, I love watching/knowing another woman fuck my husband but I also remind him when we/he gets home that I'm the best fuck he ever had.
It's our kink we enjoy that feeling, but only in the swinging world, in the vanilla world .... well that's a whole different ball game!"
What do you mean different? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, I’m very territorial- what’s mine is mine!!!
But it also depends on the situation.... and the person!
Very much this, but as a swinging couple and singles I manage mine very well, I love watching/knowing another woman fuck my husband but I also remind him when we/he gets home that I'm the best fuck he ever had.
It's our kink we enjoy that feeling, but only in the swinging world, in the vanilla world .... well that's a whole different ball game!
What do you mean different?"
Swinging couples and single females know the score, that he is on loan only. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope. But I've encountered jealousy and possessiveness over me from a man. I didn't like it and turned out he wasn't as exclusive as he said he was and had asked of me.
Exactly this. I wasn't jealous about him seeing others, but I was bloody angry abut the hypocrisy
I know exactly how you feel! "
so do i with my hands  |
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"No, It's a waste of time and energy.
Great way of explanation  "
I totally agree, but is easy to say till you meet, 'the one' who you connect with like no other in multiple ways...then I'd defy anyone not to become a lil possessive and territorial if they're meeting others and you know how amazing you find them... |
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I used to be a jealous person, like ridiculously jealous, but somehow growing up a bit and living this lifestyle has weirdly changed my perception and I would never have believed that jealousy would disappear but it has and I'm so much more happier, jealousy makes you miserable xx |
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No, not at all, never.
I can't think of anything that I would be jealous over. Mr is the same. I think it's because we are very happy people and I mean genuinely happy from the inside, and we appreciate the good life we have together. |
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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago
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"Yep
But I find ways to manage it
How to you manage it?
Badly . Seriously though with trust and communication it can easily be managed. My jealousy rears its head when I am kept in the dark or people are vague with me or hide things "
Yes this is definitely me when mine rears is ugly head too.. |
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I'm not a jealous person, if someone tries to make me jealous it makes me less so. It's just a form of manipulation and I haven't got time for that sh*t!
One thing I might be jealous of though is how good women look in lingerie! ha  |
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I'm not the jealous type. I don't envy or begrudge anyone anything they may have.
As for with a partner, well I have been single whilst on the scene, so I guess I'll find out one day. But jealousy is not in my nature and I can separate feelings and sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes, I’m very territorial- what’s mine is mine!!!
But it also depends on the situation.... and the person!
Very much this, but as a swinging couple and singles I manage mine very well, I love watching/knowing another woman fuck my husband but I also remind him when we/he gets home that I'm the best fuck he ever had.
It's our kink we enjoy that feeling, but only in the swinging world, in the vanilla world .... well that's a whole different ball game!
What do you mean different?
Swinging couples and single females know the score, that he is on loan only."
True. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not the jealous type. I don't envy or begrudge anyone anything they may have.
As for with a partner, well I have been single whilst on the scene, so I guess I'll find out one day. But jealousy is not in my nature and I can separate feelings and sex."
I'm jealous of your legs |
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"I'm not the jealous type. I don't envy or begrudge anyone anything they may have.
As for with a partner, well I have been single whilst on the scene, so I guess I'll find out one day. But jealousy is not in my nature and I can separate feelings and sex.I'm jealous of your legs "
Why..do you only have the one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not at all.
Jealousy and this lifestyle don't go together.
It really doesn't. "
they dont go but they are part of it unfortunately the ways to keep it in check are obvious but few adopt them |
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Not really sexually jealous, no. When me and Hubby were dating and he got an opportunity to sleep with someone he had wanted to for years, he practically got a high 5.
I do however get jealous of people posting their holiday pictures, or people on the news winning the lottery, or, people that just generally have an easier life than me.
- Amy. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not really sexually jealous, no. When me and Hubby were dating and he got an opportunity to sleep with someone he had wanted to for years, he practically got a high 5.
I do however get jealous of people posting their holiday pictures, or people on the news winning the lottery, or, people that just generally have an easier life than me.
- Amy. x"
Good points |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Once I've peed on them I'm fine 
omg
Oh its ok, i do it in the bath 
and make him drink the bath water......... ok
Him?! "
oh well you lesbians are all the same |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have had fleeting jealousy and felt pangs on occasion, it's human nature. But I don't wallow in it and it's not an emotion I need in my life.
I get this!"
Me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have had fleeting jealousy and felt pangs on occasion, it's human nature. But I don't wallow in it and it's not an emotion I need in my life.
I get this!
Me too"
i get it all the time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Can be quite complex. I've learned that if I've reason to doubt based on previous behaviours/lies/subversive actions...I go into defensive mode. If there have been things I can't be/can't provide then I became insecure and pouty. It's a learning curve with bumps !
Experience in a normal relationship without changeable behaviour means I'm actively encouraging and proud of my fella for pleasing others and playing in a group.
