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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"We don’t. We hate arrogant people that assume it’s confidence. "
Or confident people that are also arrogant.
Blurred lines and overlaps between the two. But that is essentially it, when the confidence appears to be or is arrogance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't hate confidence. It can be attractive.
I dislike arrogance.
I pity people who need to seek the approval of others to increase their self worth and self confidence. |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
The South Near That London |
"To everyone asking - yes, confidence is very disliked. Only if you’re female, though "
Sweeping generalisation ahead
I think men love a confident woman - and by that I mean, comfortable in their own skin and not afraid get what they want.
Other women can see them attention seekers
As stated it’s a very broad sweeping observation (dismount white knights!) |
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"To everyone asking - yes, confidence is very disliked. Only if you’re female, though
Sweeping generalisation ahead
I think men love a confident woman - and by that I mean, comfortable in their own skin and not afraid get what they want.
Other women can see them attention seekers
As stated it’s a very broad sweeping observation (dismount white knights!) "
I think insecure people can dislike confident people. I don't think it's gender specific. I had a man dislike me for the 4 years he knew me because early on he called me unattractive for swearing at my own flat party at university and my response was that I didn't need him to be attracted to me. We ended up living in the same big house the next year and I tried to be nice but he just never wanted to know and seemed annoyed that everyone else we lived with was friends with me. Some men also seem to prefer insecure women as they're easier to manipulate which is a bit sick.
Some insecure women can also dislike other women for being confident but I don't think most women do at all.
The loud mouth, cocky types of any gender are annoying to most but they usually aren't actually confident people. It's usually a persona to mask a lot of deep seated insecurity. |
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There are areas of my life where I'm very confident. I'm brilliant at my job, I s_ine and I like to have my expertise acknowledged.
As a man that would be confidence, as a woman it's sometimes seen as arrogant. So be it, call me arrogant and watch me not care.
Thankfully as I reach more senior positions I find I'm valued for my strength rather than criticised for it. |
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It is my opinion that confidant people are hated for various reasons. Maybe they come off ad arrogant or cocky... Have a holier than thou type of attitude. Or maybe they're hated because of jealousy. Like you see a person with nice things they dress nice so on and so on. So in turn they exude that confidence and swagger. Meanwhile a person not as well off looks at the successful confidant person like damn i want that why can't that be me...
Those are just two examples as to why confidant people are hated.
Again... Just my opinion |
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I don't hate anyone apart from one or two narcissist sociopathic type people who royally screwed me over in the past. My default position is love and respect until someone crosses a line. Life's so much more pleasant that way...  |
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"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded! "
Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!
Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message ."
You don’t?!
I’ll need to completely rethink my cock pic and “suck this” first message now...! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I don't hate confident people, envy some of them yes, even dislike in some instances when that confidence manifests itself in an ugly way, but for me to truly hate someone takes a lot more than a single personality trait |
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"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!
Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message .
You don’t?!
I’ll need to completely rethink my cock pic and “suck this” first message now...! "
I'm afraid so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!
Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message .
You don’t?!
I’ll need to completely rethink my cock pic and “suck this” first message now...!
I'm afraid so "
Knew I was doing something wrong!
Or maybe I have an ugly cock?! |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
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"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!
Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message ."
As you stated earlier these things aren’t gender specific (although we only have our own gender viewpoints to go on) women call men arrogant if they have the temerity to turn then down! |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I personally prefer quiet confidence. The only thing i like shoved down my throat is a cock.
But some people are more exhubrant. I’m shy and quiet. So quieter types are more “my” people. If that makes sense?
If we were all the same life would be dull.
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"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!
Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message .
You don’t?!
I’ll need to completely rethink my cock pic and “suck this” first message now...!
I'm afraid so
Knew I was doing something wrong!
Or maybe I have an ugly cock?!"
Maybe both. |
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"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!
Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message .
As you stated earlier these things aren’t gender specific (although we only have our own gender viewpoints to go on) women call men arrogant if they have the temerity to turn then down!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There’s a fine line between confident, arrogant, and deluded!
Haha according to a lot of men on fab though, us women are all deluded because we won't sleep with every man who sends us a dick pic and 2 word message .
You don’t?!
I’ll need to completely rethink my cock pic and “suck this” first message now...!
I'm afraid so
Knew I was doing something wrong!
Or maybe I have an ugly cock?!
Maybe both."
I thought mine was decent looking-for a cock |
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I don't hate confident people at all, although possibly envy them. The most confident people I've ever come across aren't flashy or look at me though, they just ooze it. Think that it's beautiful to see, someone so happy in themselves |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I like people who are confident and comfortable in themselves - it's a great, attractive trait. I don't like it when it becomes arrogance or thinking they are better than others (and being rude to people). But people who are not as confident can do that as well. |
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"Don't get ne started.
Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women.
Yep  "
And confidence is all too often described as arrogance.
God help a woman who isn't classically attractive displaying confidence for she will be described as "above herself" or "up her own arse".
Likewise a woman who is attractive saying that she is for she will be described as "ugly on the inside".
I'm sure it's the same for men and obviously my comments are a huge generalisation |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't get ne started.
Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women.
Yep
And confidence is all too often described as arrogance.
God help a woman who isn't classically attractive displaying confidence for she will be described as "above herself" or "up her own arse".
Likewise a woman who is attractive saying that she is for she will be described as "ugly on the inside".
I'm sure it's the same for men and obviously my comments are a huge generalisation "
It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves |
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"Don't get ne started.
Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women.
Yep
And confidence is all too often described as arrogance.
God help a woman who isn't classically attractive displaying confidence for she will be described as "above herself" or "up her own arse".
Likewise a woman who is attractive saying that she is for she will be described as "ugly on the inside".
I'm sure it's the same for men and obviously my comments are a huge generalisation
It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves "
You don't have to actually hate yourself, you just have to pretend you do. It's all part of the game.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't get ne started.
Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women.
Yep
And confidence is all too often described as arrogance.
God help a woman who isn't classically attractive displaying confidence for she will be described as "above herself" or "up her own arse".
Likewise a woman who is attractive saying that she is for she will be described as "ugly on the inside".
I'm sure it's the same for men and obviously my comments are a huge generalisation
It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves
You don't have to actually hate yourself, you just have to pretend you do. It's all part of the game.
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Gotta get those sympathy fucks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love confidence on anyone. I dislike people that are full of themselves arrogant and egotistical. Though sometimes a smudge of that in a humourous way is fun.
Absolutely hate narcissistic sociapath types |
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"Don't get ne started.
Low confidence is celebrated and even encouraged in women.
Yep
And confidence is all too often described as arrogance.
God help a woman who isn't classically attractive displaying confidence for she will be described as "above herself" or "up her own arse".
Likewise a woman who is attractive saying that she is for she will be described as "ugly on the inside".
I'm sure it's the same for men and obviously my comments are a huge generalisation
It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves
You don't have to actually hate yourself, you just have to pretend you do. It's all part of the game.
Gotta get those sympathy fucks"
Is it that? Or is it if I say I'm ugly everyone will tell me I'm not?
What about success in other areas of life? Why the negative attitude to someone who is obviously wealthy? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves
You don't have to actually hate yourself, you just have to pretend you do. It's all part of the game.
Gotta get those sympathy fucks
Is it that? Or is it if I say I'm ugly everyone will tell me I'm not?
What about success in other areas of life? Why the negative attitude to someone who is obviously wealthy? "
Reverse snobbery is real? No, surely not. 
I do think though that women (and men and tvs etc) shouldn't tear each other down. Do away with the assumptions that someone who is confident is a twat and up themselves. Fuck the belief that if someone is lacking in confidence they are doing it to play games or get attention. Take people as they are and lift each other up instead of casting negative aspersions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves
You don't have to actually hate yourself, you just have to pretend you do. It's all part of the game.
Gotta get those sympathy fucks
Is it that? Or is it if I say I'm ugly everyone will tell me I'm not?
What about success in other areas of life? Why the negative attitude to someone who is obviously wealthy?
Reverse snobbery is real? No, surely not.
I do think though that women (and men and tvs etc) shouldn't tear each other down. Do away with the assumptions that someone who is confident is a twat and up themselves. Fuck the belief that if someone is lacking in confidence they are doing it to play games or get attention. Take people as they are and lift each other up instead of casting negative aspersions. "
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"It’s bloody annoying. God forbid we don’t hate ourselves
You don't have to actually hate yourself, you just have to pretend you do. It's all part of the game.
Gotta get those sympathy fucks
Is it that? Or is it if I say I'm ugly everyone will tell me I'm not?
What about success in other areas of life? Why the negative attitude to someone who is obviously wealthy?
Reverse snobbery is real? No, surely not.
I do think though that women (and men and tvs etc) shouldn't tear each other down. Do away with the assumptions that someone who is confident is a twat and up themselves. Fuck the belief that if someone is lacking in confidence they are doing it to play games or get attention. Take people as they are and lift each other up instead of casting negative aspersions. "
People who really lack confidence don't do it to get attention but people who pretend to do. |
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Which I would say is incorrect....
Perhaps envy or dislike but not hate