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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago
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I was talking to someone yesterday who is in a sexless marriage. He is looking for nsa sex.. I mentioned this site . I am surprise to hear that he would rather forgo penetrative sex than wear a condom.
Do other guys feel this way?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can understand why he feels the way he does. I have problems maintaining an erection wearing a condom as to me it feels too clinical, like the passion has been removed.
Plus it's like having a bath with your socks on.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was talking to someone yesterday who is in a sexless marriage. He is looking for nsa sex.. I mentioned this site . I am surprise to hear that he would rather forgo penetrative sex than wear a condom.
Do other guys feel this way?
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Well it seems to me that he don't need it that badly then. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"I was talking to someone yesterday who is in a sexless marriage. He is looking for nsa sex.. I mentioned this site . I am surprise to hear that he would rather forgo penetrative sex than wear a condom.
Do other guys feel this way?
Well it seems to me that he don't need it that badly then."
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"I was talking to someone yesterday who is in a sexless marriage. He is looking for nsa sex.. I mentioned this site . I am surprise to hear that he would rather forgo penetrative sex than wear a condom.
Do other guys feel this way?
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Can see why his marriage is "sexless"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there are some ladies who prefer bareback, im sure in time he could find a regular playmate who is also in a sexless marrage who would be happy without a rubber, but swinging without is like jumping out of a tree and hoping your dont break anything, might be ok but always a risk. Aids is only one of many that you can catch from un protected sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sure everyone would prefer to go bareback, I would much rather have sex without a condom, but It's just not safe with people you don't know. It's that simple surely. |
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By *icboyMan
over a year ago
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As you can get so many different types of condom, you can have fun with different ones...if use to their advantage then they can add lots of fun...and can help with getting horny.
I think op is not using the advantage that they can provide.
Remember think positive...  |
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"I was talking to someone yesterday who is in a sexless marriage. He is looking for nsa sex.. I mentioned this site . I am surprise to hear that he would rather forgo penetrative sex than wear a condom.
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The sexless mattiage isn't that much of a problem then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was talking to someone yesterday who is in a sexless marriage. He is looking for nsa sex.. I mentioned this site . I am surprise to hear that he would rather forgo penetrative sex than wear a condom.
Do other guys feel this way?
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yes i feel the same....there is a lot more to sex than just penetration
i know that to some it would be helluva frustrating to have lots of play and no penetration.....but there are some of us that are fine with that  |
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By *orkieMan
over a year ago
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"I was talking to someone yesterday who is in a sexless marriage. He is looking for nsa sex.. I mentioned this site . I am surprise to hear that he would rather forgo penetrative sex than wear a condom.
Do other guys feel this way?
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Bareback... No way, use of condoms shows a sensible attitude, and respect both for yourself and your partner... Like theuy say in all the best gunfight movies "Cover me I`m going in " |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
there is something else about the opening post that grates me more than the way the topic has gone... but since its the elephant in the room, and i am in a good mood.. i just can't be arsed..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Condoms have their uses, but they destroy a lot of the fun for a man, a good bj without a rubber, from a woman who knows how to handle a cock is often better than vaginal sex with a rubber. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was talking to someone yesterday who is in a sexless marriage. He is looking for nsa sex.. I mentioned this site . I am surprise to hear that he would rather forgo penetrative sex than wear a condom.
Do other guys feel this way?
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Have the best of both worlds Doggy style and lie What's the problem ladies |
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"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally"
I thought this was a question to the GUYS ...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally
I thought this was a question to the GUYS ... "
And your point is? Anyone can post on any thread as long as it doesn't break the rules!
To the OP some men struggle with condoms and use the lack of feeling etc as an excuse for not using. He may have other issues he would rather not mention to you. |
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"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally
I thought this was a question to the GUYS ...
And your point is? Anyone can post on any thread as long as it doesn't break the rules!
To the OP some men struggle with condoms and use the lack of feeling etc as an excuse for not using. He may have other issues he would rather not mention to you. "
Exactly thats the point , other peeps that may or may not be allowed to use this forum is not the issue here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i ALWAYS play safe with a new partner! in this day and age of std's and hiv you never know who has been there before you!
on a related item! whats the guys cut off point before the comdoms stop being used and you go bareback? mine is about 3month! too long/short? |
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"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally
I thought this was a question to the GUYS ... "
You should point that out to the other women in the thread...... or did you just want my attention  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally
I thought this was a question to the GUYS ...
