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By *eper61Couple 8 weeks ago
Berks/Hamps/surrey |
Why do some couples start swinging?
We aren't taught about non-monogamy, open relationships, swinging and alternative lifestyles. Instead, we are taught, and expected, to grow up and have monogamous relationships, ( regardless of our sexuality) and live, happily ever after with one person.
This one person is supposed to support us, be emotionally exclusive with us, love us, care for us and fulfil every sexual desire that may enter our heads.
Enter the swinger relationship! Swingers retain all of the emotional exclusivity they have within their relationship, whilst enjoying sex, with others, together.
So why consider the life style?
Your Sex Life Needs Spicing Up? You could decide to start swinging because you are looking for new ways to spice up your sex life.
To Keep Family Life Intact, You dont want to disrupt family life you have worked so hards to build up, so maybe enjoying swinging will breath new life into your relationship.
You have voyeuristic/ exhibitionist tendencies- These kinks are quite popular, especially among men who would like to watch other men having sex with their wives.
Or maybe you have the urge to be an exhibitionist and become excited at the thought of other people watching you have sex? Again, this fantasy can easily be made a reality, if you were to attend a swingers club.
Some People Just Dont Play By The Rules- There are many people who simply dont enjoy the constraints a genuinely monogamous relationship places on them.
If You Can Separate Love and Sex- some people can and do, whereas others struggle with it, and some people can't.
If you identify as the first group, then chances are you will find the transition to becoming a swinger a reasonably easy one.
It Strengthens Bonds- The majority of swinger couples are emotionally secure within their relationships. Swinging paves the way for conversation, honesty and trust.
The inclusive environment- If you make friends with swinger couples via websites, or at clubs or parties, or a cosy threesome or foursome, etc, you chat, seek/give advice, Learn things, try something new, be surrounded by supportive, like-minded, non-judgemental people who are there for the same reasons as you.
Swinging can provide an outlet for your kinks and desires that involve others
Swinging Is Great Fun!- (Probably the most important reason), swinging is naughty, consensual, adult fun that allows you to have all benefits of a great secure relationship with your partner, whilst enjoying sex with others.
Attending a swingers club or party, even if you go to watch, is a massive boost to your esteem. Getting ready, choosing a sexy outfit, and feeling desirable all have positive effects on your relationship. |