Jealousy will vary based on your personal history and personality type. |
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I'm not a jealous person naturally but I can be manipulated into jealousy it that makes any sense. It usually comes of being made to feel lower down in the pecking order than usual. However the green mist doesn't last long before I realise what a bloody wally I am. Jealousy is a horrible emotion and not one I like to court. |
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I get the occasional pang, but I know when I'm being irrational and I don't let it linger. I talk about it, give my head a wobble and move on. It's usually caused by head fuckery rather than anything physical, or when I've overinvested and got the feels for someone who doesn't feel the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not the jealous type too down to earth to be that
Like never?"
No never if the grass is greener on the other side then I disconnect myself from that person |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not the jealous type too down to earth to be that
Like never?
No never if the grass is greener on the other side then I disconnect myself from that person "
A good way to be. |
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"I'm not a jealous person but I am human so I can sometimes (very very rarely) experience something along those lines.
Jealous feelings, I think, are natural..And usually a window to something deeper.
Maybe something has triggered a past experience which was hurtful and not fully healed. Maybe highlights a need in you in general that is not being met ... or maybe you dont feel safe in a situation and it's time for a new boundary.
If we feel into it a little more deeply, in our hearts we don't really want to control or manipulate some one else because of our feelings..at the same time, it's not always helpful to pretend they are not there. We're very good at Shaming our feelings but in my experience, it just creates more disturbance. I like open communication and unravelling the cause.
Owning challenging feelings rather than indulging them and spitting them out however, is a life's work for most of us!
I would say overwhelming jealousy is a red light that something is not right and needs attention. There's something else going on inside.
I love reading your posts, you talk so much sense.
X
Ramblings that come purely from trying to navigate this bonkers existence!!
You’re doing a great job of it, I enjoy your ramblings, I think we’re probably on a very similar wavelength "
Agreed 100% .... superbly insightful x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not the jealous type too down to earth to be that
Like never?
No never if the grass is greener on the other side then I disconnect myself from that person
A good way to be."
Dont see the point in staying around if someone clearly doesnt think your good enough it's their loss not mine |
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By *etite_RosyWoman
over a year ago
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"Are you a jealous person ?"
No. Ive never been jealous seriously.
Joking about other ladies big boobies or bums as mine arent big 'Im jealous because your bum or boobies are super big and sexy'.
Jealousy + swinging = disaster! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hmm, I would say I am a bit jealous yes. I am envious of people who have what I want but not to the point I get bitter and nasty about it. It's more just me having a little oh that's not fair moment about it.
When it comes to my partner I get the odd twinge of jealousy every now and then, but I don't let it affect our relationship. I think the jealousy I have is quite normal and healthy in how I handle it if that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hmm, I would say I am a bit jealous yes. I am envious of people who have what I want but not to the point I get bitter and nasty about it. It's more just me having a little oh that's not fair moment about it.
When it comes to my partner I get the odd twinge of jealousy every now and then, but I don't let it affect our relationship. I think the jealousy I have is quite normal and healthy in how I handle it if that makes sense."
Yah it does |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No neither of us, first sign of that and this lifestyle would stop for us.
Same for us, that’s why if separate room is not going to be part of the play we tend to avoid now. "
Cant see the fun that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"First party I went to with my ex-fiance, I was really worried that I would freak out seeing him fucking someone else .... but no! I loved it! Still enjoy watching fwb's with other people - it's a real thrill knowing what the other person is getting and how good it is! You cant live this lifestyle if you are a jealous person. You would implode!
I think my feelings pop up when there's mismatched expectations that aren't worked through. When I feel picked up and discarded at will, my feelings built up and then demolished.
It doesn't happen very often and it's usually just fine. I genuinely don't care who fucks or is friends with whom. But subtle, even accidental head games... That's when I'll go crazy, at least on the inside. And it's hard to resolve that kind of dynamic without communication. That's when explosions or destroyed relationships happen."
Have to agree with this regarding mismatched expectations. Experienced envy on a first meet we had, but I am so glad we have such good communication between us that it was resolved and talked through properly.
I am more territorial than jealous as I will protect what/who I care about however I do have feelings and if my face is rubbed in something then you never know, I may get jealous. This has still to happen. |
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"First party I went to with my ex-fiance, I was really worried that I would freak out seeing him fucking someone else .... but no! I loved it! Still enjoy watching fwb's with other people - it's a real thrill knowing what the other person is getting and how good it is! You cant live this lifestyle if you are a jealous person. You would implode!
I think my feelings pop up when there's mismatched expectations that aren't worked through. When I feel picked up and discarded at will, my feelings built up and then demolished.
It doesn't happen very often and it's usually just fine. I genuinely don't care who fucks or is friends with whom. But subtle, even accidental head games... That's when I'll go crazy, at least on the inside. And it's hard to resolve that kind of dynamic without communication. That's when explosions or destroyed relationships happen.
Have to agree with this regarding mismatched expectations. Experienced envy on a first meet we had, but I am so glad we have such good communication between us that it was resolved and talked through properly.
I am more territorial than jealous as I will protect what/who I care about however I do have feelings and if my face is rubbed in something then you never know, I may get jealous. This has still to happen."
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