And your point is? Anyone can post on any thread as long as it doesn't break the rules!
To the OP some men struggle with condoms and use the lack of feeling etc as an excuse for not using. He may have other issues he would rather not mention to you.
Exactly thats the point , other peeps that may or may not be allowed to use this forum is not the issue here "
So why point out GUYS in capitals? Hidden agenda have we? |
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"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally
I thought this was a question to the GUYS ...
You should point that out to the other women in the thread...... or did you just want my attention "
No i wanted you to know what it feels like to have a monkjey on your back , and commenting on your imput to threads  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally"
Roger, wilco and out
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"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally
I thought this was a question to the GUYS ...
You should point that out to the other women in the thread...... or did you just want my attention
No i wanted you to know what it feels like to have a monkjey on your back , and commenting on your imput to threads "
Nice of yu to say..... but you're not my type |
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"Well I seem to have got myself into deep water here..
I did not recommend the site I mentioned it. I realise that most people here would not concider sex without a condom hence the question. "
Oh I think you are still safely paddling in the shallow end.
But it is a good reminder that 'the site is what you make it' also includes those we point in its direction.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally
Roger, wilco and out
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Their already on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally"
Moany Mint |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I seem to have got myself into deep water here..
I did not recommend the site I mentioned it. I realise that most people here would not concider sex without a condom hence the question. "
There are many who say they won't but will. If you think he is a nice guy who isn't aggressive I see no problem in recommending the site to him its open to all. He may like he may not and he may decide protection is the sensible way to go. You can only give advice to a nice site which fab in general. |
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"i ALWAYS play safe with a new partner! in this day and age of std's and hiv you never know who has been there before you!
on a related item! whats the guys cut off point before the comdoms stop being used and you go bareback? mine is about 3month! too long/short?"
I wouldnt set a time limit... It would be when things became more than cadual fun... And we'd both had an all clear from a sexual health check up... And then had another all clear 3 months on... But thats,just me
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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago
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He is a nice guy.
I just think his expectations of NSA unprotected sex unrealistic ..after our convo yesterday I wanted to know if other men would rather go without than use protection..Personally I feel he should at least try condoms concidering there seem to be so many varieties..hardly like the marigolds he thinks ... . people here are moralistic with married people playing away.. but to be honest I would prefer not to know ..its not important. |
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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago
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".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...
That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.
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Am I allowed to stay if I remain a non cheater.. just for the social side |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...
That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.
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Damn wheres the "like" button .... |
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".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...
That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.
Am I allowed to stay if I remain a non cheater.. just for the social side "
Just this once |
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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago
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".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...
That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.
Am I allowed to stay if I remain a non cheater.. just for the social side
Just this once"
Thank you .. you know you would miss me if i went .. xx
Miserable load of pious beggers here anyway.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...
That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.
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Is that in the rules or just your opinion? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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condom all the way for me...yes it does take some of the sensation away, but I'd rather play safe than not at all! I like my sex too much to go with out...talking of which... |
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".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...
That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.
Is that in the rules or just your opinion? "
I thought it was in the web addy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As in definition of swinger?
If you play with someone in a club, do you know whether they're cheating? Maybe you do, but I'd imagine someone being gangbanged wouldn't. |
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"As in definition of swinger?
If you play with someone in a club, do you know whether they're cheating? Maybe you do, but I'd imagine someone being gangbanged wouldn't. "
And that means they can't have an opinion on cheating does it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well, if a gal said to me 'no condom' i'd walk away! theres always my trusted right hand, (after iv sat on it for half an hour, lol) "
I thought you would of walked down the garage for condoms |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As in definition of swinger?
If you play with someone in a club, do you know whether they're cheating? Maybe you do, but I'd imagine someone being gangbanged wouldn't.
And that means they can't have an opinion on cheating does it? "
You said that this wasn't a cheating site. Statement of fact, not a "IMO" in sight. That's only true if the people involved are not cheating.
Not saying this is you but I just find it a little inconsistent that people who enjoy piss and scat are greeted by a "well it's a free world or similar" whilst people playing away are verbally hung from the neck until pronounced dead.
I strongly believe the "free world" attitude should extend to everyone, including the ladies on here who play away as well as the men.
Of course, it doesn't mean you should endorse it or have anything to do with them
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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"Personally I feel he should at least try condoms concidering there seem to be so many varieties.."
Personally, I'd be recommending a visit to the doctors or marriage guidance or trying to talk to his wife, or even deciding if his marriage is worth it if he's prepared to cheat..... rather than if he should wear condoms. |
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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago
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His marriage is fine .. he doesnt want to make changes. she just no longer wants sex at 45 it seems extreme but as my sex life ended at 43 I know it happens.
Not everyone wants to leave their partner just because they no longer fancy you... some people want sex some dont. Its pretty simple to those that are married and go without. |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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Not saying this is you but I just find it a little inconsistent that people who enjoy piss and scat are greeted by a "well it's a free world or similar" whilst people playing away are verbally hung from the neck until pronounced dead.
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Thats because piss and scat are normally used between consenting adults.
Cheating is where one person can have their life destroyed by mistrust and dishonesty. Where learning to trust again is an up hill battle. Where humiliation is a way of life.
Swinging is (for most people) about trust and honesty. If someone says they like piss and scat.... they are being honest.
If someone has a partner and said partner doesn't know, it's dishonest, something that rankles with a massive percentage of swingers.
So......... I may be pious but I will never lean to those that say cheating isn't hurting anyone!
It always hurts someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you still have to wear a condom to shag a blow up doll? surley rubber on rubber could cause some form of friction and she could go down on ya for good |
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You said that this wasn't a cheating site. Statement of fact, not a "IMO" in sight. That's only true if the people involved are not cheating.
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It is a swingers site (fact) based on it's called 'Fabswingers'... not 'FabCheaters' or 'FabAffairs' or 'FabAnythingElse'... it's 'Fabswingers, thus a swinging site.
If I joined Cine8FanClub.dull and said I had chucked all my super8 home movies out after getting them transferred to digital format, do you think the common ground of home movies would be enough to avoid criticism from the traditionalists?
If I joined WeLoveDrivingVWBeatles.car and said I'd sold my VW Beatle years ago as it was a nail, but I do drive a Honda, do you think the driving a car theme would be enough to win them all over?
Why on earth would anyone be surprised that looking for a shag regardless of relationship status would be enough for all and sundry on a swinging site to welcome with open arms.... and foregt all about their values and beliefs. Unless you don't expect people on swinging sites to have any moral values.
People have opinions about genuine singles on swinging sites, about bareback on swinging sites ... so why not cheating? |
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"He is a nice guy.
I just think his expectations of NSA unprotected sex unrealistic ..after our convo yesterday I wanted to know if other men would rather go without than use protection..Personally I feel he should at least try condoms concidering there seem to be so many varieties..hardly like the marigolds he thinks ... . people here are moralistic with married people playing away.. but to be honest I would prefer not to know ..its not important."
he is a nice guy ...we have very different defintions of nice |
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Not saying this is you but I just find it a little inconsistent that people who enjoy piss and scat are greeted by a "well it's a free world or similar" whilst people playing away are verbally hung from the neck until pronounced dead.
Thats because piss and scat are normally used between consenting adults.
Cheating is where one person can have their life destroyed by mistrust and dishonesty. Where learning to trust again is an up hill battle. Where humiliation is a way of life.
Swinging is (for most people) about trust and honesty. If someone says they like piss and scat.... they are being honest.
If someone has a partner and said partner doesn't know, it's dishonest, something that rankles with a massive percentage of swingers.
So......... I may be pious but I will never lean to those that say cheating isn't hurting anyone!
It always hurts someone."
so going to miss you when u go...
from wikki...
"Swinging or (rarely) partner swapping is a non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.[1] Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to hooking up with like-minded people at a swingers' club. It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online."
Where does that say swinging involves cheating on your partner |
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